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I Will Never Forget: A Daughter's Story of Her Mother's Arduous and Humorous Journey Through Dementia

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It is extremely difficult to watch a loved one decline as dementia ravages his or her mind, robbing him or her of memory, thinking abilities, and judgment. In her touching memoir, I Will Never Forget, Elaine C. Pereira shares the sometimes heartbreaking and occasionally humorous story of her mother's journey through dementia, as seen through the eyes of her little girl.

Paperback, 274 pages
Published May 3rd 2012 by iUniverse (first published May 2nd 2012)
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This is a tender memoir of a daughter's helpless journey through her mother's dementia. While I usually expect memoirs that deal with subject matter such as this to start at the beginning of the problem and work their way straight forward to the end result, which of course is never happy, this book takes a different approach.

Elaine Pereira tells her own story and that of her mother through experiences of her own childhood and the more recent history of when her mother started showing signs of th
Nov 14, 2012 Pragya rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Everyone
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I believe it is extremely difficult to write a book like this. Being so close to your loved one, watching them die and then to be able to pour it out into words needs extreme courage. Though it's beneficial and almost therapeutic to take it all out, it doesn't mean that it is easy. Hats off to Elaine for her courage and perseverance to follow through with this book.

I love the way this book has been compiled. It is not just about Dementia but so much more. It is about Betty Ward, the woman, the s
An ambiguous journey

Dementia and Alzheimer's disease and all the variations of the deterioration of brain activity and function are a topic of great interest at present: some are even suggesting that our dietary habits and our tendency toward sedentary lives are contributing to the growing incidence of the problem. But perhaps if more of us were more mindful of the early signs of diminishing cerebration, then steps could be taken to aid those who have begun that descent and possibly even slow th
An almost four. I was a goodreads first reads winner of the book "I will Never Forget:A Daughter's Story of Her Mother's Ardous and Humerous Journey Through Dementia.
the Author Elaine c. Pereira. Devotes much of this book talking about her mother.Betty Ward. She goes back and forth in time. Part of the book is about Elaine growing up getting married having twins, getting married again, and her other family members, Her brother Jerry, mother, father and sister in law. some of the time growing up
Joseph McGarry
I received a free copy of this book from the author in exchange for this review.

I had an aunt who had Alzheimer's. She used to watch my brother and I while my mom was at work. My cousins started noticing small things that she was doing that didn't add up. She'd forget things too easily. They had to take her checkbook away and get her on direct deposit for Social Security, since she had forgotten to deposit some checks. They had paid $5000 for a hearing aid, but she didn't wear it, or wore it wit
K.E. Nowinsky
A Human Portrayal of Dementia

Originally I had an interest in reviewing I Will Never Forget because I had remembered family members suggesting that my grandmother had dementia before she passed a few years later.Within my own family, we also take any opportunity to tease my mother about having the beginning stages, because of her frequent memory loss. While I never really experienced dementia with my grandmother, to the degree that the author did with her mother, I have an all new respect for pe
Sharon Martin
A rather touching and emotional read, topped with loving humour as you follow the author, Elaine, and her 'mom', Betty, through the heartbreaking decline of Dementia. Immediately you are aware of the beautiful close bond of mother and daughter through childhood and family memories, past events and tender moments experienced through the illness. I especially felt that the support from the Elaine's husband, Joe, was paramount in aiding Elaine through such a turmoil.

You will find yourself feeling t
I Will Never Forget by Elaine C. Pereira is a 2012 publication. I was provided a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

This is a non-fiction account of a daughter's journey through dementia with her mother. Elaine details the first inklings she had that all was not as it should be with her mom to the days when it became apparent her mother needed assistance to the final times when her mom was suffering more bad days than good. Through out this Elaine sprinkles fond memories of her c
Elaine writes with loving compassion and gently pulls the reader into her world as she travels the derailed path of her mother's life coping with dementia.
It is a journey fraught with confusion, fear, and unexpected ordeals...but more strongly, the unwavering love for her mother.

Her writing is clear and crisp. She draws the reader into her story and the pace is just right. It is easy to feel like you know the whole family quite well as Ms. Pereira opens new doors and explores and explains some o
May 26, 2014 Jenna rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Jenna by: Sharon Martin
This book is touching, honest, hilarious and tear-jerking all at the same time.
As someone who has worked on an EMI unit for elderly patients with mental illness I have experienced a lot of what Elaine describes, what I've never experienced however, are the emotions that she goes through in sharing her mother's journey and oh my goodness she carries you along with her.
Elaine's writing style is beautiful without being over the top or condescending, she paints pictures with her words and you feel
Reading this book felt like listening to the memories of your friend. In this intense memoir, the author, Elaine, shares with you about her deceased mother. Her matter-of-fact way of writing is the main advantage to the novel. You do not exaggerate to your friend, when you speak about the memories of your mother, right?

This is a memoir from Elaine about her mother, Betty, who suffered with dementia. Elaine's memories go back and forth, when she describes her kind and energetic mother. She bring
Stephanie Wolf
“I Will Never Forget” is the true story of an aging woman with dementia, as told by her daughter.

Betty Ward was a strong woman. During her lifetime, she buried her infant son, her husband and her other son. Now her time was coming. Her daughter, Elaine, wrote this story very well. It is very difficult watching someone you love have their memory erased slowly. Luckily for Elaine, she had the wonderful support of her husband and family.

Some of her chapters start with Betty as a child, then the sam
Emory Daniels
Dementia Victimizes Family Members As Well As Its Victims

Author Elaine Pereira is entirely correct – there are some things we will never forget as special sets of circumstances will remain with us forever.

For Pereira, those memories etched in memory, relate to caring for her mother as she is ravaged by the effects of dementia. Those permanent memories are shared in her book, "I Will Never Forget: A Daughter’s Story of Her Mother’s Arduous and Humorous Journey through Dementia".

There are several
As I finished reading Elaine C. Pereira’s book, I Will Never Forget, I found myself sobbing. The sentiments she writes of in the poem at the end really describes so much of the experience she shared with her mom.

Please do not misunderstand my sobbing at the end of the book, because it is not a depressing tear-jerker. I cried because I am living some of the same scenes and I fully understand the up and down roller coaster of needing to know when to hold on and when to let go.

Betty Ward was a very
I Will Never Forget is Elaine Pereira’s beautiful yet heart-wrenching tribute to her mother. Never before have I read a memoir, and I was impressed with the light manner in which this story was written. Infused with humour, the author makes the most out of a difficult situation, making her book enjoyable to read despite the heartbreaking tale she tells. Keep a box of tissues handy – you’ll need them! I teared up many times while reading the author’s touching words, and was bawling when I read th ...more
This is a memoir of a woman whose mother suffered from dementia. Elaine honestly recalls her mother's downward spiral and the emotions that she experienced from her initial denial of exactly how bad her mother was to how this affected her and her family. This is a difficult situation to deal with and it was a blessing that Elaine's mother had the financial wherewithal to pay for a nice facility. I do wonder how those without money face the same situation.

The book gives you an inside look at how
Sharlene Almond
I Will Never Forget by Elain EC Pereira

The story tells of the true story of Elaine’s mother going through the trails of dementia. The true story outlines Elaine’s childhood experiences, loves and losses. Beginning with Elaine’s christmas experience. Not exactly sure where it is heading.

As time slowly progresses, and Elaine grows into a woman, her mother’s health slowly declines.
The characters go through their own trails, loves, illnesses, and losses.

The fascinating journey of mother and daughte
As a daughter of a mother with dementia, I feel this Elaine has gotten off "easy" in the world of dementia, but that certainly does not lessen the impact of her book, or the individual story of her mother. One of the smartest moves her parents made was to the retirement apartment....selling their home, and living in a situation where they probably had their apartment cleaned, meals in a dining area if they did not want to cook etc.....and in which they possibly could have hired privately for per ...more
Copy received from Fire and Ice Book Tours for an honest review
Four stars
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This was a very sweet and beautiful memoire about a daughter’s quest to help her mother with dementia. I was instantly interested in this book because I really enjoy reading peoples story. I think there is always something important to learn. “I Will Never Forget” was a very beautiful/ sad /inspiring example of that type of book. I loved Elaine was so honest
Diane Coto
Diagnosed with dementia, Betty Ward meandered down that long road from coherent and logical thinking to complete and utter confusion. Her daughter, Elaine, accompanied her on that walk. As Elaine became Betty’s caregiver, roles became blurred and eventually reversed. Betty became more dependent and Elaine became more in charge and decisive. It’s not an easy journey. In fact, if we were given the option, we’d simply ‘opt out.’ It’s too hard.

Ms. Pereira began with the image of Betty Ward as her mo
Dementia is something that touches close to home with me. Even though my family wanted to keep it a secret, we all knew that my grandmother suffered with this before she passed a year ago. Reading this book was a great reminder that people really do struggle with this ailment. I don’t like to call it a disease because I don’t think that dementia kills you. It hinders you from reality and the one that you should/could be living. I loved the way this story was told because it was like I was in the ...more
Margaret Loveday
In writing of her mother’s decline from the devastating effects of dementia, Elaine Pereira exposes her own personal journey and the realization of the love and support her mother has given her through her life.

It is definitely a memorial to Betty Wade’s stoic character and the love she had for her family, even though she had a life of loss and trauma.
This book was descriptive and well written even though the story line jumps from present to past and back; the reader is able to follow and keep
Kristin Scearce
Disclaimer: I received a copy from the author in exchange for an honest review.

Elaine and her mother have a special relationship, the kind every parent and child strive for. They have their ups and downs, but they both know the love and support of the other is there. That comes into play in a slow crawl towards dementia for Elaine's mother, Betty. First, it's the little things, but it slowly gets worse as time goes by, and Elaine has chronicled that journey, both for her mother as well as hersel
Rebecca Carter
This book is a lovely tribute to the most important person in many of our lives, a mother. I was glad it didn't delve into the technical medical details of dementia, but only showed its effect on the person who suffered the with the disease, and how that, in turn, affected others. The author's portrayal of the debilitating and devastating effect of her mother Betty's dementia is even more poignant as she parallels it with the time when Betty functioned normally.

This brought back so many memorie
Ruth Hill
When I discovered that this book is a memoir that deals with dementia, I knew I had to read this. My dad suffers from this condition himself, and it has been a difficult struggle for several years. However, once I began reading this book, I found out it was about so much more! Towards the end of the book, I told my mom about the tragedies the author had experienced in her family, and I told her I could not imagine having to go through all of that. This story was told with pathos, caring, love, a ...more
Michelle Silvestri-Oetinger
I won this book in a Goodreads giveaway. I wanted to read this as our family has experienced the devastation of Alzheimer's/ dementia. Elaine Periera's account of her mother's disease process is spot on! I could see everything her mother experienced in the life of our loved ones. Reading the book was like talking to a friend who understood and felt your pain. I recommend her book highly.
Lori Palmer (Palmer's Page Turners)
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Note: I received this book from the author in exchange for my honest review.

I rarely read and review memoirs, but I chose to read and review this book after the author contacted me for a review because of the subject matter. I personally related to the topic, and felt it an appropriate book for me to review. In 2013, my father passed away after a long battle with vascular dementia. He was only 64.

I really enjoyed the author's writin
Elaine C. Pereira did an excellent job with this poignant story of her mother's decline as a result of dementia. I watched my mother-in-law slip away and now my father-in-law really does not know where he is and has forgotten how to feed himself most of the time. Reading this book reminded me of what they were like before their minds were ravaged by this awful disease.

I Will Never Forget is a wonderful book for all family members to read. It helps to know you are not alone. What a wonderful daug
There are many reasons why you should grab a copy of this book. Of course, the main reason is the fact that it talks about the great relationship between the mother and her child. It showcases a different kind of love story - one that doesn't end... one that lasts 'til eternity. Another reason for getting a copy of this book is that it's an eye-opener. "I Will Never Forget" reminds everyone that people who are suffering from dementia are those who need extra care and support. They are the ones w ...more
Kathryn Svendsen
This was a poignant and sometimes painful story to read as Elaine spoke of the changes that dementia brought to her mother's memory and emotional state. This is not just a disease of the memory, for it robs the sufferer of the ability of the meaning of words and how to use them even if they can read them. They can become lost in time and stop recognizing their loved ones. This is a disease that affects entire families.

Each chapter was written with a portion from the author's growing up years and
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