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Self Preservation

3.85  ·  Rating Details ·  759 Ratings  ·  103 Reviews
Davis always assumed they would wind up back together, until Jack calls and invites Davis to his wedding to Tadd Austin, a prominent architect in Chicago. Jack's only known Tadd for two weeks, so whatever Jack feels for Tadd couldn't possibly compare to what he shared with Davis. There's no way in hell Davis can stand by and watch the life he always expected to get back sl ...more
ebook, Second Edition, 135 pages
Published May 8th 2013 by Wilde City Press. LLC (first published February 10th 2009)
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Mar 09, 2009 ElaineY rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: mm
Davis would have to be Drama Queen of gay romance! He was whiny and immature and I just didn't get his HEA with Alex - how did that romance even get off the ground when from start to finish, Davis was still hankering after his ex and plotting to break up his weeding a la 'My Best Friend's Wedding'-style?

I struggled through this one and was tempted to ditch it but somehow managed to get through it and gave myself a mental pat on the head for perseverance.
Brenda (b)
Sep 08, 2009 Brenda (b) rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this story. It's one that I found myself thinking a lot about after I've finished it. As I read it, I kept wondering exactly how it was going to turn out. I knew how I wanted things to end up but I couldn't tell if that's what would happen. Even though the main portion of the story takes place over just a couple of days, the relationships didn't feel rushed – probably because Davis and Jack's relationship actually spanned 10 years and there were flashbacks to key points of it. I found al ...more
I was pleasantly surprised by this book. I did like Davis more than I expected to.

I would probably have bumped this up to a 4 star if the Davis/Alex romance was more solidly explored. I feel like there was more of connection between Jack and Todd and Jack and Davis then there was between Alex and Davis. Partly this was because Davis and Alex did not spend enough time together in the book. Davis spent more time in the book with his BFF girlfriend then he did with Alex.

I will also add that the P
Self Preservation is the first Ethan Day novel I’ve read, and it won’t be my last. I was pleasantly surprised on how humorous the book was. I found myself laughing out loud a few times at some of the crazy things the characters in this novel go through.

The plot is similar to the movie “My Best Friends Wedding”, but it had its own uniqueness to it that I enjoyed. I want to point out that our hero Davis doesn’t even meet his future lover, Alex, until almost mid way through the book. The book mainl
Jul 05, 2009 Jet rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
such a lovely story! I laughed aloud
I loved this book. It was funny and sexy and the characters were so much fun to read about.
Hopefully, Mr. Day will get to writing more books soon!
Highly recommended!
Aug 23, 2009 Spring rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Spring by: Daisiemae
I liked this book a lot. I would have given it 5 stars Davis and Alex had more interaction with each other. It's funny and I thought Davis was so cute!
I'll be reading more from this author.
Aug 31, 2009 Josh rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone looking for a light and fun romance
Recommended to Josh by: Daisiemae
Self Preservation was more humorous than I expected it to be. There is an interesting cast of characters that kept the book moving along smoothly. Although I really liked Davis and Alex together, my one complaint is I felt like I didn't get to spend enough time with them, because of all the craziness going on with the other characters.
I really enjoyed this book, and I look forward to reading more by this author.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this debut story by Ethan Day... and to be honest I certainly hope he has more where this came from, a LOT more! This man's humour is slightly skewed ~ but I LIKE it ~ and his characters, unforgettable. The story, well I couldn't read it fast enough... but when I was done I felt as though I was saying goodbye to a dear and treasured friend.
This story joins the line-up on my (virtual) keeper shelves.
Oh, and when it's out in paperback ~ don't get in my way 'cause I'll run anyone
Felicia (Ferishia)
This is the first book I've read from this author. You ever start reading a book, and part way through, you think you've figured out how it's gonna end. Only it doesn't end that way and you don't know know how to take it? Well, I was thrown for a loop with this book. I'm not gonna say anything about it other than I was...shocked. Still am. I loved the main character Davis and his best friend Desiree. I was on the fence about Jack and Alex, and definitely did NOT like Tadd. It was cute, sad, and ...more
Oct 05, 2010 Julia rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: m-m
This one teetered between a three and a four for me. On the one hand, it's very similar in a lot of ways to My Best Friend's Wedding. Not a total rip off like some-- *coughs*Pretty Man*coughs*-- I've read, but more like I could imagine the writer having been inspired by that film (or one like it) and going, "This would be great for a m/m romance..." And it is. I liked not being sure who was going end up with who and I really liked all the characters. There are no bad guys here, just personal str ...more
Dec 12, 2015 Tana rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: m-m-romance
This was a great story, I love when you read a book and it makes you laugh outloud. I would love to read more about Davis and Alex. Heading over to LLC to find your other books.
Lil' Grogan
Feb 14, 2011 Lil' Grogan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: lol, 4, gay, rom-com
The story was written with such charm and humour that I can't work up the grinchiness to nitpick. Lovely, lovely flawed characters. Amazed at his ability to portray the characters sympathetically in spite of the situation.
Emanuela ~plastic duck~
This was not my favorite Ethan Day's book. The story resembles My Best Friend's Wedding, but Davis (Julia Roberts) is Jack's ex, the future husband is not a naive guy, but a prominent architect and Davis' ally are his best friend Deseree and the future husband's best friend Alex. It's enough to make the dynamics all different.

It was as if the story never got really started. It takes place almost all in the present, with a few flashbacks about the past, the very first Davis and Jack's date and th
May 30, 2011 Fangtasia rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good story, likeable characters but it was kind of unfocused. Would have liked it better if there had been more balance between the main character's move from his first to his second love interest. Also, other books by this author have been hilariously funny, this one was a bit short in that sense. Pretty good light reading, but not his best. I do recommend the one other story of his that I've read, Dreaming of You. It's absolutely fabulous!
Jun 27, 2012 Susan65 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The only Ethan Day book to ever make me cry...and that's putting it mildly because I cried my freaking eyes out. I could not believe it...I still can't.
Dec 10, 2012 Susan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: mm-read, z-2012
This is one of those stories that gets better and better, the more you read. I alternated between laughing and cringing at Davis's actions and even though I didn't want him to succeed in his mission I was slightly cheering him on! I loved Deseree and everybody should have a best friend like her. This book was a lot of fun, although it did have a couple of sad moments, and I can definitely see myself reading this again.
Jul 02, 2012 L-D rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to L-D by: Nik
Man - this book stressed me the F*CK out. Davis and Jack were first loves in college. After dating for 4 years, they are separated for 6 which is addressed in a few flashbacks. Even though they haven't dated for 6 years, Davis has always loved Jack and held onto the hope that they will get back together...until Jack calls to invite him to his wedding.

Having only been with his fiance for 2 weeks, Davis is certain that Jack can't love Tad the way they loved each other and, with best friend Desere
Sep 07, 2014 Paisley rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Paisley by: Cassandra
When I am reading this story I am once again reminded why Ethan Day is one of my favorite authors - he is so freakin' entertaining! I love his work. It's beyond just humorous at times - it is laugh out loud, people are staring at me while I'm reading my Kindle in the airport funny.

Although I would not say this is my favorite story of his - it is up to par with most of them. I've paid a lot to Amazon over the past few years for his stuff, and even though I cringe when I hit the "One Click Buy" bu
Jun 28, 2012 leigh rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned-bn

Likable, well-plotted but lightweight rom-com. I didn’t warm up to either main character. Davis was not only pathetic but annoying. He pined for years over his lost love, making no adult attempts to reconnect nor to find someone else with whom to share his life. When it looked like Jack had a chance of real happiness, Davis’s first impulse was to sabotage it in the name of Twoo Wuv. He eventually allowed reason to prevail and held back some of his more evil machinations, but his heart remained i
Jun 14, 2012 Deeze rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have mixed feelings on this one. Firstly after reading Ethan Days Sno Ho series I was expecting more laughs, instead I got a roller coaster of emotions with a few chuckles thrown in. Secondly I’m still not sure if this ended the way I wanted,

When I started reading my heart was sure Davis and Jack would get back together. Half way through and I was hoping they would get back together but Alex started to worm his way in. By the end I still wanted Davis and Jack together but I wanted Alex to win
Jun 18, 2012 Ery rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
While Day incorporates his classic writing style, strong characterization, and sense of humor, it's a miss for me in one key area. Specifically, the one area that keeps me reading Day's works is his innate ability to build tension between two characters I - to totally submerge the readers in the conflict and/or developing romance, until it explodes in a lustful ball of fire. Here, due to the story structure, this is missing.

Overall, the story is well-written, interesting, and included enough dra
Dec 18, 2012 Karel rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I really wanted to like this one, after reading multiple reviews about how funny ED's books are. That part, at least is true - the humor is there. Not hilarious, my-sides-doth-hurt funny, but it's enough for a few quick laughs.

Problems I had with this book:

1. The flashbacks drew me out of the book. Maybe if the book had been structured differently and it had started out with the past instead, I might have cared more. As it is, we were fed on chapter one about the plot... And then just when the a
May 16, 2013 Nic rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Funny and fabulous!

Davis has been apart from Jack, the love of his life, for 6 years. He thought they were destined to be together, that true love would win in the end but then receives a phone call from Jack inviting him to attend his wedding! Davis sets off with best friend Deseree to win his man back!

"And you'll come with me to Chigago?" he asked.
"You breaking out of your shell and laying claim to your man?" Deseree asked, smiling at the thought. "Like I'd miss watching you going all My Best
May 31, 2013 Cindi rated it really liked it
A nice, humorous story about discovering that sometimes going back isn't all it's cracked up to be. A very entertaining read.

Full review can be found at On Top Down Under Book Reviews.

This book was provided by Wilde City Press in exchange for a fair and honest review.
Tina Marie
Jul 04, 2013 Tina Marie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was the second time I read Self Preservation by Ethan Day. The first time, it was released by a different e-publisher and I gave it three stars. The editing was missing completely from that version. I have to admit I had forgotten the reason I gave it three stars and I was not looking forward to re-reading it for this review. Why did I volunteer? I think because I had already read several Wilde City Press e-books and had found true nirvana. Almost flawless editing, proofing and formatting. ...more
Okay - I had started the sample three times before I actually bought the book....and that should have been a hint itself. I've ignored that and bought it anyway.

Let's just phrase it this way - neither story nor built up nor MCs are my cup of tea.

I did not finish and therefore don't rate it. That means someone else might enjoy it.
Aug 26, 2013 Monika rated it really liked it
Shelves: g-funny
4.5 Stars

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This was another great Ethan Day book. I always know I’m going to get something humours, sweet and sometimes emotional with an HEA and very little angst. His characters are something that will give me hours of reading pleasure.

This was a sweet story about love, friendship and coming to terms with what you’ve lost then realizing there just may be a light at the end of that love tunnel for you anyway. The story is light hearted one that t
Apr 04, 2014 Julia rated it it was amazing
Shelves: m-m, challenge-read
This little gem was full of humor. The story was told with a series of flashbacks that really build the angst and pull on the heart strings. 5 emotional stars (view spoiler) ...more
Jaymie Brideson
Aug 21, 2014 Jaymie Brideson rated it really liked it
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