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Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss

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In this modern-day fable, a woman who has suffered a terrible loss cooks up a special batch of tear soup, blending the unique ingredients of her life into the grief process. Along the way she dispenses a recipe of sound advice for people who are in mourning.
Hardcover, 51 pages
Published April 9th 2007 by Grief Watch (first published January 1st 1999)
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Books Ring Mah Bell
THE GOOD:
1. Illustrations were wonderful.
2. In the edition I have, there are 2 pages of resources for those grieving. Everything from a link to the compassionate friends (for those that have lost a child) to links for those who have miscarried or lost someone to violence. Providing the info for specific support... excellent.
3. Also at the end of the book are a few lists on how to grieve, specific to your own grief, if a friend is grieving, if you are a man and grieving, if you grieve as a coupl
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Kathy
A counselor gave me a pile of books recently and this was one of them. Even though this is a picture book of relatively few pages, I think its target audience is more adult than child. The primary message is that everyone's grief is different, based on the person, the loss, etc. The book emphasizes that it is okay to cry and to feel like crap, even if other people tell you the time for "tear soup" is past.

The book had a lot of resources in the back for people who have suffered different kinds of
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Stacy Haight
Unfortunately, I recently found myself needing this book due to a recent loss that has been "More than I can bear". I have re-read it several times already.

It may appear to be a children's book, but I think that adults will get the most out of it. I definately think that this is a book that adults should read WITH their children, one on one, to answer any questions that may come up.

I thought the book did a beautiful job of showing how people who are grieving are feeling, (or can expect to feel)
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Amber Schamel
This is a really great book for anyone who's suffered a loss. A friend showed me this book after someone gave it to her when she lost her 16 year old son. I then purchased it for another family I knew that had also lost a loved one. It is a great resource for helping children and adults alike realize that healing is a process, and it's okay to mourn, different people mourn differently, and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Denise
I think this is a wonderful book for anyone who is afraid to grieve. Its message says it's ok and relates what one might be experiencing while others' lives continue on. I would recommend this as a gift to someone you know who might not know how to deal with grief, or to someone you know is grieving but don't know what to say to them.
Arin Williams
This book follows Grandy, an older woman, as she works through a great loss by making “tear soup”. The authors use the idea of tear soup as a metaphor for coping with grief of any kind. Cooks looking to make tear soup pick a pot that is large enough to contain their creation, which starts with a base of tears, and is augmented with ingredients like fond memories, the support of friends, and yet more tears. The difficulty of sharing grief with others is discussed. Beautiful full-page illustration ...more
Kara
This is the best general book on grief and the grieving process I've read. I received it as a gift after our daughter was stillborn last year. Yes, it looks like a child's picture book, but don't let it's simple format fool you. It has incredible insight into the grieving process and puts it into a simple metaphor that makes it so understandable. It helps those going through it see that they are normal, and helps those trying to be there for the grieving person understand what their loved one is ...more
Julie
Apr 24, 2009 Julie rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone dealing with grief over anything, or their friends or family.
Recommended to Julie by: Mary Ellen
This book is not just for children even though it is picture-book style.

It is about dealing with grief and loss. It is beautifully written and illustrated. Grief is an individual thing and whether you are grieving or know someone who is, this book makes you feel that whatver you are feeling is ok. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. No timetable.

Wayne's sister sent this to me and I received it today. I have already read it twice. It has been 3 months since I lost my mom and I feel like
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lesley
A very helpful book. At first I thought it was annoying and insipid, but the more I read it, the more I realized it was designed for someone exactly like me--a skeptical and irritable mourner who needed a soft and accessible channel to start healing from grief. Contains helpful tips not just for mourners but the people who love them. Especially good for the early days of grief when attention spans are short and the desire to tackle long-term projects, even chapter books, can be overwhelming. Wri ...more
Janet
What can I say, I have suffered a loss and the owner of an independent book store recommended this title to my daughter. I liked the illustrations and it was good to see the use of the word concrete within the text as that is where I feel I have been in concrete and this is the only book/article I have encountered that uses the word concrete in relation to grief. Also the text is the right length because in the beginning of the grief process one doesn't want to or can't focus for any length of t ...more
Sandra McLeod
A grief counselor told me about this book and it's a book you'll want to read and reread. It approaches the grieving process in a unique way with so much wisdom and understanding. Grandy has just suffered a big loss in her life and, as she cooks up her own unique batch of "tear soup," she explains that everyone must grieve in their own way and make their own "tear soup." The full page illustrations are beautiful and this is a perfect gift for anyone who has experienced a loss.

Kris
Oct 26, 2011 Kris rated it 5 of 5 stars
Shelves: grief
A very thoughtful stranger mailed this book to us after learning about Jason's passing. The main point of the book is that grieving looks and feels different for everyone. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.

There are some very helpful tips at the end. It can be diffiult knowing how to act and what to day in these situations. These tips are a very good road map for everyone.
Lisa
i found the information in this book very, very useful and timeless. i gave it three stars because i did not like the pictures. pretty silly, huh?
too bad i am still not very good with grief- my own or other people's. joe's hermit crab died, and i could only stand about .5 minutes of his grief.
Sullivan Mental Health Services
This is an amazing book for people going through grief and loss. I have read and re-read this book when going through a loss and it has helped me immensely. At the back of the book there are different ideas for the person making the Tear Soup, this encompasses children, adults, siblings, parents, women, and men and how each person has their own grief and loss pathway.

I highly recommend this book to anybody going through any type of grief and loss from the loss of a loved one or pet, to the loss
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Linda
A very real and moving book on how to deal with loss via death, divorce or loss in life.
Rosebud
Dec 26, 2014 Rosebud rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Rosebud by: Jill
My friend Jill loaned me this book to read and then pass on to my friend who is grieving the loss of her husband. It is very short story book, presented like a child's book with excellent illustrations. I hope it will help me help my friend work through her grief and also that it will help her make her own soup. The message of the book is that everyone has to make their own "soup" and work through their grief in their own way and on their own schedule. It's often a lonely process, but you have t ...more
Brenda Funk
This book is amazing. The authors really understand what grieving is all about, and how different it can be for different people. It is also unusual in that it can be read on many different levels. Children as young as 4 could probably understand a lot of it, and it remains applicable to any age thereafter -- with a section of good advice, resources etc. especially for adults. This is a very good resource to have in any house as we (and our friends and families) all experience loss of various ki ...more
Joanna Price
Ages 8+. A young boy's grandmother has experienced significant loss and beings to prepare herself a pot a of tear soup. The specific loss she faces is never explained, but other examples are given as the grandmother explains to her grandson what tear soup is. This book does a phenomenal job of addressing the way grief works. It is clearly directed at individuals who are currently experiencing loss, and not intended as an informational piece for studying grief from an outside perspective. Among t ...more
Cynthia Fry
I recommend this book to anyone grieving a loss in their life. The book is open to interpretation what way that loss takes place, but it was shared with me in the context of a death of a loved one. The book is good for many ages. I would probably let a child 8 and older read on their own, but read with a child younger than 8. Excellent resources in the back and well as suggestions to different perspectives. The illustrations are excellent and you end up playing a little visual hide and seek wit ...more
Betsy Brainerd
Grandy has suffered a terrible loss that causes her to pull out her recipe and make Tear Soup. Each person's circumstance will change the recipe and the cooking time. Tear Soup is a lovely recipe for dealing with grief, and any kind of loss. Written at a level appropriate for ages 5-12. It could work for preschoolers too, if you just paraphrase. And it's not a bad reminder for adults about the hard work that goes in to grieving, how to support your friends in times of grief, etc.
Mycala
This book may have been written for children, but it's the best book I've read with regards to grief. It is written for the purpose dealing with grief of any kind and while it is very clever, it is also very true. One passage in particular really stood out to me: "To make matters worse, grief always takes longer to cook than anyone wants it to." I've been reading a number of books about grief as I deal with my own and I have to say, this really is the only book you need no matter what your age. ...more
Charlene
My sister-in-law encouraged me to read this book after I experienced, and continue to experience, a terrible and tragic loss. I kept it on my bookshelf for several months. I just wasn't ready to read it yet.

Yesterday, I picked it up and read it. It hit everything I was feeling right on the head. Everything about it rang true and helped me understand how others were treating me and what I was feeling. Throughout my grieving process, I felt that what I was experiencing wasn't normal, perhaps--tha
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Aimee
This "children's" book was given to me when I was 25 after my grandpa died. I read it, and it helped, and when my grandma died 3 weeks ago I pulled it back off the shelf. It's a story about Grandy, an elderly woman, after the loss of her husband. It explains about how sometimes you make tear soup in small pots, and sometimes you need a giant pot to make it in. Grandy mixes in tears and good memories. It also explains how sometimes you want to share the soup with other people, and sometimes you w ...more
Holly Garza
I was given this book in 2004.

When I was actually able to read more than 3 words, or have the desire to even open my eyes; I would try to get through each painful word. The word painful of course describing my own emotions... I forced myself one day to read the whole book. The book is VERY accurate as far as grieving goes and back than I liked that it was NOT telling me how to feel, not to feel and how fast to 'get over it'.

I still have NOT "gotten over 'it'" and it still hurts but to God we be
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Michelle
Tear Soup was recommended for a reading area at my school to honor a teacher that has passed away. (Thanks Penny) I read this book looking for something to share with children or adults in celebration of this reading area.

Even though I don't feel like this book would work as a read aloud, I loved the message and understanding that the author gives about grief. I also enjoyed at the end how there were several pages of how to deal with grief or help others who are grieving.

The authors message is
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Laura Talley
This is a great book for any kind of loss in life, both for children and adults. Both my 8-year old and I were in tears by the end. I am so grateful to my friend who recommended it to me. Whether you're facing death, divorce, infertility, a move, job loss, or any other life crisis, this book is a wonderful tool to help you deal with it.
Julie Chapko
An incredible book on bereavement for all ages regarding any type of "loss." It is a precious story on the healing process described by "making soup" using ingredients that are full of memories, the ups, the downs, the continuum of coping with and dealing with the sadness, the feelings of hopelessness, and how as feeling humans we comes out of the despair. It helps to explains the changing emotions, and inability to express or to whom one expresses their grief. It lets those healing know it is o ...more
Francine
I was Reccomended this book after my son passed away after a long battle with brain cancer.

My younger son is 5 and this book not only helped me, but also him understand and comprehend the different stages of grief.

I especially loved how it stressed that everyone grieves differently, in their own way.

Len Knighton
Grief is something we cannot avoid. All if us suffer loss. While the title and illustrations would suggest a children's book, it is one for all ages, pointing out most strongly that going through the grief process is hard work with no time constraints. This is a wonderful resource.
Jessica
We are facing the loss of a close family member. My kids are ages 10, 7 and 4. I knew I would need help trying to explain. A friend who has lost much recommended this book along with Waterbugs and Dragonflies.

This book is about grieving, how the pain of loss can stay with us much longer than others think it should, how friends try to help but ultimately, we need to make our own way through the grieving process. We make our own tear soup with our own recipe and only we can decide when the soup is
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