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Who Asked You?

3.92  ·  Rating Details  ·  3,369 Ratings  ·  618 Reviews
Kaleidoscopic, fast-paced, and filled with McMillan’s inimitable humor, Who Asked You? opens as Trinetta leaves her two young sons with her mother, Betty Jean, and promptly disappears. BJ, a trademark McMillan heroine, already has her hands full dealing with her other adult children, two opinionated sisters, an ill husband, and her own postponed dreams—all while holding do ...more
Hardcover, 383 pages
Published September 17th 2013 by Penguin Publishing
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Atembe Fonge I think her husband wooed her with how amazing California would be once they moved there. Another thing is, when Arlene was narrating she mentioned…moreI think her husband wooed her with how amazing California would be once they moved there. Another thing is, when Arlene was narrating she mentioned how she and BJ had always butt heads and she suspected one reason for that. Arlene suspected that BJ probably blamed her for making BJ marry Lee David, and Arlene said it's not her fault they ended up living in the ghetto like they did. So maybe Arlene convinced her that he was a good catch, like Arlene convinced her that her hair looked better short when they were younger, haha. (less)

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Sep 20, 2013 Yasmin rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Hard core Terry McMillan Fans
Who Asked You? By Terry McMillan is a quick, easy, engaging and entertaining read. While true to McMillain’s style, giving us storylines with colorful, quirky characters, set against dysfunctional family lives, I felt like I had read this book before and knew how these characters would fare well before the book ended. It seemed as though everything and I do mean EVERYTHING, was thrown into this book. And, at times there was a little too much drama going on for me to appreciate the antics. It’s a ...more
Sep 20, 2013 Nakia rated it it was ok
Pains me to say that I wasn't feeling this. I expected so much more. Maybe I'm judging too harshly, but had this not been written by one of my favorite writers ever, I would have stopped and put it away around the second chapter. I kept going, hoping it would get better but... *sigh* Not as bad as "Getting to Happy" though, but definitely not as good as her first four novels.
Patrice Hoffman
Sep 12, 2013 Patrice Hoffman rated it it was amazing
Who Asked You? is the latest by Terry McMillan that is sure to be a fan favorite. It's actually my favorite book that I've read so far from the woman who has given the world classics such as Waiting to Exhale, How Stella Got Her Groove Back, and Mama. Who Asked You? is sure to get fans back who were less than thrilled with others such as Getting To Happy.

So... of course many may wonder who asked me my opinion on this book. I answer that it's what I do. It's what many people do. We offer unsolic
Jessica Goodman
Sep 25, 2013 Jessica Goodman rated it liked it
The book was a decent read. The book was funny. The characters were real and easy to connect to. There were a couple LOL and are you kidding me moments.

But there were a lot of things I did not like about "Who Asked You", which is odd for me when it comes to McMillan. The book was extremely predictable. I knew what was going to happen and how it was going to end before I got to the second part of the novel. The story was told from the perspective of at least ten characters and the only thing the
Dee's Reading nook
Sep 28, 2013 Dee's Reading nook rated it it was amazing
McMillan's "Who Asked You" was well worth the wait. The characters were so real and relatable. I laughed, cried and cursed at BJ's dysfunctional clan of misfits because well, hell's bell they all were so like most families-- indescribable but selfish most of the time too.

So if you ask me, I strongly recommend this read because it reads like her first four classics that have all outlasted the test of time.

Thanks Terry McMillan for sharing your vibrant way of writing which continues to exude str
Natalie aka: PajamaBookGirl
Apr 15, 2016 Natalie aka: PajamaBookGirl rated it it was amazing
A fiction book that reads as a true life book to me is a book that has pushed boundaries in writing. Who asked you? Does not in any way have you thinking it's fiction, it is as honest and as real as I am human. By god it's long, but it is not boring. Crammed to bursting capacity with every situation possible you may as well be watching a series drama on the TV.

We're following one family through their life and through life's troubles. We read passages from the main giver, Betty Jean Butler and h
Aug 10, 2013 LiteraryMarie rated it really liked it
Terry McMillan had me at the opening line: "It's my day off and I'm in the kitchen getting ready to fry some chicken." I immediately liked main character Betty Jean (BJ). She is the rock of a family with the world on her shoulders. Her youngest child, Trinetta's life is a continuous emergency. Trinetta disappears with boothang Dante leaving her two sons in BJ's care. Never mind that BJ is already taking care of her ill husband, working room service at a hotel, preparing for her son Dexter's paro ...more
Sep 20, 2013 KBev rated it really liked it
This novel starts out full of character, spunk and humor. Even though this novel is told from the point of view of many, Betty Jean is definitely the focal point. And she deserves it. Betty Jean (aka BJ) is mother to three grown children and a wife to a man, Lee David, with Alzheimer’s. She has two sisters who won’t mind their own business. She goes to work as a hotel maid during the day, while another woman, Nurse Kim, watches her husband at home. Her only daughter drops off her two children on ...more
Tracy Darity
Sep 14, 2013 Tracy Darity rated it really liked it
Recommended to Tracy by: McMillan fan
Who Asked You? by Terry McMillan, like all of her previous works, gives an accurate portrayal of issues that everyday people are experiencing EVERY DAY. The characters in this novel could be anyone that we know, heck, they could be us. The aging spouse with Alzheimer’s (it may have been Dementia, it seemed to have changed towards the end), the grandmother stuck raising her grand-kids, the child on drugs, the child in and out of jail, and much more. While facing all these unexpected problems ther ...more
Who Asked You? Well nobody did! But that doesn’t mean that everyone in Terry McMillan’s latest novel doesn’t have an opinion and has no qualms about sharing it. Even the two youngest members of the Butler family, Ricky and Luther are full of opinions and they are not above sharing them with everyone and anyone.

Ms. McMillan’s fans will appreciate her consistency in developing characters that are covered with blemishes yet they each possess beautiful hearts. There are family secrets (Betty Jean a
Jan 24, 2014 Peekaboo rated it it was amazing
Terry McMillan is back! I'm so glad since I'm a huge fan and thought "Getting to Happy" missed her mark a bit, though I still enjoyed it (Ms. McMillan read from it at the Free Library of Philadelphia shortly after its release and even wrote a personal "Happy Birthday" wish when she autographed my copy, even though she was only supposed to be doing the standard signing of her name, the line was crazy long on a week/work night, and it was getting late. She was really down to earth, showed nothing ...more
Apr 23, 2016 Barbara rated it really liked it
Betty Jean (BJ), an African American hotel employee, lives in a middle-class, mixed-race neighborhood in Los Angeles with her husband Lee David, who has Alzheimer's disease. As the book opens BJ's drug-addict daughter Trinetta drops off her two school-aged sons, Luther and Ricky, 'for a few days' while she 'applies for a job'. Trinetta then takes off for Atlanta with her new guy, leaving the kids behind.

BJ also has other things on her mind. Her oldest son Quentin, a wealthy chiropracter who's di
Denise Billings
Nov 13, 2014 Denise Billings rated it it was amazing
A quick and delightful read. A coming of age story of Betty Jean, a woman of a certain age. Engrossing. I was pulled right into the drama of this family. McMillan can write convincingly from every point of view. We get to live in the heads of people from all backgrounds and economic strata. From crack heads to college grads. Even someone swirling the drain of Alzheimer's Disease. We see the effects of changes in an old neighborhood on the people determined to stay and those who left, never to re ...more
Lisa Moulton
Sep 04, 2013 Lisa Moulton rated it really liked it
Very interesting read to say the least. I received this book as a complimentary copy from the publishing company prior to its release date and am sorry to say it has taken me a minute to complete reading it, but I must say I really enjoyed the story line. To me, it started off a little slow in the beginning but as I kept reading I discovered there is nothing like a grandma's love. Betty Jean stepped in and did a grand job and was always there for everybody. Truths, secrets, hurts, past pains all ...more
Dec 23, 2013 Natasha rated it really liked it
Shelves: audio
I thoroughly enjoyed listening to this book. I like how I felt like I was growing up with the characters especially the kids. There were some sad events, funny times and warm your heart moments with some family drama mixed throughout. Overall it was a feel good story and very relatable. Every family has their drama and issues but loving one another despite of is what counts. It was nice to hear about not only Betty Jean's family but her best friend Tammy's as well. And Tammy had her own messines ...more
Aug 26, 2013 Wendy rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2013, bea
This was an ARC from BEA. McMillan's dialogue and characterizations sparkle as always, but I didn't think the rotating points of view added much to the telling. I would have preferred the whole thing from one POV.
Aug 01, 2013 D.L. rated it liked it
I was looking forward to reading this book but didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. It wasn't terrible but it wasn't unforgettable.

I've not read a lot of Terry McMillan so perhaps I wasn't up on what to expect. I do remember that Getting to Happy (the last McMillan book I read) had multiple view points. Who Asked You had MANY POV's and to me, was overkill. It muddled the story to me and made it much less enjoyable to read.

Aside from that, Who Asked You reads like a real slice of Ameri
Ebony EyeCU Evans
Oct 04, 2013 Ebony EyeCU Evans rated it it was amazing
This was my VERY 1st Terry McMillan read and WHAT AN ENTERTAINING READ it was!

Following each character's point of view, life's journey and reflections... I immediately fell in love with her style of writing. I laughed, cried and cursed but in the end I found there was an insightful and satisfying lesson to be learned from each. With dysfunctional family trials, tribulations, drama, drugs, gossip, disappointment, racism and triumph ..... "Who Asked You" delivered a relatable storyline that "left
Krystal Barnes
Sep 10, 2013 Krystal Barnes rated it really liked it
I am so glad that Terry McMillan is back. When I first started reading this book it seemed like it was all over the place and so many characters to keep up with. However, I stuck with it and am very glad that I did. This book reads like a real life story. It explores some everyday issues that families are faced with. It shows how each issue that the characters faced affected them and their relationships with one another. Most importantly, it showed that regardless of what you are going through i ...more
Jun 02, 2014 Debby rated it really liked it
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Jan 06, 2016 Jamise rated it liked it
Shelves: 2013-reads
Who Asked You was definitely not one of my favorite Terry McMillian books. Terry is a master storyteller. She engages the reader and her characters are believable. However, this book lacked plot. It was your stereotypical (sometimes factual) day to day story of an African American family's struggle and life in the "ghetto". I was expecting a little more but it really wasn't anything stellar. I wavered between 3 to 3.5 stars.
Jun 26, 2016 Janeen rated it really liked it
When I started this book, I had a few ??? moments while reading it. Some of the character's plot lines & brutal honesty totally threw me off. BUT! McMillan's book gets narrated by different characters. By page 100, you're invested in everybody. You become a champion, friend and enemy of the characters. It's a good book. The book is about family, the good and the bad, and it's wonderfully done.
Dec 08, 2013 Alexa rated it it was ok
Shelves: ebook, adult
I wish Terry McMillan would get her groove back. There is some of a good story here, but it's bogged down in chunky dialogue and a little too much message. I will probably still read anything she writes but my favorite will always be Waiting to Exhale.
Dec 17, 2013 Nykol rated it it was amazing
Another great read from Mrs Terry. I enjoyed the story and loved the growth of each character. I sure hope there's a movie in the works
Feb 13, 2014 Annie rated it it was ok
A very predictable book in conversation, outcomes and worthiness.
Sep 28, 2013 Felisa rated it it was amazing
Ms McMillan has done it again.....Excellent Read I loved It
Jun 21, 2015 Melissa rated it really liked it
Shelves: currently-own
didn't want it to end
Nov 14, 2015 Mike rated it really liked it
I was prepared to chop this up as another Reality Show writing effort by McMillan. These are generally a bunch of slightly related characters chunked at the reader with little connection or central plot between them.

While this is 60% the case, McMillan does interweave the many storylines in a nice but loose braid.

The characters were very realistic. McMillan tends to intentionally date her books by major events and technology. This novel, spanning over about 10 years, uses these notches in rece
Cynthia Smith-hickenbottom
Jul 11, 2014 Cynthia Smith-hickenbottom rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Worthington Book Club Members
I read some of the reviews of this book and they were mixed. I figured I'd read it for myself since I've read just about all of Terry McMillan's books. This one is certainly better than most. My favorite to date is still "Waiting to Exhale". I even read the sequel "Getting to Happy" I would certainly recommend this book to "women of a certain age" I think we call can relate to Betty Jean and her friends/family. I found the fact that she wrote the book from all of the characters' perspectives, (i ...more
Black Carrie
Nov 02, 2015 Black Carrie rated it it was amazing
Loved this book I re-read it today because the last time I read it I was still nursing my son and trying to finish it up . . . this book was really good not going to lie . . . I really don't have a favorite character this book was like reading Mama all over again . . . This book was real and had real characters I hated Quentin's self hating ass each chapter he had made me want to throw up in my damn mouth. Terry Mcmillan did not hold anything back when writing this one.... Bj was a strong woman ...more
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Terry McMillan is an African-American author. Her interest in books comes from working at a library when she was fourteen. She received her BA in journalism in 1986 from the University of California at Berkeley and the MFA Film Program at Columbia University. Her work is characterized by strong female protagonists.

Her first book, Mama, was self-promoted. She achieved national attention in 1992 wit
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