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Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness Through Your Inner Child

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Erika Chopich and Margaret Paul show how anyone can reconnect with his or her Inner Child to short-circuit self-destructive patterns, resolve fears and conflicts, and build satisfying relationships. Healing Your Aloneness outlines a self-healing process that can be used every day to restore a nurturing balance between loving Adult and loved Inner Child.
ebook, 208 pages
Published October 23rd 2012 by HarperOne (first published July 20th 1990)
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Aug 04, 2014 Kerry rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Much of what this book had to say was credible and helpful. This book gives the reader a way of looking at pain or unhappiness and a technique through which to cope. Using an Inner Child/Inner Adult dichotomy seems appropriate, with the Inner Child expressing emotions and having the potential for great joy, with the Inner Adult being the critical, responsible part of the self who can ignore, reject, scold, or abuse the Inner Child just as an adult might to a real child. The authors suggest that ...more
Dec 03, 2009 Emily rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
this book was recommended by a good friend as one of the best books he ever read! it was really quite incredible. not for the faint of heart, anyone who would be overcome with fear of cheeziness and have to put it down, or those who would rather not admit or look at or reexperience their pain. it teaches you to journal between your inner adult and your inner child and to lovingly connect with yourself fully. i've never experienced anything like it in my life. the journaling experience it recomme ...more
It all makes sense now :)
Andrea Wright
Mar 31, 2015 Andrea Wright rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
this book makes SO much sense!!!

I love " self help" type books and this one is among my favorites. Easy to read with a practical outlook on life.... So often we want to blame others, when we had he power all along! It also seems that every Bol out there tells you to love yourself, but doesn't explain how... Defiantly loved this book.
Jan 23, 2016 Richard is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
This is a very clear and powerful book. It states the truth directly and incisively. (Yes, I wrote the same thing for 'letting go of shame''s true in both cases.)
Nov 30, 2008 April rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Ronnie
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Shannon Cox
Jan 10, 2015 Shannon Cox rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed the way it was written. It outlined why the adult-child relationship is important to nurture, why many of us don't, how to fix it, and some of the things that may hold you back along the way, filled with anecdotes and dialogues from patients.
Jan 24, 2013 Tilda rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
An excellent introduction to Inner Child work and Emotional Therapy in general. Personally, I much prefer it over John Bradshaw. My copy is full of ink, highlights and notes in the margins on every page. Really needs to be read a couple of times. Every page is a gem.
Diana Sharkey
Jan 30, 2016 Diana Sharkey rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great companion to Inner Bonding

Gives clarity to the inner bonding process. Suggest the companion workbook for the exercises that help re establish the inner child connection.
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“Our society has long diminished the importance of feelings, worshiping logic while downgrading the wisdom that comes from feelings, touting the left brain while ignoring the right. And this has created a terrible imbalance — the power of logic without the power of wisdom. Wisdom is the accumulation of all our experiences stored as emotion. When you cannot feel what is true, then you cannot utilize your wisdom.” 0 likes
“The feeling of aloneness is the hardest feeling for all of us to feel. It causes such deep pain that we all work hard to protect ourselves from feeling it. When parents and other adults reject, shame, abandon, and abuse us as children, the pain of their abandonment is so unbearable that the Inner Adult disconnects from the Inner Child so as not to experience these feelings. Then the Inner Child not only feels alone and lonely in the world, but feels alone and empty inside as well, with no one inside to protect it from being hurt by others. As we grow up, the abandoned Inner Child learns to project onto others the internal experience of abandonment.” 0 likes
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