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Inconsolable: How I Threw My Mental Health Out With the Diapers

3.94  ·  Rating Details ·  127 Ratings  ·  28 Reviews
Marrit Ingman became a mother on February 27, 2002. She went crazy—also on February 27, 2002. Her journey began with a plate of carne guisada and led to an emergency cesarian, ankyloglossia, colic, gastroesphageal reflux, eczema, Zoloft, Paxil, peanut allergy, suicidal ideation, hepatitis, and a whole lot of pie. Ingman documents the agony of elimination diets and tearful, ...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published September 21st 2005 by Seal Press (first published August 31st 2005)
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Oct 27, 2010 Nancy rated it really liked it
This is the book that should be required reading for those thinking of having a baby. This exposes all of the stuff that "they" don't tell you when you bring the baby home from the hospital...the colic, the exploding diapers, the allergies, but most of all the post-partum depression. Mrs. Ingman writes that "sometimes it's enough that everyone is alive at the end of the day". I found myself empathizing with the writer, as someone who has seen some pretty dark days herself. While she takes on som ...more
Dec 08, 2010 Sara rated it really liked it
Brutally honest book about post-partum depression and the struggle to be healthy while caring for an infant. I so appreciated her telling me plainly - it's normal to feel exhausted and bored and overwhelmed... living with young kids is crazy-making. It's a lie that "love is enough" to make a parent feel happy all the time, especially if you're the primary caregiver for the kid/s. Ingman "majors on the majors" - be kind to yourself and to other moms, don't freak out over non-essentials.
May 06, 2009 Jennifer rated it really liked it
I heard about this book from my friend Emily's review. It was helpful to see how this author coped with being a new mom. And helped me to see that while I was pretty "rocked" by this motherhood thing, I was certainly not alone, and certainly facing challenges faced by many before me. It gave me some perspective.
Dec 05, 2007 Molly rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: crazy postpartum mamas
I need books like this to make me feel like I did not exit the land of the sane. Or at least that I can re-enter if I did.
Oct 08, 2008 Alison rated it really liked it
I wish I'd had this book before I was diagnosed with postpartum depression (PPD). She's intensely honest about how difficult the first months of motherhood were for her.
Mar 07, 2012 Bethany rated it it was amazing
This book saved me. It should be a must read for anyone dealing with postpartum depression.
Feb 20, 2012 Jacki rated it really liked it
What causes postpartum depression (PPD)? Who gets PPD? How long does it last? How far-reaching are its effects on mothers and children? And isn't it horribly boring to read about PPD if you're not even a parent?

Not if it's Marrit Ingman.

Ingman went through pregnancy with every intention of making all the right parenting choices and the expectation that she would form an instant bond with her baby that would bring joy and fulfillment to her life. From the moment her intended vaginal delivery turn
Sonya Feher
Jul 02, 2008 Sonya Feher rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: parents
Shelves: memoir, parenting
This is a hard book to read, as Ingman warns in the introduction. She cops to the things no one ever shares, the fantasy of getting in the car and driving away so her husband and child can lead their lives together while she gets alone time, uninterrupted time, her life back. Her PPD and descriptions of it offer something Brooke Shields’ memoir didn’t come close to, what it’s like to be a new mom with money concerns, comparing one’s parenting choices, after-baby weight and image, struggles with ...more
Emily Childs
Apr 04, 2008 Emily Childs rated it really liked it
Thanks to Ms. Ingman for writing this book. It really gave me a sense of perspective about my own first year as a mother. Loved the title of the chapter that started with, "Fuck Dr. Sears". Hell yes! Also could really relate to the whole "slightly older parent-to-be overachiever seeks to learn all from books and master this parenting thing lickety split" thing she had going on. Very risky to do, indeed! I certainly go my own come-uppance! Entertaining, easy to read, and gives you a mission to se ...more
Sep 24, 2008 Allison rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
I think most mothers probably can relate to something in this book. To be sure, most of us are not having suicidal fantasies throughout the entirety of our child's infancy, but then most of us don't have reflux, multi-allergic babies who cry and cry and cry.

Even as something of an "attachment" parent herself, the author has a pretty scathing review of the Dr Sears books, and actually the whole "parenting" genre. People put so much pressure on themselves to do things the "right" way and are so ju
Mar 06, 2008 Andy rated it really liked it
Full Disclosure Disclaimer: The author is a family friend and she gives my wife and I a shout-out in the intro. And she has a great chapter that makes my wife sound like the supercool woman she is.

BUT EVEN if she didn't, this book is great. This book details the author's very difficult post-birth experiences with her chronically ill infant and severe post-partum depression. The topics may not sound like fun, but Marrit has such a good sense of humor and is such a good writer that she makes it a
Susan Bazzett-griffith
I thoroughly enjoyed this confessional memoir about Marrit Ingman's first 18 months of motherhood. She pulls no punches and gives voice to even the most taboo of thoughts associated with postpartum depression and psychosis. Her writing is lovely and lyrical at points and straightforward and concise at others. Four stars.
Feb 01, 2015 Crystal rated it it was amazing
This book was amazing. She is a great writer, and so very brave a raw to share her experiences with becoming a new mom who had a difficult baby (colic/reflux/food allergies/eczema) that contributed to her postpartum depression and intrusive thoughts. Written in essay format, there are times you laugh, and time you nod your head in recognition (or at least I did). Loved it.
Apr 01, 2008 maxnbigboy rated it did not like it
Recommends it for: no one
I read a excerpt from this book and was so offended by the language and authors attitude towards her child that I did not read the book and will not recommend it to anyone. I understand that postpartum depression is an awful disease, but this little child will grow up to read these horrible thoughts from his mother. It was not humorous to me at all.
Mike Coons
Jul 17, 2008 Mike Coons rated it it was amazing
As a non-mother but knowing lots of children, this book is great. Although it deals with a serious subject, the author is very poignant in her observations. I laughed at a lot of things, but I'm removed from the emotions.
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Aug 27, 2007 laura carbonneau rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: mothers
If you're a mother or a would-be mother (or father) and aren't afraid of the dark side of motherhood, this is an utterly honest account of Marrit's struggle with post-partum depression and society's assumptions about what makes a "good mother." Excellent!
Apr 22, 2008 julie rated it really liked it
Not a fun read, but a glimpse at depression, at myself, and a bit of social discourse on the state of motherhood in America thrown in for good measure. It was normalizing to see that my scary thoughts looked just like someone else's scary thoughts from time to time.
Aug 08, 2007 Amy rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: any new mama
Wish I'd had this to read when my first child was born...motherhood can be so isolating--reading this really helped me stop judging myself. She's a great writer.
Jul 09, 2007 Wendy rated it it was amazing
Should be required reading for all moms - I love her sassy, sarcastic style...despite being about PPD, this book is an easy, funny read...
Jan 30, 2012 michella rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoirs, parenting
emotionally charged, raw, honest while still managing to be hilarious at times. I think there are parts every parent could relate to in some way.
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Great memoir about post-partum depression and a difficult child.
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