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Truth Be Told: Adam Becomes Audrey

3.52  ·  Rating Details ·  50 Ratings  ·  41 Reviews
Chastity Bono is now Chaz. Her decision to "become" a man made headlines around the world, but she is not alone. Transgender men and women frequently appear on television talk shows and reality programs to share their stories. By doing so, they inevitably get the attention they seek, but not necessarily the kind of attention they want. While some come forth in an effort to ...more
Paperback, 174 pages
Published August 29th 2012 by Strategic Book Publishing & Rights Agency, LLC
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Daniela W
Jul 03, 2015 Daniela W rated it it was ok
Shelves: do-not-read
I am very disappointed after reading this book. Probably I had false expectations and that is the main reason I didn't enjoy it. I thought it would tell us how the couple coped with the situation, I thought it would be sensible, I thought there would be a little comedy? I have found none.

Like 40% are a retelling of how Alex and Adam/Audrey met. I found it rather boring. A lot of information about horseback riding and the words didn't really flow.

As soon as it is 'revealed' that Adam is not Adam
Jill Dobbe
Mar 25, 2013 Jill Dobbe rated it really liked it
This book portrays the incredible journey that the author unwillingly and unhappily, is forced to take with her own life. In great detail she chronicles meeting the love of her life, marrying him, and busily, plans a future with him. However, as she looks forward to her new life centered around her husband and her marriage, it all falls apart when she learns a surprising and shocking truth about him. Told with incredible honesty, the author's life as she knows it, is turned completely and utterl ...more
Natasha (Diarist) Holme
Jul 04, 2013 Natasha (Diarist) Holme rated it liked it
Shelves: lgbt, memoir
I was intrigued by the subject matter of this book because of my own personal experiences. Sixteen years ago I initiated a few months' relationship with a woman I knew to be transsexual (male to female. I am lesbian). Nine years ago I asked out a woman I was attracted to, who revealed to me on our third date that she was male to female transsexual. I continued this relationship for a couple of months.

Because of these two experiences, I became fascinated by the subject of gender dysphoria, devour
J.M. Stewart
Jun 12, 2013 J.M. Stewart rated it really liked it
I received a free copy of the book in exchange for an honest review. Now, I don’t usually read non-fiction, so I wasn’t quite sure how I’d like it, but the back cover blurb captured my attention. I’m so glad I decided to give this one a try. The writing itself is impeccable. The author is a professional writer and she knows how to tell a tale.

But the story itself was…heart-wrenching. Without going into too much detail, the story chronicles the author’s experience of her husband’s sex change. We
Jul 03, 2015 Sue1958 rated it really liked it

I can certainly see why this book won awards, ** numerous awards and 2015 Beverly Hills Book Awards finalist in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Non-Fiction category. It was also a 2014 National Indie Excellence Awards finalist in the LGBT Non-Fiction category; and the 2013 New England Book Festival winner in the Gay Literature category.**

This is a book that I had to read in one sitting.

We see how Alex meet Adam, we read how they totally loved each other. Alex was so smitten with Adam,
Joseph Turkot
Jun 05, 2013 Joseph Turkot rated it it was amazing
In a world where the human condition is fragmented by fears and cultural restraints, how would you react if you found out your lover wanted a sex change? I can't think of a more devastating situation, one in which Alexandra draws some deep honesty in the telling. You have to imagine that you're completely committed to someone, and then this unthinkable knowledge comes to light: would you still be able to love the person unconditionally? Would it have seemed all a sham?

Having reported for twenty
Mar 14, 2014 Maggie rated it really liked it
I’ve always been fascinated by books about people who identify as transgendered. Maybe it’s my psychology degree, maybe because it’s become more of a mainstream “acceptable’ topic, but I have always been eager to read books on this subject. However, you’ll rarely, if ever, find a book by the SPOUSE of a transgendered individual, so I was happy to be able to review this book.

Alexandra never had a choice in this relationship and was blindsided by her then-husband’s announcement that he identified
Feb 01, 2014 Leila rated it really liked it
I have mixed emotions about this book.

I liked the book. There is no doubt. I enjoyed reading about trangender from a different perspective – the partner’s perspective.
When I first opened the book, I thought I would be reading it from Adam/Audrey’s perspective and looked forward to it (and I have to say, I wish Audrey would have agreed to take part in the book, but she declined Alex’s offer). I liked that it wasn’t Audrey’s perspective or even Audrey’s journey from point A to point B. It was Alex
Dani Shuping
Jul 16, 2016 Dani Shuping rated it it was ok
This is one of those reviews that is tough to write, not because of the subject matter or the content, or even the writing style. But because this is just a bad book. I mean seriously. Maybe if the description of it wasn’t different I wouldn’t dislike it as much, but...I mean honestly? I see it won/nominated for awards and I all I can think Did they just read the description and not read the book? Did someone just write the title in and they went “Oh yes this sounds great!”? What?? And ...more
Sep 15, 2013 Aurora rated it liked it
Shelves: the-g-series
Title: Truth be told; Adam becomes Audrey

Author: Alexandra Bogdanovic

First copyright date: 2012

Type of book: Transgender, marriage, coping, reporting, intimacy, togetherness, lost dreams

General subject matter: Transgender individuals, marriage and its impact on a human being

Special features: N/A

Price: $13.99

ISBN/ASIN: 978-1-60911-538-8


Chastity Bono is now Chaz. Her decision to "become" a man made headlines around the world, but she is not alone. Transgender men and women frequently appea
Grace Peterson
Jul 22, 2013 Grace Peterson rated it it was amazing
MY FIRST ENCOUNTER OCCURRED when I was around 11 years old. My brain couldn't make sense of that weird kid at school, likely because at that point in my life, I took things at face value. Questioning life's peculiarities seemed only to invite more confusion and my plate was already quite full.

Fast forward to a few months ago. I was walking down the aisle at the grocery store. Another shopper came towards me in the opposite direction. The person wore a black miniskirt with matching leather jacket
Jun 28, 2015 Sally rated it did not like it
I’m sorry, but Truth Be Told, I really didn’t like this book. I gave it multiple chances, assuming that my own moods might be interfering with the read, but it doesn’t get any better, regardless of the mood.

In all fairness, the blurb did promise that “this is the other side of the story,” but I expected that story to be a little more balanced. Instead, this is a very bitter – and often cruel – bit of venting by the author, who didn’t take the initial coming out very well, and who still hasn’t fo
Aug 16, 2015 TheCosyDragon rated it it was ok
This review has been crossposted from my blog at The Cosy Dragon . Please head there for more in-depth reviews by me, which appear on a timely schedule.

Alex is a jilted, divorced wife. But what should make this novel different from the norm is that she got divorced because the man she loved was a trans-woman. Honestly, I don’t think the book hit all the right things in order to make this something special like it could have been.

Poor, poor Alex. Dating a man for 10 years, and then suddenly findi
Mar 06, 2014 Becca rated it really liked it

I did not know what I was going to think of this book when I first started to read it. When I got into it I didn’t even comprehend fully what it would be like for Alex when her husband told her that he was a woman in a man’s body. She had so looked forward to starting a family with him and she loved him dearly. Adam’s therapist was the one that ended up breaking the news to Alex and she was heartbroken. I felt heartbroken right along with her because I do not know how I would handle if my husban
Jul 05, 2015 Ana rated it did not like it
In recent years, there has been a lot of focus on the transgender community and slowly, society is becoming more informed on what it means to a transgender person. A lot of the experiences that are chronicled are by the person who is transitioning, never by a relative or friend. I thought this was an interesting memoir to read because it would chronicle a woman’s experience of finding out that her husband is transgender and was going to undergo surgery to become a woman. As I read this memoir, I ...more
Elizabeth Towns
Mar 10, 2014 Elizabeth Towns rated it really liked it
I’m not suggesting that Bruce Jenner is undergoing a transgender transition. He hasn’t said that, and I don’t know it. However, when I read the statistics that Alexandra Bogdanovic provides in her heart wrenching and educational memoir detailing her now ex-husbands decision to “make his body match his mind” his recent physical changes came immediately to mind. They’ve been all over the media, and it certainly appears like Bruce is becoming Brenda.Bruce Jenner

As I watch his physicality change in
Mar 17, 2014 Pamela rated it really liked it
I have to admit, I wanted to read Truth Be Told because I was curious about Transgender individuals. I have not personally known any transgender individuals, so this book was a learning experience for me. It opened my eyes to a whole new world that I never had thought about before. This book is more than just facts about sexual identity, it's about love, acceptance, promises and more. Alex fell in love with a man who hid that fact that he longed to be a woman. I can't begin to imagine what it mu ...more
Oct 31, 2013 Dasc rated it it was amazing
Alexandra Bogdanovic’s Truth Be Told Adam Becomes Audrey was a fascinating read. It provided a glimpse of an ordinary couple’s life that very suddenly became anything but ordinary. After a satisfying courtship and several happy years of marriage to Adam, Alexandra, at a counselor’s office, is suddenly faced with the news that her husband is really a woman.

Alexandra is, for many years following this disclosure, quite angry about the unexpected turn her life has taken. She feels that fate has tre
Jul 31, 2013 Evelyn rated it really liked it
Shelves: reviewed
This book tells the story of Alexandra and her discovery of her husband’s hidden secret. Written from a stance that I didn’t quite expect, I fully appreciated the attention to detail and the need to bring the reader into the situation; achieved through the use of an almost informal tone, openness and the abundance of description.
With a clearly interesting life anyway, I took more away than ‘just’ having read a book about how a woman recovers after learning the truth about her husband. At t
Stevie Turner
Jan 11, 2014 Stevie Turner rated it really liked it
Shelves: recommended
I can’t even begin to imagine what it must have been like for Alex, when Adam, the husband she loved with all her heart and was looking forward to starting a family with, informed her that he was really a woman in a man’s body. She had only become aware of his transgender issues when they had been married for a couple of years and after Adam had asked her to visit his therapist, who broke the news which sent Alex reeling with shock.

After a bitter divorce Alex has to try and come to terms with li
Gina's Library
Jan 27, 2014 Gina's Library rated it liked it
Shelves: 2014
As soon as I read the description of this book I knew I wanted to read it. I am interested in learning more about things like gender dysphoria. Gender Dysphoria is the scientific term for when you feel you are the wrong gender. You may be born one gender, but you feel and identify with another.

This book was told by the other side. The side we don't hear about, the side that has their world turned completely upside down. Alexandra married who she thought was the man of her dreams. She envisioned
Feb 20, 2014 Jesse rated it liked it
I've read a few books about the LBTQ community and am always interested in reading about other people’s experiences. “Truth Be Told: Adam Becomes Audrey” is one woman’s first-hand account of her life when she found out her husband wanted to live as a woman. For my part, I felt like too much focus was spent on the details and the “ordinary” events of their life, and not enough on the problems and the one-on-one with the author and her husband before and after his transformation. There seemed to b ...more
Feb 15, 2014 Samantha rated it liked it
"Truth Be Told” this book wasn’t really what I was expecting it to be. I honestly thought there would be more focus on the actual transgender issues, but it only comes up about halfway through the book, and then at the end when talking about some statistics. This book was excellently written and had huge potential to give a bird’s eye look into a life that most of us will never experience. But the way it was told (the author even says the husband wasn’t cooperative in writing the book), I felt l ...more
Aug 08, 2013 Amy rated it liked it
Shelves: to-reveiw
*I received a copy of this book for free, in exchange for a review*

What would you do if the person of your dreams, your soul mate decides that they can’t live a lie any more? That they are trapped in the wrong body? Would you stay and support them? Or would you move on?

This is an emotionally charged book, that sweeps the reader in right from the start. There is no hiding of any feeling, no matter how raw and painful. It’s right there for you to feel. I felt like I was going thru this with Alexa
Jeremy Reppy
Jul 04, 2015 Jeremy Reppy rated it liked it
Shelves: first-reads
This book was not what I expected. I anticipated and wanted to read about how and why Adam became Audrey, but that is largely absent other than some discussion of childhood experiences. I also expected more discussion of Alexandra's struggle to deal with the unexpected news -- learning more about what being transgender means and really exploring what it meant for the future relationship. Instead, she essentially gives up and plans her escape (which is not to say that is an inappropriate or unexp ...more
Mar 11, 2014 Misty rated it it was amazing
Can you even imagine, after 10 years together and even getting married, finding out that your husband wants to be a woman? I can't. Honestly, I feel so bad for Alexandra for the pain she went through, for the rejection she must have felt, for the questions that have always remained unanswered. But, I also feel so bad for Audrey, too. I cannot imagine what it must feel like to know that you were born in the wrong body. To be born a man, but to always feel like you should have been a woman.

This bo
Karen *ReaderGirl*
Feb 09, 2014 Karen *ReaderGirl* rated it really liked it
"Truth Be Told: Adam Becomes Audrey” is the true story of one woman’s journey to cope with the devastating fact that her husband revealed himself to be transgender, thus ending the marriage. This book is very well written and edited and I read in in the course of one sitting. I definitely liked the author’s voice and how it was based on a true story, but it read like a novel. I did feel that perhaps too much of the beginning was spent on the courtship and the mundane details of everyday life, an ...more
Feb 15, 2014 Stacy rated it it was amazing
Oh my word this book was so heart breaking! I thought it was simply amazing and a few times it had me thanking my lucky stars that I’ve been so fortunate in my marriage. It’s one thing to mourn for someone who dies… but how do you mourn for someone who just disappears, yet is still right there? Such an emotional rollercoaster to be on, and I’m grateful I was able to experience from the sidelines, not how the author had to go through it. You hear a lot of stories about gay people and it’s usually ...more
Feb 20, 2014 Claire rated it it was amazing
Wow, I was practically in tears at the end! Warning, have your tissues nearby because you might need them! Right from the beginning we are sucked into the author’s seemingly ordinary world, until one shocking day when everything gets turned upside down and her life is never the same. What struck me was just how normal they seemed (her and her husband) and how there didn’t really seem to be any real indications that this was even coming. It is unfortunate, as one would hope that people could feel ...more
Mad Giles (Giles A. Madding)
The Stranger I Have Loved

3.49 Stars

This was a hard book for me to rate. Truly wish that it were possible to give half stars. Four stars just do not sit well with me, but the three stars also seems less than enough.

The book was well written and I commend the author for sharing an obviously painful part of her life. The pain of unfulfilled promises and a ‘happily ever after’ that doesn’t work out is universal. No matter how foreign the reasons for it may be to some readers.

Though I sympathized wit
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Alexandra Bogdanovic was born in Bronxville, N.Y. and grew up in Greenwich, Conn. She knew she wanted to be a reporter at age 12, and received her first byline in the Greenwich Time when she was a high school freshman. By the time she graduated from the Convent of the Sacred Heart in 1987, she’d been covering high school sports for a daily newspaper for four years.
In 1991, Bogdanovic graduated fr
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