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Intimacy: das Buch zum Film von Patrice Chéreau

3.57 of 5 stars 3.57  ·  rating details  ·  2,160 ratings  ·  178 reviews
Hanif Kureishi's fourth novel made many reviewers uneasy on its first appearance in the U.K., because it cuts so painfully near to the bone. If a novelist's first duty is to tell the truth, then the author has done his duty with unflinching courage. Intimacy gives us the thoughts and memories of a middle-aged writer on the night before he walks out on his wife and two youn ...more
252 pages
Published 2001 by Rowohlt-Taschenbuch-Verl. (first published January 1st 1998)
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لماذا يتزوج الرجل من امراة لا يحبها وينجب منهااطفال؟

لماذا يتزوج الرجل متعدد العلاقات؟

هذا هو السؤال الذى تبادر الى ذهنى وانا اقرا هذه الرواية

قريشى يصور سوزان بطلة الرواية كوحش متبلد المشاعر باردة فاقدة للاحاسيس

ويعترف انه لم يحبها ولكنه تزوجها

لم تكن من النوع الذى يثير اعجابى لكنى كنت واثقا من ان ثمة شيئا فيها يدخل المتعة الى نفسى كنت اود ان اتوقف عن رؤيتها لبضعة اشهر كى انساها ربما يمكننى عندها ان ارى كيف تبدو عن بعد

ويطلب منك ان تتعاطف مع ماساته وهذا ما لم يحدث

كيف يمكن ان يكون رجل يترك زوجته وط
If I was ever (God forbid) asked to teach a course on the ethics of fiction, this slim novel would surely be on the assigned reading list.

Intimacy unfolds over the course of 24 hours as its protagonist, a middle-aged screenwriter named Jay, prepares to leave Susan, the mother of his two young sons. Not that he has told her he's going; he intends simply to pack his bag and slip out the door in the morning after she goes to work.

This is a case of art imitating life if there ever was one. Like his
Oct 10, 2007 Núria rated it 1 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Narcisistas que pasen por la crisis de los 40. O misóginos.
Y lo que nos enseña esta obra es que la crisis de los 40 puede hacer mucho daño en algunos hombres. No porque abandonen a la mujer y a sus hijos en medio de la noche para irse a perseguir una jovencita a la que doblan la edad, sino porque sienten también la necesidad de escribirlo y acaban saliendo castañas como 'Intimidad'. Esta obra es tan narciso-nihilista que me recuerda al peor Houellebecq. Repetitiva hasta el tedio. Y como siempre este nihilismo, tan típico de ciertos autores de hoy en día ...more
May 05, 2008 amelia rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to amelia by: Evan
warning: if read at the wrong time, can make totally inappropriate affairs extremely appealing.
Venkat Narayanan
I would love to give this book a 5 star rating. But only one question prevents it "What if its my father?". An excellent and extremely dangerous book. Its like Sofia Cappollo and Sam Mendes sat together to write something which is a sequel to 'Lost in Translation' and a prequel to 'American beauty'. Engaging and yet edgy Mr.Kureshi has pulled off a ripper and gives us a world of emotional-sexual turmoil(Its autobiographical you see). It is so real,for example the man watches his children with al ...more
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After reading loads of reviews, what amazes me is that apparently not all women take this self-indulgent crap as a personal affront. Yes, Kureishi is a gifted writer. Okay, his take on the excruciating ruminations of a husband plotting to leave his family is 100% believable. But I can't get past my desire to castrate the narcissistic bastard. It must have been fun to write--a bit like writing from the perspective of a mafia hit man--without any compulsion to tie together the the disparate aspect ...more
Un diálogo interno abierto y honesto como pocos.
Va dove ti porta il pisello...

5 stellette per aver messo in prosa una magnifica e ineccepibile razionalizzazione di un comportamento umano vecchio come il mondo, che sintetizzato sino all'osso ho espresso nel titolo.
Ci sono proprio tutti i clichés:
la vita senza amore (traduzione non scopo abbastanza);
la moglie noiosa e prevedibile, naturalmente appesantita e occupata a fare andare avanti la baracca mentre lui si macera nelle dolorosissime elucubrazioni sull'amore, il desiderio, la libertà di es
سعود البشر

أحاول أن أقنع نفسي بأن ترك شخصاً ليس أسوأ شئ يمكن أن تفعله له. ورغم أنه قد يبدو، شيئاً كيئباً ومحزناً، لكنه يجب أن ألا يعتبر مأساة، فإذا لم تهجر شيئاً أو أحداً في حياتك ، فلن يكون ثمة مجال للجديد .

هكذا يبدأ حنيف قريشي في رواية الحميمية وصف الليلة التي قرر فيها “غاي” أن يترك زوجته التي عاش معها أكثر من عشر سنوات ، وطفليه الصغيرين، لأنه لم يعد يرغب في أن يعرف المزيد عنها، بعد أن كاد يعرف كل شي عنها ، ولأنه يريد أن يخاطر بمقايضة حياته المستقرة الآن ببقعة صغيرة في بيت صديقة من أجل أن يعيش علاقة مع ف
People make a lot of noise about this basically quiet and lovely book.
A very personal and intimate oration by a man who is about to walk out of his home and life (leaving his wife and two small children). It is well written, eloquent and thought provoking and I felt I could look at it objectively despite having no particular liking for the narrator who is self indulgent and pitiful to an extent, however in essence he is not able to live the life he has carved out for himself - some other reviewers seem to find this unbearable to read and perhaps morally wrong (but ...more
بعد قراءة صفحات قليلة فكرت أن أتوقف ولا أكملها. شيء من الخوف القديم رفع نفسه للسطح, وليسَ في هذا أي شجاعة أعرف, لكنه هكذا جرى الأمر.
الوقوف وجهًا لوجه أمام التيّار, الصراع مع النفس, أن تعود للوراء أو تُثبت عليك نضجك ووعيك الكامل بشجاعتك. أكملتها لأنني فكرت في الليلة الواحدة التي تتوقف عليها حياة شخص ما, بطل الرواية مثلًا. أمام رغبته في العودة للحرية, لحياته وحيدًا متحرّرًا من كل إرتباطات العائلة, أن يهجر زوجته ويترك أطفاله ويرجع خفيفًا لحياته السابقة. هذا الهاجس الذي لا يغيب عن بال الأكثرية, حتّى
I confess: after about the 40th page I was so bored with it that I skipped to the end to see if it gets good. It does not. I'm reminded of my first go-round with Proust's Remembrance of Things Past: such long-winded narrators! I ended up dropping the class that was reading Remembrance, but at least I'm looking forward to picking it up and trying again! Not so with this one. Kureishi's ability to write a novel so sluggish and yet short doesn't mean he's a genius. It simply confirms that there are ...more
Jon Lindsay Miles
I've read a lot of harsh words about this novel, and understand - but disagree with - the kind of "offence" many feel. This also seems to me to ignore the fine shifts from the bleakly honest commentary on what it is to find oneself stuck on the thorns of the age-old dilemmas of love (and having fallen out of it), to the details of tenderness for the innocents in this kind of mess - the children.

One may feel the language is a bit awkward now and again, but the literary achievement of the book (on
I think far too many people get wrapped up in what the narrator did/does in the novel. This is an effective novel that does what it seeks out to accomplish: namely, give the run-down of a departure.

I mean, if you're going to rate a book one or two stars for diabolic behavior, I would hate to see what "Crime and Punishment" receives...
One man pondering his life and relationships the night before he plans to leave his partner and children. Not very likeable.
أحمد شاكر

باعتبار هذه الرواية، سيرة ذاتية روائية، كما أثار البعض، فيمكنني أن أقول أن هذا الرجل (حنيف قريشي) مجنون، نعم مجنون، وروايته تلك درس في: كيف تصير مجنونا، أو كيف تمشي واثق الخطي نحو الحرية، أو كيف تختار مصيرك. وهو من وجهة نظري (البطل/ الكاتب) صادق؛ مع نفسه، والآخرين. لا يريد أن يخادع. يقول: (كم من النادر حقا أن يمكننا أن تحرر من الوهم! فأنا لن أترك جنة عدن التعيسة هذه لأني لا أحبها فقط، بل لأني أريد أن أصبح شخصا آخر. حلم أو كابوس الأسرة السعيدة الذي يطاردنا جميعنا. إنها إحدي الأفكار الطوباوي
Truly impressed!Exceptionally clever and interesting!

Book deals with contemporary issues, with taboos of our time, in a most original manner.

Kureishi is really talented writer, I am no longer surprised that he is so often compared to Woolf, Proust and Cami.


Bilješke iz knjige:

"Život bez ljubavi je kao dugotrajna dosada."

"Mesecima mi je vrhunac dana bio u iščekivanju nesvesnog stanja. (...) Večeras moji dečaci i ja želimo isto: više života."

"Shvatila je da život bez njega moguć."

"Kasnije sam z
I had heard of Hanif Kureishi's name of course, but there wasn’t much chance I would have picked up any of his novels anytime soon had I not read about him in Amitava Kumar's highly engaging book, Bombay-London-New York. The book is about Kumar's struggle as a writer and the numerous literary influences which shaped his life and craft. The book had an enormously interesting description of author, playwright Hanif Kureishi, known for his controversial, soul-baring and highly sexed up prose. The w ...more
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Libro realista donde conocemos a Jay un hombre casado y con dos hijos que piensa abandonar el domicilio familiar. Necesita emprender un nuevo camino, pero lejos de su Susan.

Un relato desgarrador y doloroso por la realidad que retrata. Una situación de insatisfacción personal que me ha atrapado por la pluma del escritor. Maravilloso el descubrimiento de Hanif Kureishi.

One star is too generous. I absolutely despised this book. I had to read it for a university presentation. If I didn't have to I would have not even finished the book. I even threw it across the room a few times. The main character is an arrogant, sexist pig and there his character has next to no development. The ending was also anti-climatic and not worth the wait.

I really hate books about people walking out on their families but I can tolerate most. Not this book though. I seriously can not t
Priyanka Vijayakumar
The writing is great. The dilemmas profoundly superficial though. Weirdly pedestrian themes that all in all leave you with a sense of discomfort about one's mind and its convictions however true or false they may be.
El autor de este libro es el guionista de Mi hermosa lavandería y de Samy y Rosie se lo montan. Es un poco de ese estilo de vida. Un tipo que lleva viviendo seis años con una mujer con la que tiene dos hijos decide dejarlos sin nocturnidad pero con alevosía. No quiere a la mujer y está dispuesto a renunciar a sus hijos. En su cabeza ronda todo el tiempo una chica joven que ha sido su amante hasta hace poco. Es un monólogo en el que el autor da vueltas constantemente al tema del amor que ha desap ...more
Pushpam Singh
If you are looking for a plot and intense drama this is not for you but if you looking to read something more deep and philosophical, this is the book.

The story is spread over a night but covers a span of ten years or so. There aren't many characters but the characters seems believable and real but the most striking thing about this book is the philosophical one liners which he uses all the time. In the first half of the book, the author digs deep into our lives as we are living today and raise
Quite a hard book to rate. I have to admit, I knew nothing about the book or author going into this, but since reading a few reviews online, it seems this is mostly thought of as a (not well at all) disguised account of the authors own life.
Obviously I feel sorry for the wife and kids having it all put out there (whether it actually is based on them, that's what people are going to think).
Well, our main character here isn't a nice man, that's for sure. I'm not sure if he is intentionally sh
Alex Merrett
This lean account of a man's decision to walk out on his family is a far better and more useful book than most, and its power undeniable. Others will claim it is an important book; I might as well, were I still a crusader. But in truth, the best moments here (such as Kureishi's pitiless skewering of marriage counselling) expose others as shapeless and sloppy, like walking into someone else's dream, all lit up with a significance that somehow fails to connect.
Arda Aghazarian
"Nothing is as fascinating as love, unfortunately."

"How do I write? With a soft pencil and a hard dick - not the other way around."

The man is masturbating as his narrating goes on - and he tells us what's on his mind! Never seen this before... Daring style of writing.
From my notes of 2004: "It has a certain wisdom for anyone considering a break-up or divorce." (Hmmm!)
De data asta am luat-o invers. Am văzut întâi filmul lui Patrice Chéreau și, pentru că mi-a plăcut, am citit cartea. N-au (aproape) nici o legătură evidentă, miza este diferită în fiecare dintre ele, deși ambele au un fond comun – relația dintre un bărbat și o femeie sub mai multe forme, ieșirea dintr-o zonă de confort mental, sexul, libertatea și constrângerile.

Textul lui Hanif Kureishi, deși nu excepțional scris, e unul direct și dur, care învârte cuțitul în rană și care vorbește fără menajame

First hand account of a borderline sociopath who is completely self obsessed and not remotely self-aware.

Well okay, the main character is a piece of sh*t, but that's true of a lot of great novels.
It is written very simply -I thought at first maybe it was a bad translation from another language- but I liked the style once I got used to it.
It's a good length.
When I wasn't holding back the urge to fling it across the room or burn it it was pretty enjoyable. It's interesting to try and understand
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Hanif Kureishi is the author of novels (including The Buddha of Suburbia, The Black Album and Intimacy), story collections (Love in a Blue Time, Midnight All Day, The Body), plays (including Outskirts, Borderline and Sleep With Me), and screenplays (including My Beautiful Laundrette, My Son the Fanatic and Venus). Among his other publications are the collection of essays Dreaming and Scheming, The ...more
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