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Hanif Kureishi's fourth novel made many reviewers uneasy on its first appearance in the U.K., because it cuts so painfully near to the bone. If a novelist's first duty is to tell the truth, then the author has done his duty with unflinching courage. Intimacy gives us the thoughts and memories of a middle-aged writer on the night before he walks out on his wife and two youn ...more
252 pages
Published 2001 by Rowohlt-Taschenbuch-Verl. (first published 1998)
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لماذا يتزوج الرجل من امراة لا يحبها وينجب منهااطفال؟

لماذا يتزوج الرجل متعدد العلاقات؟

هذا هو السؤال الذى تبادر الى ذهنى وانا اقرا هذه الرواية

قريشى يصور سوزان بطلة الرواية كوحش متبلد المشاعر باردة فاقدة للاحاسيس

ويعترف انه لم يحبها ولكنه تزوجها

لم تكن من النوع الذى يثير اعجابى لكنى كنت واثقا من ان ثمة شيئا فيها يدخل المتعة الى نفسى كنت اود ان اتوقف عن رؤيتها لبضعة اشهر كى انساها ربما يمكننى عندها ان ارى كيف تبدو عن بعد

ويطلب منك ان تتعاطف مع ماساته وهذا ما لم يحدث

كيف يمكن ان يكون رجل يترك زوجته وط
Mar 08, 2009 Matthew rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
If I was ever (God forbid) asked to teach a course on the ethics of fiction, this slim novel would surely be on the assigned reading list.

Intimacy unfolds over the course of 24 hours as its protagonist, a middle-aged screenwriter named Jay, prepares to leave Susan, the mother of his two young sons. Not that he has told her he's going; he intends simply to pack his bag and slip out the door in the morning after she goes to work.

This is a case of art imitating life if there ever was one. Like his
Ian Vinogradus
A Joke Followed by an Intimacy

After reading Milan Kundera's "The Joke", I returned it to the shelf, and looked for something short to read next. Happily, I found it next to my Kunderas. I thought "Intimacy" might continue some of the themes about relationships that had interested me in "The Joke".

After finishing it, I discovered a 2001 interview with Kureishi in the Guardian in which he revealed that he had been reading "The Joke" that very morning.

In some ways, Kureishi was to the 90's what Kun
Oct 10, 2007 Núria rated it did not like it
Recommends it for: Narcisistas que pasen por la crisis de los 40. O misóginos.
Y lo que nos enseña esta obra es que la crisis de los 40 puede hacer mucho daño en algunos hombres. No porque abandonen a la mujer y a sus hijos en medio de la noche para irse a perseguir una jovencita a la que doblan la edad, sino porque sienten también la necesidad de escribirlo y acaban saliendo castañas como 'Intimidad'. Esta obra es tan narciso-nihilista que me recuerda al peor Houellebecq. Repetitiva hasta el tedio. Y como siempre este nihilismo, tan típico de ciertos autores de hoy en día ...more
After reading loads of reviews, what amazes me is that apparently not all women take this self-indulgent crap as a personal affront. Yes, Kureishi is a gifted writer. Okay, his take on the excruciating ruminations of a husband plotting to leave his family is 100% believable. But I can't get past my desire to castrate the narcissistic bastard. It must have been fun to write--a bit like writing from the perspective of a mafia hit man--without any compulsion to tie together the the disparate aspect ...more
One man pondering his life and relationships the night before he plans to leave his partner and children. Not very likeable.
Jan 27, 2008 tee rated it it was amazing
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Venkat Narayanan
I would love to give this book a 5 star rating. But only one question prevents it "What if its my father?". An excellent and extremely dangerous book. Its like Sofia Cappollo and Sam Mendes sat together to write something which is a sequel to 'Lost in Translation' and a prequel to 'American beauty'. Engaging and yet edgy Mr.Kureshi has pulled off a ripper and gives us a world of emotional-sexual turmoil(Its autobiographical you see). It is so real,for example the man watches his children with al ...more
Ana Carvalheira
Jan 31, 2016 Ana Carvalheira rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
"Esta é a noite mais triste, porque me vou embora e não volto mais".

É desta forma que Hanif Kureishi introduz-nos nesta novela que aborda as interrogações e atribulações introspetivas de Jay, prestes a abandonar a sua mulher, Susan e os seus dois filhos pequenos. "Podemos escolher entre fazer o bem ou o mal aos outros" mas a que preço? "Como é grande a inocência das pessoas quando não estão à espera de ser magoadas". Jay, ao longo da narrativa, coloca-se a si próprio o cenário de continuidade na
سعود البشر
Sep 08, 2011 سعود البشر rated it it was amazing

أحاول أن أقنع نفسي بأن ترك شخصاً ليس أسوأ شئ يمكن أن تفعله له. ورغم أنه قد يبدو، شيئاً كيئباً ومحزناً، لكنه يجب أن ألا يعتبر مأساة، فإذا لم تهجر شيئاً أو أحداً في حياتك ، فلن يكون ثمة مجال للجديد .

هكذا يبدأ حنيف قريشي في رواية الحميمية وصف الليلة التي قرر فيها “غاي” أن يترك زوجته التي عاش معها أكثر من عشر سنوات ، وطفليه الصغيرين، لأنه لم يعد يرغب في أن يعرف المزيد عنها، بعد أن كاد يعرف كل شي عنها ، ولأنه يريد أن يخاطر بمقايضة حياته المستقرة الآن ببقعة صغيرة في بيت صديقة من أجل أن يعيش علاقة مع ف
Nov 23, 2013 Alessandra rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Un diálogo interno abierto y honesto como pocos.
Oct 20, 2012 Paola rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: narrativa
Va dove ti porta il pisello...

5 stellette per aver messo in prosa una magnifica e ineccepibile razionalizzazione di un comportamento umano vecchio come il mondo, che sintetizzato sino all'osso ho espresso nel titolo.
Ci sono proprio tutti i clichés:
la vita senza amore (traduzione non scopo abbastanza);
la moglie noiosa e prevedibile, naturalmente appesantita e occupata a fare andare avanti la baracca mentre lui si macera nelle dolorosissime elucubrazioni sull'amore, il desiderio, la libertà di es
Maga Etchebarne
Jan 13, 2016 Maga Etchebarne rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
"Últimamente pienso mucho en las parejas que conozco o con las que he coincidido en algún sitio, y me pregunto cuáles siguen enamoradas. Quedan algunas. Resulta tangible, se palpa el amor que se profesan, se nota la intensidad de su placer. No hace mucho, el día de puertas abiertas de la escuela de los niños, me fijé en una pareja que no estaba absorta el uno en el otro, cada uno hacía cosas a su aire. Pero en todo momento eran conscientes de la presencia del otro. De pronto, mientras su hijo co ...more
Dec 21, 2009 Josh rated it really liked it
Shelves: fiction
I think far too many people get wrapped up in what the narrator did/does in the novel. This is an effective novel that does what it seeks out to accomplish: namely, give the run-down of a departure.

I mean, if you're going to rate a book one or two stars for diabolic behavior, I would hate to see what "Crime and Punishment" receives...
I bought Intimacy by Hanif Kureishi in a pristine hardback edition from the Children's Society charity shop in Garstang for 99p. It is a short novella length book and, written in the first person as it is, could almost be mistaken for memoir rather than fiction. I did learn, when reading other reviews after finishing, that Kureishi had actually lived out the theme - of a man leaving his wife and children - shortly before the book was published.

I was intrigued by the synopsis and hoped for a deep
"Cómo nos impregna el pasado. Vivimos todos nuestros días al mismo tiempo."
Jul 27, 2009 Eli rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
People make a lot of noise about this basically quiet and lovely book.
أحمد شاكر

باعتبار هذه الرواية، سيرة ذاتية روائية، كما أثار البعض، فيمكنني أن أقول أن هذا الرجل (حنيف قريشي) مجنون، نعم مجنون، وروايته تلك درس في: كيف تصير مجنونا، أو كيف تمشي واثق الخطي نحو الحرية، أو كيف تختار مصيرك. وهو من وجهة نظري (البطل/ الكاتب) صادق؛ مع نفسه، والآخرين. لا يريد أن يخادع. يقول: (كم من النادر حقا أن يمكننا أن تحرر من الوهم! فأنا لن أترك جنة عدن التعيسة هذه لأني لا أحبها فقط، بل لأني أريد أن أصبح شخصا آخر. حلم أو كابوس الأسرة السعيدة الذي يطاردنا جميعنا. إنها إحدي الأفكار الطوباوي
May 21, 2011 Angie rated it liked it
A very personal and intimate oration by a man who is about to walk out of his home and life (leaving his wife and two small children). It is well written, eloquent and thought provoking and I felt I could look at it objectively despite having no particular liking for the narrator who is self indulgent and pitiful to an extent, however in essence he is not able to live the life he has carved out for himself - some other reviewers seem to find this unbearable to read and perhaps morally wrong (but ...more
Jan 05, 2013 jana rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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بعد قراءة صفحات قليلة فكرت أن أتوقف ولا أكملها. شيء من الخوف القديم رفع نفسه للسطح, وليسَ في هذا أي شجاعة أعرف, لكنه هكذا جرى الأمر.
الوقوف وجهًا لوجه أمام التيّار, الصراع مع النفس, أن تعود للوراء أو تُثبت عليك نضجك ووعيك الكامل بشجاعتك. أكملتها لأنني فكرت في الليلة الواحدة التي تتوقف عليها حياة شخص ما, بطل الرواية مثلًا. أمام رغبته في العودة للحرية, لحياته وحيدًا متحرّرًا من كل إرتباطات العائلة, أن يهجر زوجته ويترك أطفاله ويرجع خفيفًا لحياته السابقة. هذا الهاجس الذي لا يغيب عن بال الأكثرية, حتّى
Jun 28, 2015 Meg rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Me lo compré y leí simplemente por esta escena en la película "Todas las canciones hablan de mí".
Quizás este libro tiene malas reseñas porque el personaje expone sus pensamientos y sentimientos más crudos casi sin ningún tipo de culpa y como se trata de una separación, puede dañar a algunos por su forma de contarlo.
"Intimidad" es casi un pasaje en su diario intimo durante la época de su decisión por querer separarse e irse con la mujer que supuestamente ama, dejando atrás a su ex-mujer e hijos
I confess: after about the 40th page I was so bored with it that I skipped to the end to see if it gets good. It does not. I'm reminded of my first go-round with Proust's Remembrance of Things Past: such long-winded narrators! I ended up dropping the class that was reading Remembrance, but at least I'm looking forward to picking it up and trying again! Not so with this one. Kureishi's ability to write a novel so sluggish and yet short doesn't mean he's a genius. It simply confirms that there are ...more
عبد الحميد بوحسين
هناك شيء ما مخيف في العلاقة الزوجية،هنا يتأمل الراوي علاقته بزوجته و ابنيه،يلتقط بعض الفلاشات من ماضيه..يتحدث عن حبيبة جديدة ف ي الليلة الأخيرة له في سجنه الحريري

كانت لدي مخاوفي الاصلية من هذه المؤسسة ،هنا أوقفتني في الكثير من الأحيان أفكار قريبة من الحقيقة و مرعبة أيضا ،أكاد أجزم أن تأملاتي في العلاقة بين أي اثنين أوصلتني الى اليأس،أن تكون حرا معناه أن لا تتزوج،لكن يظل ذلك الوهم :الحب الذي تدرك زئبقيته و مع هذا لن تعرف أبدا كيف استسلمت له ،رغم مطب الزواج القابع في انتظارك
Arda Aghazarian
"Nothing is as fascinating as love, unfortunately."

"How do I write? With a soft pencil and a hard dick - not the other way around."

The man is masturbating as his narrating goes on - and he tells us what's on his mind! Never seen this before... Daring style of writing.
From my notes of 2004: "It has a certain wisdom for anyone considering a break-up or divorce." (Hmmm!)
Apr 08, 2015 Nicki rated it really liked it
Quite a hard book to rate. I have to admit, I knew nothing about the book or author going into this, but since reading a few reviews online, it seems this is mostly thought of as a (not well at all) disguised account of the authors own life.
Obviously I feel sorry for the wife and kids having it all put out there (whether it actually is based on them, that's what people are going to think).
Well, our main character here isn't a nice man, that's for sure. I'm not sure if he is intentionally sh
Sep 08, 2013 Dina rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: contemporary
Truly impressed!Exceptionally clever and interesting!

Book deals with contemporary issues, with taboos of our time, in a most original manner.

Kureishi is really talented writer, I am no longer surprised that he is so often compared to Woolf, Proust and Cami.


Bilješke iz knjige:

"Život bez ljubavi je kao dugotrajna dosada."

"Mesecima mi je vrhunac dana bio u iščekivanju nesvesnog stanja. (...) Večeras moji dečaci i ja želimo isto: više života."

"Shvatila je da život bez njega moguć."

"Kasnije sam z
Dec 06, 2009 Sandhya rated it liked it
I had heard of Hanif Kureishi's name of course, but there wasn’t much chance I would have picked up any of his novels anytime soon had I not read about him in Amitava Kumar's highly engaging book, Bombay-London-New York. The book is about Kumar's struggle as a writer and the numerous literary influences which shaped his life and craft. The book had an enormously interesting description of author, playwright Hanif Kureishi, known for his controversial, soul-baring and highly sexed up prose. The w ...more
Evey Morgan
Apr 20, 2014 Evey Morgan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Reseña completa en el blog:

Libro realista donde conocemos a Jay un hombre casado y con dos hijos que piensa abandonar el domicilio familiar. Necesita emprender un nuevo camino, pero lejos de su Susan.

Un relato desgarrador y doloroso por la realidad que retrata. Una situación de insatisfacción personal que me ha atrapado por la pluma del escritor. Maravilloso el descubrimiento de Hanif Kureishi.

Sergio D. Lara
May 31, 2016 Sergio D. Lara rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Entré al libro sin saber muy bien qué esperar y al final quedé satisfecho. Quizás mi mayor queja es un tono de queja (sobre todo hacia el final) demasiado marcado (aunque creo, por momentos, que se trata más de un mal común a la novela contemporánea que otra cosa). Dicho esto el libro me pareció muy valioso, para disfrutarse con calma.
Telmo Fernandes
May 08, 2016 Telmo Fernandes rated it did not like it
A prova de que é possível fazer um bom filme (ou pelo menos um filme que se recorda de forma positiva) a partir de um texto medíocre, feito num registo misógino e repleto de auto-comiseração. Don't bother.
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Hanif Kureishi is the author of novels (including The Buddha of Suburbia, The Black Album and Intimacy), story collections (Love in a Blue Time, Midnight All Day, The Body), plays (including Outskirts, Borderline and Sleep With Me), and screenplays (including My Beautiful Laundrette, My Son the Fanatic and Venus). Among his other publications are the collection of essays Dreaming and Scheming, The ...more
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