Cómo evitar el insomnio infantil

Jul 10, 2009

Nikki rated it

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I LOVE THIS BOOK! It's so much better than "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." I would highly recommend this book to ANYONE with ANY sort of problem with their kids sleeping. It's to the point, easy to understand, and I don't feel like I'm "reading around in circles" like I did with "Healthy Sleep Habits."

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Nov 18, 2008

Scott rated it

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This is one that I consult every day in my work as a therapist. On page 19 is a chart that gives the recommended hours of sleep for each age of your child. I find that almost all of the children who are brought to me for therapy are chronically sleep deprived, some by three hours or more. If your child is having difficulty concentrating in school, has behavior problems, is irritable, defiant, etc., I would recommend looking first at mundane things like adequate rest, exercise, and a healthy diet...moreThis is one that I consult every day in my work as a therapist. On page 19 is a chart that gives the recommended hours of sleep for each age of your child. I find that almost all of the children who are brought to me for therapy are chronically sleep deprived, some by three hours or more. If your child is having difficulty concentrating in school, has behavior problems, is irritable, defiant, etc., I would recommend looking first at mundane things like adequate rest, exercise, and a healthy diet, as well as increasing the consistency and stability of their home environment, before turning to meds for answers.

A lot of the parents of these sleep-deprived tots tell me though that they have a lot of problems getting their child to sleep. Often it is a discipline problem, with parents not using effective means of setting up a new schedule or giving in too easily when kids throw up resistance. Other times I find that the parent has allowed TV watching and video game playing to form part of the "winding down" routine at bedtime, which does not help calm them at all (newsflash: TV/video games in the bedroom increase rates of insomnia in children!). One parent recently told me he had a nightlight with brightly colore flashing lights in his daughters' bedroom--no wonder they were having trouble sleeping! Although some children object to total darkness and quiet, you have fewer sleep problems when your child sleeps without dependence on supposedly soothing devices.

This book teaches parents how to examine the sleep associations they have allowed their child to develop, break their sleep associations if they are interfering with regular sleep, and what to do about specific problems. Although it is designed primarily for parents of small children, the solid behavioral principles apply to adults as well.

My wife and I first encountered this book back in 2001 when Adelaide was sleeping with us, Cathan had just been born, and we needed to move her to her own bed. Although it was difficult making the new sleep pattern, and it took a lot of prayer and perseverence, we have benefited greatly from the advice Ferber gave, tempered with our approach to attachment parenting (I would recommend that you soften the advice with increases in daytime nurturing and snuggles, so that the child who is being put out of its parents' bed doesn't develop a feeling of rejection).

We're glad we found this at our libray, and have used it ever since for our subsequent children.(less)

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Oct 13, 2008

Holly rated it

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Recommends it for: All parents

Shelves: child-sleep-training, non-fiction

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Love him or hate him, Ferber's method actually works! I wasn't sure if we would try it or not because my son's a pretty good sleeper anyway, but one night he decided that there was nothing we could do to help him fall asleep, so we tried it that night. He cried for only 40 minutes the first night before falling asleep and slept for 8 hours straight. He's continued to sleep through the night most nights for 9-10 hours without waking. Best of all, no fighting at bedtime and naptime...more

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Aug 10, 2008

Jennifer Rachal rated it

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Okay, I was skeptical. I'd read Happiest Baby on the Block (which I liked) and lots of other semi-okay baby sleep books, but I was terrified of Ferber. Every mom who has heard the term "Ferberized" has shuddered at the thought of leaving her baby alone to cry it out. But after weeks of working with my daughter (she was only a year then) I decided to check this book out from the library - God forbid I'd actually buy it! What a pleasant surprise this book was - straightforward, smart...more

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May 07, 2008

Theresa rated it

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Recommends it for: All parents. Just read it at least.

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Dang it if it doesn't work! We put this book off as a last resort to get our 6-month-old to sleep through the night. She was waking up every hour. We tried all kinds of "no cry" solutions for 2 months with little to no change; but Ferber had her sleeping through the night in a week and a half (it would have been quicker than that but I was too chicken to follow the rules completely--I wish I had).

Definitely read it at least. I was completely misled by all the myths out ther...more

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Dec 17, 2007

Katharine rated it

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In my opinion, Ferber gets a bad rap in the media. This book isn't about making your child cry for hours on end, but rather about deciphering what is interfering with your child's sleep, and helping you create a plan to address it. There is lots of research/data about sleep in here that is good to read even if you're not looking to implement any of his plans for addressing sleep issues. We used his plan with my 26 month old when she was a baby and now my 5 month old and it really works. I fe...more

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Apr 03, 2008

Sarah rated it

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Great book for all sorts of sleep issues from birth - up. I actually feel bad for Dr. Ferber - he's really gotten a bad rap. Most people refer to his techniques for getting a baby to sleep through the night as "Ferberizing" and it's said with much disdain and in a tone that indicates you may very well be abusing your child if you use his strategies. I actually found his strategies to be very reasonable and humane. He most definately does not say that "one size fits all" wh...more

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Dec 29, 2008

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Can understand why people don't want to try it, but when you have a child that cried all of the time anyway and nothing else worked it was worth a shot. We got lucky and it worked within 1 day! He cried less than 10 minutes for each nap/night sleep on the first day and then barely fussed at all on all of the days thereafter. He is now 3 years old and sleeps well (although an early riser!) He was probably the type of kid that the more we fussed with him, the more he fussed for us and really j...more

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Jul 23, 2008

Erin rated it

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It worked! When I read it, I had three children under 3 and the whole family was sleeping in one small room. This book was a miracle. Within a week I was able to get all three children to sleep, one at a time, in 30 minutes. The method described is a gentle compromise between crying it out and a more compassionate bedtime approach. The kids learned that bedtime rules are serious without ever feeling abandoned. And I learned how to be firm about enforcing bedtime without feeling like I was ...more

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Apr 14, 2008

Danette Berry rated it

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This book has been so incredibly helpful in teaching our 4 1/2 month old "sleep training." Recommended by his pediatirician, we bought and read this book after spending countless nights getting up 8 times a night with our sweet baby boy. This book taught me that our son was just associating sleep with feeding and would only fall asleep if he was nursed first. We saw very fast results of implementing Dr. Ferber's plan -- it used to take us up to 2 hours to get our son to fall asleep,...more

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Sep 20, 2008

Shelly rated it

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I have to admit I didn't read this book cover to cover. I think Ferber's ideas about sleep and how to get your kid to sleep are fine. And after perusing this I'm proud to say that my 15 month old is now falling asleep on her own, instead of being rocked, etc., for an hour. It has improved my life greatly. I know there are a lot of people who don't agree with this "cry it out" sort of method, but I find if you follow his little schedule, there isn't all that much crying. Consistenc...more

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Feb 07, 2009

Kendra rated it

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I checked this book out from the library when my son was 2 1/2 years old, sleeping in our bed, and keeping everyone from getting decent sleep. I am soft hearted and hate to hear a child cry, so I kept trying to tough it out and do the Dr. Sears approach, which for me meant getting very little sleep and being a grouchy mommy during the day. After 2 1/2 years of sleep deprivation, I finally broke down and read the Ferber book. My only regret is that I didn't read it much earlier. It wasn't nea...more

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Oct 31, 2011

Rachel rated it

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I've read every baby sleep book there is. EVERY. DANG. ONE. Most of them made me feel like a horrible parent who, despite her best efforts, was doing absolutely everything wrong and ruining my child. Or they made me feel horribly frustrated, with all their claims of "Our method works! On every baby! EVERY SINGLE BABY IN THE UNIVERSE!" and then, shocker, my baby was still up and crying all night, leading me to assume that something was horribly wrong with either me or him. This was the ...moreI've read every baby sleep book there is. EVERY. DANG. ONE. Most of them made me feel like a horrible parent who, despite her best efforts, was doing absolutely everything wrong and ruining my child. Or they made me feel horribly frustrated, with all their claims of "Our method works! On every baby! EVERY SINGLE BABY IN THE UNIVERSE!" and then, shocker, my baby was still up and crying all night, leading me to assume that something was horribly wrong with either me or him. This was the book that saved us. It's easy to read, straight to the point, and easy to apply. Within 3 nights, my previously colicky 4-month old baby who refused to sleep anywhere but his swing (swinging all night, I might add), swaddled (I actually had to sew him a special swaddler that allowed me to buckle him into the swing while staying swaddled), with his pacifier in his mouth all night, and still woke up 4+ times per night, was sleeping 12+ hours every night on his own in his crib without the swaddler or his pacifier. (He's now 14 months old and has never yet woken up in the night and needed our help to get back to sleep--I think the most he has ever cried at night since we "Ferberized" was when he woke up sick and threw up in his crib, then cried for 5 minutes and went back to sleep. It kind of broke my heart to have to wake him after that to clean him up.) For a desperate, sleep-deprived new mother, that was nothing short of miraculous. I highly recommend this book to any other desperate, sleep-deprived mothers.

Some mothers will try and make me feel bad for allowing my child to cry himself to sleep. To that I say, have fun getting up with your child 5 times a night until he's 6 years old. I really believe that sleep is a skill--for some babies, it seems to come naturally and they can quickly and easily learn to sleep for long stretches on their own. For some babies, like mine, they had to learn it, and it took just a few tough nights of crying on their own. I think that's a small price to pay for him learning to sleep long stretches on his own, and it means the entire family is happier.(less)

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Jul 30, 2011

Michelle rated it

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I didn't *want* to like this book, as I was absolutely sure that I didn't want to just leave my baby to "cry it out". And then I actually read the book and learned that it wasn't just about letting your baby cry, it is a psychologic method of "extinction" so that the baby re-learns how to fall asleep (as they have been conditioned to fall asleep using certain associations such as nursing, rocking, being held, etc). I have a background in Psychology / Child Development, so r...more

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Feb 09, 2011

Laura rated it

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Thankfully, we've never had to officially "Ferberize". We've been so blessed with and grateful for excellent nighttime sleep, but continue to have struggles with naps. Additionally, I just have a lot of questions about sleep in babies and how it will change as my son grows.
I read all the applicable parts of the older edition, but I'm really interested in the revision, especially because it addresses naps in much more detail.

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Aug 20, 2010

Virginia rated it

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I really didn't think I would like this book. I only turned to it out of desperation after reading The No-Cry Sleep Solution series which I found to be worthless. Well, not worthless exactly, but not effective (for my baby).

I learned a lot about sleep cycles, consistency, babies, etc. Who knows if I would've liked this book at the beginning of my journey towards a full night's rest (after being awakened every 2-3 hours for the last two months by a baby who used to sleep through the ...more

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Oct 22, 2008

Kenzie rated it

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The advice to get my 7 month old to sleep through the night is nothing I haven't heard before. However, his insight into the reasons why she wakes up and then cries before I get her to go back to sleep was new insight I had never heard before. He did explain things in a way that made me understand her alot more therefore feeling alot less frustrated with her. There is also a great section on bedwetting. I haven't begun any of the methods yet but I am glad to just be able to read about it.

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Nov 14, 2011

Edan rated it

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So, I read what I needed to at this stage in the game (4 months into parenting), and I will go back as needed, as The Bean's habits change.

Ferber often gets a bad rap, and most people who know of him think he's all/just about letting your kid cry it out. The book is actually more nuanced and compassionate than that, and I found his discussion of sleep cycles pretty illuminating and helpful. My baby can fall asleep without nursing, which is great, since it not only means Daddy can b...moreSo, I read what I needed to at this stage in the game (4 months into parenting), and I will go back as needed, as The Bean's habits change.

Ferber often gets a bad rap, and most people who know of him think he's all/just about letting your kid cry it out. The book is actually more nuanced and compassionate than that, and I found his discussion of sleep cycles pretty illuminating and helpful. My baby can fall asleep without nursing, which is great, since it not only means Daddy can be The Bedtime Master, but also that my baby knows how to go to bed on his own, self-soothing and all that--this is a skill he will need for life! (I should say that I figured out he could fall asleep without nursing pretty much by accident; he just fell asleep one day, on his own, and it was clear he didn't need my boob as much as I'd assumed.)

Ferber helped us realize that Dixon doesn't need to eat at 10 pm, 3 hours after he's fallen asleep. It's more likely that he's entering a new sleep cycle, and that he can figure out how to get back to bed on his own. On the first night after reading this book, he cried at 10:15, and my husband and I waited, breathless, on the couch, to see what would happen if we didn't run to his rescue. 20 seconds later, he was fast asleep and didn't wake up again until 1:30! He hasn't woken at 10-ish since. Now we're trying to figure out which night-time feeding is truly necessary--for his belly, for his soul--and which one(s) can be eliminated. It's a bit touch and go, but we're learning. I'm trying to balance some of Ferber's ideas with my own instincts. I'm hoping Ferber can next help me get some more naps into my kid! When baby sleeps more during the day, the nights are far more peaceful.

This is an informative read for anyone with young children who is struggling to figure out nap schedules, bedtime routines, night feedings, and so on. Don't be afraid to Ferberize! (God, that word--it's scary, right?)

And, sometimes it's okay if a baby cries. My mom said I used to cry for 2-3 minutes every night before bed, and then slept 12 hours straight. I needed that little cry, to expend some energy before my nightly coma. Don't knock it! Also, don't let your kid cry for hours while you surf the internet. Jesus.(less)

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Dec 08, 2010

Victoria rated it

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I am actually impressed with this book. Though I actually knew a lot of the random scienc-y facts about sleep that Ferber talks about in this book, he really brings it together to help you solve your child's sleep problems. I was at first totally against this book, being more of an attachment-parenting type parent, but I think it is valuable for the comprehensive guide it gives about sleep. That said, it's not 100% comprehensive; it relies on you the parent knowing your child and knowing when...more

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Jan 28, 2009

Johanna rated it

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My 6-month-old had been waking up almost every hour at night for several weeks, so I read this book. It has some helpful things in it, but Ferber's method for breaking bad sleep associations isn't for everyone. We tried it over a few days, and now our baby can go to sleep on his own. However, we did tweak it a little--we picked him up and soothed him if he was really hysterical. I wouldn't recommend "crying it out", but using the same principles and letting our baby "fuss it out"...more

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Feb 12, 2011

Stephanie (S. J.) Pajonas rated it

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well, i've read through all the relevant chapters and skimmed a lot of the other ones but, really, that's all you need to do. this is, hands down, one of the best sleep books on the market. it has a great introduction on the science of sleep and how our brains process and use sleep. knowing about sleep cycles has definitely helped us understand why our youngest was waking so frequently during a span of early morning hours.

the most relevant chapter was chapter 4, sleep associations. w...more

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May 03, 2010

Kim rated it

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I wasn't initially keen on any sleep-training that involved letting our baby cry but after she stopped being able to sleep through the night and relied solely on being rocked back to sleep multiple times a night, I realized some habits had to change for everyone's sake.

I tried the No Cry methods, creating a soothing bed time routine, massages, etc. to no avail. She still relied on being rocked to sleep and still had to wake up to be rocked back to sleep countless times. Our last reso...more

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Jul 18, 2011

Jennifer rated it

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This is a completely fascinating book. The first few chapters describing sleep cycles and the physiological changes during REM and non-REM sleep completely creeped me out (thanks to Dreamscape and Inception). I learned some things about my older children that will help me avoid repeating certain mistakes with my younger children. For instance, my 7 and 5 year old never took naps as toddlers, even though I tried and tried. Now I know that because they were already sleeping at least 12 hours at ...more

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Aug 28, 2010

Jenny rated it

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I think if I ever get a pet, I'll name it Ferber. This book changed the way I feel about my baby. I love her to death, but when we're both running on lack of sleep and are consequently cranky and selfish, it is hard to WANT to cuddle and play with her. I'd rather be sleeping, or better yet I'd rather that she be sleeping. I was afraid that my 3 1/2 month old was too young to introduce to Ferber. I'd heard mixed reviews, and I didn't want to be mean. Most people last longer than I did on very lit...moreI think if I ever get a pet, I'll name it Ferber. This book changed the way I feel about my baby. I love her to death, but when we're both running on lack of sleep and are consequently cranky and selfish, it is hard to WANT to cuddle and play with her. I'd rather be sleeping, or better yet I'd rather that she be sleeping. I was afraid that my 3 1/2 month old was too young to introduce to Ferber. I'd heard mixed reviews, and I didn't want to be mean. Most people last longer than I did on very little sleep and still think letting a baby cry it out is really, really cruel. But then when I started reading reviews, I realized that most people have a distorted impression of what Ferber's work is all about. They realized that his methods were kinder than expected, and ultimately that they were successful. A few thoughts here:

1) Definitely worth reading the background on sleep and how it works. When I realized WHY it was making things worse to try giving my baby a Binky (she never really liked one to begin with anyways), or letting her nap in different places, or most especially nursing to sleep, I was way more committed to seeing this through. She needed to be able to come out of a deep sleep cycle, recognize that her surroundings had not changed, and drift back to sleep without needing to cry for me to come make some adjustments.

2) I never believed it would be THAT hard to let your baby cry. My attitude is that I know what is good for her, and even though she doesn't understand all the time, I'm being the best mother I can by allowing some unpleasant things to happen. But those first few nights were tough. When I realized that she WANTED to sleep but just couldn't, I really understood how much I was helping her.

3) I would NOT recommend this book to anybody who isn't either willing to commit completely to the system for at least 3 or 4 days or else going completely crazy and desperate for anything that might help. It's not easy, but for us it was incredibly effective. I have a much happier baby who falls asleep on her own (sometimes after 2-15 minutes of crying) and I understand that I need to allow her to do so.

4) After about 3 days, I woke up to a very happy baby. I was more rested. All of a sudden I wanted to pick her up and tickle her and cuddle her until she insisted I leave her alone. I spent a few dark weeks wondering it I was ever going to feel that way about my baby again. Thanks to Ferber, I am totally in love with her again.(less)

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Jan 02, 2009

Alicia rated it

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This book saved my life. I read it in two days and soon after put it into effect. My daughter, who wouldn't sleep, anywhere at all,now sleeps in her crib THROUGH the night! (with one small break at 2 am). Amazing. i love this book. I feel like a great parent.

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Jan 22, 2009

Laura rated it

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This is our sleep Bible! Simply Fabulous!!!

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Aug 09, 2008

Jennifer rated it

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The only method that works for infants beginning at 4.5 months. I've read ALL the sleep books and this one saved my sanity. I read the whole thing and it was really boring and over my head. The chapter that goes over the method is the only one you need to read.

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Sep 22, 2009

Editor B rated it

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To my daughter who is 19 months old:

You never slept through the night in the first year and a half of your life. There was a good long period where you slept each night in your crib for a while, but you would usually wake at some point and end up spending the rest of the night in our bed. After our summer travels, things got even wackier, and you were soon spending all night, every night, in our bed. Sometimes you had some pretty disturbed sleep — confusional arousals, I think they’r...more

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Dec 28, 2008

Brooke rated it

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I only read the part on sleep associations in order to figure out how I wanted to get Elliot to sleep in his own crib. I thought it was very helpful, and he is sleeping in his crib throughout the night!

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Aug 04, 2010

Victoria Vogel rated it

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I read this one in a desperate attempt to actually sleep in my bed for more than two hours at a time. My daughter was around 3 months old, and way too young for the whole "Ferber" approach. It did give me some ideas, though, for when she was a couple of months older. We tried the whole Ferber approach when she was five months (still too young, BTW), and it sort of worked. But then it didn't. Long story short....I really REALLY think that there is no magic solution to getting your ...more

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