The Tender Bar
From The Tender Bar by J. R. Moehringer:
"I hate when people ask what a book is about. People who read for plot, people who suck out the story like the cream filling in an Oreo, should stick to comic strips and soap operas. . . . Every book worth a damn is about emotions and love and death and pain. It's about words. It's about a man dealing with life. Okay?"
Okay! Pulling this excerpt from page 335 of this 416 page book, I feel, allows me to use the author's own words to de...more
The first exposure was when my husband and I were researching bars we should visit while in Tokyo. During my googling, I found a few mentions of this book but read a blurb about it and thought it sounded boring, so I let it slip my mind. In Tokyo, we visited an e...more
Oh, the damage an absent father can do. No-show, no-care dads practice a different brand of abuse than fathers who use their fists, but the distinction is lost on the little boy waiting curbside for a dad who isn’t coming. Given a choice, the boy might even opt for corporal punishment over icy indifference.
J.R. Moehringer captures the lives of many such boys in his poignant memoir, “The Tender Bar.” Moehringer’s radio personality dad was MIA so often, he came to think of his dad as “The Voice,”...more
He continues to show the people in his life addicted to alcohol, drugs, and gambling in a postive light - even when sometimes the outcome of such a life is horrible- he still ho...more
The missing star is mainly a pet peeve I have about the epilogue, which I recommend you skip....more
Working on it. Mom's book club. Came in a box with Valentine's Day goodies, including:
- A heart-shaped potholder
- Cups with hearts on them
- Candy hearts
- A heart-shaped PEZ dispenser
- Pink footie socks
- 3 or maybe 4 V-Day cards, they keep turning up in odd places, like wedged into The Tender Bar.
- Pink rubber duckies with hearts on them
- My camera battery charger
A good story. A bicentennial sofa. A little deliberate, but I'm still going.
After reading, I write this:
Lee Whedon Library had the honor of giving out The Tender Bar by J.R. Moehringer. This is a terrific book!
Abandoned by his father at a young age, Moeh...more
J.R has had a difficult life which started after his parents got divorced. He craves that male role model, someone to show him how to be a guy. And looking for the male voice that can guide him has taken him to place that have had a big impact on his life, in both good and bad ways. In his journey he has always come to the same places, bars, yet also sanctuaries, a place where he can get guidance and advice, but be himse...more
Living with his mother, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparent in a house that threatens to fall apart around them young J.R. knows his absent...more
It's sweet and funny and moving and I was pleasantly surprised that the straight-forward chronological shape of the book worked--no tricks, no clever crafting, no self-conscious structure. The writing is so good (to JRM's advantage that he's been a journalist for much of his adult life) that you don't think about "the writing"...more
"Long before it legally served me, the bar saved me," asserts J.R. Moehringer, and his compelling memoir The Tender Bar is the story of how and why. A Pulitzer-Prize winning writer for the Los Angeles Times, Moehringer grew up fatherless in pub-heavy Manhasset, New York, in a ramshackle house crammed with cousins and ruled by an eccentric, unkind grandfather. Desperate for a paternal figure, he turns first to his father, a DJ whom he can only access via the radio (Moehringer c...more
A 1986 graduate of Yale University, Moehringer began his journalism career as a news assistant at The New York Times.
He won the Pulitzer Prize for Feature Writing in 2000.