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Who Asked You?

3.92 of 5 stars 3.92  ·  rating details  ·  2,371 ratings  ·  495 reviews
Family ties are tested and transformed in the new novel from #1 New York Times bestselling author of Waiting to Exhale and How Stella Got Her Groove Back

With her wise, wry, and poignant novels of families and friendships—Waiting to Exhale, Getting to Happy, and A Day Late and a Dollar Short among them—Terry McMillan has touched millions of readers. Now, in her eighth novel
Hardcover, 383 pages
Published September 17th 2013 by Penguin Publishing
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Atembe Fonge I think her husband wooed her with how amazing California would be once they moved there. Another thing is, when Arlene was narrating she mentioned…moreI think her husband wooed her with how amazing California would be once they moved there. Another thing is, when Arlene was narrating she mentioned how she and BJ had always butt heads and she suspected one reason for that. Arlene suspected that BJ probably blamed her for making BJ marry Lee David, and Arlene said it's not her fault they ended up living in the ghetto like they did. So maybe Arlene convinced her that he was a good catch, like Arlene convinced her that her hair looked better short when they were younger, haha. (less)

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Sep 20, 2013 Yasmin rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Hard core Terry McMillan Fans
Who Asked You? By Terry McMillan is a quick, easy, engaging and entertaining read. While true to McMillain’s style, giving us storylines with colorful, quirky characters, set against dysfunctional family lives, I felt like I had read this book before and knew how these characters would fare well before the book ended. It seemed as though everything and I do mean EVERYTHING, was thrown into this book. And, at times there was a little too much drama going on for me to appreciate the antics. It’s a ...more
Pains me to say that I wasn't feeling this. I expected so much more. Maybe I'm judging too harshly, but had this not been written by one of my favorite writers ever, I would have stopped and put it away around the second chapter. I kept going, hoping it would get better but... *sigh* Not as bad as "Getting to Happy" though, but definitely not as good as her first four novels.
Jessica Goodman
The book was a decent read. The book was funny. The characters were real and easy to connect to. There were a couple LOL and are you kidding me moments.

But there were a lot of things I did not like about "Who Asked You", which is odd for me when it comes to McMillan. The book was extremely predictable. I knew what was going to happen and how it was going to end before I got to the second part of the novel. The story was told from the perspective of at least ten characters and the only thing the
Patrice Hoffman
Who Asked You? is the latest by Terry McMillan that is sure to be a fan favorite. It's actually my favorite book that I've read so far from the woman who has given the world classics such as Waiting to Exhale, How Stella Got Her Groove Back, and Mama. Who Asked You? is sure to get fans back who were less than thrilled with others such as Getting To Happy.

So... of course many may wonder who asked me my opinion on this book. I answer that it's what I do. It's what many people do. We offer unsolic
Natalie aka: PajamaBookGirl
A fiction book that reads as a true life book to me is a book that has pushed boundaries in writing. Who asked you? Does not in any way have you thinking it's fiction, it is as honest and as real as I am human. By god it's long, but it is not boring. Crammed to bursting capacity with every situation possible you may as well be watching a series drama on the TV.

Who asked you? follows one family through their life and through life's troubles. We read passages from the main giver Betty Jean Butler
This novel starts out full of character, spunk and humor. Even though this novel is told from the point of view of many, Betty Jean is definitely the focal point. And she deserves it. Betty Jean (aka BJ) is mother to three grown children and a wife to a man, Lee David, with Alzheimer’s. She has two sisters who won’t mind their own business. She goes to work as a hotel maid during the day, while another woman, Nurse Kim, watches her husband at home. Her only daughter drops off her two children on ...more
Dee's Reading nook
McMillan's "Who Asked You" was well worth the wait. The characters were so real and relatable. I laughed, cried and cursed at BJ's dysfunctional clan of misfits because well, hell's bell they all were so like most families-- indescribable but selfish most of the time too.

So if you ask me, I strongly recommend this read because it reads like her first four classics that have all outlasted the test of time.

Thanks Terry McMillan for sharing your vibrant way of writing which continues to exude str
Who Asked You? Well nobody did! But that doesn’t mean that everyone in Terry McMillan’s latest novel doesn’t have an opinion and has no qualms about sharing it. Even the two youngest members of the Butler family, Ricky and Luther are full of opinions and they are not above sharing them with everyone and anyone.

Ms. McMillan’s fans will appreciate her consistency in developing characters that are covered with blemishes yet they each possess beautiful hearts. There are family secrets (Betty Jean a
Terry McMillan had me at the opening line: "It's my day off and I'm in the kitchen getting ready to fry some chicken." I immediately liked main character Betty Jean (BJ). She is the rock of a family with the world on her shoulders. Her youngest child, Trinetta's life is a continuous emergency. Trinetta disappears with boothang Dante leaving her two sons in BJ's care. Never mind that BJ is already taking care of her ill husband, working room service at a hotel, preparing for her son Dexter's paro ...more
Tracy Darity
Sep 14, 2013 Tracy Darity rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Tracy by: McMillan fan
Who Asked You? by Terry McMillan, like all of her previous works, gives an accurate portrayal of issues that everyday people are experiencing EVERY DAY. The characters in this novel could be anyone that we know, heck, they could be us. The aging spouse with Alzheimer’s (it may have been Dementia, it seemed to have changed towards the end), the grandmother stuck raising her grand-kids, the child on drugs, the child in and out of jail, and much more. While facing all these unexpected problems ther ...more
Terry McMillan is back! I'm so glad since I'm a huge fan and thought "Getting to Happy" missed her mark a bit, though I still enjoyed it (Ms. McMillan read from it at the Free Library of Philadelphia shortly after its release and even wrote a personal "Happy Birthday" wish when she autographed my copy, even though she was only supposed to be doing the standard signing of her name, the line was crazy long on a week/work night, and it was getting late. She was really down to earth, showed nothing ...more
Lisa Moulton
Very interesting read to say the least. I received this book as a complimentary copy from the publishing company prior to its release date and am sorry to say it has taken me a minute to complete reading it, but I must say I really enjoyed the story line. To me, it started off a little slow in the beginning but as I kept reading I discovered there is nothing like a grandma's love. Betty Jean stepped in and did a grand job and was always there for everybody. Truths, secrets, hurts, past pains all ...more
Aug 26, 2013 Wendy rated it 2 of 5 stars
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This was an ARC from BEA. McMillan's dialogue and characterizations sparkle as always, but I didn't think the rotating points of view added much to the telling. I would have preferred the whole thing from one POV.
I was looking forward to reading this book but didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. It wasn't terrible but it wasn't unforgettable.

I've not read a lot of Terry McMillan so perhaps I wasn't up on what to expect. I do remember that Getting to Happy (the last McMillan book I read) had multiple view points. Who Asked You had MANY POV's and to me, was overkill. It muddled the story to me and made it much less enjoyable to read.

Aside from that, Who Asked You reads like a real slice of Ameri
Denise Billings
A quick and delightful read. A coming of age story of Betty Jean, a woman of a certain age. Engrossing. I was pulled right into the drama of this family. McMillan can write convincingly from every point of view. We get to live in the heads of people from all backgrounds and economic strata. From crack heads to college grads. Even someone swirling the drain of Alzheimer's Disease. We see the effects of changes in an old neighborhood on the people determined to stay and those who left, never to re ...more
I thoroughly enjoyed listening to this book. I like how I felt like I was growing up with the characters especially the kids. There were some sad events, funny times and warm your heart moments with some family drama mixed throughout. Overall it was a feel good story and very relatable. Every family has their drama and issues but loving one another despite of is what counts. It was nice to hear about not only Betty Jean's family but her best friend Tammy's as well. And Tammy had her own messines ...more
Ebony EyeCU Evans
This was my VERY 1st Terry McMillan read and WHAT AN ENTERTAINING READ it was!

Following each character's point of view, life's journey and reflections... I immediately fell in love with her style of writing. I laughed, cried and cursed but in the end I found there was an insightful and satisfying lesson to be learned from each. With dysfunctional family trials, tribulations, drama, drugs, gossip, disappointment, racism and triumph ..... "Who Asked You" delivered a relatable storyline that "left
Krystal Barnes
I am so glad that Terry McMillan is back. When I first started reading this book it seemed like it was all over the place and so many characters to keep up with. However, I stuck with it and am very glad that I did. This book reads like a real life story. It explores some everyday issues that families are faced with. It shows how each issue that the characters faced affected them and their relationships with one another. Most importantly, it showed that regardless of what you are going through i ...more
I was prepared to chop this up as another Reality Show writing effort by McMillan. These are generally a bunch of slightly related characters chunked at the reader with little connection or central plot between them.

While this is 60% the case, McMillan does interweave the many storylines in a nice but loose braid.

The characters were very realistic. McMillan tends to intentionally date her books by major events and technology. This novel, spanning over about 10 years, uses these notches in rece
Who Asked You was definitely not one of my favorite Terry McMillian books. Terry is a master storyteller. She engages the reader and her characters are believable. However, this book lacked plot. It was your stereotypical (sometimes factual) day to day story of an African American family's struggle and life in the "ghetto". I was expecting a little more but it really wasn't anything stellar. I wavered between 3 to 3.5 stars.
I wish Terry McMillan would get her groove back. There is some of a good story here, but it's bogged down in chunky dialogue and a little too much message. I will probably still read anything she writes but my favorite will always be Waiting to Exhale.
Another great read from Mrs Terry. I enjoyed the story and loved the growth of each character. I sure hope there's a movie in the works
A very predictable book in conversation, outcomes and worthiness.
Ms McMillan has done it again.....Excellent Read I loved It
Cynthia Smith-hickenbottom
Jul 11, 2014 Cynthia Smith-hickenbottom rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Worthington Book Club Members
I read some of the reviews of this book and they were mixed. I figured I'd read it for myself since I've read just about all of Terry McMillan's books. This one is certainly better than most. My favorite to date is still "Waiting to Exhale". I even read the sequel "Getting to Happy" I would certainly recommend this book to "women of a certain age" I think we call can relate to Betty Jean and her friends/family. I found the fact that she wrote the book from all of the characters' perspectives, (i ...more
Who Asked You is primarily the story of Betty Jean. She is living in what she calls a "ghetto", working as a maid in a hotel, and trying to take care of her husband who is bed ridden with something like dementia. She has three adult children, one who feels he is too good for his community and has left, one who is addicted to drugs, and one who is in prison. Early in the story, her daughter with the drug addiction asks Betty Jean to watch her two sons for the day, and never comes back. Suddenly B ...more
This novel is written in many voices. Each one of the little chapters is a point of view. We hear a drug-addict mother who abandons her children; then we hear the children's grandmother who picks them up and take care of them even when she has to take care of her Alzheimer's husband. Then we hear the nurse that takes care of the old man... and what a nurse! Then we hear the kids, the neighbors, the school principal, the social security worker, the grandma's sisters and virtually every other char ...more
Erica Hearns
Terry McMillan’s Who Asked You? is set in a diverse neighborhood in Los Angeles. It revolves around the lives of Betty Jean Butler and her family. Betty Jean is dealing with things that are sadly prevalent problems for women her age: her husband’s Lee David’s Alzheimer’s; raising her two grandsons, Ricky and Luther, as her daughter Trinetta attempts to “get herself together”; two nosy sisters, Arlene and Venetia, with their own set of problems as well as judgments; a son, Dexter, who is in and o ...more
You may recognize Terry McMillan as the author who has written several novels that have been turned into movies. We all laughed and cried while watching “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” and “Waiting to Exhale.” Her new novel “Who Asked You?” will again have your emotions running the gambit.

This is a fiction with heart. The circle of friends and family is both supportive and highly dysfunctional at the same time and I'm pretty sure we all know a family, or are a family, that resembles the one in
Who Asked You? follows a number of members of the family of Betty Jean Butler, an African-American woman in her late 50s living in a not-s0-great (but racially diverse) neighborhood in LA. When the book opens, Betty Jean’s life is very stressful. Her husband is deteriorating with Alzheimer’s Disease, living at home with her and being cared for during the day by a nurse. Betty Jean works for a hotel, delivering room service. Her daughter is a drug addict who has just dropped off her two elementar ...more
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Terry McMillan is an African-American author. Her interest in books comes from working at a library when she was sixteen. She received her BA in journalism in 1986 from the University of California at Berkeley. Her work is characterized by strong female protagonists.

Her first book, Mama, was self-promoted. She achieved national attention in 1992 with her third novel, Waiting to Exhale, which remai
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