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Mean Girls at Work

3.18 of 5 stars 3.18  ·  rating details  ·  107 ratings  ·  26 reviews
DO YOU WORK WITH A MEAN GIRL? "A woman's field guide to the new frontier of professional development--working with other women"

Women-to-women relationships in the workplace are . . . complicated. When they're good, they're great. But when they're bad, they can ruin your day, your week--even your year.

Packed with proven advice from two of today's leading experts in workplac
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Hardcover, 256 pages
Published November 2nd 2012 by McGraw Hill (first published October 9th 2012)
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Ron Turner
I was really irritated by it. I agree with their advice that it's always best to take a deep breath, step back and not take things personally. But we have to keep in mind that the authors are paid corporate hacks. Their agenda isn't to help you cope with anything, it's to pander to HR departments, so a lot of their advice is biased, based on what's best for your boss and not for yourself.

One particular "scenario" particularly bothered me. When faced with a case of someone printing up posts from
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Kim Heimbuch
Title: Mean Girls at Work
Author: Katherine Crowley, Kathi Elster
Publisher: McGraw Hill
ISBN:0071801045/ 9780071802048

Reviewed by Kim Heimbuch for McGraw-Hill Professional

Let’s face it; Girls are mean

5 Stars

“Mean Girls” is a book, for both men and women, who work with women who are what society might consider the “Office Bitch.” They generally are snarky, gossipy, unfocused, blame-game type women who would rather stab you in the back versus working as a team to get ahead. While these offenses can
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Jacki Leach
I wish I had had this book when I first entered the work force so many years ago.

'Mean Girls at Work' details, in a simple, concise way, how to deal with particular female coworkers; some have hidden agendas, some are jealous, some constantly talk. The authors offer 'what not to do' ('Don't Go There') and 'just what to do' ('Go There'). They also suggest that the reader diffuse their anger through exercise and/or breathing. The main idea of this fabulous little book is to teach those women affli
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Cindy
I found human interactions fascinating and complex.. so I thought oh yeah let me see how good this book would be.. and sure enough it points out all of the different types of mean girls..

Although I enjoyed this book, I felt like I already knew what the suggestions were going to be on how to deal with the different types of mean girls. They had the same type of suggestion for each type of mean girl ~ like do separate your emotions, don't go out and bad talk the mean girl, etc. etc. They suggested
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Kelley Hazen
This was a fun audiobook to narrate. Katherine and Kathi's descriptions are spot on. Their solutions make so much sense. Knowing what situations you can affect and what situations you can't, how to go about change and how to keep your self and your job safe. They've thought of everything! It's also just a lot of fun, very reassuring and a smile. Even if you have these problems at work, you remember through their humor and advice that everything is going to be OK. I hope through my narrate of the ...more
Stacy
I've worked with women my whole life, except for one whole year I worked in an office full of men and it was wonderful. There is such a huge difference between men and women. As much as I hate to say it because I am all for "girl power, sister women let's stick together!" it simply is not that way between women.

I don't even think it is just between grown up women, I have noticed the catty, aggressive behavior in a group of 9 year olds as well! My niece plays basketball on a boys team as well as
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Heather
I enjoyed the frank nature of the authors' portrayal of "mean girls" and I could easily relate to such females, in and out of the workplace. It definitely gave me a positive perspective of dealing with difficult co-workers. While some of the actions they suggest to take may not always work, (per my own experiences), I at least feel that I could use the tips they provided for dealing with my own thoughts and feelings about such situations when they present themselves. I didn't agree with all of t ...more
Jessica
I wasn't overly impressed with this book. At first I thought it would be really interesting and helpful because the authors said they were asked by a training director to give a lecture on "women haters" - women at work who are mean to other women. After doing some research they realized there was a lot of information about this topic and it turned into this book. The book is divided into types of "mean girls" from "meanest of the mean" to "passively mean" and even "she brings out your mean." Wi ...more
Tanya
In a nutshell, if someone is "mean," don't get defensive or take it personally and don't complain, "can you believe what she just said to me?" Don't bad mouth anyone and don't be overly nice, nor ignore her. Instead,, keep calm and remember she is the one with a problem, but consider if this is the right work environment for you. Be courteous and establish an unemotional relationship with the colleague. Exercise to deal with your stress.

The advice is relevant to PTA moms too not just those in t
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Kirttimukha TheCat
This book was ok. It gave a lot of different types of women that one encounters in the work place, many i could identify easily. The advice was a bit repetitive after a while. One of the weaknesses of the book is that it doesn't deal with cyclical behavior, how our own behavior can bring out the mean in other women and how to end that cycle. What is nice to hear is that this isn't usually about us, that it's often about the women who are mean and how to deal with them. They end the book with tel ...more
Kat (Kindred Dreamheart)
Ironicly, I received an ARC of this novel right when I transferred from a male dominated field environment (military) to a female dominated office environment(civillian government). Needless to say, I dived right into this short and quick read. While there are areas that certain personalities don't exactly emulate the notes from this book; I still found it greatly beneficial at dishing out advice. I only noticed today that I didn't get around to typing a review. I adore this book and I still ref ...more
Sarah
Nothing groundbreaking here. Some great techniques on how to deal with those difficult personalities at work.
Jennifer
This book is ok, though nothing really groundbreaking. Women's relationships with female coworkers are complex and often times frustrating and this book does offer pretty specific advice which is great, though nearly all advice can be boiled down to 'don't retaliate' and 'don't let her know how much this upsets you.' Which in the heat of the moment is always going to be easier said than done. Not that it invalidates the advice, but still. I think this book could have offered more in the way of d ...more
T.
Definitely useful and helpful. It is very basic, which was what I needed. My only wish was that it helped explain women who seemed to be border line or not so easily defined (i.e. can be both "very mean" and "doesn't-mean-to-be-mean"). Also concerned with the references used (not many). Would still recommend if you are facing difficulties at work or even for those in supervisory positions for the first time.
Amy
Somewhat helpful...

I'm not sure what I was expecting with this read. It is well-written and obviously thoughtfully researched, but not quite what I was searching for. It would definitely be a helpful read for a young woman entering the professional work place. I'm seeking more advanced guidance at this point in my career. It's worth a read!
Meg Caskey
Jan 03, 2013 Meg Caskey rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Co-works & friends
Pretty good, but the examples get repetitive. I started skipping the "How You'll Feel" sections entirely, as well as the "Don't Go there"and just skipped to the "Go Here" and "For the Future". But over all it helped me think about my office setting, co-workers, and even my own behavior.
I'd say any woman, professional or otherwise should give it a read.
Bunnyjadwiga
I picked this up after reading "Working with you is killing me," not so much for myself but for a friend. If I was currently actively struggling with problems with other women at work, this would be helpful, I think. As it was, I spent the entire time worrying about how I may have acted as a 'mean girl' in the past. :)
Son
Why the low ratings! This book was clear, concise and has effective tools for any woman needing to find comprehensible information about the crazy gals they work with! I will definitely keep the cheat sheet handy for hard times at work. I can literally define each woman I've worked with I this book, including myself.
Antoinette the Book Junkie
I got extremely feed up with mean girl this, mean girl that. This was a true description of the various mean girls and unfortunately there are way to many that work in the workplace and feel they are justified for there actions. This is good book if you need to familiarize yourself with 'Mean Girls'.
Jill
Had some helpful information, mostly general, but good tips on how to deal with difficult people in general. Also did a good job of giving some specific examples (although some of them were pretty ridiculous). Was also pretty repetitive in the information provided.
Juliet
Mar 06, 2013 Juliet added it
Recommended to Juliet by: http://www.learnvest.com/2013/03/how-to-deal-with-demoralizing-bullying-at-work/
Basically the tips are
Don't gossip
Do whatever it takes to remove the toxins (exercise, breathe, etc.)
Focus on your job
Stay professional
Sometimes address the mean girl, sometimes don't address the mean girl
Have boundaries
Lisa
Perhaps I should have judged this book by its cover and not expected much from a book with "means girls" in its title. The tone of this book insults my intelligence.
Bridgette
Kathi and Katherine are good friends and I have to say that this book goes beyond the workplace on how to deal with difficult women!
Robin
Another one picked up at NEIBA. We bought a copy for the library when it came out.
Easy to read and really useful.
Theresa
Ok. Mostly common sense that've already learned. However, a good resource for a new graduate
Becky Carver
wish i had the book 2 years ago when all hell broke loose......
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