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Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss

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In this modern-day fable, a woman who has suffered a terrible loss cooks up a special batch of tear soup, blending the unique ingredients of her life into the grief process. Along the way she dispenses a recipe of sound advice for people who are in mourning.
Hardcover, 51 pages
Published April 9th 2007 by Grief Watch (first published January 1st 1999)
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Books Ring Mah Bell
Jun 28, 2010 Books Ring Mah Bell rated it it was ok
1. Illustrations were wonderful.
2. In the edition I have, there are 2 pages of resources for those grieving. Everything from a link to the compassionate friends (for those that have lost a child) to links for those who have miscarried or lost someone to violence. Providing the info for specific support... excellent.
3. Also at the end of the book are a few lists on how to grieve, specific to your own grief, if a friend is grieving, if you are a man and grieving, if you grieve as a coupl
Jun 02, 2013 Kathy rated it liked it
A counselor gave me a pile of books recently and this was one of them. Even though this is a picture book of relatively few pages, I think its target audience is more adult than child. The primary message is that everyone's grief is different, based on the person, the loss, etc. The book emphasizes that it is okay to cry and to feel like crap, even if other people tell you the time for "tear soup" is past.

The book had a lot of resources in the back for people who have suffered different kinds of
Oct 20, 2011 Stacy rated it it was amazing
Unfortunately, I recently found myself needing this book due to a recent loss that has been "More than I can bear". I have re-read it several times already.

It may appear to be a children's book, but I think that adults will get the most out of it. I definately think that this is a book that adults should read WITH their children, one on one, to answer any questions that may come up.

I thought the book did a beautiful job of showing how people who are grieving are feeling, (or can expect to feel)
Amber Schamel
May 23, 2014 Amber Schamel rated it it was amazing
Shelves: must-have-s
This is a really great book for anyone who's suffered a loss. A friend showed me this book after someone gave it to her when she lost her 16 year old son. I then purchased it for another family I knew that had also lost a loved one. It is a great resource for helping children and adults alike realize that healing is a process, and it's okay to mourn, different people mourn differently, and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Jan 10, 2015 Denise rated it really liked it
I think this is a wonderful book for anyone who is afraid to grieve. Its message says it's ok and relates what one might be experiencing while others' lives continue on. I would recommend this as a gift to someone you know who might not know how to deal with grief, or to someone you know is grieving but don't know what to say to them.
Arin Williams
Jan 10, 2014 Arin Williams rated it it was amazing
This book follows Grandy, an older woman, as she works through a great loss by making “tear soup”. The authors use the idea of tear soup as a metaphor for coping with grief of any kind. Cooks looking to make tear soup pick a pot that is large enough to contain their creation, which starts with a base of tears, and is augmented with ingredients like fond memories, the support of friends, and yet more tears. The difficulty of sharing grief with others is discussed. Beautiful full-page illustration ...more
May 23, 2010 Kara rated it it was amazing
This is the best general book on grief and the grieving process I've read. I received it as a gift after our daughter was stillborn last year. Yes, it looks like a child's picture book, but don't let it's simple format fool you. It has incredible insight into the grieving process and puts it into a simple metaphor that makes it so understandable. It helps those going through it see that they are normal, and helps those trying to be there for the grieving person understand what their loved one is ...more
Apr 24, 2009 Julie rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone dealing with grief over anything, or their friends or family.
Recommended to Julie by: Mary Ellen
This book is not just for children even though it is picture-book style.

It is about dealing with grief and loss. It is beautifully written and illustrated. Grief is an individual thing and whether you are grieving or know someone who is, this book makes you feel that whatver you are feeling is ok. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. No timetable.

Wayne's sister sent this to me and I received it today. I have already read it twice. It has been 3 months since I lost my mom and I feel like
Dec 19, 2011 Janet rated it liked it
Shelves: read-2011
What can I say, I have suffered a loss and the owner of an independent book store recommended this title to my daughter. I liked the illustrations and it was good to see the use of the word concrete within the text as that is where I feel I have been in concrete and this is the only book/article I have encountered that uses the word concrete in relation to grief. Also the text is the right length because in the beginning of the grief process one doesn't want to or can't focus for any length of t ...more
Apr 27, 2015 Amanda rated it it was amazing
What a heartbreaking story. A friend gave this to Marci, and I decided to read it earlier today, as we mourn the fact that today marks one month since Bill left us. There is so much that this book gets exactly. right. My ONLY complaint is that, as usual, there are no examples in the book - text or illustrative - or in the resources provided at the back, that reference the loss of a sibling. WHY is our grief so.... unsung? Anyway, I do recommend this book - to everyone, but especially those of yo ...more
Sep 03, 2016 lesley rated it really liked it
A very helpful book. At first I thought it was annoying and insipid, but the more I read it, the more I realized it was designed for someone exactly like me--a skeptical and irritable mourner who needed a soft and accessible channel to start healing from grief. Contains helpful tips not just for mourners but the people who love them. Especially good for the early days of grief when attention spans are short and the desire to tackle long-term projects, even chapter books, can be overwhelming. Wri ...more
Sandra McLeod
Aug 14, 2009 Sandra McLeod rated it it was amazing
A grief counselor told me about this book and it's a book you'll want to read and reread. It approaches the grieving process in a unique way with so much wisdom and understanding. Grandy has just suffered a big loss in her life and, as she cooks up her own unique batch of "tear soup," she explains that everyone must grieve in their own way and make their own "tear soup." The full page illustrations are beautiful and this is a perfect gift for anyone who has experienced a loss.

Oct 26, 2011 Kris rated it it was amazing
Shelves: grief
A very thoughtful stranger mailed this book to us after learning about Jason's passing. The main point of the book is that grieving looks and feels different for everyone. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.

There are some very helpful tips at the end. It can be diffiult knowing how to act and what to day in these situations. These tips are a very good road map for everyone.
Dec 08, 2011 Lisa rated it liked it
i found the information in this book very, very useful and timeless. i gave it three stars because i did not like the pictures. pretty silly, huh?
too bad i am still not very good with grief- my own or other people's. joe's hermit crab died, and i could only stand about .5 minutes of his grief.
Oct 14, 2015 Karen rated it it was amazing
Great story about grief and how people handle it. Excellent story to read to children or adults.
Jan 26, 2016 Doug rated it really liked it
"There are some parts that require help from friends and some parts you just have to do alone."
Sep 06, 2012 Linda rated it it was amazing
A very real and moving book on how to deal with loss via death, divorce or loss in life.
Sep 23, 2016 Tracey rated it it was amazing
Must read!!! For all ages - for all kinds if grief!!!
Joanna Price
Ages 8+. A young boy's grandmother has experienced significant loss and beings to prepare herself a pot a of tear soup. The specific loss she faces is never explained, but other examples are given as the grandmother explains to her grandson what tear soup is. This book does a phenomenal job of addressing the way grief works. It is clearly directed at individuals who are currently experiencing loss, and not intended as an informational piece for studying grief from an outside perspective. Among t ...more
Holly Garza
Jun 16, 2011 Holly Garza rated it it was amazing
I was given this book in 2004.

When I was actually able to read more than 3 words, or have the desire to even open my eyes; I would try to get through each painful word. The word painful of course describing my own emotions... I forced myself one day to read the whole book. The book is VERY accurate as far as grieving goes and back than I liked that it was NOT telling me how to feel, not to feel and how fast to 'get over it'.

I still have NOT "gotten over 'it'" and it still hurts but to God we be
Jan 13, 2013 Aimee rated it it was amazing
This "children's" book was given to me when I was 25 after my grandpa died. I read it, and it helped, and when my grandma died 3 weeks ago I pulled it back off the shelf. It's a story about Grandy, an elderly woman, after the loss of her husband. It explains about how sometimes you make tear soup in small pots, and sometimes you need a giant pot to make it in. Grandy mixes in tears and good memories. It also explains how sometimes you want to share the soup with other people, and sometimes you w ...more
Aug 02, 2012 Charlene rated it it was amazing
My sister-in-law encouraged me to read this book after I experienced, and continue to experience, a terrible and tragic loss. I kept it on my bookshelf for several months. I just wasn't ready to read it yet.

Yesterday, I picked it up and read it. It hit everything I was feeling right on the head. Everything about it rang true and helped me understand how others were treating me and what I was feeling. Throughout my grieving process, I felt that what I was experiencing wasn't normal, perhaps--tha
Sep 10, 2016 Cindy rated it liked it
Beautifully illustrated, short and concise for those in the throws of deep grief who cannot read/concentrate for long periods of time. Includes a helpful list of various resources in the back.
Julie Chapko
Jun 15, 2011 Julie Chapko rated it it was amazing
An incredible book on bereavement for all ages regarding any type of "loss." It is a precious story on the healing process described by "making soup" using ingredients that are full of memories, the ups, the downs, the continuum of coping with and dealing with the sadness, the feelings of hopelessness, and how as feeling humans we comes out of the despair. It helps to explains the changing emotions, and inability to express or to whom one expresses their grief. It lets those healing know it is o ...more
May 08, 2008 Michelle rated it it was amazing
Shelves: children
Tear Soup was recommended for a reading area at my school to honor a teacher that has passed away. (Thanks Penny) I read this book looking for something to share with children or adults in celebration of this reading area.

Even though I don't feel like this book would work as a read aloud, I loved the message and understanding that the author gives about grief. I also enjoyed at the end how there were several pages of how to deal with grief or help others who are grieving.

The authors message is
Dec 30, 2013 Mycala rated it it was amazing
This book may have been written for children, but it's the best book I've read with regards to grief. It is written for the purpose dealing with grief of any kind and while it is very clever, it is also very true. One passage in particular really stood out to me: "To make matters worse, grief always takes longer to cook than anyone wants it to." I've been reading a number of books about grief as I deal with my own and I have to say, this really is the only book you need no matter what your age. ...more
Sam Ott
Oct 11, 2015 Sam Ott rated it liked it
Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert, Chuck DeKlyen, and illus. by Taylor Bills. Published 1999.
Genre: Nonfiction
Format: Picture Book
Plot Summary: Discusses how one woman works through the stages of grief by making a pot of ‘tear soup' to deal with her pain. It details the different steps of grief through this metaphor, discussing ways to feel and heal throughout the text. The end also includes a guide to dealing with grief.
Considerations: Does have several overt refere
Jun 30, 2012 Gloria rated it really liked it
Tear soup is a wonderfully illustrated children's book for adults written about how we each individually grieve loss in our lives.
The story is about "Grandy," but she could just as easily be me or you, and Grandy has suffered a loss, so Grandy begins to make tear soup. Tear soup cannot be made just out of a can, but is an individual process, as unique as each chef; and only through the soup making can we fully heal and move on.

The full page illustrations through which the text of the story run s
Paul Rockthief
May 12, 2013 Paul Rockthief rated it it was amazing
The is the ONE book I recommend to people who are grieving great loss. I have read it several times and will do so again and again. There is something special about this book. It honors the person who is grieving and whose life is deep in sorrow. Grief is something we've been told to get over. How many times have you and I been told something like, "It's been a year now. Why are you still grieving? Move on." Grief has no time limit and it might require a lifetime to heal from it or maybe we neve ...more
Jan 19, 2013 Jessica rated it really liked it
We are facing the loss of a close family member. My kids are ages 10, 7 and 4. I knew I would need help trying to explain. A friend who has lost much recommended this book along with Waterbugs and Dragonflies.

This book is about grieving, how the pain of loss can stay with us much longer than others think it should, how friends try to help but ultimately, we need to make our own way through the grieving process. We make our own tear soup with our own recipe and only we can decide when the soup is
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