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Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt

3.95 of 5 stars 3.95  ·  rating details  ·  367 ratings  ·  62 reviews
Like millions of other women, CNN's Headline News and truTV's "In Session" anchor Christi Paul blamed herself for the emotional abuse heaped on her by her first husband, whose violent, profanity-laced tirades left her feeling as though she had no value, no self-worth, and nowhere to turn for help.Then one day, when Christi was taking refuge in a church parking lot, the ver ...more
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Published May 18th 2012 by Tyndale House Publishers
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Add 8 years of marriage and 2 kids, take out some of the names he called her and (maybe)the infidelity and this could be my story (When I filed for divorce I said I did not want to be his emotional punching bag anymore - Christi uses this exact term!). I could relate to so much of this there are almost 50 pages turned down and twice that many passages highlighted. Even the parts I could not relate to, things I did not experience helped me to decipher what I have experienced. It is easy to get ca ...more
Can I give this book a 10 star rating? I devoured it front to back cover in less than 6 hours. I absolutely loved this book. Her story was so affirming and empowering and I couldn't help but to empathize and relate to so much of her pain. I loved how she clearly referenced God and how he didn't design us to be abused. She also made it very clear why victims just don't leave. I loved her analogy of being an emotional punching bag. There was just so much about this book I really enjoyed; I closed ...more
A brutally honest book about the triumph and hardships of overcoming emotional abuse.

Christi Paul tells her personal story of suffering and overcoming emotional abuse, that came in the form of someone she loved.

Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt was a well written read that was engaging, yet hard to read for me personally because of the nature of the content. As I read my heart was breaking for Christi, and it reminded me of how hard it is to stand up for yourself when you are being hurt. The book fol
I have always enjoyed watching Christi Paul on TruTv. I was excited when I found out that she was such a strong, genuine Christian. Her story of being in an abusive relationship and how she got out was truly inspirational.

The book was very therapeutic for me. While my situation is quite different from Christi's there were a lot of things I could relate to and it was so helpful to see how she coped with everything.

I highlighted A LOT of passages throughout the book but here is one exceptionally g
I have walked with a couple of girlfriends who were in relationships where they experienced varying degrees of abuse.

I took up's free offer of Christi Paul's eBook, "Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt" and I am glad I did. As I read I felt as though I was with Christi as she went through the four years with Justin. More than that, I could so easily have replaced Christi's name in the book, with any of my girlfriends' names and the story would still be true. Her style of writing invite
The true life story of the author's marriage to an emotionally draining and abusive husband. Isolated from her family and friends she was drawn to him by his charming yet tempering personality. Challenges and dangers she faced at his hand led her to make sensible decisions on the quest of finding something meaningful and precious in her life. Through it all God is faithful and true.

My heart went out to the author for what she had endured. The choices she made has lessons and sound advice for al
George Williams
One cannot help but feel sorry for a celebutard who marries a bad drunk, but this memoir is really a black comedy of "I, I, I, I, me, me, me, poor pitiful me." What a surprise. Bathos from a well-paid CNN propagandist. If you want to know what's really going on in America, read Al-Jazeera online or watch Russian state television.

Love isn't supposed to hurt? Either she has never read, or didn't pay attention in whatever Shakespeare course she took at whatever 4th rate university she attended whi
Angie Parker
I was very disappointed in the contents and couldn't believe the publisher let her get by listing her exspouse with an anonymous name of "Justin" when they are both public figures. An everyday person can get by doing something like that but public figures - no! SMDH! Christi kept repeating herself over and over in every chapter. If you erased all the redundancy in the book you would come up with a solid 1 chapter book. I am sorry for what she had to endure but she kept saying over and over in ev ...more
I appreciate that the author wrote this book. A teenage girl that I care about seems remarkably willing to date boys that treat her poorly, and this book helped me understand better where she might be coming from emotionally. The author explained how she meet and married a man who was verbally abusive, what it took for her to leave the situation, and how she healed afterward. She includes some questions in the back that she found helpful to think through.

The author was very clear that verbal abu
I wasn't expecting this book to be as good as it was. It is a honest look at a marriage gone bad and the healing afterward. The author does not place all the blame on her spouse and does not encourage the blame game. She focuses on the healing. Yes we hear her side of what went wrong but I thought she did a good job at being fair and what she told was with the goal of healing in mind. I found this to be a book that made me want to work on healing myself from past relationships, (far more brutal ...more
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Like millions of other women, CNN’s Headline News and truTV’s In Session anchor Christi Paul blamed herself for the emotional abuse heaped on her by her first husband, whose violent, profanity-laced tirades left her feeling as though she had no value, no self-worth, and nowhere to turn for help.

Then one day, when Christi was taking refuge in a church parking lot, the verse “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” popped into her head. In that mo
Trying to find a book for a loved one going through a painful relationship that offers heartfelt insight & encouraging biblical principles is difficult. Christi's experience & hope conveyed to the reader was just what I was looking for.
Ms. Paul tells a compelling story and I feel for her. I spent much of the book feeling like I was watching a horror movie screaming at the tv- don't answer the phone/door. There is more abuse here than just someone mentally beating someone else down- he verbally and physically terrorizes her- even if he isn't beating her up. This doesn't seem to be honestly acknowledged.

Ms. Paul either needed a better editor or a better ghost writer. Her reactions to the events that take place and how she feels
Alycia Morales
Aug 30, 2012 Alycia Morales rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: abused women, counselors, women
Recommended to Alycia by: Review Copy
Shelves: non-fiction, memoir
“I believe serving God means being true to who He made you to be. It means allowing yourself to feel and be cognizant of the God-given desires stirring inside you.” – Christi Paul

A Little of My Personal Testimony:

In 1984, in the middle of the school year, my parents moved us across the state of New York to a new home in the Catskill Mountains. Leaving friends behind, I looked forward to making new ones. As a third grader, I never expected others may not need a new friend. In the small-town schoo
Emily Savageau
Although I have not had an experience like Christi I found this book very insightful. I've seen friends in similar relationships and it gave me a better understanding of what they went through. I think anyone could take something away from this book.

Here are a few quotes I liked:

"A safe partner builds you up. A dangerous one tears you down." pg 162
"'You know the only difference between us and God? God doesn't think he's us.' ...Who among us hasn't tried to play God with our lives, deluding ours
Rianna B
I relate to 50-75% of this book. It was clearly a God-incidence that I saw the tweet that linked to the webpage talking about this book. I certainly didn't expect it to have my EXACT thoughts on what I was going through at the time it was happening & the struggles I had with staying & leaving.. and "walking on eggshells" or "dodging landmines." I love how totally honest she is in the writing. I also loved the new insights & revelations she received. I actually highlighted at least 1/ ...more
Once I picked this book up, I couldn’t put it down. It simply broke my heart to know that some women go through life not knowing true love, because they don’t have the guts to leave abusive husbands. I am thankful that in the end, after many wrong turns and mistakes, the heroine finally breaks away from the man to whom she had trusted her heart.

“Hope in God is action. And hope does not disappoint us”. Christi’s life line during her darkest days was a hope and complete reliance upon God. It is sa
Samantha Parrish
Raw and honest

This book held me captive. I felt for Christi, and ached for Rob "Justin". I wish more people were honest about their experiences. Christi offers hope and a way to healing (God) to people out there who are hurting. This book is not about making someone out to be the bad guy, it's about recognizing that everyone has a personal battle, and we need to take responsibility for our own fights. Inspiring, brave, and very emotional.
A inspiring story of how the author managed to break free of an abusive marriage. My only criticism is that although she makes a very good point about emotional abuse being just as real and traumatic as physical abuse, she denies that she was physically abused, just because her husband never actually hit her. However, he shoved her up against a wall and held her by the neck, threatening to bash it in, and held her arms so tightly that she had bruises the next day. I'd call that physical abuse ev ...more
Christi Paul shares from a very deep place in her heart, I can truly appreciate that. This is a book about a relationship gone bad, a marriage that really never should have been. There are many lessons to be learned here, if you feel uneasy about a relationship, you should probably move on; and if a person shows you a disturbing side of their personality, see it for what it REALLY is, and again, move on. If you find yourself in a bad relationship/marriage that never should have been, have the co ...more
Rebecca Smith
Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt....but sometimes it does.

Wonderful book. I am a survivor of physical and verbal abuse. This book really touched my heart. I surely found some gold nuggets to use in my life. Thank you.
Kevin Travis
I enjoyed the book. While there isn't any turmoil in my marriage (we've been married for just over 4 months), I've known Christi for a long time and I have always admired her. That's why I wanted to read her book.

I admire her even more now. Having lived in her hometown, I knew some of the people she was talking about, especially P.A. It brought back a flood of memories.

Her willingness to open up her heart and soul to discuss difficult times was really brave. I know many people are going to benef
Jessica Smith
3.5 stars.

A bit repetitious in places, but otherwise a breezy read that brings me hope anyone can find solace after their storms.
Catherine Sandy
Good book. I don't understand how she stayed in the marriage as long as she did.
What a brave book for Ms. Paul to write. This took a lot of courage. It was hard at times for me to get through. Not because it was bad but because it was heavy and raw at times. The only thing that I didn't like about this book is that I found it to be preachy at times which wouldn't have bothered me if it had been edited down some because I like some of that but it was just a bit too often and she used the word "we" instead of "I" which took me away from the narrative. This is a great book for ...more
Becky Carothers
This book gave me wonderful insight to dealing with verbal abuse. Christi lays out her struggles in a 4 year marriage of verbal abuse that is very thought provocing. Even though my verbal abuse did not come from my husband but a family member it really opened my eyes to the long term effect it has on whoever has to deal with it. She finds peace with her decisions and life in the end and finds true happiness but says she could not have done that without going through her first marriage.

Very well
This book is a great read because it is so honest. Great book for anyone that is in a emotional or physically abusive relationship. Also good for anyone that is trying to help a friend or family member with abuse.
Wow! I could really relate to this book and what she went through. Verbal/emotional abuse is a serious, painful issue in so many relationships and it's often ignored. I suffered under it for over 15 yrs before a friend finally helped see that I was crumbling emotionally and falling into depression. I did skim over several pages where the author was describing all of her feelings and realizations only because I felt they were quite verbose and I get lost in all the deep thoughts.
Briana Ford
Christi's story was so relatable, I feel like there's more highlighted passages than not. Her experience mirrored mine in a lot of places, and I'm happy to say that her words pushed me to do what was necessary. I'm happy that her story has a happy ending and I'm sure mine will too. A must read for anyone who is in a relationship or getting out of one that did not serve them.
Even if you've never been through an abusive relationship this book has some words of wisdom for just about any woman going through tough situations. It's a christian book so of course that goes throughout the whole thing. It has some great quotes in it also. I can't even tell you how often I used the highlight feature in the book to go back and read parts of it later. I randomly found it as a freebie on amazon but it was still worth reading.
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Christi Paul is an award-winning journalist and national weekday news anchor for CNN’s HLN and TruTv’s In Session. In her eight years at CNN, she has covered a wide variety of stories, including two presidential elections, the Virginia Tech shootings, the Casey Anthony murder trial, the Warren Jeffs polygamy trial, and the Conrad Murray trial. She has also interviewed such noted figures as Senator ...more
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“And there it is again -- that profound lesson about choices. Once we make them, we're tied to them, and consequences will follow us. But we also need to know that each day we get the chance to choose all over again. And believe me, there's hope in that” 4 likes
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