Fierce Attachments: A Memoir

Fierce Attachments: A Memoir

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In this deeply etched and haunting memoir, Vivian Gornick tells the story of her lifelong battle with her mother for independence. There have been numerous books about mother and daughter, but none has dealt with this closest of filial relations as directly or as ruthlessly. Gornick's groundbreaking book confronts what Edna O'Brien has called "the prinicpal crux of female...more
Paperback, 216 pages
Published September 14th 2005 by Farrar, Straus and Giroux (first published 1987)
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Jane Hoppe
Fierce Attachments by Vivian Gornick

Before reading Vivian Gornick’s Fierce Attachments, I felt frustrated by frozen memories. Why can’t I remember conversations, let alone themes, from my childhood and teen years? Why can I not paint a picture of anyone, myself included? Why does no one appear whole? After reading Gornick’s memoir, I sense a thawing. Memories aren’t exactly gushing yet, but they’re trickling.

Gornick weaves anecdotes to show primarily influences of her mother and a neighbor, Nett...more
Joslyn
There is a young woman who has the desire to find independence from her widowed mother who dominates the house hold. Throughout her childhood and as she makes her transition into adulthood there is this constant battle for control over her life. In a rather up front manner, Vivian Gornick reveals some of her life story through the writing of her memoir Fierce Attachments. She shines some light on the inner struggle all young women go through to be their own individual despite the control their...more
Janelle
Vivian Gornick
Fierce Attachments,Simon and Schuster publishing, New York, 1987


If you happen to have a love/ hate relationship with your mother, this book may have you thinking you wrote it yourself. The mother-daughter relationship described throughout this memoir takes a journey through time tested by everyday life and love. The author portrays her mother so well you feel as if you have to of known someone just like her. She is animated, fiery, passionate, opinionated, and a strong willed wo...more
Katherine
Gornick’s memoir, Fierce Attachments, explores the complicated and painful life experiences that she had as a child growing up with her widowed mother. Gornick’s life was a difficult one, filled with competition from her mother, lack of acceptance, and a general sense of ostracism from the women who surrounded her. Gornick’s mother, a judgmental and hardworking woman, tried her best to provide for her children; however, her rigidity towards her daughter’s individuality never appeared to be acce...more
Caitlin Constantine
I've seen this book cited as a classic of the memoir genre, and as I have recently undertaken the task of schooling myself in the classics, I figured I needed to read this. I'm glad I did. It's not because the story is particularly remarkable, because it's not - at least, not any more than the story of a working-class immigrant Jewish family in 1940s New York City can be - but because the way Gornick handles the story is practically virtuoso. She brings you into the claustrophobic setting of the...more
Davita Westbrook
I had the opportunity to study with Vivian this summer and I have to say, she's a brilliant writer and more importantly, a brilliant THINKER. Fierce Attachments is a great effort for how it pushes form, weaving back and forth between walks with her mother through NYC, and the life they shared in the Bronx with a colorful cast of characters during Vivian's childhood. I most enjoyed the voice of her mother, which is so authentic and deliberate and faithfully rendered, that is practically leaps off...more
Gloria Johns
Vivian Gornick's memoir takes us thru her experience with not only her mom but the other women who have crossed her life and how these women have impacted her life. It is Vivian's story but we see ourselves mirrored thru her experience because as women we have all been effected by our collective consciousness. As she struggles with the issues of her mom we cannot help but recollect our own personal struggles with our own mom. As we watch her struggle there is recognition of the struggle within u...more
Sonja
This was a rather interesting memoir written by a Jewish woman, Vivian Gornick. Her father died when she was young and her mother assumed the victim role for the rest of her life, altho she did go out and get a job to support her two children. The author had trouble establishing relationships with men. She married once and divorced after 6 years or so. Then she slept with an old acquaintance for about 6 months and later on had an on-going relationship with a married man for 6 years. She and her...more
Tabitha Blankenbiller
The more I read other people’s work and critique my own, the more I am seeing that I need to trust my potential readers more. I don’t want to be an overblown author like Tolkein, taking twenty pages to describe a tree. For one thing I’ve never been able to get through a single one of his books. And in addition, such stilted description is all the more unnecessary in nonfiction writing. You’re writing about real life. The audience has likely seen and felt the same things that you’re describing. I...more
K M
This is one one of those books that really grew on me with each page. By the time I finished reading, I loved it. The author, Vivian Gornick, explores her "attachments" to various people throughout her life, with a recurring focus on her mother. Gornick comes up with some tremendously beautiful and insightful sentences and passages. I love how she describes the current status of her psychological relationship with her mother:

"A degree of distance has been permanently achieved. I glimpse the joy...more
Camille Cusumano
I’m a fierce admirer of Vivian Gornick’s writing. Her prose is shapely and radiant, to use her own words. Yet the labor that must go into that art is completely offstage. I find the meticulously clean space around each and every word on the pages of her books resounds with meaning, all of which the author skillfully, deliberately chooses to leave unsaid but not inaccessible. This modus operandi alone makes her a writer’s writer. Such use of understatement does not a mainstream readership capture...more
Deja
A memoir about Gornick's relationship with her mother. A good memoir. Haunting, well-developed characters. And she seems to capture well the intensity and complexity of their relationship. I liked the form, too: current stories of walking the streets of New York with her mother as an adult weaved with stories from her childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood. It's a book about her mother, yes, but it's also a book about NYC, the nature of grief and love, and how it feels to begin to make sens...more
Zenmoon
Feb 10, 2013 Zenmoon rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: All those drawn to superb memoir
Recommended to Zenmoon by: By way of University study

Vivien Gornick is a memoirist of dazzling skill. She is among those wonderful writers who, in writing about her own life, cause you to connect with the kaleidoscopic emotions of your own. She is what all good publishers of memoir are aching to find, the kind of writer I wish I source more of. Written before the memoir boom, this book is a seminal example of the genre, a book that readers of all persuasions will adore, and students of life writing will be personally and academically enriched by r...more
Hannah  Messler
Oh god, I want to write this book now--this book in its version of my mother, that is. I can't imagine that not being the response of anyone who'd read this--I want everyone with a mother to read this, and then see how it makes you want to write it, too. The mother-daughter relationship is just completely endlessly fascinating, it's got all the little kinks and knots and blind spots packed into it in such twisted, heartstopping, gasp-inducing, indignant tender grateful shocks . . . my sister and...more
Keleigh
Any writing carries the personal thumbprint of its author; but none more forthrightly and self-consciously than the memoir. From the first pages of Gornick’s work, I was aware that I was being sucked into one person’s filtered perspective of reality, and I gladly surrendered based on an immediate sense of trust. This trust was borne, I think, of her no-holds-barred, but nonetheless discerning tone. There was no shock value in her narrative. Rather, she holds a concentrated and rhythmic conversat...more
Rachel
At the end of Fierce Attachments I wanted to google image her. Why? Why was it so important to know what the feminist daydreamer who had let life pass her by looked like?
Also, who talks to their mother like that?
But this is pretty great:
"In the face of silence I talked rapidly and at overwhelming length to fill what I experienced as the void, exhausting myself and those who had brought down on me the punishing need to speak words, words, words.”
Kirsti
Brilliant, enraged, astonishingly self-absorbed artist reflects on her lousy childhood, her flawed mother, her inadequate lovers, and her wonderful city. Although the author seems to be a colossal jerk, and I would not want to have coffee with her, the book is very intelligent and powerful--especially when she discusses her next-door neighbor and the neighbor's son. I finished it in one sitting.
Elyssa
Vivian Gornick is a skillful writer, but this memoir never seemed to permeate me the way stronger memoirs do. I did enjoy reading about her experience of growing up in The Bronx as well as her marriage and relationships as an adult. I also Googled the author about halfway through the book and learned that she had fabricated a few parts of the memoir, which impacted the remainder of my reading experience.
Brandi
I suffered through this book to be honest. I thought the relationship between mother and daughter was ambivalent and hateful at the same time. That being said, I think the book was well written, but reminded me too much of my own relationship with my mother for me to enjoy it.
Jamie
I read this book one cold winter afternoon in front of a small wood stove. For that afternoon I was enthralled by Gornick's willingness to expose her life, the struggles she suffered from and the struggles she created and finally her ability to hold it all without struggle or separation.
Mindy

Gornick tackles her past with questions; one senses that, at the heart of her study of her relationship with her mother, are questions that feel absolutely important. This is no meandering through memories; it feels almost academic in its rigor. Gornick is such a smart lady, though, that it's absorbing and interesting, and I buy into the importance of her probing of her relationship with her mother. Great read.
Abby
Feb 28, 2012 Abby added it
What to do with this...the reading experience was nice, but I am a tad suspicious of the way she fits her life into a neat narrative arc. Enjoyable but probably not something I will return to.

Favorite BRILLIANT quote: "We cannot depend on change, but we can depend on surprise. However, we cannot depend on surprise either. This keeps us on our toes."
A.M. O'Malley
This story has kept me up late devouring it's lovely dissected and reassembled prose. Gornick truly is the mother of memoir. Read it if you've ever had a complicated relationship with your mother, battled with your creative life, had to balance love and work or had a romantic relationship fall down around you. Or, just read it. I vote for the latter.
Kristen
There's a lot I appreciated about this memoir -- Gornick's evocation of place, beautiful prose, insightful passages and the intertwined structure of the narrative. However, I found it difficult to connect with the narrator. I don't think it was a failure in the writing, just more of a personality conflict.
Alda
The writing is good, whereas the subject matter is not particularly interesting. The several insights concerning the author's life needed more connection and more work. The book comes out as incomplete and needlessly fragmentary.
Sivia Del
I loved the way Vivian Gornick moved from the present to the past, while giving the reader a look into her relationship with her mother. We're able to see how this relationship affected many of her other relationships throughout her life. While she and her mother walk arm and arm through the streets of Manhattan, we learn about the two women, their lives and their emotional bond with one another. I enjoyed it very much.
Jim Seitz
A strong memoir about women and relationships between mothers and daughters. I found Gornick's language and thinking compelling.
Jennifer Munro
This is a fine book, and I've seen it praised in many places, but it did not resonate with me personally. I most enjoyed the "present-day" scenes where she is taking walks around New York with her aging mother.
Maritess
Fantastic original book about someone with an ordinary NY/Bronx life. Great example of what masterful writing can accomplish.
AnnMarie
Someone told me to read this because it is "strange." It's not all that strange, but a cool memoir. Worth reading.
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Fierce Attachments: A Memoir (Paperback)
Fierce Attachments: A Memoir (Paperback)
Fierce Attachments (Hardcover)
Fierce Attachments: A Memoir (Hardcover)
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Date of Birth: 1935

Vivian Gornick is an American critic, essayist, and memoirist. For many years she wrote for the Village Voice. She currently teaches writing at The New School. For the 2007-2008 academic year, she will be a fellow at the Radcliffe Institute at Harvard University. She caused a controversy when she said that she had invented parts of Fierce Attachments, her largely autobiographica...more
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