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He Said, She Said (Exploring the Different Ways Men and Women Communicate)

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PORTABLE PROFESSOR is a series of exciting and informative lectures recorded by some of today's most renowned university and college professors. Each course introduces listeners to fascinating, and sometimes startling, insights into the intellectual forces that shape our understanding of the world. Each package includes 14 riveting lectures presented by notable professors ...more
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Published May 3rd 2004 by Barnes & Noble Audio (first published 1996)
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Jan 23, 2014 Payam rated it liked it
A great start to understanding the difference men and women have in their communication patterns. I do not believe the research translates well into other cultures though. Cultural and religious influences will significantly impact how communication is interpreted altogether. For example, simply the act of Iranian singles mingling will be seen much stronger and forward acting; the words are secondary to the action. Religiously, certain communication patterns would be classified as "sinful" or "l ...more
Don Weidinger
Feb 21, 2014 Don Weidinger rated it really liked it
competitive vs cooperative, better vs same, negotiate out or in, hierarchic or not, understanding vs repair, negotiate status vs story, argue with me and agree with women, men playful insults to create community, less interruption, learn to apologize, as code talkers, sorry ritual reply, have you thought of vs how about this and let me know outcome, survey men talk more, use humor to address awkward situations, politics as arguments in Germany and Israel, aggressive behavior higher in US lowest ...more
Dec 21, 2013 Donna rated it liked it
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The words may be the same but the interpretation could be totally different! Especially when the communication is from a man or a woman. Men speak and interpret one way and women speak and interpret another way for the same words. That's what Dr. Tannen's research shows. This is another of her tantalizing collection of books on communication (e.g. You Just Don't Understand; Talking from 9 to 5; The Argument Culture; I Only Say This Because...., among others). While her books are research based t ...more
Troy Blackford
Dec 21, 2015 Troy Blackford rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was a great examination of different conversational styles and approaches. I learned a lot about the different attitudes people might have to talking. I personally talk as much as possible, so this will hopefully help me out a little.
Interesting...this really has me thinking about the way I use language. I also notice patterns in everyday conversations. Tannen addressed some of the common misconceptions and perceptions around the way men and women speak. Also tips for avoiding conversation/communication barriers at home and at work.

Listening to this audio lecture series was interesting. Deborah Tannen did plenty of self-promoting. The lecture guide annoyed me--at the end of every chapter I was reminded that I could go online
Katie O'connell
Apr 16, 2014 Katie O'connell rated it really liked it
audio book was much easier for me to pay attention
Nathan Shepherd
Mar 27, 2012 Nathan Shepherd rated it really liked it
This book offers fascinating insights into typical differences between men and women in their communication styles. I question some of the findings, but many corresponded with my own experience. A good book for understanding - maybe even improving - interpersonal communication.
Jul 27, 2012 Alexandrea rated it it was amazing
Wonderfully insightful! I loved the humor and exploration of not only gender stereotypes in speaking style, but also how these difference might change or play out in various social and cultural contexts. Communication definitely does matter!
Oct 20, 2009 Kevin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
Very good. Great info about the different styles and nuances that exist between men and women's communication. Understanding them can lead to recognizing them which can then help to bridge that gap that may be occurring. Very useful.
Rebecca Goulder
Aug 31, 2013 Rebecca Goulder rated it really liked it
I listened to the audio version of this book. It was a real eye opener. She is an author I have consistently recommended to anyone that I know who has more than a passing interest in communication.
As advertised, you'll learn a bevy of information on male/female communication and the lack thereof. I think for even more learning I'll need to read and discuss the author's books with my wife.
Mar 20, 2011 Viraj rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: EVERYONE
Shelves: self-help
EXCELLENT audiobook. Worth listening to a few times. Recommended. I would also listen to it with my other half. This is not a book to summarize but to listen to in full.
Nov 28, 2013 Kathleen rated it really liked it
Dang! I wish I had this years ago! Not especially for hubby, but for a better understanding while raising my boys. Entertaining AND informative.
This made a great deal of sense, and i could recognize many behaviors she described. How nutty, who knew. Something to ponder.
Mar 10, 2009 Heather rated it really liked it
Great self-help book on the realationship between a husband and wife and some tips on how to make it better.
Jan 28, 2009 Mark rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2009
Extremely enlightening. Good introduction to the topics she covers in her other books.
Tom Rowe
Mar 17, 2011 Tom Rowe rated it really liked it
Interesting lecture series on male/female speaking patterns. I recommend.
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Deborah Tannen is best known as the author of You Just Don't Understand, which was on The New York Times Best Seller list for nearly four years years, including eight months as No. 1, and has been translated into 29 languages. It was also on best seller lists in Brazil, Canada, England, Germany, Holland, and Hong Kong. This is the book that brought gender differences in communication style to the ...more
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