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Why Mars and Venus Collide

3.80  ·  Rating Details  ·  792 Ratings  ·  120 Reviews

Once upon a time, Martians and Venusians functioned in separate worlds. But in today's hectic and career-oriented environment, relationships have become a lot more complicated, and men and women are experiencing unprecedented levels of stress. To add to the increasing tension, most men and women are also completely unaware that they are actually hardwired to react differen

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Published February 1st 2008 by HarperLuxe (first published May 8th 2007)
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Skylar Burris
Jan 20, 2009 Skylar Burris rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: marriage
Synopsis: Men and women are different. In the event that you have already figured this out after several years of marriage, this book may yet give you some comfort in knowing you are not alone in your frustrations. "Why Mars and Venus Collide" did have some helpful advice. However, I think those helpful nuggets were already lodged in his early book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." (There appears to be some gratuitous repackaging going on here.)

I confess that while I was reading this
Jacqueline Williams
Apr 27, 2008 Jacqueline Williams rated it it was amazing
A very validating book, and an incredibly fast read. Explains how men and women deal with stress, with real-life examples that ring so true. Talks about the BIOLOGICAL and biochemical differences between men and women, and for me, learning that some things are biological changes my perspecive a lot. Here are some excerpts I liked from the book:

"Being aware of our innate biochemical differences frees us from the unhealthy compulsion to change our partners and eventually leads us to celebrate our
Razan Jambi
Jul 05, 2013 Razan Jambi rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
كتاب جميل فعلا،،،كثيرا ما يتحدث عنه المؤلف هي المشكلات التي نسمعها مرارا وتكرارا في علاقتنا بالجنس الاخر
اكثر ما عجبني هو فكره ان تكون مسؤول عن سعادتك بنسبه ٪ بينما يساهم شريك حياتك في سعادتك بنسبه ٪
اتضح لي ان العلاقات الشخصيه لا تؤخذ كشيء مضمون اي انها متى ما صلحت في بدايتها فهذا يعني انها ستصلح مدى الحياه بالضروره بل يجب العمل عليها دائما لتنميتها وتقويتها ولتكون مصدر سعاده لنا في حياتنا لفترات طويله
Feb 21, 2011 Kristine rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book makes a compelling point for becoming a lesbian ... or a man. Women can do and think about more than one thing at a time and men can only do one thing at a time and need to be told what needs to be done - which would you rather have for a partner? Women should lower their expectations of the men in their lives, so as not to be disappointed by them.

There is some truth in this book, hence the 2 stars instead of 1, but I still don't like it.

Partially because I'm not a stereotypical woman,
Oct 17, 2013 Kim rated it it was ok
This was the first book I've ever read by John Gray, and I only picked it because my library's e-book selection is limited and there wasn't much available to check out in the Relationship genre. This book does have some helpful communication techniques that might be worth trying if your marriage is in deep trouble, but I did take issue with some of it...

Gray strives to explain the hormonal differences between men and women and how these differences cause wildly different behaviors and attitudes.
Ashley Mcphee
Sep 19, 2011 Ashley Mcphee rated it liked it
While I found this book immensely helpful in understanding my partner better and learning to adjust my expectations, I also found the book to be slightly sexist.

The author also makes frequent allusions to religion/spirituality and seeking out a therapist as important tools without acknowledging that for some people these are not options or priorities.

The book makes many references to research about the brain, hormones, and evolution, which makes it seem very credible. I found the sections part
Mohammed Esam
Mar 30, 2013 Mohammed Esam rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned
احترت اديله 4/5 ولا 5/5 .. الكتاب رائع وعملي ومفيد جداً جداً ، والكتاب أكثر إمتاعاً وأقل تكراراً ومللاً من "الرجال من المريخ والنساء من الزهرة" .. لولا الفصل الأخير - العاشر - كان استحق ال 5 بجدارة

عموماً هو من الكتب القليلة اللي ناوي أقرأه تاني وتالت إن شاء الله
Feb 20, 2009 Susanna rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Actually marking this book as "read" is a total lie. Very rarely do I not finish a book and up until now I have never thrown a book across the room in a display of displeasure and frustration. This book infuriated me. A very close friend of mine recommended the book to me and swore up and down that it truly helped her with her relationships. I could only read the first two chapters before I threw the book across the room and decided enough was enough. The author's views are extremely esoteric, s ...more
Jun 29, 2012 Janet rated it really liked it
John Gray's books still hold lots of ideas about sex roles that I don't relate to, or am somewhat uncomfortable with, but this title seems to carry some scientific thoughts on the different ways that men and women handle stress that can lead to misunderstandings. But I'm guessing that no matter how many books I read about male-female relationships, they will continue to baffle me :-)
Mar 21, 2009 Desislava rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoy John Gray. He is my favorite author and teacher on relationships. By learning the differences between men and women , it is so much easier to keep a healthy relationship. this book is about how men and women act differently to every day stress. I have most of his books and never been dissapointed. He is great.
Jun 18, 2009 Katie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is the best! I feel so much happier and less stressed!!! Jared has seen and benefitted from the dramatic lessons I've learned that are contained in this magic book :) I have a little bit left to go, but as soon as I'm done I think he will read it too.
Amina Al motery
Dec 12, 2014 Amina Al motery rated it really liked it
Shelves: amor-marriage
very helpful book to understand how both man & woman deal with stress and then collide, in addition of the tips to bring peace at home through communication & well chosen words
Fatimah F Almomen
Aug 24, 2012 Fatimah F Almomen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Zianab Almomen
Recommended to Fatimah by: Fatimah Almomen
رغم أني قَرأته بتثاقل واضح , إلا انه مفيد حقا
يجيب على الشباب قراءته قبل الزواج و بعد الزواج ..

سأعيد قرآءته يوما من الأيام
May 27, 2014 Emily rated it it was amazing
Shelves: selfies
Love this book! This book gives the scientific reasons why men and women are different and why we act the way we do and how to deal with those differences. This was so insightful, so interesting, and so helpful!! It's like suddenly the whole world makes SOOO much more sense. The advice he gives for how to help manage stress really makes sense and so far as worked for us what little we have started to put into practice. This is a book I feel everyone should have to read in like a high school heal ...more
Julie Barrett
Oct 30, 2014 Julie Barrett rated it really liked it
Why Mars and Venus collide: improving relationships by understanding how men and women cope differently with stress by john gray
Love the series and know I will gain a lot of knowledge from this one even if some of the problems don't relate to me directly.
Lot of technical information about the parts of the brain and in each how they effect us.
So much hormone discussions and how to achieve the highest level possible and what actions you can take to help yourself and your spouse.
I received this boo
Dana Nelson
It took me a long time to wade through this but it wasn’t due to the content. It was very interesting and I learned from it. The problem with non-fiction is there’s not much plot to draw you in. ;)

There’s no need to read John Gray’s first book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus before reading this one but it does explain the whole “Martian” and “Venusian” concept. There’s only a little repetition between the two. This book actually scientifically explains some of the things mentioned in his
May 13, 2008 Kathy rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone in a relationship
I have already recommended this book to many of my friends who are in relationships as this is a must read as all the things talked about in this book will pertain to your situation at one point or another.

Here is a review" The unprecedented levels of stress both men and women are experiencing is taking a toll on our romantic relationships. Whether single or in committed relationships, we are often too busy or too tired to sustain feelings of attraction, motivation, and affection. Everyday stre
Cik Aini
Gray reinforced the differences between men & women and how they need to understand, and connect to their spouse. It's a continuation from successful bestselling book, Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus. As much as I would like to rate this a 5-star, there's no fresh ideas here except in few chapters, since the formula/ideas had been introduced in his first book. But still, it's an indeed a good book.

I learnt about oxytoxin - hormone related to love. Women produce oxytoxin as a way of
Jun 20, 2013 gramakri rated it liked it
Due to biological differences between men and women, they react to stress differently. If both the sexes appreciate and understand this fact, they can reduce conflicts between them and strengthen their relationship. This is the theme of this book. The author then goes on to describe why men and women fight with each other and gives some tips on how to resolve such fights. The tips given are high on formality and rather mechanical. Not sure whether these can be effectively applied in every cultur ...more
Kathy McDowell (Ryan) Miller
I wouldn't waste my time with this book. The constant repetition (to fill up the book?) drove me nuts! This book appears to be written solely to make money off the Mars & Venus franchise; no life-changing information or advice provided. There is some good advice for communicating with your partner BEFORE problems escalate, but if a couple is already fighting and misunderstanding one another, this book does not contain the answers you are seeking.
Swety Retna
Mar 20, 2013 Swety Retna rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Buku ini benar-benar fakta :D saya bisa berkata demikian karena memang benar-benar terjadi. Pada masa sekarang, wanita dan pria (suami-istri) sama-sama bekerja. Pulang ke rumah dalam keadaan dua-duanya lelah. Lalu wanita masih punya banyak daftar pekerjaan rumah yang harus diselesaikan.. sedangkan pria butuh waktu untuk rileks. Saat wanita ingin segera menyelesaikan semua PR nya, pria justru lebih ingin istirahat sembari nonton tv. Wanita merasa terabaikan dan tidak dibantu, pria merasa wanita b ...more
John Gray, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships, and the author of fifteen books, including the internationally bestselling Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. Gray's new book Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress, focuses on the ways that men and women misinterpret and mismanage the stress in their daily lives, and how these reactions ultimately affect th ...more
Aug 04, 2009 Cameron rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I wasn't sure what to expect when I started reading this book my the well known author of the Mars - Venus fame. I was listening to an icast and heard him speak, I was impressed. Gray referenced this text and how he ties male and female differences back to biology. He raised my curiosity. I found the book to be of value. There are the lists of things to do and what not to do in relationships, you'd expect that. Yet some of the other insights were outside of pop psychology and grounded in researc ...more
Nov 19, 2013 Etienne02breton rated it really liked it
Une belle surprise! J'avoue que je n'etais pas tres sur au debut, car ce n'est pas vraiment mon genre de lecture, mais j'ai tout de meme plonge dedans et j'ai bien apprecie l'experience. Malgre certaines longueurs et repetitions, particulierement sur la partie des disputes, ce livre apporte un questionnement et des reponses aux nombreuses differences entre les hommes et les femmes. C'est un livre qui aide a comprendre notre partenaire de vie, mais aussi a se comprendre soi-meme. Concret, pres de ...more
Nia Nymue
Nov 26, 2015 Nia Nymue rated it did not like it
A lot of nonsense,and I thought maybe it's more helpful to think of it as Feeling Types VS Thinking Types. Some of the things he suggests is just plain ridiculous, buy there are some useful things also if you can bear to comb through. Or read it as satire and you might enjoy it more.
Aug 11, 2008 Heather rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: everyone
another great learning book. I like how it talks about coping with stress and how men and women deal with stress differently. I liked this quote "A man does not spend his life looking for someone to love him. Instead, he looks for someone he can be successful in loving." pg. 92 also "A woman's happiness and energy levels come from the oxytocin producing acts of nurturing and being nurtured, while a man's happiness and energy levels come primarily from the testosterone producing act of making a d ...more
Omar Taufik
Oct 19, 2014 Omar Taufik rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Wonderful book !

A good follow up reading on the 1st book " Men are from Mars,Women are from Venus" which is the foundation for reading this book.

With the background from the first book,the author provides more detailed insights on Male/Female difference going into Brain Differences to Hormone Differences to them reach the Anatomy of a Fight.

Some interesting points include:
The 90/10 Solution.
Venus Talks.

I realy loved the last chapter (10) " Looking for Love in all Right Places" which realy inspir
Jun 25, 2008 Maria rated it liked it
I did not pick up this book because I think I need to improve our marriage, but I did get the book because I read in a review that it gave really great insight and suggestions for women on how to approach their husbands in stressful times to still get the help the woman needs. I find I bottle a lot of my stress inside because Mark is already stressed and I don't want to add to it, so hopefully this book will help me see a way to help us both deal with it better and still be able to have enough s ...more
Amoi Munira
Feb 22, 2015 Amoi Munira rated it liked it
oxytocin and testesterone did play role in both gender. but this book really help me understand man a lot and my self too. got lot of credit from my man since i read this book, and he didnt even know.
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