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How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk

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Adele Faber y Elaine Mazlish han ayudado a millones de familias con sus bestsellers. Ahora, y por primera vez en español, estas aclamadas expertas a nivel internacional nos ofrecen una guía que le dará las herramientas necesarias para ayudarles a sus adolescentes -- ¡y a usted mismo! -- a sobrevivir la etapa difícil de la adolescencia.

"Mi hijo de trece años pasa su tiempo
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published August 23rd 2005 by William Morrow (first published 2005)
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أسلوب هذا الكتاب سهل وممتع حيث أذكرأنني قرأته وأنا في الصف الثالث المتوسط.

أنصح به للمراهقين وللآباءأيضًا.
Georgina Allen
May 10, 2013 Georgina Allen rated it liked it
I wasn't quite sure what to rate this one. I think if I could give half stars it would be a 3.5.

It's well written, great cartoons and a very helpful way to look at relationships in your life and how to communicate better. However, I felt the content was very sparse compared to the previous books (How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Sibling Rivalry) and didn't really add a lot - just demonstrated how the same techniques could be altered slightly to improve relationships with your teens.

So while I
Feb 01, 2012 Jazz rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really liked this book. I learned so much things in it. As a teen I realize that there is so much things going on in the world now that out parents didn't encounter at our age but they are trying their best to understand us. Reading this also helped me think about what I might do instead of just yelling when my mom and I get into a heated argument. I truly recommend this book to those adults needing help connect to their teenager or teens that want to change their relationship with their paren ...more
Jun 10, 2016 Summer rated it did not like it
This book is so cheesy. I feel a little dumber after having listened to it.

The cheesiness of the dialogue is amplified by the cheesy way the Ms. Faber reads it. Picture an old TV show from the 50s where a boy in a ballcap says "Gee pop! That's swell!" That's the way the she reads this stuff. And the actual written dialog isn't much better.

According to the info, both writers are reading this audiobook. Their voices must be freakin' identical because I can't tell that there are 2 readers. I pull
Apr 08, 2013 Jenn rated it it was ok
This book offers solid but general tactics for fostering positive communication with your kids. It does not, however, go far enough in terms of giving advice for dealing with teenagers. The scenarios play out too optimistically, with teens relenting quickly. The authors virtually skip common challenges like what to do when your teen is being irrational or continues to push back or outright defies you. And, there is no mention of what to do about the "communication" trick most teens have mastered ...more
Burgundy Rose
Jun 07, 2016 Burgundy Rose rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Very straightforward approach to communication with teenagers and really anyone. I'm neither a parent nor a teen but as a teacher, I feel like any approach can help. The author's advice is down-to-earth and easy to implement, with lots of examples. It's an excellent book and all that's left for me to do is adapt it for the classroom and see if it works.
Mar 02, 2015 Ulrike marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
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Oct 05, 2016 Rebekah rated it really liked it
I listened to this book and really didn't learn anything new that I didn't already know deep down inside of myself. We don't need to yell, scream and belittle our children or teens. They will turn around and do the same thing to others. It is just so hard to implement sometimes. I just need to hear it again that I just need to practice and try even harder to keep my cool and talk to them the way I would expect them or even another adult to talk to me. Respect, that is what it all boils down to. ...more
Heba Ateyat
كتاب رائعه ومؤلفتان اروع يطرح طريقة تفكير المراهقين و كيف يمكن استيعابهم واحتوائهم
Jan 22, 2015 Tracy rated it really liked it
I listened to the audio for this and I was concerned at first that this was going to be a hokey book by two little old ladies spouting tips that didn't apply to today's world. That fear quickly dissolved. These ladies know their stuff and the format of the book presents plenty of modern-day examples that any parent can relate to. I think these ladies have lots of wisdom and advice to share, and they focus on teaching you to listen first and more to your teens to improve your relationship and exc ...more
Sep 16, 2016 Maria added it
It was very interesting. It put things into perspective of how to talk to your family members. I am more aware of what I am going to say and how I am going to say it.
Daniel S

"Resist the temptation to "make better" instantly. Instead of giving advice, continue to ask and reflect on your child's feelings." [pg. 21]

"What people of all ages can use in a moment of distress is not agreement or disagreement; they need someone to recognize what it is they're experiencing." [pg. 29]

"Never underestimate the power of your words on a young persons life." [pg. 231]

"We want to find a way to live with one another so that we can feel good about ourselves and help the people we love
Tim Wolfe
May 31, 2009 Tim Wolfe rated it liked it
The authors take a fairly no nonsense view of parent and teenager communications, mostly involving what appear to be some typically standard principles found in many counseling environments. The basic concepts are that tone and content can impact a lot about the way that the teen (or parent for that matter) respond to communication attempts and that many problems can be resolved through adequate communication techniques. While in general, much of the advice seems reasonable, and I've noticed pra ...more
Pam Ford
Nov 22, 2011 Pam Ford rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So I don't have teens...but I read the book to help with the kids I watch (the Kids version was checked out). Anyways, it really does work like a charm! The book is set up in a workshop format, following parents and their hesitations, comics of what to do, and then the share and tell of its effects. It makes the book an easy read and helpful in understanding how situations can get escalated so quickly, whether it's something that you said, the way you said it, or what/how it was said to you. It' ...more
Mar 11, 2016 Libby rated it really liked it
I listened to this book while on vacation. I had thought I had checked out How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, etc. but must have rushed in my haste to the plane and didn't read carefully. I imagine the principals in the "Kids" one will be very similar, just applied to younger problems - less talk about drugs and sex and drinking issues, etc. Nevertheless, it was good and got me thinking about how I communicate with my kids and how I treat them when they are upset. I will probably still try to read ...more
More parent-specific scenarios in this one than in the kids' version, but still HIGHLY recommended to anyone with teens in their lives. If you're short on time, just read the cartoons or the quick reminder pages, like p. 65, "To Engage a Teenager's Cooperation."

Instead of ordering...

Describe the problem
Describe what you feel
Give information
Offer a choice
Say it in a word
State your values and/or expectations
Do the unexpected
Put it in writing

And one of my personal favorites: Give in fantasy what yo
Kat Myers
Feb 24, 2015 Kat Myers rated it liked it
Distilled to its essence, the book basically tells parents to lighten up on the rhetoric and the emotion, shut up and listen. Not bad advice, though easier said than done. The approach is a bit jokey--the format is mostly comic strips and group counseling meeting (complete with made up dialogue/questions/concerns of the "group") but if you can get past that the message is worth hearing. I used some of the techniques with my oldest and found they really do help to diffuse what could otherwise hav ...more
Apr 30, 2016 Ramona rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Een erg interessant en leerzaam boek. Leest lekker weg en zet je als lezer aan het denken over je eigen manier van reageren en handelen. Ik besefte dat ik af en toe al gebruik maakte van de beschreven methodes, zonder daar vooraf de kennis van te hebben. Maar ook dat ik veel vaker gebruik moet maken van deze methodes om toch beter te communiceren met mijn meiden. Ik ben echt heel blij met dit boek en alles wat ik dankzij dit boek geleerd heb. Een aanrader voor iedereen die op een andere manier m ...more
Cindy H.
Oct 07, 2014 Cindy H. rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
This book should be retitled "The Principles of Good Communication," regardless of whether it's communication between parents and teens, friends, spouses, etc. Still, parents of teens will appreciate the examples of how to communicate with teens about tough subjects like sex and drugs. I highly recommend this book to anyone who's never gone to therapy or taken a class on parenting or interpersonal communication skills. To everyone else, it's a good review and reminder of how to resolve conflicts ...more
Oct 20, 2014 Brian rated it it was amazing
Great book with excellent, practical application. The problem solving technique really works - I used it! If only I had read it before I had my first teenager, I could have avoided so many problems. The best advice is to be authentic with teens - the more you show them you truly care, the more they respond similarly. The second best advice - it's never too late to change your parenting mistakes.

After finishing, I went back and reread How to Talk so Kids Listen and Listen so Kids Talk and found
Feb 08, 2010 Jennifer rated it really liked it
Simple strategies for both keeping the peace with and getting your values across to teens today. Illustrated with cartoons. Worth a read. I especially liked the section on different ways to engage a teen's cooperation: Describe the problem; describe what you feel; give information; offer a choice; say it in a word; state your values and/or expectations; do the unexpected; and put it in writing. Also good is the section on "working it out together," which allows the teenager to propose solutions ...more
Jul 27, 2014 Fiona rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Sound advice on creative problem-solving and communication with teens. If you have read any of Faber and Mazlish's other works then this really builds upon the same foundations with an additional chapter on the pitfalls of talking about sex, alcohol and drugs with your teen. That does not mean this is not worth a read however, we could all use a reminder from time to time. As with their other books, I have taken a lot from this one that will no doubt stay with me for years to come as my children ...more
Oraib Toukhly
The book basically written from a workshop done on a certain group, I was looking forward to reading it to find out simple things about the changes that teenage go through and why they do certain things for example why they get irritated easily, why do we become strangers all of the sudden, why do they just want to say no for simply saying no.... I didn't get all these answers but I cannot deny that there are some useful techniques to identify certain behavior, not a lot for those who are lookin ...more
Dec 29, 2010 Amelia rated it really liked it
I am loving this book! Eventhough I am not even close to being done... I am seeing a difference in how my teen and I talk to one another!! We can talk without arguing and by listening to your teens point of view they will actually listen to you. I am learning so much in how to say what neeeds to be said without the lectures and yelling. I am already making progress, and learning so much that I did not know!!
Frosty and Alert
Aug 18, 2012 Frosty and Alert rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I couldn't put this down and I have a feeling that I'll be reading bits and pieces of it again. The perspective is set on how teens feel depending on the parent's communication style. There are alternatives that result in more open and positive communication that shows respect and trust rather than dictatorship. This book teaches parents how to be more effective communicators and role models for teens. Looking forward to sharing this book with others!
May 05, 2014 Maggiekb rated it really liked it
This is obviously targeted at parents rather than teachers, but there's a lot here for both. The book is rich on examples and imagined dialogue, and while the practice conversations are somewhat stilted, the "voice" of the kids is pretty close. It's almost more of a "productively communicating through disagreement" book than anything about teens specifically, but the teen-focused examples were solid.
Dec 01, 2013 Maggie rated it liked it
Some interesting stuff that can be helpful for all humans trying to communicate with each other, not just parents of teens. Reframing opinions to inform others of your perspective seems pretty crucial to effective communication. I'm going to have to think about how I can use some of these tips in my own dealings with teens in the library. In general, good stuff, though the writing style itself was a little simplistic.
Oct 01, 2013 Denise rated it liked it
Pretty similar to "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen..." although with examples that do relate to teens and a subsection about helping teens learn the communication skills, too, which of course would be helpful. I'm still not sure how to get them to do their homework, though. Maybe I should write a letter to the authors!
Jun 21, 2013 Heather rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, 2013
I'm not much for "self-help" type books, but this one surprised me. If it seems like everything you say to your child sends them into a tizzy, then I highly recommend it. I tried some of the suggestions in this book and they actually worked! :) The techniques are applicable to everyone, not just teens or kids.
Dmitry Zvorykin
Mar 30, 2016 Dmitry Zvorykin rated it liked it
Очень популярное переложение известной концепции я-сообщений старуха Гиппенрейтер и её ясообщений. Которые суть идея Карла и Елены Роджерс. В общем полезная книжка, хотя очень и очень вторичная. Но многие проблемы с детьми и подростками рассмотрены в ней применимо к нашим реалиям, так что это может оказаться полезным лично вам. Книга короткая, читается легко.
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Adele Faber graduated from Queens College with a B.A. in theater and drama, earned her master's degree in education from New York University, and taught in the New York City high schools for eight years before joining the faculty of the New School for Social Research in New York and Family Life Institute of C.W. Post College of Long Island University. She is the mother of three children.
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