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Monkey Mind: A Memoir of Anxiety

3.24  ·  Rating Details  ·  5,922 Ratings  ·  736 Reviews
We all think we know what being anxious feels like, but for forty million American adults, anxiety is an insidious condition that defines daily life. In this uplifting and very funny memoir, Daniel Smith brilliantly articulates what it is like to live with anxiety.
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Claire
Oct 14, 2012 Claire rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I've been putting off writing this review because it's hard to conceive of doing it justice in a couple paragraphs.

Having struggled with Generalized Anxiety Disorder since I was a little kid, I've read plenty of books about anxiety. Mostly nonfiction from the medical/psych fields, of the "about anxiety" and/or "how to manage anxiety" camp(s). Daniel Smith's book is nothing like that, in that it doesn't attempt to teach or enlighten. Rather, it's his story--his account of what life looks like whi
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Kat
Apr 22, 2016 Kat rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
4/22/2016 UPDATE: I had a severe anxiety disorder for over 10 years, I reached a point where I was panicking about going outside. I can now say that I haven't had a panic attack in over 6 months and it is the greatest feeling in the world. This book didn't cure me, but it helped me understand I was not alone. There are so many varying degrees of panic attacks, and I felt like I was a little more extreme than Daniel, but it doesn't matter - we all have panic attacks and we all want to be better. ...more
Emma Sea
EDIT 29 May:

Following the reaction to my naming of Smith's experience as rape (see comments), I re-read the book, with an open mind, looking for evidence of this consensual but regretted activity some people seem to see. I still see only rape.

It's clearer than ever to me that Smith has been groomed by a predatory adult, does not want to have sex, and doesn't know how to get out of it.

To avoid unwanted sex is not an easy thing. There's a great column by Katie Halper in which she details her str
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Angela
Jul 28, 2012 Angela rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone who has anxiety, knows someone with anxiety or has an interest in the topic
Daniel Smith made four general observations about anxiety that shows how intimate he is with this particular affliction:

1. Anxiety starts from fear. Once anxious, the brain looks for more things to be fearful of, which begets the cycle. Essentially, anxiety is addictive.

2. There is no cure for anxiety. Only treatment and treatment only works if one is committed to the long process.

3. Anxiety sufferers are not "crazy." Crazy implies a break from reality. Anxiety may be a result of being in "to
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Mallory
Aug 23, 2012 Mallory rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I got an advance copy of this book through Goodreads/Firstreads for review.

I was underwhelmed by this book. It started off with potential but didn't really feel like it went anywhere. Daniel Smith has a voice which really comes through, and some of the anecdotes in this memoir are funny and self-deprecating. There are moments which remind me of David Sedaris or Augusten Burroughs, but the highlights are fewer than I'd have liked them to be.

Mostly, this memoir meanders about a topic and eventuall
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Jo Anne B
Jul 19, 2012 Jo Anne B rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
It seemed like the author was trying to emulate David Sedaris or Augusten Burroughs with his witty take on his anxiety. Instead he took a very serious topic and made a joke out of it. Most of the book was spent talking about his sexual relationships that he had as a teenager. He claims those in combination with his overbearing mother gave him anxiety. This book was very incoherent and had no purpose. There was a lucid moment at the end of the book that basically said he would never not have anxi ...more
Rob Freund
I'm going to do something that I've never done before in a book review. I'm going to recommend that you NOT read this book. It's not because Monkey Mind isn't an effective expose on what an individual suffering from chronic anxiety lives with; it is. It's at times darkly funny, as Smith has few problems poking fun at his own complexes. Other times it's very informative; you can tell he has done his research, and hasn't relied solely on personal experience. All in all, Monkey Mind is engaging, a ...more
Moira Russell
Apr 22, 2013 Moira Russell rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: ebook, on-the-kindle
The first quarter or so of this book is very funny, describing his severe anxiety in general. It becomes markedly less funny and dangerously boring when the author talks at great length about how he went to college and was basically saved by reading Philip Roth (ugh). Even though he keeps insisting his own family is nothing like Roth's, he winds up blaming a great deal of his problems on his mother (she's too anxious herself, the atmosphere at home was too chaotic, &c &c). He says his fa ...more
Elizabeth
Sep 23, 2012 Elizabeth rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: forsaken
I read the first 60 or 70 pages word for word. I wanted to stop reading after the intro but I'd heard good things about this book so I pressed on. However, after about the first 60 or 70 pages, I skimmed the rest of the book.

This is the author's memoir of life with anxiety. That said, the book loses its focus time and again as the author goes on tangents that are unrelated to the topic of the book.

In my opinion, the nervous disorder called anxiety is very complicated, subtle, chronic, baffling,
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Kaitlin
So I read this book as part of the #MHAReadathon which focuses on highlighting Mental Health conditions and talking about them. I had never read about anxiety before, and I didn't expect this to be as frank as it turned out to be, but I liked that.
This is the story of Daniel Smith's life, it's not made up, it's real, and it's not a story about everything getting better, it's an on-going battle. I think before reading this I understood the concept of anxiety, but I didn't necessarily understand h
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RandomAnthony
A.J. Jacobs cover-blurbs Daniel Smith's Monkey Mind. This is not necessarily a positive harbinger. Jacobs has spawned a genre of cutsey-but-not-horrible books in which the author does something wacky like buying a Korean deli or living according to strict Biblical tenets then keeps a diary of his travails and insecurities. Monkey Mind ventures into more serious territory but retains the basic formula. Smith outlines his history with anxiety while straddling the “not too serious” Jacobs approach. ...more
Maureen
Jul 05, 2012 Maureen rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
A horrible and too loosely woven memoir. I would like those past few hours of my life back. Oprah's book recommendations failed me terribly this time. This poor guy is clearly suffering, and there are moments of clarity where he is actually able to articulate what it is like to have an anxiety disorder, but most of the book is an incoherent, self -serving collection of quotations and the author does not do justice to his topic . Booo.
Rob
Feb 03, 2014 Rob rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Daniel Smith's memoir may deserve better than this middling score, but here's where I'm coming from: reading about someone else's anxiety doesn't help me with my own. I knew going in that this wasn't a self-help book – I wouldn't have read it if it was – but I was hoping that by reading Smith's "memoir of anxiety" I might gain some insight into the condition I've wrestled with since my early teenage years. While I felt myself nodding along ("Yeah, that sounds familiar. So does that. And that."), ...more
Debbie
I had high hopes for this memoir but ultimately was disappointed. What I wanted (lower my expectations, I tell myself) was a book full of rich anecdotes; an honest journey through one person’s anxiety. What I got instead was a book with some anecdotes but an equal number of dissertations on philosophy. Smith, obviously a smart cookie, mentions Freud a few too many times, but his diatribe on Kierkegaard is the deal breaker. If I ever want to read about Kierkegaard’s take on anxiety, which I most ...more
Don
Dec 27, 2012 Don rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: biography
As much as I like Smith (I heard him on WTF w/ Marc Maron), this book just didn't pull me in. Smith doesn't really convey what it feels like to suffer from crippling anxiety. I kept thinking back to Marya Hornbacher's Madness: A Bipolar Life. Hornbacher drags us into her mind. When she's manic, we feel invincible. When she's down, we really don't see how things could get better. I left that memoir feeling dizzied, dazed, like I'd suffered with her.

Smith, by contrast, doesn't seem to take his su
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Marcy Italiano
Mar 27, 2013 Marcy Italiano rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Yeah, you can say it piqued my interest. I told (hubby) he didn't have to read it, as he's lived with it for over 20 years. If you have any kind of ANXIETY, the kind that makes you feel on the outside of normal, you might enjoy this book. That is, if you feel it is psychologically healthy for you to do so. You may or may not be as bad, the same as, or worse than the examples given by the Jewish boy-teen-man, but the anxiety is presented in such a way that it's almost a character. It's lightheart ...more
Diane Yannick
Aug 30, 2012 Diane Yannick rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book did not work for me on so many levels. I did not want to follow Daniel Smith on his many long egotistical meanderings. I never felt that he was totally sincere or interested in developing a compelling narrative. His attempts to add humor to his saga felt labored. He showed his mother's personality through her actions and that rang true. His own personality was mostly shown through rivers of words that didn't resonate with me. I think that his editors let him down. His struggles with an ...more
Harry Rubenstein
A very well written, brutally honest, humorous and semi-dark memoir of living with anxiety. I discovered Daniel Smith via his excellent column about Jews and anxiety in the NYTimes. Though some of the content hit a bit too close to home, it was not anxiety attack inducing but rather provided me with the feeling that I was in good company. Don't read this if you are looking for a book offer solutions and remedies, but rather a real portrayal of what is like living with an anxiety disorder. Great ...more
Jonathan
Sep 13, 2012 Jonathan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a really funny book about a condition that is no fun at all. It sums up very well the thoughts that go through an anxious mind. We all experience anxiety on some level, but chronic, debilitating anxiety is a different beast altogether and Smith describes it with a great sense of humor and compassion. If you've ever suffered from really bad anxiety or know somebody who has, this will make a very entertaining read.
Judith
May 08, 2013 Judith rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The difference between David Sedaris and Daniel Smith is that Sedaris bares his soul for his readers ultimate entertainment and his woe-is-me stories are hysterically funny, as well as informative. When Daniel Smith talks about his anxiety disorders all I can think about is sending him a bill for therapy. He is at times mildly amusing, but not up to the hype he has received. Tell-alls should be more like tell-somes.

Andrea
Jan 20, 2013 Andrea rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
On page 170/212 of this book and I can't go any further. I wanted so badly to enjoy this book, from the first time I saw it at the bookstore. For many years I have suffered from anxiety, although not quite as severe as Daniel. I heard this was a light and funny read, and thought that I would be able to relate to much of his descriptions about anxiety. There were a few descriptions of Daniel's that I did relate to, such as his description of anxiety attacks.

For the most part, i found this book v
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Scott
Sep 27, 2012 Scott rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Daniel Smith's Monkey Mind is subtitled "A Memoir of Anxiety", and it sounds so promising: a smart, intimate, honest account of one person's battle with an acute, crippling mental illness, combined with a broader perspective of treatments, societal reactions/misunderstandings, etc., like what Andrew Solomon did with depression in his great Noonday Demon, one of my all-time favorites, or Elyn Saks with schizophrenia with her also pretty great The Center Cannot Hold. AND Smith is supposedly "laugh ...more
Cynthia
Jul 24, 2012 Cynthia rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Any one that suffers from chronic anxiety and those that love them.
Monkey Mind takes a different approach to the issue of anxiety that most books on the topic might choose. The reader is presented with three of the authors significant battles with anxiety and takes the reader from the start (or the perceived start) of the problem through how he has dealt and deals with the anxiety in his life.

For those who suffer the affects of chronic anxiety the memoir gives reassurance that while the anxiety will always be something you have to deal with it doesn't have to
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Steve
Jan 28, 2013 Steve rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It's psychotherapy-as-book-review time:
I picked up a copy of this book because I hoped it would give my anxiety some perspective. Some days I can't even bring myself to leave the house, and even on my good days, I feel skinless and raw. It's always been that way, and lately it's been getting worse.
The good news is, I found some perspective in this memoir. Daniel Smith's symptoms are sometimes eerily similar to my own. The bad news is that Smith is something of an extreme case, at one point appr
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Dkattean
I'm not sure if I was supposed to laugh as much as I did at Mr. Smith's memoir. This is one of the funniest and most insightful books I've read in a long time. Let me be clear - I wasn't laughing at Mr. Smith, but with him. He writes with great candor of the monumental ridiculousness of the various situations in which he has found himself owing to his long-term struggle with extreme anxiety. The panic attack at the Arby's "fixins" counter kept me going for days.

More than a memoir, Mr. Smith inc
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Barbara
Jul 07, 2013 Barbara rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I must admit I was thoroughly disappointed by this memoir. When I came across this New York Times bestseller, I thought it would be an in-depth and possibly perspective-changing account of anxiety disorder.

Daniel Smith's "Monkey Mind" was instead a poorly strung together collection of his own anxiety anecdotes. While some of his stories were humorous, I found the majority of his writing to be obscure and pointless. He jumps from scene to scene, leaving gaping holes in his stories.

I found myself
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Marian
This is a 4 star book to which I must give 3 stars. You see, Smith frequently suggests in his memoir of anxiety what is stupid for anxious people to do. Well, he forgets to say that people with anxiety shouldn't read his book. Though occasionally cathartic or uncannily familiar, mostly it was a trip into my own memories, anxieties, failings and successes. And that is hard to digest and definitely hard to appreciate.

As an aside, it is beautifully funny at times and well written and sweet in its
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Diane
Dec 07, 2012 Diane rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoirs, angst
An amusing but slightly long-winded memoir by a writer suffering from severe anxiety. Daniel Smith begins the book by trying to find the origin of his anxieties. What event in childhood caused him to start panicking? His mother, a psychotherapist, also suffers from anxiety and is able to help, but Daniel thinks she may have been part of the problem. My favorite chapter was when Daniel got a job at The Atlantic magazine as a fact-checker. He's thrilled to be working there, but it also causes him ...more
Jessica Rosner
Two things. One, I don't think I would recommend this book to someone who is not an anxious person. It is a serious personal journey through that paralysis we, the consistently anxious, feel. I found a tiny bit of it a slog, but thought the last third really excellent, helpful, and romantic.
But when I glanced at other reviews I was brought back to a part of the book which he thinks is the beginning of his issues. Someone else says, rape. I agree. He was raped and none of his therapists seemed i
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Jafar
Oct 13, 2012 Jafar rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book isn’t as high-minded as Darkness Visible, or (fortunately) as pretentious as An Unquiet Mind. It’s written not only with humor and humanity, but also with great insight. The book is not, as the author warns, a recovery manual. If your neurons are misfiring, there’s not much you can do other than learn to deal with it.

The problem with many of these memoirs is that you pick them up because you find the subject matter of interest, e.g., living with extreme anxiety, but then you have to de
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“First, contrary to popular belief, Buddhists can actually be very anxious people. That’s often why they become Buddhists in the first place. Buddhism was made for the anxious like Christianity was made for the downtrodden or AA for the addicted. Its entire purpose is to foster equanimity, to tame excesses of thought and emotion. The Buddhists have a great term for these excesses. They refer to them as the condition of “monkey mind.” A person in the throes of monkey mind suffers from a consciousness whose constituent parts will not stop bouncing from skull-side to skull-side, which keep flipping and jumping and flinging feces at the walls and swinging from loose neurons like howlers from vines. Buddhist practices are designed explicitly to collar these monkeys of the mind and bring them down to earth—to pacify them. Is it any wonder that Buddhism has had such tremendous success in the bastions of American nervousness, on the West Coast and in the New York metro area?” 6 likes
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