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Rules of the Game

3.46  ·  Rating Details ·  1,604 Ratings  ·  54 Reviews
If you want to play the Game, you've got to know the Rules.

In his international bestseller The Game, Neil Strauss delved into the secret world of pick-up artists--men who have created a science out of the art of seduction. Not only did he reveal the techniques that they had developed, but he became a master of The Game, and the world's No. 1 PUA, as Style.

Now, in his first
Hardcover, 352 pages
Published December 18th 2007 by It Books
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Max Jackson
Jun 01, 2013 Max Jackson rated it it was ok
There’s a class of self-help books for men, books with bold titles like “ROAR OF THE MAN-WARRIOR” and “THE SEX GOD WITHIN” that promise explosive increases in sex/money/power/general satisfaction of desire for any man with stones enough to take the plunge. This book is one of them. It was literally thrown at me by my helpful roommate one dark day when my romantic despair was so intense it was almost bending the light around my head.

I’d heard tell of the book before, of PickUp Artist-ry and its
Jul 30, 2011 Eva rated it liked it
Some notes:

One exercise: call a wrong number and get the person who answers to recommend a movie. "The point isn't just to talk with strangers. It's to learn how to change the course of an interaction without making the other person uncomfortable." - p29

"'Rejection' is another word that has been misused and misrepresented. The dictionary definition of 'reject" is 'to refuse to accept.' So if you offer someone a stick of gum, and she says 'No thanks,' you've been rejected. Do you feel an emotiona
Marie Bisgaard
I think the book had some good points and was an enjoyable read. A person who follows the rules will definitely improve his (or even hers) social skills. I however doubt that it is possible to achieve all the goals in one month. The book also doesn't really offer any magical key for scoring that you wouldn't find in other self-help-ish books. Or maybe that's just how I see it - nobody have tried all of these "tricks" on me, so perhaps I'm wrong.
Nov 07, 2016 Saeed rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
در حقیقت کتاب سه فصل داره که به ترتیب زیر هستند

1-The stylelife challenge
2-The routines collection
3-The style dairies

من کلاً سبک داستان نویسی نیل استراس (نویسنده ی کتاب) رو دوست ندارم برای همین از کتاب
The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
اصلاً خوشم نیومد
به نظرم اون کتاب خ چرت بود
ولی قضیه ی دو فصل اول این کتاب فرق میکنه
نیل استراس استاد افسونگری است و ماهرانه و صد در صد تضمینی کمک میکنه که شما به مخ زنی بپردازید

اگه قرار باشه امتیاز بدم به فصل اول کتاب چهار ستاره میدم ب
Apr 02, 2009 Ronnie rated it really liked it
Just when you thought all the PUA stories were told, Neil cranks out another soon to be bestseller. A fascinating sequel to Strauss's groundbreaking pick up artist classic with a twist. The void of male social dynamics and pick up advice with substance is masterfully filled with the entry of Rules of the Game. His techniques are compelling, and his tales are infectious page turners.

This slickly packaged title is a two volume set. Its focus begins with establishing your identity, expectations an
Jay Tate
Dec 12, 2014 Jay Tate rated it really liked it
I read this as a self-help book, not just as a treatise on picking up girls. (I'm already married, and before that I never found meeting nice women difficult.)

there are plenty of people who judge their lives by their sexual performance, and they are probably the target for this book. But, meeting girls is a lot like meeting friends, finding a job, buying a car, and winning at poker. So, the lessons of the book can be applied more widely than with the ladies.

I have recommended this to men and to
Jan 08, 2008 Douglas rated it really liked it
Shelves: relationships
This book creates a 30 day 'bootcamp' to help train any man to improve his 'game' Each day, the book provides exercises and learning outcomes to help each man build out his repertoire and confidence when talking and approaching women.

I have read a number of books about picking up chicks to hone my game. The top three are the mystery method, How to be successful with women, and this book.

If you want to start dating better women, get those three books. I promise you a more exciting and rewarding
Jeff Yoak
I didn't read much of this one at all. Unlike Strauss's earlier book, this one is a workbook and is hard to read without doing. That's the point, of course, and is no criticism. It just didn't serve my purposes as I didn't intend to do the project, but was just interested in the book after the previous one.
May 07, 2010 Doofenshmirtz rated it did not like it
Shelves: nonfiction
Maybe it's me, but what the hell is the point of this book? It reads like part-memoir part-porn with a subtle moral attached in the end. Based on the average rating of this book, perhaps only people who are in the loop will get it. I just don't.
Alex Gregory
Dec 06, 2013 Alex Gregory rated it it was ok
The softball sequel to "The Game", "Rules of the Game" has little of its predecessor's unintentional humor and wryness about the failure of the pickup artist scene, and more a mishmash of half-baked ideas and concepts regurgitated from better self-help books.

There are two volumes included in this set:

The Stylelife Companion is a self-prescribed 30 day crash course in becoming a better person, both mentally and physically. While the book should get some accolades for introducing reflection and se
Sergiu Pobereznic
Jul 24, 2015 Sergiu Pobereznic rated it really liked it
Although on the surface this can be seen as a book about learning the skills and various techniques of how to "pick up women", it is much more than that. Strauss is, in fact, teaching confidence, which is the ability to relax in social situations.
It's not necessarily about your looks, body shape etc, although he does deal with those aspects, too.
He attempts to set out in creating a better Self, that is modeled on who you actually are, rather than a faux you.
Some may see much of it as pointless
Dec 15, 2012 Byron rated it really liked it
You don't necessarily need to read any books on pickup. They're all boring and not particularly useful. If you could really score with tons of chicks by reading a book, only illiterates wouldn't be scoring constantly. And even illiterates would probably be doing well for themselves, because chicks like dumb guys. If you only read one pickup book, I'd go with Rules of the Game. It's split up into three parts: (1) A list of exercises to make you less of creep and maybe get some stank on your hangl ...more
Brandon Dalo
I originally became familiar with Neil Strauss after stumbling upon his novel, “The Game” which was (as its subtitle explains) about his adventure in penetrating the secret society of pickup artists. Having been highly entertained and taught much about life through that book, I decided to pick up this sequel.

The book is split into two parts: the first is titled “The Stylelife Challenge” in which he gives instructions on how to “Master the Game in 30 days.” The second part is titled “The Style Di
Aug 28, 2008 Andrew rated it liked it
Not quite as good as The Game, but a more interesting package - two mini-books together. Book one is kind of a supplement to The Game - more stories, but fleshed-out (no pun intended). The second book is an actual 30-day "Style-Life Challenge" self-help regimen aimed at taking shy guys from timidity to actually getting a date. It's a fascinating read, and offers a bunch of interesting and legitimate (but not cheesy or obvious) self-improvement tips and personal challenges/head games to become mo ...more
Robert J
Dec 15, 2014 Robert J rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
All I did was read it, so I realise I have no right to expect it to change my life.

To start of with, I thought maybe I might do these challenges, but the amount of time and confidence you'd need is insane. This is the problem – it's supposed to build your confidence but you need so much in the first place to make these "approaches".

Barely a day goes by when you don't read something that portrays heterosexual men in a negative light as creepy and sex pests. We just cannot win. So, to have the c
Feb 20, 2008 Cameron rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: People with social anxiety and bad grooming.
I bought this book out of curiosity of what the Stylelife 30 day challenge would be like.

The first book, the book of short stories, was interesting and gave me something to read while my dinner was cooking. Neil Strauss is a good author and loves himself very much. Some women loved him too. They had dirty sex. It's formulaic, but entertaining.

The second book is the reason I bought the set in the first place. Day by day missions taking the most socially awkward person to the point where they can
Oct 01, 2015 Toby rated it really liked it
Overall, a good and mostly non-chauvinistic read. The best part of the book is the final 10 anecdotes which are mostly very funny and make a good impression. Sometimes the book feels a touch dated and fails to recognise how integrated technology is with our lives. It's also ridden with editorial mistakes and typos. Strauss could do with a new editor. I read the book based on (morbid?) curiosity rather than for self-help but it was still on occasionally insightful read none-the-less. I didn't agr ...more
Craig Williams
I decided to stop reading this, as I found it to be kind of silly. The "field exercises" struck me as ridiculous (one of them is to approach 3 different girls, and ask them where is the best place to purchase men's clothing). I get what the exercises are trying to do - they are trying to help one get over the anxiety of approaching a stranger. It's just not for me though. Performing such exercises make me feel like I'm setting myself up for the mother of all pranks. What exercises are next? Go k ...more
Aug 29, 2012 Robert rated it liked it
Full disclosure: I did not read the diary section, and am only commenting/rating the "Stylelife Challenge" from a Pickup perspective.

Rules of the Game serves a purpose. It introduces readers to the world of Pickup in practice. Most people who read The Game and think "Hey, I could really do this stuff" will probably want to read Rules of the Game. Just like The Game, this book is simply an introduction. Like all of Neil's book, it's fun, easy to read, and engaging. The reason I rated it what I di
George Araman
Great insights.
Feb 08, 2013 Lark rated it it was ok
Accidentally read this instead of the more famous book "The Game", but since I already started it, I just decided to finish it.

It was interesting just to see the perspective of his writing. I already knew the premise going into the game, so nothing was terribly shocking or surprising.

I actually felt most of his advice was focused on making the person a more social person - that advice can be seen in other universal personality-help guides, I think. Or rather... a lot of it felt like common sense
Jun 13, 2010 Eric rated it liked it
Shelves: pick-up
I have read the Style Diaries, but did not read or do the stylelife challenge. I have found that Strauss's books around the pickup community are more balanced, and reflect a more empowering view of the game than other PUA's. This particular short book embodies this even more by showing the foibles and errors of Style and where the game fails to satisfy, subtly asking the question of "what now?" A fun and valuable read if you have read or been a part of the PUA community, if you haven't, you will ...more
Jan 05, 2014 James rated it liked it
This book was a good idea, and something like this was definitely requested and expected by anyone who read his first book, "The Game". However, I believe it falls short of its goal. I will state the problem as simply as I can: It is too hard. What he asks you to do is nothing short of a herculean feat. It is a 30 day challenge to top all 30 day challenges. If you could do even half of the stuff he asks you to do as part of your "training", you would not have even needed to pick up this book at ...more
Mayank Saboo
Sep 01, 2013 Mayank Saboo rated it liked it
Neil Strauss is a fantastic and a smart author. I came across this book way back when it was published and online shopping in India wasn't even near its peak. So getting to know about the previous book was not easy. Finding it was ever more difficult.
The tests and the rules here are pertinent and stupid in their own sense. Some may hate this book, but it was pretty decent according to me.
Apr 21, 2012 Anthony rated it really liked it
While Strauss offers a lot of useful information for social ascendancy, he also leaves out a lot - and I think maybe he does that on purpose, much like S.W. Erdnase in "The Expert at the Card Table". Still, a helpful book, but one that should be read alongside stuff like "Instant Rapport" by Michael Brooks.
Trey Nowell
Apr 17, 2013 Trey Nowell rated it it was amazing
A must read for men looking in the dating field, especially if you are going out to try and meet women. I suggest this reading for women too, so you see some games men play to get you :) It really was an enjoyable read and taught me a lot. I list this really as a psychology book of sorts.
Dec 30, 2015 Glen rated it really liked it
Read this and "The Game" as a prelude to Neil's following book "The Truth", which I plan on reading in 2016. It will be very interesting to see what this guy discloses about his relationships and psyche in the next book given what he experienced in "The Game"
Jun 06, 2010 Sheel rated it liked it
The Game (his first book) was an entertaining story about what went on in the pickup artist subculture. This is more of a straightforward pickup manual. Even so, it's still a good window into that whole mindset.
I got this book after I had met the woman I'm still with today, just in case and because I liked “The Game”. I read the stories section of the book but never finished the challenge section: there was no real need to, and I disagreed with almost everything it instructed me to do. Can't rate.
Jeff Lamberson
Even if your not interested in becoming a PUA (pick up artist), this and "The Game" are great books. The whole idea of the seduction community, and why people react to each other the way they do, is very interesting.
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Neil Strauss is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game, Rules of the Game, Emergency, and Everyone Loves You When You're Dead. He is also the coauthor of four other bestsellers--Jenna Jameson's How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, Mötley Crüe's The Dirt, and Marilyn Manson's The Long Hard Road Out of Hell, and Dave Navarro's Don't Try This at Home. He can be found at www.neilstrauss.c ...more
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