Dialog mit dem Dalai Lama. Wie wir destruktive Emotionen überwinden können

by Daniel Goleman, Dalai Lama XIV

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July 31st 2005 by Dtv (first published 2002)

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Taschenbuch, 549 pages

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3423342072 (isbn13: 9783423342070)

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Destructive Emotions: How Can We Overcome Them? A Scientific Dialogue with the Dalai Lama forcefully puts to rest the misconception that the realms of…more

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Apr 29, 2009

David Haws rated it:

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Read in January, 2004

I'm giving a lecture on commitment and the willingness to suffer (ostensibly about the death of Socrates) and I remember these two Dalai Lama books that I read a few years ago. I think the point is that empathy is human, and empathy requires us to share suffering. Suffering is in the Affective Domain, but the causes of suffering can be physical, cognitive, or affective. I think the point with Socrates (the Crito) is that he empathizes with the suffering in Athens caused by a cognitive deficiency...more

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Jan 24, 2008

Everett rated it:

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Read in January, 2008

This book was excellente. If it sounds at all interesting, get it and read it.

I'm really interested in the buddhist approach to emotional issues:
'"To consider whether those destructive emotions are part of the basic nature of mind, we need to examine them. Take anger, for example. A strong burst of anger seems irresistible, very compelling. We feel almost powerless not to feel angry; it is as if one has no choice but to experience it. This is because we don't really...more This book was excellente. If it sounds at all interesting, get it and read it.

I'm really interested in the buddhist approach to emotional issues:
'"To consider whether those destructive emotions are part of the basic nature of mind, we need to examine them. Take anger, for example. A strong burst of anger seems irresistible, very compelling. We feel almost powerless not to feel angry; it is as if one has no choice but to experience it. This is because we don't really look at the nature of anger itself. What is anger? When you look from the distance at a large summer cloud, it seems so massive that one could sit on it. Yet if one goes into it, there is nothing to grasp, nothing but steam and wind. At the same time, it obscures the sun, so it has an effect.
'"So with anger. One classical approach in Buddhist practice is for the meditator to look straight into the anger and ask: 'Is anger like an army commander, like a burning fire, like a heavy stone? Does it carry a weapon in its hand? Is it somewhere we can find, in the chest, the heart, the head? Does it have any shape or color?' Of course one does not expect to find someone thrusting a spear into one's stomach! Yet that's how we conceive of anger, as something very strong and compelling.
'"But the experiment will show that the more you look at anger, the more it disappears beneath one's very eyes, like the frost melting under the morning sun. When one genuinely looks at it, it suddenly loses its strength.
'"One discovers as well that anger was not what one had originally thought. It is a collection of different events. There is, for instance, an aspect of clarity, of brilliance, that is at the very core of anger and is not yet malevolent. Indeed, at the very source of destructive emotions there is something that is not yet harmful.
'"Thus," Matthieu explained, "the negative qualities of emotions are not even intrinsic to the emotions themselves. It is the grasping associated with one's tendencies that leads to a chain reaction in which the initial thought develops into anger, hatred, and malevolence. If anger itself is not something that is solid, it means anger is not a property that belongs to the fundamental nature of mind."'(less)

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Aug 20, 2009

laura marked it as to-read (review of isbn 0553381059)

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i am newly aware of the mind and life institute and their marvelous conferences and dialogues on various topics near to my heart (how did i not know about this summer's 'scientific and contemplative perspectives on the self' series, and when will the transcripts be made public?!). i haven't even started this reading list i've been putting together for a year, but this is now my favorite thing on it.

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Aug 08, 2009

Aimee rated it:

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Read in June, 2009

I'm an atheist, but I find Buddhism to be a compelling religion. I admire the Dalai Lama (duh), but what is truly stunning is his scientific curiosity. Never before have a I heard a religious leader say that if scientific evidence contradicts the dogma of a religion, that religion *must change* to accommodate this new data - that's exactly what the Dalai Lama states in this book. Read it!

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Dec 27, 2008

Tonya rated it:

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Read in June, 2007

Goleman shares the results of one of the amazing Mind Life Conferences...this was VII devoted to destructive emotions. The Dalai Lama gathers experts across all fields and explore a topic. The most powerful thing I learned from this book was the frightening and hopeful realization that are minds are always changing and that we can always change our minds.

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Jan 18, 2009

Elizabeth rated it:

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Read in August, 2008

This record of conversations between the Dalai Lama, Buddhist scholars and American & European psychologists and neuroscientists was absolutely delightful. There were big, complicated ideas discussed, but explained! This book gave me a lot to think about, (like the idea that anger isn't necessarily something innate we can't get rid of). Hmmmmm.

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Dec 21, 2007

Kris rated it:

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recommends it for: everyone.

This is one of my current favorite books. It is the most lent, read, and then bought book on my shelf. The Dalai Lama has been participating in Mind and Life conferences where modern western scientists and brilliant Buddhist philosophers discuss current science findings that show the ancient philosophy of Buddhism to have been quite accurate and ahead of its time. I can not wait to hear about the next conference as there should be even more data that shows the power of meditation on brain wav...more

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Nov 05, 2007

Ricardo rated it:

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Read in May, 2005

Como pocos libros teóricos, Emociones Destructivas tiene la facultad de evocar emociones profundas de afecto y admiración por seres humanos visionarios en el sentido más profundo de lo que necesitamos en estos tiempos. Comprender las emociones como parte de la mente, y la mente como algo más que una máquina de procesamiento de información. Es un diálogo entre científicos experimentales y sabios del budismo tibetano, que incluye sorprendentes experimentos de primera línea científica, qu...more

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Mar 21, 2008

Christi rated it:

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Read in June, 2008

recommended to Christi by: Brandon DeCuir

Fascinating! While it was a long read (because I kept re-reading), it was worth every minute. This book is the account of the eighth Mind and Life meeting, held March of 2000 in Dharamsala, India.

While reading, I actually felt as if I were sitting amongst the renowned scientist, monks and philosophers. This conference combines ancient Buddhist wisdom and breakthroughs in a variety of fields of scientific study (neuroscience to child development). The relevant discoveries illustr...more

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Jan 30, 2010

Sabrina Braham rated it:

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bookshelves: attitude, healing, spiritual

Great thinkers researchers come together to explain emotions and how some people are able to bypass destructive emotions

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Aug 27, 2008

Maribel rated it:

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Read in September, 2008

recommended to Maribel by: Jamie
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Our emotions and how we handle them define us. It is through our temperaments and moods that others around us know us. With that in mind, it is imperative that we learn that we have complete control over our emotions, and not the other way around. We can learn to respond in more positive ways to unsettling feelings that come up in our day to day life. Why, this being as important as it is, have we not as a society done something to teach this important skill to each other. This book raises some ...more

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Sep 10, 2007

Nash added it (review of isbn 0553381059)

I've had this book for ages. Well, not exactly, may be more than a year already but still couldn't manage to find neither discipline nor incentive to read it yet.

But, hey, as the dissertation process are becoming "destructive" to my emotion more and more each day, may be it would be a good idea to pick up this book! :-p

In fact, my adviser sort of told me to get a book by Goleman on Emotional Intelligence, but when I got to the bookstore, I sort of like this tit...more

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Jan 13, 2008

Painting rated it:

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Read in May, 2008

This is a description of meetings with the Dalai Lama and other Buddhist monks with several Western scientists and philosophers such as Daniel Goleman (wrote Emotional Intelligence), Paul Ekman (studied facial expression and emotion), Alan Wallace, and Georges Dreyfus among other participants, sponsored by the Mind and Life Institute. The Dalai Lama lists and describes Buddhist mental afflictions and discusses and compares these with Western participant's definitions of destructive emotions. C...more

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Oct 23, 2009

Krystal rated it:

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Everything I love, spirituality, psychology, neurology.

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Jan 14, 2010

Libby rated it:

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Read in December, 2009

carries off the interdisciplinary pretty well

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Jan 21, 2008

Lisa rated it:

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Read in March, 2007

Unfortunately, Daniel Goleman rather gets in the way of the "dialogue” to which the title refers. He seems much more intent on creating a Dalai Lama hagiography than presenting the reader with a pellucid transcript of the proceedings of what, to be fair, does seem to have been an amazing colloquium. Notwithstanding the annoying smarminess of Goleman, the book has its moments. In particular I found discussions in which neuroscience research findings were described and related to Tibetan...more

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Feb 21, 2009

Demetria rated it:

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One of my favorite books.

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Jul 23, 2009

Sandi rated it:

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Loved this book

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Oct 17, 2008

Gemma Williams rated it:

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A very interesting report on the Mind and Life conference on Buddhism, neuroscience, psychology and negative emotions, facilitated by the Dalai Lama, who comes across as very knowledgeable about science. Despite the Western and Buddhist positions even differing on the definition of what a negative emotion is, the discussion is very fruitful on both sides, with a real sense of the different perspectives being open to learning from each other. fascinating stuff, and lots to think about.

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May 09, 2007

Mo rated it:

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bookshelves: buddhism

Read in January, 2005

Not your typical Buddhism book--part of a series of books investigating the borders where science and buddhism overlap. The Dalai Lama is fascinated by science and has stated on many occasions that if a scientific theory was proven that went against commonly held buddhist tenets(like reincarnation), he would absolutely reconsider that belief in light of the new scientific information.

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