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Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life

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From one of the nation's preeminent experts on women and emotion, a breakthrough new book about how to stop negative thinking and become more productive
It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people-especially women-to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susa
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published February 5th 2003 by Henry Holt and Co. (first published 2003)
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Stari moj, trebalo mi je "samo" sedam mjeseci da ju zgotovim! Uvijek su se neki drugi naslovi ubacivali prije.. Prvih stotinjak stranica jako naporno i dosadno jer se navode nepresusni izvori raznih testiranja.

Da ne zapocnem Novu s "repom" ova knjiga je procitana, ali da sam nesto ekstra doznala o rjesavanju problema pretjeranog razmisljanja i nisam.. Samo hrpu novih ideja za "vjezbanje" mozga! :P
Pouka: Svaka zena bi sebi trebala pronaci najbolji nacin kako ne razmisljati puno u prazno. Ma da?
Feb 20, 2012 Lastoadri rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2012, in-my-library
I don't know why it is titled : "Women who think too much". I think the book is relevant to both men and women.
I am really glad to have read this book.. it doesn't really answer all questions, but it gives good advises to beat overthinking..
I am sure, I shall read it again some time soon.

The best thing about it is mainly the case studies, and life scenarios. It makes ideas very clear, as if I am living each situation exactly. Most probably the reactions mentioned would be exactly my reaction if
Katie Franco-mayorga
Really good book. I read it in the library cuz it caught my eye because lately I have been over thinking my relationship with my bf. And it was very helpful. Made me feel better and I actually was taking a walk to try and clear my mind and ended up at the bookstore. So what she says about doing something for urself helps u not over think so much is so true. Not being so clingy giving ur partner space and not always trying to fix ur relationship or over analyzing every little thing he does. I rec ...more
Aug 08, 2010 Hoan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Helpful in understanding whether you think too much and how to cope with that. Most women I know tend to have this issue and I think it's important to recognize and acknowledge the problem, while trying to keep it under control.
Summer Tee
Apr 09, 2016 Summer Tee rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned, second-hand
Ignoring the overly sexist title, the tips provided by this book were pretty insightful. I hardly ever read any self-help books but I picked this up because of the problem I'm facing myself. It's embarrassing to admit but I think it's more important to find out the problem and face it than lying to yourself. Well, I could get a little over-sensitive sometimes and I prone to overthink (says in the title).

Coming back to the book, it wasn't an overly theory-fied book. The author provided stories a
Sep 29, 2012 Jamie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition

Some of the case studies in the book really annoyed me; as another reviewer said, is it necessary for us to know the eye and hair color of all of the women discussed? No.

That said, I did appreciate the straightforward manner that Nolen-Hoeksema approaches the over thinking problem and practical tips for managing it. As a chronic ruminator, it was helpful to me to realize that I am not solving problems by thinking about them all the time; instead I am making them worse. Obviously not all of her
Julie Sigmund
I admit I skimmed because the book was too nonfictiony for me. Part I had a few interesting insights about why we overthink. Part II was most helpful with strategies to overcome over thinking. I didn't read part III because I didn't see the point in reading over 100 pages about triggers. The first two parts of the book were enough for me.
Jun 29, 2015 Chantel rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Get your highlighter out for this one!

I wasn't aware of how much I overthought things. This book helped me take an objective look at my train of thought and realize it doesn't always follow a healthy path. One single negative thought can lead to a landslide of negative rumination. It's a cycle. Thought pathways are dug into your mind after years of overthinking certain aspects of your life. Pick your trigger, intimate relationships, children, work.. whatever it is the overthinking becomes a habi
Jul 12, 2014 Sarah rated it it was ok
One thing annoyed me greatly. Whenever the author is introducing a woman in one of her examples, she always describes them as a "plucky blind with sparkling blue eyes." I couldn't help but be distracted by how tacky and stereotypical this comes off. It really turned me off to the book.
Dec 14, 2014 Amber rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I enjoyed reading this book and it has given me several things to think about in regards to my overthinking in relat does.tion to my mental health. Ways to get out of the cycle, How to prevent it reoccuring, and what to do if it does. I believe this book has a lot to offer to men as well and don't understand why it is marketed/name for women. There are some women related items but perhaps only a paragraph or two.

Why must we know the hair, skin, and eye color of all the case studies? Aren't we a
Jul 26, 2012 Patty rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: shrink-me
Was looking for more of science oriented view, but got self-help with a scientific basis instead. Mildly interesting, especially if perseverating is an issue for you. Sort of got bogged down in case studies. Certain of the basic premises were worth a look: "overthinking" is a modern malaise and a female one for the most part. Overthinking is ruminating way too much over things that do not go right in one's life. The author's belief is that this is a natural function of the way the brain works in ...more
Nov 08, 2014 Geena rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I purchased this book near what would be the end of a relationship. I realized how much I needed to change and wish I had read much sooner. I put it off because I was over thinking and wondering just how I could be better, what happened to end everything, when I should have been reading!! I highly recommend this to every woman facing even the slightest stressor. So many lessons of self love and appreciation help you understand that life goes on, and more likely than not for the better.
Apr 16, 2015 Maggy rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
La autora define el pensar demasiado como "pensamiento excesivo", yo lo defino como esas cosas a las que uno les da vueltas en las noches de insomnio y y en momentos de angustia. Un libro que pretende ser didáctico al ofrecernos "técnicas" para no pensar demasiado, las cuales no se presentan de manera muy clara, aun con los cuadros esquemáticos. Lo que sí podría aterrizar en la realidad, y admito que fue la mejor parte que leí, fue la ultima y tercera parte sobré la manera de resumir y ejemplifi ...more
Liz De Coster
Feb 07, 2015 Liz De Coster rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Dr. Nolen-Hoeksema does a good job of dissecting different "types" of overthinking and analyzing the reasons women may be more likely to fall prey to these kinds of activities, but I think the book suffers from too much anecdote and "justs" - essentially advising the reader to "just" stop doing xyz, which I tend to find is an ineffective way to give advice.
I started reading this book because it was in the recommended reading section in the back of Jean Twenge's great book Generation Me. However, I found it a little too "self-help-y" for my taste. I liked Twenge's more observational approach, which gave me a lot to think about.

The concept is interesting though: in the past people didn't "overthink" their lives. Past generations simply accepted the hand life dealt to them and put the rest in God's hands. Younger generations seem to dwell on and vis
Jan 03, 2010 Catherine rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010
I liked this fine. It was a perfectly harmless and extremely accessible read that occasionally left me feeling vaguely motivated to overcome the chronic overthinking that I am evidently afflicted with. Only for about a five minutes at a time, but I suspect that's because I am a hopeless case and not because Nolen-Hoeksema doesn't know what she's talking about. She probably does, and I was charmed/inadvertently amused by the little exemplary narratives her book is full of ('Take, for example, Ver ...more
Sue Ellis
Mar 09, 2013 Sue Ellis rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Really gives you lots to think about!! Very good ideas how to overcome negative thinking, reach higher ground and resolve problems. The case histories illustrated the way to practise the methods given and were in themselves good to read. Even if you have not experienced exactly what each person went through, you can still identify with their initial (usually negative) reactions and responses and their reflective thinking and practising methods to improve situations.

Yes, it is a self-help book b
Jul 01, 2014 GONZA rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Clear and well-written, especially with regard to the recommendations respect the actions to be taken at times when the over thinking becomes obsessive. For use both in therapy or as a self-help manual, although I do not think that outside of a therapeutic relationship it may be sufficient.

Chiaro e ben scritto, specialmente per quanto riguarda i consigli rispetto alle azioni da da intraprendere nei momenti in cui il ruminamento si fa ossessivo. Da usare sia in terapia, sia come manuale di auto-a
May 24, 2013 Gregory rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help, psychology
I read this recently while doing research on a self-help writing project of my own; I'd remembered recently seeing the author's obituary in the NY Times.

The book is excellent; it's a very readable discussion based on a lot of very solid contemporary research on the nature of depression and anxiety and how we (men as well as women) can easily "talk ourselves into" developing more serious depressions.

I wrote a longer discussion of the book on my blog at
Aug 21, 2015 Shelli rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Super helpful!
Aug 17, 2014 C rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I appreciated the author's use of real-life examples.
This is a book aimed at women who ruminate too much. The author identifies patterns in thinking that can lead to rumination and unrealistic expectations or fears, then offers fictional examples in which women overcome these thoughts. I feel like I've read books on this topic that are far more interesting, but it's a very accessible book for people who haven't read much on the topics of anxiety or cognitive-behavioral psychology.
Jenny Stewart
I think my first problem I had with this book is that Dr. Nolen-Hoeksema felt the need to tone down her research about Rumination and call it "Overthinking". That is annoying. A non-psychologist can get what rumination means, dude. I thought that this book was a very toned-down version of David Burn's "Feeling Good" book and the rumination exercises weren't that stellar.
Jul 03, 2013 June rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I think many women I know ruminate on issues, replaying conversations and other thoughts obsessively, mixed with worries. I know I do. This book described it well, offering many anecdotes with examples, and offering strategies to break free of the over thinking. Te strategy that resonated best with me is to distract oneself. I'm glad I read this book.
Feb 03, 2009 Emily is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this book would help me realize why I suck at dating, instead it just made me think Susan Nolen-Hoeksema sucks at life. This book is dumb, although it did help me realize I am not an over thinker in relationships I actually have the opposite problem of not thinking through relationships enough. I suggest this to no one.
Sep 26, 2010 Alexis rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010
A great book to read if you fall or spiral into the category of negative thinking, or rumination. There are explanations for why people do this, and how to stop. I immediately ordered myself a copy after finishing the book.

Some of the suggestions might seem straightforward, but it's great to have everything in one place.
Strategies for overcoming recurring worrying thoughts about oneself and one's relationships. These include exercise, creating distractions, talking to others and writing down worries - so nothing very new. The sample cases were interesting, if only to confirm that I don't really have this problem.
Nov 02, 2011 Susanne rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A great book to dip in and out of. I believe lots of women are guilty for 'over-thinking', and through personal experience, it can really cause a great deal of stress and anxiety. This book talks about lots of different women's experiences, and different ways to overcome such an affliction.
Easy to read and accessible - I found this very helpful (although I was a bit perplexed by her insistence in describing all her case study people - does it matter is X had blue hair and fair skin and Y was a brunette?) Probably need to read it more than once (or twice).
This book is aimed at those women who, like me, wake up in the middle of the night and feel anguished about everything in their lives: the bills that are late, the cost of living, the lack of power they have over their situation, the children, etc. Not a bad read.
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