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El matrimonio amateur

3.53 of 5 stars 3.53  ·  rating details  ·  8,711 ratings  ·  735 reviews
Las estadísticas de divorcios están llenas de matrimonios en los que uno estaba hecho para el otro... Pero, a veces, sucede lo contrario: las parejas más incompatibles navegan por la vida durante años sembrando a su paso las historias más contradictorias... Porque, en ocasiones, el amor que funciona ?mal que bien? no es cosa de profesionales, sino de aficionados.
Paperback, 464 pages
Published November 1st 2006 by Punto de Lectura (first published 2004)
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Emma
Anne Tyler would laugh, I'm sure, if she read these different reactions to this book. For isn't this her point in so many of her novels? How different we all are and how easily we misunderstand each other? How one person can hate what another loves so passionately? How easy it is to miss the point, get the wrong end of the stick, fail to see what's under your very nose?

The genius of Tyler is in her understated approach to the great themes of life. Behind the seemingly trivial details of the ever...more
GeoDiva
Sep 10, 2007 GeoDiva rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: women who've been married for 7+ years
I read this book a few years ago - but it has stuck with me. The book is a portrait of a marriage between two incredibly different people. The woman is very emotional, with a flair for the dramatic. The man is very non-emotional. It paints a picture of so many marriages I have seen.

I think there comes a point in marriage where a woman realizes that she married a GUY. Sounds weird to say - but there was a part of me that imagined my husband would enjoy shopping and fashion and cry at the opera,...more
Philip
Lives In Time

For me, The Amateur Marriage represents the sixth time I have read one of Anne Tyler’s novels. On the surface it’s the story of Michael and Pauline. They meet by chance in 1941 in Anton’s, the grocery store run by Michael’s family. 1941, perhaps incidentally, is the year Anne Tyler was born.

There was a war to be fought, of course, a war that affected both of their lives. But there’s a marriage, and a child, a daughter named Lindy. Others follow, a boy and another girl. For Michael a...more
Heather
I can't believe this book is getting such high ratings.

I listened to it in audiobook format on a road trip to the Oregon Coast in 2005. It disgusted me.

Pauline is a selfish, mean spirited, horrible human being who treats everyone like dirt. Michael is a spineless whiner who rather be lazy and play the victim than take control of his life. The book consists of watching their unhealthy, selfish, pathetic relationship from beginning to end. Neither of them is likable. I don't think there is a sing...more
Elaine
it passeth all understanding that the gifted, compelling author of such innovative engrossing novels as Celestial Navigation and Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant could have put forth for publication this awkward, disjointed, banal badly written mess. what also passeth understanding is that it got published even if it was written by Anne Tyler. Apparently, no matter how bad a book is, if its author has a name, even respectable publishers will print and promote it.

There is zero character developm...more
Elizabeth
Oct 02, 2008 Elizabeth rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: Everyone
Recommended to Elizabeth by: Goodreads
Shelves: would-read-again
This book was phenomenal. It broke my heart and at the same time, evoked warm and familial feelings toward the characters.

The book takes you through the years of a marriage/failed marriage starting in 1941 and ending in 2001. Each chapter jumps forward to a new point in time for the family. That alone makes it intriguing--following the family and seeing how they change through the years.

The characters are absolutely believable. Maybe it's because I came from a dysfunctional family or perhaps I'm...more
Bonnie
Since this was written after her husband died, I thought perhaps it may have been partly autobiographical. (Well, maybe all books are.) I enjoy all her books, regardless.
Evie
Jun 21, 2008 Evie rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: Everyone
Recommended to Evie by: Everyone
AFter I read The Accidental Tourist, I went back on Amazon and bought this and Back When We Were Grownups.

I love how Tyler masks tension the characters are experiencing internally and in their relationships with descriptions of the banal. You just know someone is going to blow a gasket at any moment, but she makes the characters and the reader simmer in it, turning up the heat slowly with the passing years, seemingly meaningless squabbles, and resignation.

Pauline and Michael are just wrong for...more
Jenni
This book was recommended to me by a Christian woman who said that it taught her a lot about her own marriage. Perhaps it's not my place to judge, but I walked away from this book thinking that its message was one of anti-marriage or at least one of not getting married too young. Well, I myself was a very young bride--22 and I'll be the first to tell you marriage is work, very hard work and this book was kind of a slap in the face in a way. I HATED the characters and the fact that they were so i...more
cindy
the amateur marriage took me completely by surprise. i did not expect to love it as much as i did, nor did i expect to finish or even begin it as quickly as i did. but it was one of those situations where every free moment i had, my eyes wandered over to the book and i was just swallowing it whole the entire time. it's not very long, BUT it very well could have been. i love authors who have the capacity to write their novel without overburdening or stretching it out unnecessarily. bonus points f...more
Cristina
What I take from this book from a craft perspective is a lesson in writing sparingly. While the story spans nearly a lifetime, as Tyler looks at the marriage of two people, each life chapter is chosen, as if they were stories in and of themselves, stories that connect to create a bigger picture. In other words, she doesn't explain everything. We get glimpses, almost flashes, like we are looking at slides in a projector, of the chapters in the life and death of this marriage.
When I first began re...more
Danielle
First of all, I simply loved this book for telling a great story without using bad language or gratuitous sex scenes. I knew it could be done! Second, Anne Tyler is a great writer. She's economic in her language, but paints vivid scenes and really makes her characters feel real. Speaking of characters, this book was a fascinating look at how two otherwise good people can really bring out the worst in each other. The POV changed with each chapter, and I LOVED getting to see different sides of the...more
Jenny Brown
This was an interesting novel chronicling the marriage (and dissolution of said marriage) of Michael and Pauline. I really enjoyed how each chapter represented a different period of their lives; no awkward transitions or unnecessary info to slow things down. The book follows them from when they first meet at the outset of World War II through 1990. The chapters bound forward, aging children and spouses and the times. But ultimately, there was something too flat about the characters. I found the...more
Minh Huy
Tinh tế và có chiều sâu. Tuy nhiên với lối kể chuyện quá sức chậm rãi và không có chút gì kịch tính sẽ rất dễ làm nản lòng những độc giả trẻ.
Talia Carner
It is amazing how long a marriage can remain "amateur." Yet, with a keen eye to the characters of two good people whose incompatibilities only deepen with time, Anne Tyler portrays the kind of marriage that is all too universal: two young people, propped against one another by society and by forces of history, are bound together for a lifetime. Or is it a lifetime? Not until one of them surprises the other and snaps.

I particularly liked Tyler's masterful depiction of Pauline, a loveable, volati...more
Aubrey
Feb 18, 2008 Aubrey rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: middle-aged men and women
Recommended to Aubrey by: middle-aged women
This is a quick read. She does a good job of portraying the daily ins and outs of regular people's lives. Most of the book I felt like I was reading a 1950's version of my home life growing up in the 90's. With that said, and perhaps this is the true reality of life, the book was a bit depressing. I got to the end and thought, "Boy, I sure how this isn't how I feel in my 50's", but in a way I already do feel the way the characters do. I especially thought the party scene at the end of the book w...more
Jennifer Trendowicz
Wow. I never read Anne Tyler but I'm really excited to get into more of her books. This book was picked up at a book sale on a whim - I never nothing about it which makes it all the more rewarding because it was so good. It started a little slow but picked up quickly and I oculdn't put it down. It was a love story and a story about family but the most fascinating aspect was that it spanned over the entire lifetime of two people. Reading about different eras, from the 1940's forward, was fun. It...more
Meredith M.
All of the Anne Tyler books I have read have had some depressing undercurrents, but the quirky characters and humorous writing keeps those books relatively lighthearted, despite heavy/sad themes. This book, however, is just sad. It still has quirky characters and an interesting plot, but the humor is not really there (and is not trying to be there). It's a very realistic look at the way couples can fundamentally disagree and clash, and it's told in an honest and real way.

I would recommend it, b...more
Linera
I like the early parts the best. Wish Ms. Tyler would get out a bit more, see the rest of the world, and sheesh, her kids are like middle-aged children. But she does understand scenic action, so I'm learning something. Beginning of the novel much better than the middle. Too sweet for my taste, and characters not believable. But she is very successful, in the middle world between literary fiction and commercial fiction. Won the Pulitzer in 1988 for Breathing Lessons. Her earlier novels were bette...more
Smitha
Anne Tyler is one of the few authors I trust not to disappoint me. The initial few pages of this book were drab and unremarkable. Soon, the story picked up. Michael and Pauline are entirely mismatched, still they marry with haste, the only excuse being that the second world war had reared its ugly head and they fell into the wave of hasty marriages which occurred that time. Michael gets injured [though not during war duty] and is sent back and marries Pauline, who's the reason he joined the army...more
Jan Rice
A lot of people who reviewed this book thought that it was about a marriage in which the partners were incompatible. They were too different. He was ethnic inner city, she was of WASP heritage. Their personalities were too different. They were both stuck in adolescence, hence the amateur quality of their marriage. But for me it was Every-marriage. Of course they were of different backgrounds, with World War II acting like a giant cultural mixer. Of course they were different--opposites attract....more
Jacquelin
The Amateur Marriage by Anne Tyler begins on Pearl Harbor Day 1941 and ends on the same day 60 years later. We follow the story of Michael and Pauline Anton, from the sparks the moment they meet at an impromptu parade through their hasty marriage and slow realization that they were mismatched from the beginning. This isn’t the first Anne Tyler book I’ve read. What I always find riveting about her writing is her ability to present the nuances in the human condition and then let you identify with...more
Bonnie Brody
In this novel by Anne Tyler, two young people meet and what
should have been a fun fling ends up being, due to a twist
of fate, their marriage.

Children, suffering, growth and deaths along with years of
conflicting non-parallel existences lead to the husband re-
alizing that he must leave this stifling trap of toxicity.
The marriage has become a dynamic of two people hating each
other and bringing out the worst that each as to offer.
Neither person alne is bad but the marriage creates a dark
and lonely l...more
Strother
There are so many people with whom I want to share this book that I don't know who to pass it on to first! On one level, it was enlightening to read about a marriage that began in my grandparents' era, albeit under different circumstances, swept up in the patriotic fervor that accompanied Pearl Harbor. I also enjoyed Anne Tyler's Baltimore of the 1940s through the 1990s, recognizing fictional allusions to Eddie's and other cultural icons and smiling at each "hon." I admit I identified more than...more
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Claire
This book was passed along to me in a pile of books, and I needed something to read so I picked it up. It is a book about a mismatched couple, but I really did not like the characters or the authors way of writing. In the beginning sections of the book, there is a character Alex, who one of the main characters knows....the main character, Pauline, lies to her husband regarding Alex, and suddenly, you turn the page and it is 10 years later! What is with that??? What happened there? And, then ther...more
Lenore
I know Anne Tyler deservedly won the Pulitzer for "Breathing Lessons," but "The Amateur Marriage" is the book that blew me away ... to use a phrase. This story, "...Amateur...," is a button pusher that matter-of-factly validates family dynamics. The family circumstances may or may not be recognizable (I'm guessing they are way more common than not), but we definitely recognize the characteristics/personalities of one or more of these people ... so much so that you may find yourself joining in on...more
Jeanne
Pauline and Michael appeared to be the perfect couple, at least when they first met.

Amidst the fervor of WWII, these two young people meet and instantly fall in love. When they marry, they are amateurs, bringing little experience to the relationship. As they have children and grow older, their amateur status remains. These two simply do not know how to negotiate the ups and downs of marriage (and life).

Over the years, we witness the difficult family dynamics and wonder how these two people eve...more
Robin
Very much an Anne Tyler book, so I know several people who wouldn't like it. Her books are very realistic to me, not a bunch of fake people who all get along and do everything right. A common theme in her writing seems to be defining love. Her characters seem to think they love, although some I know argue that based on their behavior. I've learned in my own life that we don't all have the same capacity to love, the same understanding of love, or even the same desire for love. Just like everythin...more
Rae
I usually love Anne Tyler's character-driven novels. And I did love the characters in this novel. I just didn't like what they did to each other.

Tyler puts together two completely different people in a marriage that lasts 30 years before it really falls apart. They claim they never should have married, but hey, they were making it last. Then she pulled them apart in a way that just bugged me. I wanted to finish the book, but really didn't like the way it ended (or the way I felt about about the...more
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Anne Tyler was born in Minneapolis, Minnesota, in 1941 and grew up in Raleigh, North Carolina. She graduated at nineteen from Duke University and went on to do graduate work in Russian studies at Columbia University. The Beginner's Goodbye is Anne Tyler's nineteenth novel; her eleventh, Breathing Lessons , was awarded the Pulitzer Prize in 1988. She is a member of the American Academy of Arts and...more
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