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Cum să scap de Matthew

3.4 of 5 stars 3.40  ·  rating details  ·  3,263 ratings  ·  373 reviews
For once, a novel that isn't about the heroine getting the guy. It's about getting rid of the guy, and in the process, finding herself.
Helen is nearly forty, and has, for far too long, had an affair with Matthew, a high-powered, much older, attractive, married man who was once, of course, her boss. After years of being disappointed by missed dates, out-of-the-way restaura
Paperback, 504 pages
Published 2008 by Polirom (first published January 1st 2007)
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Tea Jovanović
Debitantski ženski roman... sjajan i azbavn... Kako se otarasiti ljubavnika... pri tome oženjenog... :)
In Getting Rid of Matthew, Helen finally convinces her lover to ditch his wife, but as soon as he moves out – whoops! She doesn’t want him anymore. So rather than chronicle falling in love and winning the guy, this clever novel recounts the all-too-real ways we lose interest in people – did he really leave his socks on the couch again? Has his hair always looked that bad? – and how we kick them out. But what if you happen to develop an unexpected friendship with the wife, the woman you made a cu ...more
Sep 11, 2007 Karen rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone
This was a great rid, "chick-lit" with some substance. A 30-something woman who has spent four years of her life with a married man now ends up with him full-time--and finds it is so much less than she hoped for. Well written, funny, insightful. And set in England--always a plus. Why does British slang sound so much classier than US slang?
Shannon (Giraffe Days)
Helen had always imagined that by the time she turns forty she'd have her life sorted: she'd have the job in PR she wanted, a lovely apartment in London and a man to share it with. So there was plenty of time to travel the world and go out drinking with her best friend Rachel. Now Helen's thirty-nine and waking up to the fact that none of her expectations in life have come about: she lives in a basement flat; she's stuck in a second-rate PR firm as a lowly personal assistant; she's invented a bo ...more
Sep 07, 2007 Mandy rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: women who like funny chick lit
Shelves: adult, funny
Finally finished it. It's hilarious and written with the same british humour that I've been used to of late. A friend bought it in London and read it, said it reminded her of me....and passed it on.

A woman is having an affair with a married man. Just as she decides she's getting fed up with it/him (4 years into the affair), he shows up on her doorstep having left his family and now wants to be with her.

She's less-than-amused that this has happened and decides to do everything in her power to rep
Christie Stratos
*This book was supplied to me by Audiobook Reviewer. This review was originally published on ABR's website.*

It’s a rare humor book that’s laugh out loud funny, clever, and complex all at the same time. Humor is a difficult genre to write, especially since it’s easy to alienate readers who don’t share the same sense of humor as the writer, therefore unfortunately appealing to one type of reader instead of a variety of readers and often attracting heavy criticism. Getting Rid of Matthew by Jane Fa
I have rated this book on the level which I enjoyed it rather than the quality of the writing. The writing is actually pretty good - except for the odd glitch where absent characters suddenly speak in conversations - but unfortunately this type of novel isn't my thing.

I was given a copy for World Book Night and thought I would give it a go even though I don't usually read chic lit. It isn't badly written or anything, but I didn't like the characters, the storyline or the concept.. and I didn't f
Sondra Santos
So far, so good. This is a book about a woman who years for her lover's attention outside their scheduled evenings. Once he leaves his wife for her, she's shocked to realize that she doesn't actually want him, after all.

Determined to learn more about the wife that she took him from, Helen befriends Sophie and heads into dangerous territory, trying to balance her career (where her new live-in, married older boyfriend works), her relationship with Matthew's teenage daughters and her new friend, So
Ian Mapp
Genuinely funny book - maybe the funniest of the year - and my foray into the world of chick lit.

Fallon does a great job of caustic one liners in her observations of people, although I am disappointed that she has ladies who where suspenders on her list of peole that she hates. She also paints the story of perhaps the least sympathtic character in fiction with her portrayal of a woman who has a four year affair with a married man, forces him to leave his wife and then promptly spends the rest of
(this review is also posted on my Blog)

I wasn't going to review this book, but then remembered that I pinky swore to keep things real and honest. Here it goes.

This was a book club choice by a gentleman who belongs to the group. I can't tell you much about him as it was my first time attending the Books & Beer group. He gave a lively description of the book to the group and promised that we would laugh out loud and love the book. In keeping true to my "get a book anywhere philosophy", I picke
Laura Ellison
Getting Rid Of Matthew follows the story of a successful, thirty-something businesswoman who has fallen hopelessly in love with her married boss. After years of trying - Boss Man decides to leave his wife and kids for his mistress, when surprise, surprise, she actually discovers she doesn't want him anymore...

Despite its typical, rather cliched synopsis, this novel is an exciting chick lit and an impressive attempt for a first time author. Although women are typically conditioned to despise the
There are many humorous bits throughout the book (which is a tad raunchy) that you really will laugh out loud. I mean, Fannie Flagg said "I loved it! What a terrific writer!" so how bad can the book be, right? Maybe it's just me. Or the mood I was in the other day when I read it. Or the author just made it hard to connect with any of the characters because none were fully developed. Or maybe it was the characters themselves. I mean, how do you relate to someone who vacillates between being a hot ...more
This was just ok.

The premise is that the mistress gets the adulterous husband, but then doesn't want him and so then works to get the shunned wife and adulterous husband back together.

It's interesting enough to see how things shake out, but what bothers me the most is the sympathy that I felt for the mistress even though she went into the affair knowing he was a married man. I'm also a bit bothered that throughout the book there is a running list of women the mistress hates (she figures prominen
Briana Alzola
Interesting look at what it's like on the other side of the coin: the point of view of the 'mistress.' I thought the book was entertaining but it lacked something for me. I didn't really connect with the characters and I had a hard time caring about what happened to them. I didn't really know who I was supposed to root for.
Mar 02, 2012 Iv rated it 1 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: I wouldn't recommend it at all!
What a terrible book!I struggled to like the characters and with no result.Helen is a bitch and a cow and all the annoying things,Matthew is a bastard and Sophie is boring,at least a bit likeble than the others.I can't understand how 11 years old or near this age girl will swear like a grown-up and the grown-ups have been using fuck,shit and fuck and shit every second sentence.I've red "Got you back" from Jane Fallon some time ago before this one and now I found that I'm going over nearly the sa ...more
I dithered between two stars and three for this book. It was definitely a three star until about seven-eighths of the way through - then it lost its way, and I skimmed the rest to find out how it ended, so in that sense it was a two star!

I really shouldn't have liked this book from the outset - the heroine is the worst kind of husband-stealer, one who goes into the affair knowing full well the man is married. I guess it's a compliment to the writing that I not only kept reading, I got to quite l
I don't really know what made me pick this book up as this isn't usually the sort of book that I go for but I'm glad that I gave it a chance. I read it just after I came back from holiday and really wished it had been my holiday book!

A wrong-end-of-thirty woman finally wins her guy after he leaves his wife, something she has dreamed about for years. However, a few weeks into his moving in she finds that he has more than a few flaws and sets about trying to get him to reconcile with his wife and
Caitlin E.
First of all, I did notice that this listing is for the "Traditional Chinese edition of Getting Rid of Matthew" and not the version I read (in English). With that said, the effort to find and/or enter the correct information for this novel was simply not worth it.
I've always been one to take so-called "chick lit" at face value; I don't pick up such books expecting to be wowed by the brilliant writing, thrilled by shocking twists in the plot, or emotionally shaken by the deep and real relationsh
Well, this book represented pretty much everything I hate about chick lit. Let me start by saying that I am not a fan of the genre at the best of times, so in order to be positive about any book written in it, it has to be really, really good. But this one was just really, really bad. I did finish it, as I had to read it for my book club, and although I wanted to abandon it pretty much right from the start, I persevered. That's about 7 hours of my reading life I am never going to get back.

For st
Polly James
Initially, I gave this book a three-star rating, but then decided that was unfair, so gave it a four in the absence of the option to go for 3.5.

It's an ingenious plot told from an unusual point-of-view, and with sharper edges than many chicklit novels (which is a good thing, as far as I'm concerned). I was glad that at least one aspect of the ending surprised me, and I really liked the book's lack of overt sentimentality.

Highlights were the observations on the complexities of women's friendshi
Although the plot was okay, and the book had a followable storyline, I found that I really wasn't into the characters at all. The only character even vaguely interesting and likeable was Sophie - the wife Matthew left!

From the beginning, I found this one very hard to get into - I outright disliked Matthew and I wasn't very fond of Helen, either. It did get better once Sophie came into the picture more, but for the most part I really wasn't impressed. Not one I intend to keep!
Helen was finally coming to her senses and realizing that an affair with a married man was not the right thing. Ha, it took her four years to figure it out, but she was ready to move on. Matthew however decided that this was the perfect time to leave his wife and family.
I read a few reviews and was surprised to hear how many people disliked Helen. Ok - she made a few stupid mistakes I get it. But doesn't every character in a good book? She never should have got involved with a married man true
This is one of the worst books I have ever read. The story is based on an adulturous relationship, which is repugnant. But when this woman finally gets her boyfriend to leave his wife, she no longer wants him! I never enjoyed or cared for the main character and as the book developed it only got worse. The language is rough and reason enough to NEVER pick up this book.
I read this as part of my World Book Night reading challenge and it's the first Jane Fallon novel that I've read. Narrated in the third person it's an attempt at a funny but realistic account of having an affair and the consquences.

So basically Helen's pushing forty, rents a flat and has been having an affair with a married man for four years. Not exactly her life plan. So when Matthew turns up on her doorstep having left his wife she feels guilty to let him stay. Having Matthew with 24/7 Helen
Peter Windridge-Smith
Ok, so I accept that I'm not the target audience, being a bloke. I only read it because I got a free copy of a world book night version and was curious about so called "chick lit".
It's written in a modern slightly edgy style that I appreciated and mostly I found the characters believable. I was interested to read how it all panned out but slightly disappointed that there were no real surprises along the way.
The main problem I had was that I just found the main character, Helen, very frustrating.
E.C. Adams
Definitely one of the funniest books I've ever read. Just recommended it to a GR contact who asked for suggestions for a book that would make her laugh and leave her with a happy feeling. This is that sort of book.
Carinya Kappler
This novel is a tongue in cheek look at relationships and whether their success is measured entirely on meeting the other person's needs, romantically, financially or emotionally; or whether relationships can be manufactured and maintained on the firm basis of lies, deception and fickle shallow words. This story is almost a treatise in the art of weaving lies into such a complicated web of deceit that extraction seems impossible. This is the element of suspense that holds the reader's attention. ...more
Eine Freundin brachte mir das Buch mit den Worten "Das MUSST du lesen" aus England mit und da mich ihre Empfehlungen noch nie im Stich gelassen haben, begann ich mit dem Buch - und legte es erst wieder weg als ich es ausgelesen hatte. Unglaublich witzig geschrieben, die Geschichte von Helen, deren Chef auch gleichzeitig ihr Lover ist und der seine Frau mit ihr betrügt. Für Helen ein gutes Arrangement, bis Matthew eines Tages seiner Frau alles gesteht und mit Sack und Pack vor ihrer Tür steht um ...more
Megan Baxter
I am in an emotional quandary entirely of my own making. I try to stride proudly around, claiming I'll read anything once, trying to eschew the all-too-common academic trend of looking down on popular culture or books that everyone is reading. So I make sure there are one or two recently popular books on my reading list at any one time. I'm open-minded, dammit!

Note: The rest of this review has been withdrawn due to the changes in Goodreads policy and enforcement. You can read why I came to this
As the saying goes, don't wish for what you want as you might just get it. This is the story of Helen who has been having an affair with her married boss for four years, when he decides to leave his wife for her. Helen then discovers that actually she quite liked things the way they were before - part-time. She befriends Sophie, Matthew's wife, without Sophie realising who she is, of course, initially to get information but then finds she really likes her. She decides to work out a way of gettin ...more
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Jane Fallon is an English producer and novelist, most famous for her work on popular series Teachers, 20 Things To Do Before You're 30, Eastenders and This Life. She has also written two successful novels.

Fallon has been in a relationship with popular comedian Ricky Gervais since 1982, after they met while studying together at the University College London. The couple has lived together since 1984
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“There was something about other people's grief that was so exposing, so personal, that she felt she shouldn't be looking.” 1 likes
“Back in the general office, she had to listen to Jenny and Annie banging on about how good-looking Matthew's son was and how he had obviously got all the good genes. "Matthew's first wife must have been very beautiful," Jenny was saying, looking over at Helen for a reaction.
Helen had cleaned herself up in the ladies on the way up, and now she was mascara free but still red-eyed, so she kept her headdown and pretended she couldn't hear. No such luck she would get away with that though...
"He was asking about you," Jenny shouted over. "Wanted to know which one was the slut that his dad had gone off with."
"Of course he was," Helen said sarcastically, knowing that Leo would never stoop that low.”
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