True North: The Shocking Truth about "Yours, Mine and Ours"
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True North: The Shocking Truth about "Yours, Mine and Ours"

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Tom North is one of the eight North children, who together with the ten Beardsley children, became the family which was featured in the 1968 film, “Yours, Mine and Ours” starring Lucille Ball and Henry Fonda, and again in the 2005 version starring Rene Russo and Dennis Quaid.

The book begins in the 1950s on Whidbey Island, Washingto...more
Paperback, 356 pages
Published July 15th 2013 by True North Productions LLC
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Kirsten Lenius
I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

In 1968, a movie called Yours, Mine and Ours was released. It starred Lucille Ball and Henry Fonda and was based on the story of a widow and widower who married and combined their families and who had a total of eighteen children between them at the time of their marriage. The movie showed an idyllic, though chaotic and hectic family life and many people fell in love with the idea of it, myself included. The idea of a large family t...more
I received this book through a Goodreads Firstreads giveaway (and was pleased to receive a personalized signed copy!)

Actual rating 2.5 stars.

I learned today that "Grammar Pedantry Syndrome" is a form of OCD which causes you to feel the need to correct every grammatical error you see. I think maybe I suffer from this because I desperately wanted to take a red pen to this book and send it back edited (except that I want to keep my signed copy! Ha.). This book seems to be self-published and I think...more
Marcy Goodfleisch
Tom North's book will resonate with anyone who has experienced child abuse or serious dysfunction in their family life. The book takes us into the actual household of the blended family Helen North (Tom's mother) and Frank Beardsley created when they married about a year after each was widowed.

North has peeled away the veneer of 'one big happy family' seen in the movie, "Yours, Mine and Ours" in 1968 and exposed his true story of living with the violence, fear and abuse inflicted on the househol...more
Jo-Ann Murphy
This was a fascinating and thoroughly enjoyable read. While in the beginning of the book there is some reference to the abuse suffered in the Beardsley family, the book is really about Tom North's journey, education and healing. He has led a very diverse and interesting life, learning from his mistakes and changing the pattern of abuse he lived for many years rather than perpetuating them.
Whether you're a fan, friend, pop culturist, sociologist, or fellow traveler, Tom North's True North: The Shocking Truth about "Yours, Mine and Ours," proves a convincing and compelling read. An autobiography describing North's recovery from the abusive, incestuous, malnourished and neglectful household of the celebrated Carmel family, the book also provides an absorbing look at baby-boomer childhood in a semi-rural, hippie-riddled community of suburban California.

Fans will enjoy the fleshed-out...more
Lori L (She Treads Softly)
True North: The Shocking Truth about Yours, Mine & Ours is a memoir by Tom North, one of the children in the Beardsley/North marriage that the 1968 movie, Yours, Mine and Ours was based on. The problem is that the movie version was fiction. The real life blended family that the Beardsley/North union created was fraught with abuse, mostly at the hands of Frank Beardsley, but Helen was a distant mother and did little to stop it.

Tom's father, Richard, tragically died when he was six, leaving He...more
I was lucky enough to win this book from a Goodreads giveaway and I did enjoy this read. It is such a roller coaster of a story following this mans life from childhood to adulthood. Like the title hints at this is not a story about a happy perfect family, there is extremely heart wrenching traumas that are suffered by the people involved. Each member of the family , including the parents went through their own horrors ,which added to the collective sadness and dysfunction of the family as a unit...more
Kris Dickinson
I won this book in exchange for an honest review. I recieved an autographed copy and was thrilled to see it personalized. The movie on which this familys lives are based is one of my favorites. So I was very anxious to read this book. The book, although well written and full of detail, doesnt really talk as much as I had thought about life growing up in the North Beardsley household. There is some, sure. But it was mostly about the authors journey and struggle thru his adult life to get past his...more
Kelly Krenek
You've had an interesting life. I enjoyed reading about it, however I would have enjoyed hearing more about the rest of the family, too. Thanks for the book. I think your a great writer and glad I got to know a little bit about your famous family.
I orginially went into this book curious as to the family that was formed between Helen and Frank thinking the author would give more insite to each individual member and was very surprised (pleasantly) that it was about his quest for healing. I myself am on a personal healing quest and have been tapping into my own spirtual self. It is amazing how the Spirit guides you in this world.
Beverly Fuller
I won "True North" on Goodreads First-Reads. Tom North has written a compelling and inspirational book. I watched "Yours, Mind And Ours" and it makes me sad that Tom and his siblings suffered so at the hands of that man and the movie portrays him as such a wonderful man. Keep telling your story, Tom. You never know who your story will touch that is experiencing similar abuse.
Mae Blue
Not so good. The scenes were not set in a compelling manner, they were just told. The drama and fear were not realized, as the writer has no ability to structure his material in a compelling way. He needed a good editor, if such thing exists today. North seems like a good guy, he had weathered much abuse, but he does not make it real for us. Also the stories about fishing and nature were unendurably long and meandering for the tastes of an average reader. They were well written though, just woul...more
Mandy Edwards
Having seen the mid-1990's version of "Yours, Mine and Ours" I never imagined that there was a completely opposite story that never saw the light of day. The family portrayed in the movie was happy - sure they had ups and downs but you saw love. Tom's story however, pulled the curtain back to reveal the true story behind the curtain. As a parent, I could not even fathom hurting either of my children the way his stepfather did. During the time period this all took place, there was not as much awa...more
Trevor Pearson
Received a copy of True North By Tom North through the First Reads Giveaway

"Ultimately, their is no good that comes out of evil.
Only evil comes of evil, no matter how much good might
seem to result from it."

I just wanted to preface my review by saying that when I enter a giveaway it is to be diligent in my overall selection and not to put my name in every giveaway hoping to fill my bookshelves with freebies. I take the responsibility of the review seriously and my intention is to be interest...more
Sarah Lameche
OK well where to start. At the end.. I cried near the end of this book. What Tom North and the rest of his siblings had to deal with growing up no child should have to go through. As a mother I can't forgive HIS mother. She should have protected her children yet it was her who put them in that situation. I would die or even kill for my child so I just can't comprehend this woman's mentality. I was fascinated by the first third of this book. Reading about the circumstances that brought all this a...more
I was disappointed in this book. Yes, it did give little details of the North/Beardsley household, the majority of the book was about Mr. North and meditation. Though I find nothing wrong with that as his way to heal, I just wished the book had been marketed that way.

I know I am one of the few people that did not care for this book, but I could not bring myself to like it; I wanted to but it so did not happen. There was something about the book that was just not believable for me. The writing style was a jumbled mess to me. The author in one chapter goes from 16 to 12 to 16 again. This book just was not a book I can recommend to anyone. I found it odd that with 20 children in this blended household the only ones that are mentioned are his full blooded siblin...more
*I received a copy from NetGalley.
This was the true story of growing up in the North-Beardsley household made famous by the movie, "Yours, Mine & Ours" starring Henry Fonda and Lucille Ball. Unfortunately it was not like the movie but instead full of abuse. The author shares his experiences and how he spent many years coming to terms with them.
Very moving, it dragged in some places, but overall a good read. Readers who enjoy true stories of overcoming abuse/tragedy will probably be interest...more
Elaine Bennett
I love the movie version of this family's life, but certainly can understand that things are not always what they seem. The author does seem to be very heavy into TM (another reader's comment as well), and I think that this account should also be taken with a grain of salt. I'm sure life was not rosy and everyone in that huge family must have their own truth. It would be interesting to read any other autobiographies that come from this family.
Not so sure how much of it I believe. A little too crazy for me.
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