Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep
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Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep

3.64 of 5 stars 3.64  ·  rating details  ·  371 ratings  ·  108 reviews
Right after "Is it a boy or a girl?" and "What's his/her name?," the next question people invariably ask new parents is "Are you getting any sleep?" Unfortunately, the answer is usually "Not much." In fact, studies show that approximately 25% of young children experience some type of sleep problem and, as any bleary-eyed parent will attest, it is one of the most difficult...more
Paperback, Revised, 368 pages
Published March 15th 2005 by William Morrow Paperbacks (first published January 1st 1997)
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4 stars – Parenting

I’m not sure how helpful or applicable the sleep training methodology will be, but I really liked the detailed information and practical advice on behavioral management.
I only read the sections that I felt pertained to my daughter at 5 months. The section about bedrooms, bedtimes, and bedtime routines was useful. Most of the suggestions, consistent routine, same time, a lovey, were things I already had going. The idea of negative and positive sleep associations is helpful. Negative sleep associations are anything that would require a parent to assist the baby in falling asleep (rocking, nursing, singing, cuddling, etc.) Positive associations are things that wou...more
This is absolutely not the way I want to teach my child to sleep. I will paraphrase one sentence that really stuck with me and made me close the book immediately and leave it by the door to return it to the library: you want your child to learn that crying is not worth his while because it won't make you comfort him. Never in a million years would I take this approach! I subscribe to the belief that babies cry to convey their needs and not to manipulate their parents. If he wants comfort, why sh...more
I was at a friend and fellow mother's house yesterday, bemoaning the fact that my 8-month old doesn't sleep through the night - ever - and she told me about this book and let me borrow it. I've read a fair amount of parenting/sleeping books in my almost 3 years as a parent, but had never heard of this one. After reading it in a day (although I did skip over the parts that don't apply to us), I'm convinced that this may, in fact, be the best book about getting your child to sleep. Nothing in it w...more
Jodi Mendell helped save my household from an enormous amount of potential frustration. Her deliberate but sensitive approach to sleep and sleep training for families with young children was much needed. With her help my wife and I were able to hash out a game plan to work a more intentional sleep schedule into our household. And we did it! Not without some struggles and not perfectly, but still, what a help this was. After 3 or 4 nights of sleep training my daughter was much more comfortable in...more
Jun 01, 2009 bernadette rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to bernadette by: pediatrican
Shelves: parenting, nonfiction
This book has a lot of the same suggestions as Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child but is much more organized and focused on giving advice on how to deal with specific sleep issues; HSHHC gave a lot more information on what was happening with baby biologically when she's tired or sleeping. STTN is much more helpful in trying to form a plan when faced with several sleep issues, identifying which issues are best to work with first such as focusing on bedtime rather than naptimes, etc. Mindell does r...more
Nov 06, 2007 Elyssa rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: parents who need sleep
Shelves: parenting
This is the BEST sleep book in my opinion (and there are many out there). Jodi Mindell provides a lot of information about the science of sleep and its extreme importance for babies and growing children. She does not suscribe to radical theories, though she does endorse some elements of the cry-it-out approach if other methods do not work. Some parents dislike this book because they perceive it to be a "sleep training" manual, but I view it more as sleep guidance because her tone and approach is...more
This along with a few others really helped me to sleep train my kids. If I could only pick one sleep book, though, it would be this one.
My four month old was waking up 3 to 4 times a night needing a lot of soothing to get back to sleep. We usually just brought him into our bed so we could get some sleep. He was also taking a lot of short naps, 30 to 45 minutes. Not good for him or us.

A co-worker of my husband's gave us this book and I read it in one night. I thought the plan made sense so we started it the next day. Just like the book says, the first few nights are rough. Lots of crying at bedtime! I did pick my son up to soothe...more
I read this book when Braden was about 3-4 months old. He cried all the time and we realized it was because he was tired. It was so hard to get him to fall asleep! This book was a life saver! It had about the same information as the popular book Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child but it was way easier to read. I learned that a lot of babies have to learn how to fall asleep on their own. I also learned that most infants are tired after being awake for 2 hours which helped us know when to put him...more
When baby doesn't get any sleep, no body gets any sleep. Wish I had read this before the baby was born to establish good sleeping habits from day one. A & I started sleep training the bambino around 3.5 months and found this book to be helpful, humane, supportive, and realistic about expectations and difficulty involved. Presents modified cry-it-out, stressing parent's comfort level with child's distress but also encouraging putting baby to bed awake. Sort of worked for us for a few months,...more
Jan 07, 2013 Kelly added it
this book contradicted itself quite a few times: dont share a room after 3 months, its okay for them to share a room with siblings, don't go to them at night, go to them at night.... frustrating!!!

sleep begets sleep. earlier bedtime solves sleep issues often.
stationary sleep in crib is best.
at 6 months, they can sleep through the night without eating.

6 weeks - 3 months: help them develop their own soothing strategies. walk, don't run to them. establish sleep schedule, bedtime routine, and put do...more
I read this as a preventative measure; my daughter is six weeks old and we co-sleep, but eventually we'll transition to her own room and her own bed, and I want that transition to be as gentle for all of us as possible. I do recognize there will be some tears, as there are daily tears with the wee ones, and I do know that I need some resolve when it comes to discipline (after a few years of teaching high school and a few years of teaching college, I have had a steep learning curve in this depart...more
My pediatrician recommended this book at our six month appointment and I feel like I should send her a thank you note!! We started the book's method a week ago and Rylie's sleep has really improved. While she is not sttn yet, I feel confident that she will in the coming months. The book has a "gentle cry-it-out" philosophy, which I never believed I would use CIO, ever!! But in desperation, we tried it one night and we got 25 minutes of fussing, and then she went to sleep on here own!! The next n...more
This book is awesome! Great advice for anyone who has a newborn or any young child. I was having trouble getting my 9 month old to sleep through the night. Even getting her to sleep was a challenge. I took the advice in the book and within a week it was amazing! She was putting herself to sleep! This book is full of great advice for people of all ages! This is going in every baby shower gift I give! Thank you dr. Mindel!!
I bought this ebook off of Amazon because we were having some frustrating sleep issues with our 10 month old daughter. All issues we were experiencing were addressed and are now resolved to our satisfaction. We even went on vacation and she slept like an angel in the pack and play and took naps with both parents in the room. I can't really say enough about this book. I only give 5 star ratings to non-fiction if I believe it changed/will change my life for the better. 5 stars are definitely deser...more
Chapters 4 and 5 are what makes this book worthwhile because of the introduction to bedtime routines and rituals. I have used the suggestions with my 12 month old and find bedtime is signficantly easier. especially helpful is the author's suggestion for what age the routine can be started. It's younger than I thought, but it makes sense. The author then seems to make a huge and contradictory jump to sleep training and a Cry It Out method, which in my experience is unnecessary if you have been co...more
I found this to be a very helpful book when trying to change my 9 mo. old baby's sleep pattern. I liked the fact that the book didn't preach letting your baby cry it out no matter what; instead, it focused on how to help your baby learn to soothe him or herself to sleep. Granted, this might mean some crying when you begin training your baby by putting him/her down awake in the crib. But the book encourages readers to check on the baby as often as deemed necessary and/or if the baby awakes at nig...more
Although this book focuses more on how to approach your child's sleep after the four-month mark (less helpful with my two-month-old), I still found it useful and appreciated the author's reasoned, practical approach. I like that she doesn't view sleep training as an all-or-nothing proposition, but explains the consequences of developing bad habits. I have the feeling I will revisit this book as my peanut ages and new issues arise. Although it didn't magically make him sleep through the night (ye...more
Emily Jones

Started reading this during my pregnancy. Since giving birth 4 months ago and becoming entrenched in all things baby, I've come to discover what speaks to my heart as a parent. The cry it out method sounded reasonable before I knew better. Now it seems counterintuitive and cruel. Babies put their trust in us wholeheartedly! They cry for a reason! I don't look at raising my child in the same frame as raising a dog, so there will be no "training" going on here. Also the author discussed never nur...more
I'm pretty burnt out on infant sleep as a subject in general but I do like this one. It incorporates breastfeeding as more than an afterthought and is more realistic than other things I've read. Nothing earth shattering here but definitely a balanced and nurturing approach that is sensitive to how the parent responds and how different babies may respond. Not a one size fits all approach that so many other books provide.
This is an excellent resource for parents who need guidance on getting their babies to sleep at night. It was recommended to me many years ago and was very helpful with my first born. Ten years later I am reading it again to help me with my second baby. I have forgotten a lot!
decent next steps for those who needed to go further than the light touch of "secrets of the baby whisperer." also handy that it goes into toddlers ams young children with general parenting and discipline advice so I'll be coming back to it when my girl is older.
Rebecca Ingram
I have mixed feelings about this book. It gives great sleeping tips and strategies but is a little unrealistic for a working family. Seriously, is your baby going to end up being a spoiled brat if you have a sliding scale for sleep and naps.
This book explained for me why our first daughter was an amazing sleeper (we accidentally did a lot of things right) and why we're having so much more trouble with her baby sister (accidentally did a lot of things "wrong"). Her advice is framed scientifically by sleep research studies but also with compassion for the sleep-deprived and often desperate parents.

Her advice is, basically, work on sleep training during the day at naptime, and get bedtime right (consistency is key), but don't worry a...more
I think that this book would be most useful to parents of older babies who need to break them of some bad bedtime habits. My son was still young 10 weeks old and was transitioning nicely to a bedtime. I was hoping this was going to help with him not waking up as often at night, but that took a more specific kind of training than this book provides. This book basically says if you can get it right at bedtime then the rest will follow, but it did not for us. I found success with "Twelve hours Slee...more
Within a week and a half, my 4 month old was falling asleep on her own within 5 minutes of being put down, with very few or no tears (no rocking, no singing, no walking, no binky, no nursing....). The following week, we started the same routine for nap times... and now I feel like a new woman! Definitely won't wait so long to start sleep training our next baby...

The author is very knowledgeable and anticipates your questions, so keep reading. Her tone was somewhat preachy at times, but as a new...more
This book was recommended to me by one of the Early Intervention professionals, who binge-read 5 different books on sleep and she liked this the best.
I liked Mindell's recommendations - I'm not too sure why Chapter 3 was entirely focused on behaviors and time out methods - yes, it is useful information but I'm reading this book to get a handle on our sleep troubles!
Probably the 2 best pieces of info are those I've read before, but need to be repeated:
*Put the baby (toddler, whomever!) down AWAKE...more
Not as scientific as other sleep books, which I actually liked (as they seem to rehash the same info in every book).

Interesting tips:
-Always put your baby to bed awake.
-Anything you do to get your baby to sleep needs to be there when he wakes up in the night (for example if you play music, rock your baby to sleep, or nurse him to sleep, you'll need to do this every time he wakes up or he won't be able to get back to sleep). Thus remove all negative sleep associations.
-Set bedtimes and bedtime ro...more
The basic premise is that babies have a hard time sleeping through the night because they don't know how to fall asleep on their own. Your goal is to teach them to do that, through baby steps. That's the part I love - you don't just leave your kid to cry it out. It's a gentler approach. You CAN leave your child to cry, if you can handle it. But for me, I just stood in the room where she could see me, acting like a statue, pretty much. :) After just a few days, once she was tired, she kind of cri...more
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