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You Are Your Child's First Teacher: What Parents Can Do with and for Their Children from Birth to Age Six

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Nowadays parents are bombarded by any number of approaches about how to be with their children. YOU ARE YOUR CHILD'S FIRST TEACHER introduces a new way of understanding the human being so that parents can be best equipped to serve as their own children's best teachers. Chapters include: Caring for the Newborn, Helping Your Toddler's Development, The Development of Fantasy ...more
Paperback, 400 pages
Published August 1st 2000 by Celestial Arts (first published May 1st 1989)
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Aug 28, 2009 Jenny rated it really liked it
Full of great insights and ideas for the first few years of Life. Some of the Steiner-based stuff gets a little "woo-woo" for me, but it's easy to skip over it and take the rest. Great recommended-reading lists at the end of each chapter too, though my old edition, which was from the library, had a fair number of out-of-print books still listed.

Among the many "Aha!" revelations for me in the book was the observation that babies, toddlers, and preschoolers (to age 7, according to Waldorf child-de
Marissa Morrison
Oct 14, 2009 Marissa Morrison rated it it was ok
I skipped the first chapters, which are about birth and babyhood. There's some interesting stuff here about the importance of play, but also a lot of speculative mumbo jumbo. For instance: "The dreamy state of early childhood is an essential element in the healthy formation of the physical body during the first seven years. The intellect is crystalline and hardening in its effect. When it is engaged prematurely, it can inhibit the proper development of the physical organs and the unfolding of th ...more
Jan 19, 2011 Gail rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Parents/prospective parents curious/interested in Waldorf
Shelves: parenting
If you hadn't gathered this by the description or other reviews, this is a book based on the Waldorf principles. Turns out there are a lot of elements of the Waldorf approach that I really like. Parts of it seem a bit much, but overall there are many things I agree with like simplifying life, minimal material items, emphasizing pretend play, encouraging music and art, not pushing children to excel beyond their years, giving them time to be children, no TV/computer for little ones, no silly "enri ...more
I love the premise behind this book, but the execution didn't work for me. There's too much touchy-feely/woo-woo/philosophical weirdness going on. There's quite a bit of talk about religion/spirituality, which isn't my cup of tea, and which I don't think was at all necessary in this book. And some of the author's ideas are just wacky.

She claims you should never read more than one book to a child at a time, even if they want you to, because it's not good for their soul. Yes, you read that right.
Stacey Miner
Mar 20, 2013 Stacey Miner rated it it was ok
The title and description of this book are entirely misleading. I don't know exactly what I expected going into it, but I can tell you what I did not expect. I didn't expect to be reading a 370 page advertisement for Waldorf schools. There was some useful information, tips and tricks, mixed into it all, but for the most part I felt like I was reading a spiritualist's guide to figuring out how to pay for private preschool for your children. At first everything seemed dry and scientific, but then ...more
Ashlyn Hunt
Jan 17, 2013 Ashlyn Hunt rated it liked it

The Rudolph Steiner philosophy is sublime, serene, magical . . . conducive to a utopian existence - of which we do not exist. I want so much for my toddler to be separated from the social media that our western culture harnesses. But in all reality, it's utterly impossible to detach him exclusively from television or any other media outlet that doesn't promote pure, unadulterated goodness.

You Are Your Child's First Teacher was well written, and I embrace Rahima Baldwin's standpoint with the utm
Jul 01, 2007 Mary rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: all parents of young children, and parents-to-be
I am in the middle of this book, and am finding that I want to underline, dog-ear, and discuss something on every page! I am new to learning about the different educational theories, and this is the first book from a Waldorf perspective that I've read. There is so much valuable information- some highlights for me have been:
-having 'rhythym' in daily life- not strict scheduling, but a flexible predicatablilty to the days that help give kids structure, and help keep the household running more smo
Nov 03, 2007 Rebecca rated it liked it
I have been curious about Waldorf education and wanted to get a flavor for it without going directly to the Rudolf Steiner primary writings. I learned that a lot of the philosophy is similar to what I already do, I'm just not as extremist about it. I have two renewed goals after reading this book, (1) instead of purposely doing chores when the children are otherwise occupied, to do them with or at least in front of the kids, so that they can either "help" me or at least learn to respect letting ...more
Jan 31, 2009 Kate rated it it was amazing
I read this book a long time ago, and it shaped a big part of my parenting....I am rereading it now and still love so much of its wisdom. It's preachy (as are all parenting books) but I continue to pick and choose little nuggets to help with day-to-day life with the children
Jun 22, 2013 Ashley rated it did not like it
Shelves: attempted, kiddos
Whoa, kooky. The first two chapters had some good information, but after the rainbow bridge, I was done.
Jun 17, 2015 Sarah rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I rated this book four stars based on what I got out of it, which I will mention following. However, there is a lot of other topics, principles, viewpoints, etc of which I do not agree or really think are unimportant. I will not go into that but just disclosing that I tend to overlook the things I could criticize about Many books.

What I did like about this book is her explanations about how toddlers learn - through their bodies, motion and imitationThis is very applicable to me right now and was
Jun 09, 2013 Lex rated it liked it
Loved some of the ideas in this book, especially rhythms, simple toys, and encouraging creativity. While I prefer the Montessori philosophy to Waldorf, I think everyone can take some great ideas from this book. I read it when my daughter was a newborn, and it really helped me fit her into my daily life as opposed to trying to entertain her all the time. That being said, this book is geared towards stay at home parents, which I am lucky enough to be, but I think it would be hard to use a lot of t ...more
Nov 18, 2008 Melissa rated it really liked it
This book was recommended by Hank's Waldorf is a parenting book based in part on Ruldolph Steiner's philosophies...but it isn't too extreme in its "Waldorf-ness". Rahima Baldwin Dancy happens to live in Boulder and runs a childcare/preschool program here-- but this book is considered one of "the books" for Waldorf parenting, and with good reason; it follows a really developmentally appropriate approach to nurturing the inner life of young children (i.e. does not push extreme early a ...more
May 02, 2010 Ariana rated it really liked it
I liked this book overall. A lot of the information (particularly about infant care) seemed a bit obvious, but there was a lot of interesting ideas as well. This book was largely influenced by the work of Rudolph Steiner, whose writings form the basis for Waldorf Schools. I appreciate the strong emphasis on art and music, as well as a belief in minimizing TV watching and respecting children's natural development. I had some difficulty with some of the more metaphysical beliefs regarding incarnat ...more
Jun 13, 2008 Laura rated it it was amazing
A great Waldorf inspired classic. This book will reassure you as a stay at home parent that the first three years are crucial, and that you should trust mother's intuition. If you are wondering what you should be doing all day, it is full of gentle suggestions about how to integrate your child into your family's lifestyle, by using everyday chores as teachable moments. It emphasizes reading, nature hikes, and other gentle, healthy ways of parenting.

I get tired of people rushing their 2 years old
Jul 07, 2016 Laura rated it really liked it
This book was hard to for me to get through, but I took a lot of notes and it really was a wealth of information. I dont't agree entirely with the philosophy or spiritual side of the Waldorf method, but I appreciate the play-based approach to education and the slow growing up process at Steiner emphasizes. I liked be idea of utilizing rhythms into our days, creating peaceful and unhurried environments and offering creative and in maintains play for my boys. I'll definitely be returning to my not ...more
Jun 29, 2008 Bax rated it really liked it
Shelves: philosophy, psych
Pros: Lots of excellent information about the stages of early childhood & good practical advice on the most effective way to engage them. I liked all the Rudolph Steiner/Waldorf School stuff.

Cons: Presents some dumb crap in an IMHO misguided effort to be 'balanced'.

Overall, an interesting and informative read and the stupid stuff is easily ignored.
May 23, 2016 Ardyth rated it it was amazing
You know, this is a book I didn't think I needed to read. How many parenting and early childhood philosophy / how-to books are necessary? And my son is three, so I figured I'd spend most of the time feeling guilty about my mistakes. But a friend loaned it to me, and I need to return it soon, so I buckled down...

Happy to say I was wrong. This is not a guilt book! It's not a spend-all-your-money-on-learning-materials book!

In fact, it can be summed up pretty well by a phrase straight out of a Tar
Jul 17, 2013 Stephanie rated it it was ok
Shelves: parenthood
Some great thoughts from Baldwin Dancy but also a whole lot of nonsense. I was very turned off by angels having a part in child development and there were several issues I took with the discussions of proper weaning and even a crying it out approach of three minutes or so. I don't think this book lived up to its recommendation by attachment parenting friends. Although Waldorf is one of my favorite methods and styles, I feel this book made me enjoy the theories behind Waldorf less instead of more ...more
Oct 10, 2013 Meghan rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
3.5 Stars.

Like most parenting books, you take what's useful and leave the rest behind. As others have noted, this is considered one of the Steiner/Waldorf bibles. I don't dig on the anthrosophy or some of the other Steiner theories of learning. But other pieces are imminently appealing.

I do believe there is something here for many mothers--not just Waldorf or Waldorf-curious--and especially those of us who are home with our kids and who tend to question our choices (big and small). What I like
Jamie is
Jul 05, 2015 Jamie is rated it it was ok
Full of oddly specious reasoning and spiritual laden language, like playing with wooden toys is spiritually better for children (no reasoning to back up). Receives a second star for being a good intro to Montessori educational principles, some of which I agree with, but only to a certain extent (for example, scientific studies demonstrate that children need lots of unstructured play time but also I think it's established and important that structured teaching time is important as well)
Feb 21, 2016 Miranda rated it liked it
A little new age but the actual recommendations fell in line with my own thinking: simplifying the family, finding a rhythm or balance in the home life, providing plenty of time for creative play, etc. Some things I could have done without - lots of emphasis on the mother staying home, seemed to discourage reading (even if the child is ready for it), etc. Still worth a read to get a different perspective on parenting.
Deirdre Keating
May 13, 2008 Deirdre Keating rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, parenting
My favorite parenting book. It's based on Steiner's philosophy, and like any book, you have to take much of it with a grain of salt (I don't think reading more than one book at a sitting has any negative effects). Still, I love so much of what I found here (and didn't find anywhere else) in terms of creating a routine in the home (beyond just bedtime/naps), learning about different needs based on a child's age, and celebrating as a family.

She also emphasised the need for any care-giver of child
Although I have a number of things I disagree about the fundamentals of Waldorf approach, some parts or chapters of this book are quite useful to new parents especially. Only some.
Dec 31, 2015 Lordden rated it did not like it
She recommends lying to children about the natural world instead of giving age appropriate explanations in order to preserve their sense of wonder.
Pranada Comtois
Apr 10, 2012 Pranada Comtois added it
Recommends it for: Parents
Recommended to Pranada by: Friend
Ms. Dancy speaks about educating children from newborn through teen years from a Montessori perspective in the home. I'm not a sold-out fan on Montessori principles; I like Waldorf, too, for encouraging critical thinking skills. But there's tons of really great information here to help parent's into a mindset of opening their children to the world as their guides. If I knew about the title when my granddaughter was born I would have gotten it sooner. There is solid insights into a child's develo ...more
May 07, 2008 Nicole rated it really liked it
I think this is worth a read for most parents, particularly those interested in waldorf. I knew much of the information presented already, but it did help me solidify my determination to let my children be children, not public school students in the making from birth. While I don't agree with *every* aspect of the waldorf viewpoint, I certainly see its many merits, such as the focus on the development of the entire child - not just academics - and the need for peaceful routine. It also gave a re ...more
Nov 29, 2014 Nicki rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: y2014, non-fiction
I really liked this book when I started reading it, but as I read each subsequent chapter I found more and more things that I didn't agree with or otherwise put me off. Chapters 9 and 10 seemed like no-brainers; covering things like drawing and painting, and singing to your child. And chapter 11 might as well have been an advertisement for Waldorf schools and supplies. I found a few helpful or inspiring things in most of the chapters, but overall I found this book a bit too new-age and flakey.
Jan 25, 2010 Sandra rated it it was amazing
An absolutely wonderful introduction to the Waldorf philosophy. I knew there were aspects that I would like, but I am much more impressed. Let young children be children!

However, what I didn't realize is that Waldorf isn't just freedom, imagination, and fairy tales. It also advocates classical education once children are developmentally ready for it, and not before. I don't agree with absolutely /everything/ but there is definitely a lot I want to incorporate when we have children.
Jan 04, 2009 Melissa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am already such a guilt-ridden person that this book was tough for me--it left me worried that I have already ruined Tennyson's brain by letting her watch 30 minutes of TV a week. Thankfully I have sane friends around me to make me feel better. Seriously, though, the book is thoughtful and--although more extreme than what I think I ultimately believe will work for my family--it definitely has made me at least aware of possible ramifications of choices I make for little T.
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RAHIMA BALDWIN DANCY is internationally known as a Waldorf early childhood educator, author of "Special Delivery," and coauthor of "Pregnant Feelings." A mother of four, Dancy is a founding board member of LifeWays North America and co-founded/directed Rainbow Bridge LifeWays Program in Boulder, Colorado. Currently, she is the director of Informed Family Life, through which she organizes national ...more
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