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  <title><![CDATA[Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents]]></title>
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  <default-description>Millions of adults grew up with immature, self-absorbed parents who made their own children responsible for their physical and emotional well-being, expected admiration and constant attention, and reacted with criticism and blame when their slightest need went unmet. In this accessible book, psychologist Nina Brown helps grown children come to terms with the results of such an upbringing, including tendencies to overcomply to others' needs, withdraw when someone needs nurturing, and lack self-esteem. Through self-exploration exercises and protective and coping strategies, Brown helps readers work toward developing a &quot;healthy narcissism&quot; by identifying destructive patterns their parents may have had, evaluating attitudes and behaviors that may be hampering their own adult relationships, dealing with self-doubt and other negative feelings, and piecing together a more integrated sense of self.</default-description>
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  <original-publication-year type="integer">2001</original-publication-year>
  <original-title>Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents</original-title>
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      <name><![CDATA[Nina W. Brown]]></name>
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    <body><![CDATA[I used this for character research. Very enlightening]]></body>
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  <read_at>Tue Jan 01 00:00:00 -0800 2008</read_at>
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    <body><![CDATA[Recommended by a psychiatrist friend. Helped me understand myself and how I relate and/or don't relate to others.]]></body>
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    <body><![CDATA[So far this is an excellant book. It talks about our family of origin and how that can effect you and what you take from that that effects your own life and that of YOUR children. Lots of exercises to do and valuable information to help you drop off the old baggage and create new self talk!!!<br/>...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/40818481">more...</a>]]></body>
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  <read_at>Thu Jan 01 00:00:00 -0800 2009</read_at>
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    <body><![CDATA[From the title, I thought this book would be more helpful than it turned out to be. The focus was too much on the narcissist and dealing with them effectively, when I'm looking to understand my empathic side better, to find ways to protect myself and give myself space. I wanted the focus more to be ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/52342801">more...</a>]]></body>
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  <read_at>Sat Jun 01 00:00:00 -0700 2002</read_at>
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    <body><![CDATA[This was a very enlightening book about being a child of a parent with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  It was really interesting.]]></body>
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    <body><![CDATA[This book was very insightful and helpful in understanding the unsolvable puzzle that is my father.]]></body>
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    <body><![CDATA[On your quest through life, you may find that you need a book like this. If you do, start with this one.]]></body>
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    <body><![CDATA[Just an okay book - may be helpful for some . I didn't find much in it for myself . ]]></body>
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    <body><![CDATA[A book that changed my life in my forties. What more can I say.]]></body>
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    <body><![CDATA[This book changed my life!]]></body>
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