The Delicate Art of Dancing with Porcupines: Learning to Appreciate the Finer Points of Others
by Bob Phillips
These categories, drawn from the work of research-ers David W. Merrill and Roger H. Reid, can help you understand your own social style and styles of others. Techniques for reducing tension and tips for improving relationships and many more.
Paperback, 200 pages
Published March 1st 1995 by Gospel Light
(first published June 1989)
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This book suggests there are two continuum that largely govern relational styles. The first is task oriented <--> relational. The second is telling <--> asking. These break people up into four broad types of people called analytical, driver, amiable, expressive. The book then goes on to explore how it's important to understand the differences between people, what the natural strengths and weakness is for each type, and then how to apply the insights to more effectively love others. I...more
Aug 26, 2012 Jansen rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Jansen by: Roger Williams
A good short book on personality styles. Looks at it from a different perspective than I was used to, showing similarities in Pace (Ask/Tell) and Purpose (Task/Relationship). I still think I like the Animals better, but I'm warming up to these words (Analytical, Driver, Amiable, Expressive). Maybe the new book he wrote picks up some of the small gaps this one left (mostly in the way his test is done - no ability to better show your secondary than gut instinct, though he does a good job of helpin...more
I read this in preparation for a CTF team leader presentation: "Working with difficult personalities." Helpful frame work of asking/telling personalities and task/people oriented and how those four factors play out. Easy to grasp that all are needed and valued but are going to have different orientation towards pace and priority -- thus some of the bumps experienced on team.
Sep 26, 2013 Edy Gies rated it 5 of 5 stars
This book was fascinating to me. I greatly enjoyed reading about the differed types of people and how they get along. I'm thankful for all types, but of course some are easier to get along with than others.
Bob Phillips is a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor and a master quotation collector. He is the author of 40 books, with total sales of more than 6 million copies. Bob is also director-at-large of Hume Lake Christian Camps in California.More about Bob Phillips...