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When Sinners Say "I Do": Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage
by
Dave Harvey
When Sinners Say "I DO" is about encountering the life-transforming power of the gospel in the unpredictable journey of marriage.
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Dave Harvey's book, When Sinners Say 'I Do' is a unique book on the topic of marriage. It does not address the problems in marriage being fundamentally misunderstandings of personality, or a failure to communicate, rather, Dave points us to the real root of our marital problems--sin.
The subtitle captures the hope for people who will freely admit that they are sinners: "Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage." The typical psychologically based book will give one t...more
The subtitle captures the hope for people who will freely admit that they are sinners: "Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage." The typical psychologically based book will give one t...more
Unlike any other marriage book I have ever read, this book lays the foundation for a rewarding Christ-centered marriage. My husband and I read this to each other and found ourselves deeply convicted over the sin in our lives and lack of understanding for the Gospel in our marriage. Dave Harvey does an excellent job of exposing the powerful effects of the Gospel in marriage!
I was eager to read this book, as numerous friends all highly recommended it. I certainly wasn't let down.
How challenging it is to keep the Gospel central in marriage (or in any other part of life for that matter)! However, Dave Harvey does an excellent job taking a look at the marriage relationship through the lens of the Gospel.
I thought the best chapter was, "The Surgeon, the Scalpel, and the Spouse in Sin," which was all about when and how to confront your...more
How challenging it is to keep the Gospel central in marriage (or in any other part of life for that matter)! However, Dave Harvey does an excellent job taking a look at the marriage relationship through the lens of the Gospel.
I thought the best chapter was, "The Surgeon, the Scalpel, and the Spouse in Sin," which was all about when and how to confront your...more
This is the best all-around marriage book I have read. I have integrated this book into the material that I use in preparing engaged couples for the covenant of marriage. Harvey intends this book for a wide audience--from those about to marry all the way to those whose marriage are about to end because of death. If you are married you will be edified by reading this book.
Some people are highly skilled at understanding the Scriptures. Others are adept at understanding people. Har...more
Some people are highly skilled at understanding the Scriptures. Others are adept at understanding people. Har...more
“When Sinners Say I Do: Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage” by David Harvey is about marriage, sin and how the gospel of Jesus Christ is the answer in overcoming the sin that each person brings to the marriage. “Marriage is the union of two people who arrive toting the luggage of life. And that luggage always contains sin.” (pg. 15). This book is written from an Evangelical perspective and starts out on the right foot. The first chapter is “What Really Matters in Marriage.” Harvey ...more
"Many marriage problems could move toward resolutions if husband and wife actually lived as if they were 'sinners' who said 'I do.' Sinners who are humble are growing more knowledgeable about their hearts." I skimmed a couple of the chapters; after reading the rest, I paused at many of them attempting to catch the author's message. I definitely say here's a solid piece to recommend to pastors, elders, counselors--most assuredly, to those preparing for marriage, for those married. The f...more
I would highly recommend this book to any married couple, newlywed or 50 years in as well as anyone even thinking about getting married. This is the best book I have read so far on; 1) what it means to have a Gospel-Centered marriage and 2) how to move in that direction no matter where you are starting from. It's not just biblically based, as many Christian marriage books are, but wholly centered on what the Gospel of Jesus Christ means for married people and how applying that Gospel to every ...more
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This is a pretty good book where themes of humility and the need for God's grace run strong. A healthy recognition of your own failures and even the ones you don't see will obviously help you to approach conflict with humility and your necessity of the gospel on a day to day basis.
It seemed to me that even though the book is for both men and women, it seemed more appropriate for men. The book is very much influenced by Harvey's own experiences in his marriage as a man. He deals with the...more
It seemed to me that even though the book is for both men and women, it seemed more appropriate for men. The book is very much influenced by Harvey's own experiences in his marriage as a man. He deals with the...more
This was a really good book. The subtitle of the book is "Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage," and that is exactly where the author takes the reader through these ten chapters. He writes extensively about how the fact that we are sinners affects a marriage. He discusses the power of forgiveness and ways to encourage a spouse in Christ. This is also the only book on marriage that I have read which contains a chapter on death. This book is gloriously gospel-infused.
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Excellent book for couples trying to devote their marriage to God. No marriage is perfect, and especially with divorce so prevalent in our society, my wife and I read this book to start to get as much insight / feedback on our marriage. "Like a computer programmer who understands his program best ... God created the marriage “program”, wrote the “operating manual” and is faithful to explain it. He is the one and only reliable, trustworthy authority on the subject of marriage."
Highly reccommended by Brent...AND RIGHTLY SO!
I will immediately add it to my "to-read-again" list. I'm certain that reading it over and over will be valuable.
I don't want to spoil this book for you, but it is not what you might expect in a marriage book. There is a focus on the need of the couple and the individuals...the ONLY need that affects all other needs.
There is no room to feel comfortable here and yet every reason to be confident and hopeful!
The key r...more
I will immediately add it to my "to-read-again" list. I'm certain that reading it over and over will be valuable.
I don't want to spoil this book for you, but it is not what you might expect in a marriage book. There is a focus on the need of the couple and the individuals...the ONLY need that affects all other needs.
There is no room to feel comfortable here and yet every reason to be confident and hopeful!
The key r...more
I would have given this book two stars but the Goodreads rating needs to come down.
The theology of this book is great. Marriage is a union of two sinners, I need to consider my own sin first during conflict, and the work of Christ, not my striving, provides the only means (grace) to have a godly marriage. Other important topics to which the author gives very good insight are forgiveness and sex. Vicki and I read selected chapters during our premarital counseling two years ago that...more
The theology of this book is great. Marriage is a union of two sinners, I need to consider my own sin first during conflict, and the work of Christ, not my striving, provides the only means (grace) to have a godly marriage. Other important topics to which the author gives very good insight are forgiveness and sex. Vicki and I read selected chapters during our premarital counseling two years ago that...more
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Good gospel-centered look at some practical issues in marriage, including humility and forgiveness. Theologically, I disagree with the idea that Christians should label themselves "sinners." It's not supported by scripture, which tells us that we sin, but all the labels it gives us are positive and refer to the new nature. Thankfully, in this book, its points are all just as valid if you replace "sinners" with "saints who struggle with sin."
Read in church small group 2008. Started small group up again in the fall and read this book again 2008-2009, and I was willing! Those that know me well know the many spiritual books I've started only to be left on my bedside book shelf. This is as good as it gets to me. Short chapters. The gospel with some marriage thrown it.
This book applies very well to singles (such as myself) and marrieds alike. It cuts right to the heart of the problem with human relationships (both romantic and platonic). I found it very convicting, and have come away with the strengthened realization of a need to shift my priorities away from self.
One of the (if not the) best "marriage/relationship" book I've read to date. Amazing advice, all grounded in gospel-theology, for couples married or getting married, or individuals who might one day decide they want to get married. It's good advice any way you slice it.
I now recommend this book to every engaged couple I know (an ever increasing number, right now, strangely enough). Dave Harvey does an excellent job communicating honestly about issues of forgiveness, mercy, ...more
I now recommend this book to every engaged couple I know (an ever increasing number, right now, strangely enough). Dave Harvey does an excellent job communicating honestly about issues of forgiveness, mercy, ...more
This book was wonderful for me. I think we often forget that we married a sinner, and we hope that somehow they will miraculously cease to sin. This was a grace filled book on how to go about the journey through the God-given gift of marriage.
The title was all that should have been written. And it is a good title.
Please let your relationships have romance. Claim your freedom in Christ not wallow in your failures.
Please let your relationships have romance. Claim your freedom in Christ not wallow in your failures.
This book provides great reminders that my marriage is all about, all for, and all because of Christ. Two of my favorite quotes:
"True humility is living confident in Christ's righteousness, and suspicious of our own." (p. 63, ch. 4)
"...we adopt the posture of being willing to experience sin against us as part of building a God-glorifying marriage in a fallen world. Kindness says to our spouse, 'I know you are a sinner like me and you will sin against me, ...more
"True humility is living confident in Christ's righteousness, and suspicious of our own." (p. 63, ch. 4)
"...we adopt the posture of being willing to experience sin against us as part of building a God-glorifying marriage in a fallen world. Kindness says to our spouse, 'I know you are a sinner like me and you will sin against me, ...more
Very good book reading pre-marriage about the role of sin in our lives, especially with a spouse. It is a lot of looking internally before blaming another person.
Required reading if you are married or thinking of getting married! Love the rich and practical gospel mindset that pervades this work.
This book teaches off the thought, "When sin is bitter, marriage is sweet." He also has a cd/audio teaching that I highly recommend.
Solid, but I think by the time I read it I was oversaturated with Christian marriage books.
this is a great book to read for married couple or those who are going to get married.
Some good advice. Basically a lecture in book form. As such it reads a bit oddly.
Read before marriage; Re-read March 2011
Probably best for couples past the "honeymoon" phase
Only about half-way through it, but one of the best books i've ever read. I'm not married, but hope to be someday, and what Dave Harvey shares in these pages are words that pierce into my heart. He gets to the root of the issues: i have to see myself as the sinner i am. It's only then that i can show grace to my spouse (or for now, the people close to me). As he quotes over and over "Until sin be bitter, Christ won't be sweet...and neither will marriage." Married or not, you should rea...more
Well done.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book, so much that I read it twice within a month. I think I have dog-eared 50% of the books pages (many double-dog-eared since I wanted to mark both sides of a page).
I'm not married and can't speak to the application of the book's principles within marriage.
However, the principles involved with keeping the gospel central in relationships are universal.
We are all sinners and God's grace abounds to protect and develop relationships.
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I'm not married and can't speak to the application of the book's principles within marriage.
However, the principles involved with keeping the gospel central in relationships are universal.
We are all sinners and God's grace abounds to protect and develop relationships.
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