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Written in a nontechnical style, this book brings to light grim truths but also real hope that children who have been hurt can be healed and brough... read full description

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Mar 28, 2009
Maggie rated it: 3 of 5 stars
Started but didn't read cover to cover. I skimmed the book to find the parts I wanted in working with families. However, what I did read (and other stuff I've read by him) leads me to believe that I have to pick and choose what I like and don't like about this style of techniques. This book has some clearly good information and then there are some things that are not my style. In all, I would recommend this book for parents or professionals who will 'carefully' piece apart the parts of this More...
Aug 28, 2010
Ellyn rated it: 5 of 5 stars
I read this book because I have recently added some adopted children and their families to my caseload at work, and I wanted to better understand the issues that they are encountering. It provides an excellent overview of the challenges faced by families who adopt older children or children who have experienced trauma. So many of these children have been "in the system" for many years, bouncing back and forth between their biological families and various foster homes, and the authors More...
May 09, 2011
Jenni rated it: 5 of 5 stars
I had listened to these authors being interviewed on a BlogTalk Radio program a few weeks ago, and was very interested in reading this book. They gave a very thorough (yet understandable) description of how parenting a "hurt child" differs from parenting a "normal" child.

They used real-life examples based on case studies of their patients to help people like me see what works and what doesn't work when it comes to adopting (and parenting) a hurt child.
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Aug 21, 2011
Craig rated it: 4 of 5 stars
This is a good even handed assessment and preparation for adoption in today's adoption context. This book will open the eyes of the blind and remove those rose covered glasses that too many to-be adoptive parents have. This book was honest but hopeful, hard yet encouraging.
Oct 22, 2008
Cindy rated it: 5 of 5 stars
This book is a great overview of some of the common issues facing children and families involved in the adoption of hurt children. I appreciate it's frankness yet sensitivity with abuse issues.

This book helped me to better understand how abuse affects lives and relationships. I find myself revaluating events and attitudes affecting my own life as a youth and an adult. I wasn't expecting that.

I would recommend this book to anyone planning to adopt, especialy through More...
Aug 11, 2011
Christine rated it: 4 of 5 stars
A go-to book for parenting our foster child, whom we hope to adopt. Fingers crossed!
Sep 07, 2010
Laura rated it: 5 of 5 stars
A must read for anyone who has or plans to adopt!!
Feb 12, 2009
Shannan rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Another great book about adoption and attachment.
Jun 05, 2009
Karen rated it: 5 of 5 stars
Recommend it for anyone interested in adoption...especially older children, but really could be helpful for any adoption. Also appropriate for those working with "hurt" kids
Nov 10, 2008
Paul rated it: 3 of 5 stars
I've read many books on adoption. This is probably the best I've read in terms of addressing the unique needs of the child adopted at an older age.
Jul 20, 2010
Kristi rated it: 5 of 5 stars
This book was recommended for me to read to help us with our adopted children. It is full of wonderful information...
May 31, 2010
Krista rated it: 5 of 5 stars
A MUST READ for any one adopting through the foster care system in the US or older children international.
Oct 22, 2011
Cassie rated it: 3 of 5 stars
This had some neat techniques for helping kids adjust.
Aug 27, 2009
Dave rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Good God what have we done.
Feb 12, 2012
J rated it: 5 of 5 stars
Feb 07, 2012
Kelley marked it as to-read
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Jan 22, 2012
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Jan 16, 2012
ASA rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Jan 14, 2012
Mary rated it: 5 of 5 stars
Jan 08, 2012
Rlboston rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Jan 02, 2012
Sharon rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Dec 07, 2011
Jennifer rated it: 5 of 5 stars
Nov 26, 2011
Willa rated it: 4 of 5 stars
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Sep 30, 2011
Jeff rated it: 3 of 5 stars
Sep 06, 2011
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