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I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You

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Where'd You Go, Bernadette meets Beautiful Ruins in this reverse love story set in Paris and London about a failed monogamist's attempts to answer the question: Is it really possible to fall back in love?

Despite the success of his first solo show in Paris and the support of his brilliant French wife and young daughter, thirty-four-year-old British artist Richard Haddon is...more
Hardcover, 336 pages
Published June 10th 2014 by Touchstone (first published June 1st 2014)
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The review blurb on Amazon said this: "In this reverse love story set in Paris and London, which Glamour hailed as one of the “10 Best Books to Add to Your Summer Reading List Right This Second,” a failed monogamist attempts to woo his wife back and to answer the question: Is it really possible to fall back in love with your spouse?" The blurb later references the "charming and engrossing portrait as one man's midlife mess." It sounds interesting and appealing, yes?

But 25% into the book, I just...more
Just loved this book. It's smart, no question. Funny, yes. But, most importantly, true. A book that makes you feel--gratitude, doubt, sadness, hope, resolve... Having been married twenty years, I know it's a process, will never stay quite the same and takes two people who want to keep growing together. Often requiring pain, boredom, kindness, forgiveness, creativity… Maum captures these stages perfectly. The writing is tight and swift, culturally right on--brutal in some depictions, kind in othe...more
2.5 stars.

I had trouble putting this book down. But I have no idea why.

It certainly wasn't sympathy for the narrator. Was I supposed to feel sorry for him? Puke! What a jerk. He needed to take a grow-up pill. In addition to being a self-indulgent cheater, he was pretentious as all get out. I sort of liked his wife, but she was pretentious, too. (Had to be to end up with the likes of him).

I also wasn't satisfied with the conclusion. I suspected the author wanted to write a more ambiguous book,...more
Helen Fisher
My goal for 2014 is to read 60 books, which is pretty ambitious for me. I have found that there are some books that I start and I don’t really care to finish – but I do finish them because otherwise I will be behind on my goal! This is one of those books. The book is told through artist Richard Haddon and at the outset we learn he is mourning an affair with a mistress who has left him. Richard is an exceptionally selfish and whiny man who longs for his wife to come back to him and for his mistre...more
Jenny (Reading Envy)
Aug 03, 2014 Jenny (Reading Envy) rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Jenny (Reading Envy) by: PW 4/7/14
Shelves: read2014
Sometimes the ennui from a longterm relationship sets the stage for people to make decisions that can cause a great deal of pain. Who knows how to just be honest to start with? How else to deal with drudgery and overfamiliarity than the excitement of a fling?

Richard Haddon is an artist who has enjoyed some measure of success (as in people are purchasing his work) at age 34, but only from selling out to a more commercial idea. And in the same way he's let his authentic artistic self slip, he's st...more
Peggy Strack
Richard Haddon is bored and disillusioned with his marriage and his career as an artist. So what does he do? He finds some excitement through an extra-marital affair. When it ends, Richard's life is in shambles. He wants to fall back in love with his wife. He wants to escape from the demands of a commercial art world, but how does he turn these desires into reality. Author, Courtney Maum takes us on Richard's maddening and heartfelt journey of how he tries to make this happen. This novel totally...more
Larissa Rose
It gets two stars because it kept me reading until the end, but honestly, I thought it was so stupid. The narrator is so whiny and selfish, he spends the whole first half of the book talking about his mistress, even though the shit has already hit the fan and he claims to want his wife back. It wraps up way too fast, and it's all too facile. Their actual marital problems are completely glossed over, and nothing about it felt real. Also, it takes place during the beginning of the Iraq War and I t...more

Courtney Maum's debut novel I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You seemed right up my alley: a cross-cultural romantic comedy mixed with one of my favorite unofficial literary sub-genres, the White Male F&ck-up Novel. You see, it's about a British artist (Richard) who cheats on his French lawyer wife (Anne-Laure) with an American journalist (Lisa) during the run-up to the Iraq War... and oh, it's primarily set in Paris.

Doesn't sound that romantic, huh? But it's the 'ole "boy loses girl, b...more
Somewhat overlong and angsty exploration of a marriage in crisis. The narrator, a British artist in his 30's, has cheated on his French lawyer wife with an American {horrors!!}. Once his wife discovers his infidelity, he suddenly realizes what he has lost and sets about trying to win her back. She resists, he persists, for 330 pages.

Some interesting glimpses of the art world and life in Paris, but otherwise I didn't find it especially compelling.
Paris is for lovers....well not always. The much maligned philanderer gets his story told in Courtney Maum´s wonderfully titled, "i am having so much fun here without you". The seven year itch hits Richard hard and he falls off the monogamy wagon with a thud. After 7 years with the pretty perfect Anne, a well healed but sexy (of course) French lawyer, a gorgeous three year old daughter, a house in the 14th arrondissement in Paris, wealthy bourgois inlaws with the summer house in Brittany, Richar...more
An enjoyable romantic comedy with a veneer of sophistication. Artist Richard Haddon has strayed from the marital bed and as the novel opens he's been thrown over by his lover and his wife has discovered his infidelity. Even the success of his first solo art show in Paris feels hollow since the work that is selling are paintings he feels mark his departure from his earlier, more authentic political art. What is a poor sod to do?

Make no mistake, Richard is narcissistic, immature, and unsympathetic...more
I read a bunch of this funny, compelling novel on the cliff side overlooking the ocean in San Diego and it was one of the greatest reading experiences in recent memory: not just for the ocean view but for the book itself. I loved this narrator, even as he fucked up and was such a dolt. I loved the art. I love the sex scenes. I loved the descriptions of clothing. Such a great read. At times the first person narrative over-explained what was clearly implied, which distracted me. Otherwise, fun and...more
3.5 stars: “I Am Having So Much Fun Without You” is a beach read with introspection. Yes, it’s light and airy, it’s witty, it’s entertaining, but there’s some meat in it about the workings of marriages.

At the beginning of the novel, I almost gave up because the protagonist, Richard Haddon, was a bit creepy for me. He’s married to a devoted and beautiful woman, has a lovely 5 year old daughter, and he’s a philanderer. Because the writing is witty, and this novel has received great reviews, I cont...more
This is a charming debut novel that really plays with the reader. Is this pure fun, fun with a dose of seriousness, tongue in cheek, or what? Richard Haddon has some charm, but he's a fool through and through, if a fool with heart and a big dose of cluelessness. He falls in love with his French wife, Anne-Laure, just about at first sight. Is it all for her French-ness? That's about all that shines through with her, so her personality remains a bit of a silk and cashmere clad mystery, but this s...more
3 - 3.5 stars

[I couldn't help but think that there may be an element of "wish fulfillment" in the way the plot progresses in this book. The philandering husband...who realizes and comes to regret his terrible mistake...who tries to win his wife back (short of practically grovelling)...etc etc]

It was *just* okay. I didn't feel that the story (or the writing) revealed anything particularly powerful or insightful about the nature and course of marital love. (In part, I wonder if this could be becau...more
Penny McGill
The great treat about reading is that it puts you into another person's shoes. Whether you want to be in their mindset or not, the talented author can give you the perspective of a person you know you would argue with at a dinner party. You can read and almost believe the point of view of a character that you would cheerfully walk away from each time you saw them at your local grocery store - just because you don't want to engage with them. That can be refreshing and relaxing in a book; if the c...more
Carolyn Fagan
The premise of this novel really attracted me, but then I started to read it and I hated Richard Haddon! What a whiner! He really got on my nerves, but then something magical started to happen, he started to grow and change and I found myself reassessing my own spousal relationship and in the end I loved the book and I even started to like Richard..of course I loved Anne! Well done Courtney Maum...I need to copy down all the restaurants, etc and take a trip to Paris soon!

Thanks to Simon and Shus...more
April Kane
I received a free ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.

After cheating on his French wife, Anne-Laure, thirty-four year old British artist, Richard Haddon tries a variety of ways to reconcile with her. One of his main efforts includes trying to regain control of The Blue Bear, an early artistic work that was inspired by his wife but unfortunately sold to a pair of unique art collectors.

This is a moving and at times funny account of Richard’s struggle to create provocative and meanin...more
This was enjoyable. I wasn't sure what to make of the blurb that compared it to Where'd you go, Bernadatte and Beautiful Ruins, since it didn't seem like that at all but it was very good anyway. On its own. It was a tale of a marriage gone off track and the perp, Richard Haddon trying to make it right. Told through his eyes we get to feel the anguish of making a bad choice and also struggle with his life as an artist trying to remain true to his art but also make some money. He has an affair and...more
Rarely do I begin a book without an idea of what it is about. I requested this book from the publisher, and received an ARC in the mail (love getting mail, love books). I started reading the next day and wow, this is an author to watch. Courtney does an excellent job of describing the subtle and not so subtle ways a marriage can disintegrate. Some parts were a bit unbelievable, but having never been in a relationship such as the one in this book, who am I to judge? Just a good read all around.
Marriage is hard. A lot of people feel like brother and sister after many years together. Sometimes an affair will ensue. This may render your marriage irreparable...or not. Some French have a more laissez faire attitude than we Americans. Now you know the story, did I tell you anything you didn't already know? Actually it flowed pretty well but the voice is that of the male half of the couple. Maybe that's why I was intrigued but there were no great revelations. It was sometimes amusing.
John Blumenthal
Courtney Maum's novel is basically about a Brit who has an affair that fizzles and his attempt to win his wife back. It's well-written, the characters are well-drawn and the plot, although a bit thin, moves along at a decent pace. As with many novels of this ilk, the ending is fairly predictable but I was interested enough to keep reading, which is a big deal for me as I tend to abandon most novels I buy these days. One thing I do not understand is the title.
Chele Hipp
Ack! What a painful book to read! Hundreds - literally hundreds - of pages about a guy feeling torn between his amazing wife and his amazing mistress who dumped him. So boring. I wanted to see what happened plot-wise so I just scanned the book for plot advancements. There were very few. And, lo and behold, they all ended up rom-com perfect.

Also, who was the person having fun? It wasn't either of the primary characters and it certainly wasn't me. What was the point of the title?

Another book beg...more
Sep 06, 2014 Amy rated it 3 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2014
It has its moments, but it's pretty ordinary overall. I didn't care what happened and I could have put it down at any point. There's a very minor character named Harold; I would much rather read a whole book about him than this main character. This is billed as "Where'd you Go, Bernadette? meets Beautiful Ruins," and, just, no.
Holly S. Warah
The story of a marriage falling apart. While the overall plot wasn't particularly compelling, what I enjoyed of this novel was its humor, terrific prose and Parisian setting. I also enjoyed the themes of art, class differences, and culture. This book is going to stay with me for a while...
Richard is a whiny, self-indulgent, want-a-be center of the universe, annoying man! I had had enough of him by the middle of the book and had to force myself to continue. I scanned most of the rest of the book (because I HATE bailing out in the middle if I think I can stand it to the end) but I should have just quit. The end of the book just felt like the author gave up too and just strung some words together to end it all.

Many reviewers thought this was a “funny” book, but I didn't find it so....more
A sweet romantic comedy set in Paris. Richard, an artist, cheats on his wife and does not get away with it. When his wife finds out, she takes their daughter and leaves him. Courtney Maum does a great job capturing Richard's voice, creating a sweet book that is not too saccharine.
May 08, 2014 Rosie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: funny
Oh man, I was so close to 5 stars for this and then the ending wimped out. But I LOVED much of this - laughed a lot and I look forward to more from the author.
Amy West
Despite the scandalous topic, I completely enjoyed this book, loved her writing style, appreciated the raw emotions/humor, loved the art-vibes, and embraced the French-ness.
Carrie Shaurette
This was a compelling look at a philandering husband's relationships, but I think I just read too many dysfunctional marriage books this summer.
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A humor columnist, corporate namer and writer, "I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You" is my first novel to be published but I've got loads more in my desk drawer, held together with plastic coil bindings.

Married to a French filmmaker, I play house in between a log cabin in the Berkshires, a tiny hideout in the east village of NYC, and Paris, where I lived for five years working as a party pro...more
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