When a child is adopted, he or she can arrive with hurts from past pain. With time, patience, informed parenting, and appropriate therapy, your ado...
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May 03, 2010
Lisa
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As an adoptive parent, I found this book to be an outstanding and extremely empathetic look at the struggles faced by adoptive parents and their children. The authors did an excellent job providing suggestions for things you can do to help your child, while also providing lots of suggestions and encouragement for parents. It's easy to read and filled with great ideas.
While many similar books focus on how parents can help their children form attachments, heal from past trauma, etc., More...
While many similar books focus on how parents can help their children form attachments, heal from past trauma, etc., More...
Sep 02, 2009
Tim
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In my work as a psychologist for the St. Louis Family court I run across a lot of youths with Reactive Attachment Disorder, from abuse and neglect of a variety of types in their formative years. As a result thse children are very damaged in their ability to form and sustain adaptive relationships, and the task of the adoptive family is to, as best they can, reconstruct (or construct for the first time) more growth-oriented relationship. A daunting task with a very difficult population of "h
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Jan 06, 2009
Blondie
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I was directed to this book by our counselor and was so thankful to have read it.
It really spoke to the issues we have been going through with our daughter, who is adopted from China.
This is a great read to examine your approaches and responses, and help give an understanding into your child's complex and deeply ingrained fears and struggles.
Highly recommend this to the adoptive parent working on bonding or attachment concerns.
It really spoke to the issues we have been going through with our daughter, who is adopted from China.
This is a great read to examine your approaches and responses, and help give an understanding into your child's complex and deeply ingrained fears and struggles.
Highly recommend this to the adoptive parent working on bonding or attachment concerns.
Jun 26, 2011
Meg
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Although I liked some of what the authors say in this book in terms of spending quality time with children, I can also see how their attitude toward control over the child leads to a lack of respect for children and a failure to listen to their needs. Not my favorite book, but I can see coming to it as a last resort for extremely behaviorally challenged kids.
May 08, 2009
Alexis
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This book highlights the internal life of kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder. I had to read it for my internship last year and now I have a kid on my caseload who's definitely Reactive Attachment and I'm going to send this book to his foster parents. Good stuff.
Dec 21, 2010
Renee
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Very informative book on how to parent children who have suffered trauma before they were adopted. It definitely helps in my understanding of the adolescents I work with.
Mar 19, 2009
Karen
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Excellent book for any foster or adoptive parent as well as anyone who works with hurting children.
Oct 01, 2008
Shannan
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Awesome parenting tips for my family and lots for anyone's family. They give pages of real and easy ideas on how to increase love and trust between you and your children and between siblings. There are fun ideas like becoming sticker sisters (you both wear a matching sticker all day but it's your little secret) or hiding chocolate kisses around the house for when they come home from school but before they can eat them they have to hug and kiss you OR each other for each one they want to eat.
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Apr 05, 2010
Kellie
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If you are even THINKING about doing Foster Care or adopting, read this book first- and believe it!
Feb 19, 2009
Ebrindam
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gave lots of great tips for helping kids with attachment issues bond with their new parents
Sep 27, 2011
Heidi
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There were some good ideas in this book, but also quite a few that I really disagreed with.
Aug 06, 2008
Sally
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This was a great book with well illustrated examples on parenting a child who has suffered neglect and abuse. I would recommend for any person or couple interested in learning more about providing foster care or adopting (domestically or internationally).
Mar 12, 2010
Jenn
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An important book for everyone involved in child welfare, adoption, fostering and on and on. This book gave me (a volunteer) great ideas on how to help children who have suffered loss without "pretending to be a psychologist".
Aug 23, 2008
It is a very helpful book, I learned alot of what to except when Zachary gets here. On how to parent him different than what I do with my own children and why the things I use with my kids may not work with him.
Jan 14, 2008
Heather
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Keck does a great job explaining why traumatized kids act the way they do. This was the book that really shifted my thinking from RAD as a disease, to the idea of complex developmental trauma.
Nov 22, 2010
Laura
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I am learning so much about the 3 children we are adopting!! A must read for anyone who has or plans to adopt!!
Aug 09, 2008
Ingrid
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This is a good overview of what to look for and how to tackle attachment disorders in adopted children.
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