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Adoption Is a Family Affair!: What Relatives and Friends Must Know Revised Edition

3.45 of 5 stars 3.45  ·  rating details  ·  55 ratings  ·  12 reviews
This book is packed with everything you need to know if a friend or family member is going to adopt or has adopted a child. Answering questions on how adoption works, how kids understand adoption as they grow up, what your role will be, and more, it will help to encourage informed, happy and healthy family relationships.
ebook, 155 pages
Published April 15th 2012 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers (first published March 31st 2001)
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Kelley Cathcart
May 03, 2008 Kelley Cathcart rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Any one adopting
Recommended to Kelley by: Bethany Christian Services
This book was written with the tone that parents,and other relatives of the person adopting should "Get with the program" and while I'm certain that many people need such encouragement, my family didn't. I suggested this book to people before I'd read it, and when I read it I was shocked by the tone used. My mom was really upset because she and all of my family have been really supportive of our decision to adopt. Even my in-laws who aren't always that savvy on things that aren't mainstream, are ...more
Laura Robey
Both of our agencies had this book as required reading. It is an easy and almost enjoyable read because the author speaks very informally. The weird part is that the book seems to be written to give to parents of a couple adopting a child especially an infant domestically. Specifically is seems to be written to those parents who are hesitant of their children pursuing an adoption. Honestly, the information is good but if that is the suggested audience isn't going to read that book. Helpful infor ...more
Purchased this book to give to my in-laws as we pursue an open domestic adoption. Unfortunately they wouldn't read it! I don't know why. So I ended up reading it myself and summarizing it for them. I'm glad I read it. It was very useful and definitely clarified some things for me.

I've read many books on adoption, but most of them have been from the perspective of an adoptive parent. These books are focused on how to build healthy attachment, how to talk adoption with your children, how to talk a
This book about adoption is directed towards the extended adoptive family - the adoptive grandparents, aunts and uncles. The format is very readable - usually a short chapter on a topic, following by several ways to get more information (i.e. books and websites). The first section of the book attempts to talk about some common grandparent reactions to adoption, including "what not to say" when your adult children announce their decision to adopt. Then, the book goes into several chapters of desc ...more
I had mixed feelings about this book. It is the only adoption book that I have found that is specifically geared toward extended family members and friends, to help them understand adoption. Multiple people have recommended this book as a resource, including friends who are adoptive parents, our adoption agency, and various online publications.

While the book does provide many great, straightforward answers to frequently asked questions by family and friends, I found some of the language and ter
I saw this title on a list of suggested books given to me by our agency, and so I requested it as an inter-library loan from our local branch. When I went to pick it up, I has a photo on the front of the most white, WASP-y, blonde family you can imagine! So right away my expectations were lowered.

This book is written for friends and relatives of a family in the adoption process. If you have people in your life who are questioning your decision or struggling to accept your choice, th
This book is a pretty decent resource for the families of adoptive parents. I especially enjoyed seeing the author point out how insensitive it is to say, "I bet now that you are adopting, you will get pregnant." I have heard that at least 20 times since my husband and I decided to adopt, and it grates on me.

I was thinking about buying a couple copies for our families. The one thing that bothered me is that it suggests in different ways that the families do things to financially help the adoptiv
Karen C
One of the only books of its kind, but not exactly what I wanted it to be.
The idea is for people who are adopting to give it to their family and friends, but it tends to talk down to those same family and friends.
Also, a pet peeve, but I can't stand how she used the word "adopter" - the same term thrown around by the anti-adoption crowd, who use in a decidely negative way.

Aside from that, in light of the fact that there aren't really any other books that act as a primer for relatives of adoptive
The tone did seem a little authoritarian, but it is great info for those who haven't gone through the adoption process to understand what the adoption process and infertility is like. It helps explain why certain comments are hurtful- instead of family members thinking I'm "being too sensitive," they now have an understanding of why we prefer certain comments not be made.
Cynthia Tam
So glad one of my adoption group buddies referred this book to me. I bought copies for EVERYONE in the family (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.)

Most people don't know what they think they know about adoption and how they can be of support. What's okay to talk about what's none of their business.

This book helps with ALL of that!
This was a good overview of the process of adoption as well as how to adjust and/or reply to other people's reactions and comments. It was really great, I just wished it was a little longer!
This book would prolly help primarily grandparents of the new adoptee. but is applicable to any family member who is going through this option.
Jan 15, 2008 Cathy rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Cathy by: My sister
Great book for anyone with an adopted family member.
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