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Freeing Our Families From Perfectionism

3.95  ·  Rating Details ·  20 Ratings  ·  4 Reviews
Perfectionism is not about doing our best. It’s not about the struggle for excellence, or the healthy striving for high goals.

Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us—and if we can’t, we’ll never be good enough.

Perfectionism is a burden that takes a heavy toll. Personal relationships are strained. I
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Paperback, 128 pages
Published October 15th 2001 by Free Spirit Publishing (first published November 30th 1997)
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Sara
Jan 31, 2017 Sara rated it liked it
This is a fairly short book covering some very basic info about perfectionism. I'd only recommend it for those who know nothing about this tendency but have been told that their child is showing signs of it... this would be a decent place to start.

Otherwise, opt for Richard Winter's book Perfecting Ourselves to Death: The Pursuit Of Excellence And The Perils Of Perfectionism, it's much better.
Jenny
Jan 27, 2010 Jenny rated it really liked it
Shelves: self-help, parenting
I learned some great things from this book:

"It is a concern over mistakes, rather than pride of accomplishment that most accurately characterized perfectionism."

Anger--"It is easy to confuse the feelings of anger with angry behavior. Most of the rules people have about anger apply to angry behavior, which they may consider wrong, but the angry feelings themselves are just feelings.... What is important is to acknowledge your anger and begin looking for solutions to the problem."

"When your child
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Jackie
Aug 24, 2010 Jackie rated it it was amazing
Anyone who works or lives with a perfectionist (or is one!) should read this book. I find myself reading it over and over ;)
lisa
Jun 19, 2008 lisa marked it as couldn-t-finish
Recommends it for: Someone who really needs advice
Although the ideas and content is good and important, the writing style is extremely condescending and annoying
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Thomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D., is a Licensed Psychologist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice. He earned his B.A. from Yale and his Ph.D. in psychology from the University of Illinois. Tom lectures and writes on a variety of topics including perfectionism and the emotional needs of gifted children and adults.
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