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Her Best-Kept Secret: Inside the Private Lives of Women Who Drink

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In the first book to document that American women are drinking more often than ever, and in ever-larger quantities, journalist Gabrielle Glaser explores the reasons behind this hiding-in-plain-sight epidemic—and why the most common remedy for it, enrollment in AA, is particularly ineffective.

Gabrielle Glaser began noticing a shift in culture after the birth of her third c
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Published July 2nd 2013 by Simon & Schuster
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Jenny Sullivan
Being a member of AA, I was very interested to read this book. I did enjoy much of the historical account of drinking, especially how it pertains to women. The marketing of wine to the American Housewife was hilarious. I see people posting about needing wine, or other booze, at the end of the day, to deal with kids, husbands, etc- and it is totally accepted. The fact that this author went to TEN meetings of AA is a ridiculously small amount to be writing about it as she did. 90 meetings in 90 da ...more
Naomi
Read my full review: http://bit.ly/170BMeS

My opinion: As a former addictions counselor who specialized in adolescent female addictions, I must be honest in stating that this is THE WORST book on special populations addictions I have ever read. It was much more of a 196 page drama central magazine article, AA bashing bonanza, and advertisement for an alternative treatment program, which in the way Ms. Glaser wrote about the program I had to wonder if she doesn't have an investment in the organiza
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Joy Matteson
Ms. Glaser has done three years of research on the relationship between women and alcohol. She has interviewed multiple women for this book, and did extensive background research on Alcoholics Anonymous, and taken the time to gather many statistics on the effects of alcohol on women. I think many people know that alcohol can affect women much more quickly and detrimentally than men (which is unfair! Ugh.), but Ms. Glaser also tells you why this is the case.
I can tell many people will not like t
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Counselorchick
First of all, we should all be thanking Gabrielle for this most important work. It's about time. For those of us who have been working for years to reveal the truth behind the lies of 12 step programs, this work is long overdue. Glaser's perspective comes from a journalistic viewpoint. She has no horse in the game other than the truth. The journalistic truth. The care for women. Hopefully, this will give steppers pause with their typical "you're killing alcoholics by turning them away from AA," ...more
Ed
Long overdue exposure of the revolving door con came that "rehab" is in the U.S. - especially for women. Also accurately reports on the failure of AA to protect women, as well as its terrible "success" rate for anyone.

Along with Fletcher's recent "Inside Rehab" it seems we're finally getting some accurate reporting on what actually works to offset 75 years of AA's mythology and failure.
Cara Fox
Came across this book and thought it would be an interesting read after a series of joking conversations with other mom friends about how we drink so much more since we became moms, or (for those of us who work) drink so much more on the days we are home with our kids. This was a quick and interesting read, although not what I expected going into it. It was a pretty thoroughly researched account of the history of alcohol and women - how attitudes and perceptions of women who drink have changed o ...more
Intplibrarian
This is a great book for an introduction. In other words, it does NOT get heavily into the science and the studies it references. You'll have to do that on your own if you want more detail, but unlike at least half of addictions books it DOES include those evidence-based references.

I've seen other reviews upset that the author "bashed" AA. Honestly, I don't think she did... she merely explained why some people don't find that the ideal solution AND explained, with citations, why. She never says
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Gail
I love books that push my envelope. Never questioning judges, courts, treatment advertisements; I thought faith based 12 step programs were the only options an abuser of alcohol had to find and maintain sobriety. Having to create some kind of higher power and give up oneself to that higher power was counterintuitive. Because of Glazer's impeccable research, a new world of recovery has become available to those living this nightmare all the while blaming themselves and suffering the guilt of bein ...more
Pamela
Interesting history of how AA deals and.has dealt with women who have a drinking problem opposed to men. The double standard infiltrates every area of our lives. Trying to juggle careers, marriage, raising a family, keeping the household organized and the stressors of the world, many women, it seems, have turned to alcohol. Not all become alcoholics of course but it has become an issue in our society. Interesting read.
Amy
AA isn't for everyone, but it works for a lot of people--including a lot of women (one of them being me). Also, it's everywhere, and unlike Glaser's pricey "Twenty-First Century treatment," it's absolutely free. More about the book and the issue in my piece for the Atlantic:

http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/arch...
Liz
A smart, open-minded analysis of the psychology and history behind women and alcohol consumption in the United States. I found Glaser's approach informative and refreshing. Though I consider myself educated and informed, I have never come across a smart look at alcohol. I've always felt that the story we tell ourselves as a society about alcohol is too emotional, isolating and damning to many. A well-researched, thought-provoking book that raises important questions about the status quo.
Tipsy Lit
Right out the gate I need to make a confession. When I was approached for this assignment I thought it was an adult contemporary novel which is my genre of choice. Happily I agreed to review a novel called, “Her Best Kept Secret” by author Gabrielle Glaser. Imagine my surprise when the book showed up and the full tile was, “Her Best Kept Secret – Why Women Drink – And How They Can Regain Control. This story provides endless entertainment for my girlfriends who know I love my wine and write eroti ...more
Alexa
Interesting historical perspective on women and alcohol, with some critique of AA toward the second half of the book. Well, not a critique of the 12 steps exactly, but a bit of historical context on women's role (or lack thereof) in the formation of the program, the lack of good studies done on the effectiveness of the program (which the author admits would be hard to do, given the "anonymous" part of AA--but she questions why it's the go-to program given that reality), and the fact that it's mo ...more
Tara Hun-Dorris
This is a short, easy read. I like the author's general question of why we don't treat addiction with evidence-based approaches as we do other chronic diseases. However, I do not trust her use of numbers/data, and the research probably could have been more in-depth.
Anni
Interesting read. Should have been longer. I've been intrigued for some time the fascination of women with wine. Interesting history on prohibition and the women that were in Favor of it (and against it). Also, unique take on women in AA which the book basically made seem like a molest fest against women.

It wasn't super "self help" which was good because it was not why I was drawn to it. I wanted to read about the societal impact of what appears to be a relatively new fascination of women and w
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Kate Buntenbach
Gabrielle Glaser should have stuck to the historical aspect of women and alcohol because that is as far as her knowledge goes. Her assertions are ridiculous and she is definitely not an authority on addiction. This book will likely do more harm than good for any woman struggling with alcohol. AA is certainly not the only path to sobriety but her arguments against it are complete bullshit and anecdotal at best. This book did not provide any great alternatives to AA so I am left just scratching my ...more
Dale Stonehouse
This is a very important book as a stepping stone to fully exposing 12-step programs for what they have always been - an attempt to restore addicted people to making a contribution to a growing economy. More than that, it exposes the shabby treatment women receive too often in AA groups, up to and including sexual abuse and rape. Even absent this evidence, the traditional approach to substance abuse has never worked for those for whom trauma in childhood or as adults is the root cause and the ad ...more
Kasia
This book starts off as "Lean In" with a glass of wine. I was most interested in this first quarter which discusses why women's drinking is becoming so common. It discusses the history of women's association with alcohol (fascinating!) and continues to discuss societal pressures on women today, i.e. especially those charged with full child-rearing responsibilities and those trying vainly to balance work-and-home, and how these pressures compare to those of yesteryear (leading them to drink). Thi ...more
Kimberly
Initially I expected this book to be judgmental of women who drink, but on the contrary it was a very insightful examination on exactly that cultural bias. From the early advertisements to sell wine to women to the unwelcoming response they receive when seeking help, Her Best-Kept Secret covered the full range of the female perspective on alcohol consumption and abuse. As a woman who chooses to imbibe responsibly and in moderation, I was both shocked and fascinated by the reported indiscretions ...more
Patricia
I think it discusses some of the reasoning why many women drink to excess these days, though I feel that the answers she give are only accessible to wealthy women. What she should have gone into are other approaches to 12 step programs as well as research and other books people can read. I also felt like she didn't provide enough empirical evidence regarding how the working mother's role is still 100% working and 100% mother.

Joyce
Found some interesting ideas in here. I'm a little disappointed at the narrow niche of women who drink that is portrayed - primarily middle or upper class women who use wine to excess. The author makes some disturbing points about AA and gives a nice plug to a couple who run a 5-day retreat in California. But overall, this only looks at a sliver of the alcohol problem and perhaps the easiest sliver to treat.
Lurdes
Drawing from statistics, news trends and social mores, Glaser explores how dramatically the relationship between women and drinking has evolved in the last century. She dedicates plenty of pages exploring how AA may not be the most suitable treatment option for females and too few pages delving into more effective approaches, but the book still contains lots of worthwhile insights.
'jean
It was an interesting read, and pulls together various things that you know, but maybe hadn't connected. It seemed like more than half the book was on AA and how it didn't work for many women out there (a historical perspective). A worthwhile read.
Yvonne
In this book, Glaser examines the growing trend of women who admit to problematic drinking habits. She looks at the history of Alcoholics Anonymous & at how many women have found AA to be ineffective and in some cases, harmful, and she provides several other alternatives to AA, including a prescription medication which decreases cravings by blocking the endorphins produced from alcohol. The drug does not prevent drinking completely, but tends to decrease the number of drinks per day.

It's an
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Katrina Knittle
Goodreads win. Will read and review once received.

I though this would be an interesting book to read. It ended up being interesting and informative at certain points. The book seemed pretty well research in my opinion on the history of alcohol and women. I thought the part on AA was interesting and in a way I agree with the author. I think this book is worth a read for any women.
Emily
I can absolutely recommend this book to any woman who has ever had a moment of concern about her drinking, or her friends' drinking. Filled with interesting historical and scientific research, as well as insights that will have you nodding your head in "aha" agreement. For me, the author got overly bogged down in AA bashing. I get what she is saying, but the "Thirteenth Step" chapter really read like a 60 Minutes-style exposé that I could have done without. So I skimmed that part. Overall, glad ...more
Jessica (Chapman) Chappell
Only interesting part was historical. Read like the author has a real grudge against AA. Did not come across as an actual investigative work.
Leigh
Heavy on the statistics and lacking a lot of emotion. The writer seems very bitter.
Becky Sandham Mathwin
Thought provoking. I particularly enjoyed the chapters on the history of women and alcohol in the U.S. and Alcoholics Anonymous-I learned quite a bit. I can definitely see how the author's focus on the limitations of AA and alternate treatment options that allow for drinking in moderation could upset some but I thought it was refreshing to read a different perspective. AA has helped many but the total abstinence/12 step treatment model does not work for all problem drinkers. Ms. Glaser obviously ...more
Kirsti
Very compelling book argues that alcoholism among women is getting more common and that AA doesn't work as well for the typical man as it does for the typical woman. The author isn't a scientist, but she constructs arguments well and uses a lot of facts and data to buttress her case. I especially liked reading about new, research-based treatments for problem drinking.

This book taught me the term 13-stepping, which can mean flirting with, dating, harassing, or sexually assaulting someone who has
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Gabrielle Glaser is the best-selling author of Her Best Kept Secret: Why Women Drink and How They Can Regain Control.

Glaser grew up in Tangent, Oregon, the Grass Seed Capital of the World (pop. 440). She spent her teenage summers driving John Deere combines on her family farm, listening to an unusual mix of local radio programming: the BeeGees, Marvin Gaye, Johnny Cash, and NPR. She was an indiff
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