Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve
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Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve

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With eloquence and accessibility, Dr. Aaron T. Beck analyzes the actual dialogue of troubled couples to illuminate the most common problems in marriage--the power of negative thinking, disillusionment, rigid rules and expectations, and miscommunication.
Paperback, 432 pages
Published October 18th 1989 by Harper Perennial (first published 1988)
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Melissa Lee-tammeus
I read this in preparation for CBT with couples, which I have yet to truly encounter. I found it fascinated and learned a lot about relationships overall and how easy it is to misconstrue and misinterpret those little things, making them in to big things.
Bethany Womack
Oct 02, 2012 Bethany Womack marked it as to-read
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Recommended by Dr. Sells
(Cognitive Therapy) is Never Enough.
One of the main challenges in marriage are the unwritten rules/expectations that each spouse has for the other – everything from how to give and receive love, to how much time one is allowed with friends, to the proper way to raise children, to how much time to spend with the in-laws on vacation, to any other number of things. Expectations that are never voiced allowed create havoc in a relationship precisely because they go unspoken. Furthermore, they lead to criticisms about the other person t...more
I am giving this book 5 stars because it contains, what I feel is, crucial information on how to deal with a very common issue in relationships. I do feel that this 400 page book would have been much better as a 200 page book. However, since Chapter #1 – The Power Of Negative Thinking and Chapter #13 – Changing Your Own Distortions are so vital and crucial for a healthy relationship it gets 5 stars.
Kaori Flores
Qué es lo que tratamos de decir y qué es lo que nuestra pareja entiende? Mucho más complejo de lo que creemos. La comunicación defectuosa es una de las principales causas de ruptura. Si se detecta a tiempo y se habla más para describir lo que damos a entender tanto con el lenguaje hablado y actitudes se puede llegar a una relación de pareja más armoniosa. Me ha ayudado en lo personal para concientizar las fallas en transmitir el mensaje que deseo hacia mi pareja y a su vez a hacer el ejercicio d...more
Scott Rachui
If you're into Cognitive Therapy, and if you want to use it to treat couples, this is a good book to read. Aaron Beck founded CBT, and while I disagree with the fundamental worldview on which it rests, some of its techniques are useful in treating clients. It's an enjoyable read for someone with an interest in the mental health field, but if you're someone struggling with a troubled marriage, I would encourage you to check out John Gottman instead.
The content is a little heavy. I felt like I was in a therapy session (which makes sense because the author is a psychiatrist). I did enjoy this book though because it helped me to better understand what our brain is doing when trying to resolve conflicts in a relationship. He also offers several suggestions on how to overcome those conflicts and misunderstandings. He provides several case studies to back up his suggestions.
Isabelle Bishop
I truely believe that if I had not read this book, my marraige would have failed. I broke the cycle of disfunctional living by following the advice in this book and others. I highly recommend it for anyone about to get married.
Michael Adamson
Jun 30, 2008 Michael Adamson rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Anyone
Recommended to Michael by: Self
A very important book. I recommend this book to may of the couiples I do marriage and relational therapy with. This offers several great steps and solutions in a very positve and uplifting manner.
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Despite the rather corny title, I hold out some hope that the author may have some feasible tips for communication. This is basically about overcoming problems faced by many (most?) couples.
Rachele Ludvigson
Apr 03, 2008 Rachele Ludvigson is currently reading it
I really like self-help books. This book is great in helping to overcome marriages little problems which we all have. It is helping me to see what I can do to become a better communicator.
Cesar Bianchi
This book is amazing,it is a psychological book that tells the truth about relationship and helps you sort out why your relationship has problems.. awesome book...
good book for couples having problems - gets a little technical at times but if you skip the chapters that don't apply it can be helpful
Lots of sound advice focused around issues of psychology, not spirituality.
Older book with a lot of great information ;-)
Rolandas Razma
Gets bit technical sometimes, but good book
Wish I had read this a long time ago.
Nathaniel Smith
Great couples resource.
teaching book
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