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Love Italian Style: The Secrets of My Hot and Happy Marriage

2.66  ·  Rating Details  ·  219 Ratings  ·  46 Reviews
What you see is what you get with Melissa Gorga.On Real Housewives of New Jersey, viewers loveher personaas abeautiful, ambitious woman who has a successful career but also puts family first. In fact, her stable yet sexy marriage toloveable Joeis a welcome antidote to the constant fighting and backbitingon the show.Despite the pressure of life in the spotlight, she makes m ...more
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Published September 17th 2013 by St. Martin's Press
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Hey everybody! Want to know Melissa Gorga's big secret to her ‘Italian style’ happy marriage? Well basically it’s pretty much having a 1950s June Cleaver attitude and indulging in a lot of sex.

I know right? I would have never thought of that. What amazing insight! There’s a nice patronizing tone too which adds that ‘just right’ touch.

But seriously folks, this is a colossally silly book. It reminded me of this video I saw on Youtube.

I have to admit thoug
Sep 29, 2013 Sarah rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition

(This review is guided towards women in a relationship but I am fully aware that this also applies to MEN in the same circumstance. :) )

I am in Australia... so Melissa Gorga has about as much star power on me as a black hole. I am not reading this from a position of 'admire that celebrity so I'll read her book!' but rather as a genuine reader approaching this woman and her 'media voice' for the first time.

The issue I have with this kind of attitude that's been showing up in popular culture - tha
Oct 08, 2013 Kat rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
People are taking this book too seriously! It's their marriage, their life. I do love how they look at each other and I love their chemistry on TV. This works for them and more power to them. She stated herself , her fans ask her what's her secret and so here it is. If you are looking for advice on your marriage see a marriage counselor. I loved reading her book, (didn't agree on some stuff) but it's HER marriage. It felt like I had the Gorgas with me and chatting up a storm. People need to rela ...more
Sep 24, 2013 Ben rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book promotes marital rape.
Samantha Lafrance
I thoroughly enjoyed it and I am so sad that people are giving it such bad reviews. She stayed multiple places that this is her marriage that works, this is how she does it. I read her opinion and I can agree on 90% if it; it is very similar to how I treat my hubby. But I do disagree on a few things. Her husband hired someone to change a lightbulb? But that's ok they have money I don't. Her man don't help with one single thing in the house? Forget it. I would call that lazy, but again that is he ...more
Nov 18, 2013 Pamela rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Asqueroso. Lo unico que hace este libro es promocionar el abuso marital. Mujeres entiendanlo ya, no es nuestro deber de vida ser las sirvientas de los hombres, en una relacion se trabaja juntos y es un mutuo respeto, que esta mujer salga al mundo diciendo que las mujeres no pueden defecar mientras el hombre esta en la casa porque destruye la fantasia que ellos tienen de nosotros es ridiculo y triste porque me imagino la vida que tiene lejos de camaras. Esto es abuso, nada mas y deberia de ser qu ...more
Feb 22, 2014 Belinda rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Love Italian style: The Secrets of my Hot and Happy Marriage is not just a bad book – it’s a terrible book. It’s really, truly dreadful, but not in a car crash kind of way – in an awful “Should we call the police?" kind of way. Let me explain what I mean.

As I may have mentioned before, I love reading celebrity novels, memoirs, cookbooks – any longform literary printing. Slap a celebrity name on the cover somewhere and I am there, credit card ready. Love Italian style is from Real Housewives of N
Oct 07, 2013 Ann rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book offers no noteworthy advice (not that I really expected any)...all I came away with is to be totally subservient to your man. I watch RHONJ and thought of Melissa as a fairly strong character....this book is totally on the contrary. She encourages being subservient, channeling everything you do to only please your man, allowing your man total dominance over you,allowing your man to control nearly all aspects of your life/marriage etc. While I acknowledge that this type of relationship ...more
Kristina Hoerner
Why do I read these books by reality stars? They are all horrible. I don't know why they think popularity on TV means they need to share their opinions on life with everyone else. Of course, I read their book so I'm no better. In this book, Housewives of New Jersey star Melissa Gorga tells us all how to have a hot marriage. She does have some good points about not keeping score and always asking what have you done for me lately. The biggest thing revealed in the book is her old fashioned attitud ...more
Angela Ocello monasseri
The bottom line is this girl isn't a likable person. Her timelines are all over the place which confuses you as a reader and her philosophy of marriage is so juvenile. Basically ,if you rock your husbands world in the bedroom and act like he is your dominator , be his servant then you'll have a perfect marriage like her! Sounds to me that this was a platform to talk about how women don't like her because they are all jealous and she adores her husband because he can keep buying her things. BTW t ...more
Sep 18, 2013 L_MOM rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This is NOT the first reality star book I've read ... But by far the worst book I have ever read in my life! It's beyond stupid that these stupid reality stars are getting their books published. This one didn't even make sense because her writing was atrocious! I wouldn't normally write a review on these types a books but I'm doing others the favor by not spending the money and please don't waist your time!
Jan 12, 2014 Tenise rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Trigger Warning: Marital rape

I read this book because after hearing the premise I was curious. I honestly would have been better off resisting said curiosity.

First things first. YES this book DOES advocate marital rape. It is on page 223 in the hardback first edition, and Joe Gorga is the one who is advocating it. Everything in me as a safer sex educator, a woman, etc recoiled instantly when I read his words. Since Melissa Gorga didn't dispute them? I am going to assume that silence equals cons
Jan 30, 2014 Trish rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Not worth your time. The only positive thing that I took from it is to keep my marriage a priority. Do the things as a married couple, you would do when you were dating. Other than that, it was an opportunity for her to toot her own horn. I also got the sense that she is very insecure in her marriage. She's fearful of not doing the right thing, at the right moment. She's walking on eggshells around her husband. Do all the right things to keep him from losing his temper. I sensed a lot of fear in ...more
Treat it like a fluffy reality star memoir and it will actually be painless to read.

If you seriously take this as the marriage bible? LOL SHAME ON YOU.
Sep 18, 2013 Lynn rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Full of lies and hate. You should probably be married longer then 10 years to give solid advice. Refund? I want my time back.
Bobbi Dust
Mar 28, 2014 Bobbi Dust rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
When I first started reading this book, I have to admit that some of the things written made my jaw drop. I could hear myself saying “I’m not that type of woman” and “My husband is not a king”. However, as I continued to read, I realized that Melissa is right on point with her words. Marriage is hard work, period. What Melissa and Joe have is amazing and the “blueprint” she provides in this book is equally amazing. It’s okay to be a strong, independent woman as long as you never let your man for ...more
Laurie Buchanan
Sep 29, 2013 Laurie Buchanan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It was a fun quick read.
Apr 16, 2014 Jessica rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
I would like to start by saying that this book does NOT promote marital rape. There was no point where Melissa said that women MUST have sex even when they don't want to, on the contrary, she says numerous times that if a marriage is unsafe or abusive the marriage should end. However, she does acknowledge that sex is important in a healthy marriage. But this being said, I don't think that sex is just intercourse, sex is also the open communication of thoughts and feelings, cuddling and non-sexua ...more
April Lee
Full disclosure: I don't watch Real Housewives so this is basically my full exposure to her.

As has been well documented by many critics, her book is full of sexism and even promotes marital rape. (Http:// The criticisms are obvious. It doesn't take much. But I found myself surprisingly liking it, aside from the "whoa, oh no" parts. It's clear he is controlling and she is... Has accepted it. But I think it's hard not to like her. She's so sweet and makes everything so posit
I feel compelled to give this book my honest opinion, and yes I did read all of it!

I don't think it;s fair for people to write negative things when they haven't read the book, only other people's reviews of the 'disappointing' points of view.

So here are my thoughts:

1. I feel so bad that Gorga's editor obviously was not allowed to their job. I found the content of the book constantly repeating with the same phrases, and that as I further progressed, I wasn't learning or reading anything new.

I was given this book as a joke. And I can't believe I actually read it. It was ... Entertaining. Basically it's what you would expect from this book....not a real advice book, but funny and full of Housewives type commentary.
Jan 01, 2015 Meg rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love Melissa she is a really cool person. I thought her book was really good and i highly recommend this book to people she wrote this really well. Go out and get your copy of this book. You won't be sorry.
Nicole Bilbao
A light read, not well written. She has the courage to say that some of the "old school " ideas of marriage still hold true today.
Oct 05, 2013 Nadia rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I'm currently going through a phase where I like reading complete nonsense books I can read in one sitting as a way to procrastinate/ get out of doing something else. I read this book to get out of grading papers.

This book was awful. She takes a nice concept--respect and loyalty in marriage and then turns it into a book about how her husband expects things to be a certain way and how she's learned to get over herself so things are the way he likes them. While there are times to check your ego an
Oct 14, 2013 Jessyka rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
So far this book is annoying me. I decided to give it a chance 'cause I see her marriage on RHONJ and I want to one day have a happy loving marriage. Since I am currently separated from an Italian I decided to read it. So far it has been her gushing about her life. Then goes into her hair/makeup routine. As I glanced thru I saw a lot of stuff normal people can't have/do as their income doesn't allow it. It seems doing everything just to please your husband is what she thinks is right. I'd rather ...more
Tracy Robles
Apr 22, 2014 Tracy Robles rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Love this book and love her she tells the truth
Jun 16, 2014 Lauren rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ehh...its ok...if that's what works for her so be it...
Nov 08, 2013 Sallee rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: advice
I picked up this book at my library's new releases shelf because I had heard about it on the Real Housewives of New Jersey TV show. Yes, I will admit it...I am a fan of all of them. While I don't make a point of turning them on on purpose, if I see them, I will watch. It I was surprised to see that there was some very good advice in the book. It was a quick read and I was I was curious.
Oct 02, 2013 Amanda rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
After reading this book I gave myself a new reason to dislike Melissa. Her marriage is disturbing, after reading this I'd never want to marry an Italian guy. Bow down to my man? Yeah okay! Things should be equal in a marriage. But hey whatever works for her. Just don't make it see like we all have to do it. What got me is Joe wouldn't even clean up spilled milk. Sorry giving this a lo rating.
Nov 26, 2013 Molly rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I enjoyed this and thought that it was a fun read. Regardless of what you may or may not know about Melissa Gorga, I enjoyed reading how one real life woman met her husband and maintains her marriage. The book was divided up nicely. I would recommend this book for young, married women. I would consider reading another book by Melissa Gorga.
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