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The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope

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Something Has to Change…

You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit.

For any woman caught in an emotional
Paperback, 240 pages
Published September 17th 2013 by WaterBrook Press
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Christie Hagerman
Having grown up in a Christian family, part of a strong community of believers, I've heard and even given my share of marriage advice based on the Bible. Looking back, I see that some of it wasn't healthy or even biblical, but based more on a spiritual list of what we'd imagined a Godly wife to be. The problem with that list was it prioritized an ideal more than realism, and many women suffered needlessly, thinking it was "for the cause of Christ".

This book put into words many of the thoughts th
Annie Slagboom
Whether have a wonderful or tumultuous marriage you should read, "The Emotionally Destructive Marriage” by Leslie Vernick. The book gives Biblical and sound advice. The book breaks the barriers of shame and silence by giving tools for women to discern whether or not they are in a destructive marriage. The author is gracious and compassionate to both husband and wife. There are quizzes to assess yourself and your marriage. Her four core strengths to maintain good mental, emotional, spiritual, and ...more
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I love listening to books in audio format and was thrilled to discover that the author of this book was the narrator... I feel like its more personal when the actual author of the book is the one reading it to you.. In this case I do not feel like Leslie Vernick was the best to read the story.. At times it was hard to keep up with her because she reads really fast.. I found myself having to repeat a few sections just to get the words in..

When I first saw this book I was t
Strong medicine for a very serious problem. Christians who have never experienced abuse might look with skepticism at this title. Sadly, it is only through seeing real world examples of this phenomena that I regard this subject matter as important and timely. This book is aimed at Christians, who might possibly be the prone to diminish the seriousness, or dismiss the harmful effects, of abuse in marriage. They might be genuinely trying to honor the sanctity of marriage with this stance but I pra ...more
This is an excellent book and I highly recommend it. I would like to read her other book, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It. Contains practical steps to take to stand up against being emotionally abused in a marriage and offers hope and advice in deciding whether or not your spouse is sincere in making changes. This is an area that I have come in contact with way too many times in my lifetime and I feel the church has done a poor job of recognizing, s ...more
Suzanne Anderson
A Christian perspective on difficult marriages. Outlines the difference between a disappointing and a destructive marriage. Really addresses in a concrete way the grey areas of abuse in a marriage as well as the overt. The grey area she calls "indifference". She provides a broader definition of love which does not have to do with sacrificing oneself for another to the point of pain or losing oneself but describes the responsibility of loving in a way that invites our partner to be their best sel ...more
Vernick's book is eye opening and life saving! This book is paradigm-shifting in regards to all the other marriage books out there that I'd read. Hear this counselors: There is a difference between a D+ marriage and an Emotionally Destructive marriage. It is vital that you know the difference. This should completely affect how you diagnose and counsel others.
This book is so helpful to understand what a destructive marriage looks like from the inside out and how to help those that are in a destructive marriage. This is defiantly a book I will keep for work and I'm sure I will be using it often. Thank you Ms Leslie for writing it, showing such love and compassion for these women and families.
This should be on the shelf of anyone ministering to God's Flock. Well-written with a good plan of action included.
Diana Kramer
I recommend this book because it validates what you may be feeling emotionally and what your body has been telling you physically is and is not ok for you. It gives you advice on how to stay strong whatever your choice is. Either way, God is with you, and supports you, the person He made the way He wanted you to be, so no one should insult that or try and change that.
Good Insight for those struggling with the damaged Emotions in a marriage. Leslie helps you get healthy, develop boundaries, decide what is best ofr you and whether your marriage can be redeemed. For my full review go here. http://myseasonsofopportunities.blogs...
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“Jesus commands us to love God first, with everything we have, not only because God deserves our love and is worthy of it, but because he knows how crucial it is to our long-term well-being. God knows that whatever we love the most will rule our lives. That’s why the Bible counsels us to let the love of Christ control us (see 2 Corinthians 5:14), not the love of lesser things.” 2 likes
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