Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “The Sexual Paradox: Extreme Men, Gifted Women and the Real Gender Gap” as Want to Read:
The Sexual Paradox: Extreme Men, Gifted Women and the Real Gender Gap
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

The Sexual Paradox: Extreme Men, Gifted Women and the Real Gender Gap

3.78 of 5 stars 3.78  ·  rating details  ·  236 ratings  ·  50 reviews
After four decades of eradicating gender barriers at work and in public life, why do men still dominate business, politics and the most highly paid jobs? Why do high-achieving women opt out of successful careers? Psychologist Susan Pinker explores the illuminating answers to these questions in her groundbreaking first book.

In The Sexual Paradox, Susan Pinker takes a hard l
Hardcover, 304 pages
Published February 26th 2008 by Random House Canada
more details... edit details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.

Reader Q&A

To ask other readers questions about The Sexual Paradox, please sign up.

Be the first to ask a question about The Sexual Paradox

This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Add this book to your favorite list »

Community Reviews

(showing 1-30 of 659)
filter  |  sort: default (?)  |  rating details
Susan Pinker's book discusses a common problem in our society - the gender gap. Men have ruled the world for far too long. Women are now regaining their rightful place alongside men as leaders both in the office and outside the office. People are being trained on how to encourage women to enter the male-dominated fields such as Science, Techology, and Mathematics. Women want the prestige, the paycheck, and the corner office. Why aren't they flocking to these fields then? Susan Pinker's theory is ...more
Jan 17, 2012 Kaethe marked it as stricken
I just don't need to read another argument about how, really, there is no sexual discrimination. I think there have been enough studies to demonstrate that everything else being equal women are considered inferior job candidates, are offered lower salaries and fewer promotions. Are there men who suffer greater disadvantages than some women? Absolutely! And here's an uncanny coincidence: they also hail from traditionally disadvantaged groups: the poor, Blacks, Latinos, Native Americans. Honestly, ...more
Jessica Draper
Highly interesting, well-researched, surprisingly evenhanded argument that the "vanilla-male model" of human behavior doesn't work--women aren't just a variant on a standard male, and many of the persistent differences in employment, interests, and outlook come from inherent (and not bad or unfortunate) differences in how men and women are physically put together (brain studies figure prominently) and emotionally wired (so do psychological tests of empanthy, aggression, competitiveness, etc.). S ...more
Jun 21, 2013 Yvonne rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people interested in sociology, neurobiology, anthropology
Recommended to Yvonne by: no one; I found it in the library
Although I am not a fan of "difference biology" about the sexes, this book makes some interesting statements about how comparing the careers of women and men is largely like comparing apples and oranges. Susan Pinker submits, with a great deal of socio-biological research, that new standards for our workplaces must take into consideration the different needs/ambitions of female workers. Considering the needs of men "standard" is fallacious, and is only continuing the disinterest of women in top ...more
This book topples a lot of others that deal with the working mother question by studying biology, brain chemistry, and what men and women typically say they want out of their careers and lives. It looks at the question from a completely different perspective - not through history, not through feminism, not through culture, but through science and facts. It definitely changed my mind on a lot of issues. I still believe women should work while raising families, but this book has shifted a lot of b ...more
A very interesting look at an old subject in a new way. I thinks its about time someone ventured into the biological differences between the sexes, without worrying about upsetting the battle axe "feminists" who still cling to the "all men are evil oppressors" mantra.

Whether or not one agrees with the points raised in this book is another matter. But like it or not, I think its an important book to read, in order to enable a healthy discussion about our physiology and how it influences our life
Katrina Sark
Introduction: Female Puppets and Eunuchs

p.2 – As in Higgins’ song, I started to wonder about myself, my female colleagues and other women I knew, “Why do they do everything their mothers do? Why don’t they grow up like their fathers instead?”
I’d had every opportunity. In 1973, at the age of sixteen, I worked for my father. In those years he was a garment manufacturer’s agent and for two summer months we companionably drove around rural Québec in his wood-paneled station wagon, the back loaded wi
Overall, a really thought-provoking book. It lays out the inherant biological differences between men and women, breaking conventional wisdom (i.e. contemporary political correctness) that all men and women should want the same things in life and illustrates the drastically different responses that men and women have when presented with the EXACT same opportunities.

Also, after reading this book, I am convinced that I have Aspberger syndrome...
Should be read by any women interested in work and the career spectrum. The book looks at the differences between men and women in the world of work, and why some characteristics of either sex make for success or failure. This book can be very scientific, but it's quite interesting, and not particularly long.
I was absolutely riveted from the beginning. But then I am fascinated with any research about the brain--it is such a marvelous and complex thing.
Tara van Beurden
This is a really valuable book, and one that I related to immensely. I’m one of those stereotypical ‘career’ girls. Straight out of high school, I started a double bachelors degree in accounting and sociology, and fast tracked it by doing summer school three years in a row. Seven months before I finished I secured a job with a Big 4 accounting firm. Six years of crazy hours and a secondment to the UK, and I quit to take up a job with a major university in my city. Ten months later, and I’m about ...more
Jul 30, 2010 Dea rated it 1 of 5 stars
Shelves: dropped
To say up front, I did not get very far into the book. Frankly I got tired of having to read through 5+ pages for a single piece of information that caught my attention. I found myself wondering off mentally and not actually reading the book, just sounding the words out in my mind. I also did not find the book to be very well organized, it just kind of wondered around the topic every once in a while stumbling on an interesting piece of information. I also did not like the message that was coming ...more
Jaime L.
I loved this book. It's a thought-provoking examination of the reasons why there aren't many women in key disciplines (engineering, physics, computer science, etc.). The author's thesis is testing the implicit assumption that men and women, given the same opportunities and being equally capable, should choose the same career paths. The fact that they don't and the possible reasons why are explored in this book. I know that some readers have criticized this book because the discussion is kept som ...more
I like that Susan Pinker brings forward the idea that the "real gender gap" is more biological than social and cultural. She states that women today have every advantage and opportunity to succeed in a man's world than our grandmothers and great grandmothers. She also states that women are unfairly compared to the "vanilla gender assumption" that women want what men want and they must work to male standards in a male dominated world. She asks is it really fair to compare women to this standard w ...more
May 23, 2012 Deborah rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommended to Deborah by: I heard Pinker speak at a University of MN event.
I loved this book! Pinker gathers examples of what she calls "extreme men" in order to highlight some of the many differences between men and women. The main point of this book, I think, is to highlight the different choices that very highly talented or gifted people make with their lives and careers. I highly recommend it to my clients (who are parents of smart and gifted kids) to help them understand a common trajectory of gifted girls and women compared to gifted boys and men. Pinker's use of ...more
Tanja Berg
Girls do better than boys at school, more girls graduate high school and college. Yet despite this, there are few top leaders that are women or earn the top dollars. This book analyses why. One reason is that although men and women, on average, are equally intelligent, the male variety is more extreme. There are more imbeciles and more geniuses among men than among women. Another reason is that there are biologically wired gender differences which causes women to choose differently. Having the s ...more
Aaron Michaux
Picked the book up one evening at about 11pm, and didn't put it down until I finished it the next day. I was in a gender studies course, and was troubled by the nature of the course content. Every reading and class was filled with overtly moralistic armchair philosophising. After reading Pinker's book, I started asking some simple questions in class -- a process that led to unravelling the politics and ivory towers of academic feminism. My faith in feminism was shattered by a culture of righteou ...more
Content-wise, I thought this book was great. I've personally spent 20 years feeling bad because I felt like I haven't been living up to my potential in my professional life. This book has given me a different perspective - as it turns out, I was just ahead of my time. Pinker's point is that men and women are not alike, and they often do not want the same things out of life or work. According to her, we should stop thinking of women in the workplace as slightly different versions of men. She offe ...more
(I only read parts of this book, focusing on the bits about successful women in male-dominant professions who chose to have their careers plateau.)

This book offered a very refreshing perspective and emphasized several points that few will disagree with: that feminism was never meant to structure women's working lives' according to men's, and the goal ultimately should be to empower women to make their own choices, whatever they may be.

Although I agree that women face far fewer barriers now than
This is a must-read for any woman who has wondered about how she, her values, her skills, and her mind-set, fits into what is still more or less a male dominated working world. It is a good book for anyone (female or male) who wonders how to attract and retain women in the workforce. Susan Pinker, a psychologist and a regular columnist in the Careers section of the Globe and Mail, writes about how learning and behavioural patterns between boys and girls evolves into success and happiness differe ...more
As a woman who had nothing but support in studying math and then going on to study law later but who has now "opted out" to raise children, I greatly enjoyed reading a book that demonstrated how my study and work decisions are typical of 60-80 percent of females and understandable in light of average female strengths and preferences. I find it extremely irritating how much of today's feminist movement ignores the fact that I want to choose to raise my own children without being branded a traitor ...more
Well written, easy reading, great information extremely thought provoking. Challenging and insightful perspectives.
I finally finished it. This book took me much longer than average to get through. Distractions were part of the reason, but I liked it so much that I wanted to absorb everything she was saying. By combining hard data and real life examples, Pinker showed that men and women make different choices. It's obvious in everyday life, but here was a breakdown of some reasons why women are not slowly making the same career choices as the opposite gender. On a personal level, it reaffirmed my own desires ...more
Although this book was published in 2008, it is still well worth the time to read today. As someone who came of age in the late 70's / early 80's, I have often wondered why there are not more women today in the higher levels of traditionally male fields. This book pulls together brain research about the difference between the sexes and the trends in the last 30 years to explain why there are not equal numbers of men and women in all fields. As an accounting field dropout, I now realize that I wa ...more
Brian Gee
Really excellent book. For a non-fiction, this was probably one of the fastest reads, due to how compelling, interesting, and easy to read it was. It held my interest the whole time and had a good mix of statistical analysis and anecdotal information from interviews and stories. She did a great job bringing relevant observations and conclusions to the topic of biological sex differences, and a lot of the information felt relevant to everyday life. Highly recommended!
Pinker writes, "But a society truly committed to redressing pay gaps between the sexes would value and pay as much for skillful teaching and nursing as it does for great plumbing and condo repairs" (263). Pay us for what we want to do and find rewarding, not for what you think we ough to want or do. Amen. And pay us equally.
The sub-title says it all. The author is a child psychologist and wonders why 80% of her practice was male, but also why women, who now have no disadvantaged entry to good education, still are not in the top positions in the numbers expected by their educational level. A good way to get a summary of recent research.
Interesting read. I found the sections on Asperger and ADHD the most interesting and think that information could be used to motivate students in those situations, or could be used to reassure parents that their kids' lives are not over because of a diagnosis.
a very interesting, very quotable book. there were some things I didn't quite agree with, but the message is very positive: that women shouldn't use men and their interests and behaviour as a standard to emulate; instead they should consider their own wants and needs.
Men and women really are different. Unsurprising, but it is surprising how many people's philsophies/ideologies are based on around the fact that they should be the same. Note that they should have the same rights: but that is not the same thing.

« previous 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 21 22 next »
There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Be the first to start one »
  • Fire With Fire: New Female Power and How it Will Change the Twenty-First Century
  • The Night Is Large: Collected Essays, 1938-1995
  • The Morning After: Sex, Fear, and Feminism
  • The Hite Report
  • The Ingenuity Gap: Can We Solve the Problems of the Future?
  • The Umbrella of US Power: The Universal Declaration of Human Rights & the Contradictions of US Policy
  • Save the Males: Why Men Matter Why Women Should Care
  • Sexism in America: Alive, Well, and Ruining Our Future
  • Right Hand, Left Hand: The Origins of Asymmetry in Brains, Bodies, Atoms and Cultures
  • Present at the Future: From Evolution to Nanotechnology, Candid and Controversial Conversations on Science and Nature
  • The Human Web: A Bird's-Eye View of World History
  • Why The Toast Always Lands Butter Side Down
  • Perpetrators Victims Bystanders: The Jewish Catastrophe 1933-1945
  • Tycho and Kepler: The Unlikely Partnership That Forever Changed Our Understanding of the Heavens
  • The Equality Illusion: The Truth About Women And Men Today
  • Visual Teams: Graphic Tools for Commitment, Innovation, & High Performance
  • On Deep History and the Brain
  • The Science of Everyday Life
Susan Pinker is a developmental psychologist who writes about social science.
More about Susan Pinker...
The Village Effect: Why Face-to-Face Contact Is Good for Our Health, Happiness, Learning, and Longevity

Share This Book