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Break Through: When to Give In, How to Push Back. the Moment That Changes Everything

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Well, I guess he does have a good side...". "You know, it's probably my own fault." ... "I need to cut him some slack, because he's had a rough life." It's easy to get stuck in painful, even destructive relationships - caving in to a spouse's addictions and consequent abuses, ignoring a live-at-home son's inconsiderate behavior, or putting up with a supervisor's manipulati...more
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Published May 1st 2012 by Worthy Publishing (first published January 1st 2012)
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Kate
In reading this book I discovered and recognized myself and those close to me within these pages. Very beneficial to readers from all walks of life, those stuggling in present and past situations and ones needing breakthroughs and understanding which is delivered in an honest and compassionate voice. I connected with each life story contained in most chapters.

Some topics discussed are: How to really love the people in your life even if they have a hard time repaying the love, how to recognize c...more
Nate LaClaire
"By the time you’re finished with this book…you’ll not only recognize love for all that it is, but break through the fog of your relationships into the light of an amazing new day for you and for those you love the most."

Thus ends the introduction to Dr. Tim Clinton and Pat Springle’s new book, Break Through: When to Give In, How to Push Back. A lofty promise indeed, but one upon which Clinton and Springle deliver.

In the book, the authors give insight into unhealthy relationships, such as codepe...more
Jim
To find the right balance of responsibility, some of us need to say less, some need to say more; some need to sit down, some need to stand up; some need to say no, some need to say yes. page 190

At a clergy retreat nearly twenty years ago now, I was introduced to the concept of enmeshment in family systems. Since that time when I have done premarital counseling I have emphasized understanding family systems and how it affects one’s marital relationship.

I have also thought of Abbot and Costello’s...more
Meagan Myhren-bennett
BREAK THOUGH
When to Give In, How to Push Back
by Dr. Tim Clinton and Pat Springle
Worthy Publishing

Often our relationships are controlled by our misconceptions of what love is. We dominate or cower in the name of love, but the very nature of this love is destructive and unhealthy. When we allow ourselves to be enmeshed we rob ourselves and the object of our devotion of a healthy relationship and the joy and happiness that true love brings. This unhealthy dependency usually masks feelings of resent...more
Wendy Hines
Everyone has a relationship - whether it be with your spouse, your kids, friends or family. Break Through discusses what is bad in a relationship, how to fix it or how to change it. Tough love is hard. It's easy to judge others in a bad relationship and yet not see what your nose in spite of your face. Break Through offers the tools to lead that healthier life as well as to find or rediscover your faith and your love for yourself.

Written in a format that is easy to read and understand, Break Thr...more
Allizabeth Collins
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Break Through is a Christian-based guide to healthy relationships and relationship maintenance that discusses the dynamics between husband and wife, parent and child, friend and friend, man and God, and all things in-between. "[All] the expert advise you need for knowing when to give in and how to push back for the best life you can have with the people you love most." (Back Cover Quote)

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I tend to enjoy Christian Literature with a Biblical basis, so I was very pleased to rece...more
K. L.
If you’ve ever experienced frustration with a relationship, this book is for you. This book is a game-changer for those who need help setting boundaries in their life—though some of us may not realize, until reading it, how we are contributing to the problems we have in relationships. If you find yourself making excuses for anyone in your life, you need this book. Some of us try too hard to control others; others of us allow ourselves to be manipulated, even bullied. This book addresses both the...more
K. L.
If you’ve ever experienced frustration with a relationship, this book is for you. This book is a game-changer for those who need help setting boundaries in their life—though some of us may not realize, until reading it, how we are contributing to the problems we have in relationships. If you find yourself making excuses for anyone in your life, you need this book. Some of us try too hard to control others; others of us allow ourselves to be manipulated, even bullied. This book addresses both the...more
Susan
Have you ever found yourself making excuses for someone in your life? Saying something like, "Well, she does have a good side," or "It's probably my fault," or "She's had a hard life. I need to cut her some slack." I tell myself things like that all the time. And usually, such statements mean you're in the midst of some relationships where you're being controlled or manipulated by someone else. Since I can identify some relationships just like that in my own life, I was happy to have the opportu...more
Ruth Hill
I was completely impressed with this Biblically-based book about healthy relationships. And I don't mean just marital relationships, but all relationships. The authors give you practical tips on how to transform your relationships(and predominantly you)into what God wants them (and you) to be.

The thing that impressed me more than anything was that the Bible was continually consulted as the primary source. So often in Christian counseling, there is too much emphasis on secular self-help strategie...more
Andrew
In Break Through, Tim Clinton and Pat Springle explored the concept of learning how to handle enmeshment relationships. Throughout the book readers will be trained to see and identify counterfeit love patterns. Everyone has had to deal with people who want to be one up from you. We also have seen the people who lie down and follow all of the manipulator’s requests and demands. This book will show you how to have courage to stand up and not feel pressured to give in to their threats. The book con...more
IrenesChristianReviews
This is a book about learning how to handle a relationship that is not good for you. Being able to protect yourself is important and the authors in this book have some great advice on ways to do that. Learning to not make excuses for those around us that are displaying irresponsible behavior is the most important principle taught in this book. Once you stop making excuses you accept their behavior and learn how to either live with it or walk away from them.

I think everyone will learn something...more
Tima
Are you struggling with an abusive, controlling, or just plain unhealthy relationship? This book is all about having healthy relationships with people and when to give "tough" love and when to "give in". It's filled with practical advice, stories and thoughts on the correct way to handle relationships and love those around us. It's from a Christian perspective and would be gold for a person dealing with one or more dysfunctional relationships.
Even though I, thankfully, don't have to deal with an...more
Jamie Hughes
I read this for work rather than for personal reasons, so I'm not the typical reader. For instance, I'm not up against many of the issues people who need this book might be battling. However, it was an interesting read, one full of simple truths and practical advice about how and when to "give in and push back" against people in your lives with whom you have negative relationships. There are many moments of clarity in this book that people who are in dysfunctional partnerships could benefit from...more
Judy
interesting and good thought provoking ideas
Diana Rodriguez
It was basic and had some worthwhile suggestions.
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Timothy E. Clinton

Tim Clinton, Ed. D. is President of the nearly 50,000-member American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), the largest and most diverse Christian counseling association in the world. He is Professor of Counseling and Pastoral Care, and Executive Director of the Center for Counseling and Family Studies at Liberty University. Licensed in Virgi...more
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“Often, our misunderstandings about love are born in disruptive family relationships, where someone was either one-up or one-down to an extreme. There is an appropriate and necessary difference in the balance of power between parents and young children, but in the best situations, there should be no power struggles by the time those children have become adults - just deep connection, trust, and respect between people who sincerely care about each other.
In disruptive families, children are taught to remain one-up or one-down into adulthood. And this produces immature adults who either seek to dominate others (one-up) or who allow themselves to be dominated (one-down) in their relationships - one powerful and one needy, one enabling and one addicted, one decisive and one confused.
In relationships with these people, manipulation abounds. Especially when they start to feel out of control.”
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