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The Way to Love

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The Way To Love contains thefinal flowering of Anthony de Mello's thought, andin it he grapples with the ultimate question oflove. In thirty-one meditations, he implores hisreaders with his usual pithiness to break throughillusion, the great obstacle to love. "Lovesprings from awareness," de Mello insists, sayingthat it is only when we see others as they arethat we can beg ...more
Paperback, 196 pages
Published June 1st 1995 by Image (first published 1991)
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Jeff Maziarek
Jan 31, 2010 Jeff Maziarek rated it really liked it
Anthony DeMello is my favorite spiritual teacher, so I'll admit to having a bit of bias in his favor. This is a nice little book with lots of wisdom shared in DeMello's usual frank, no-nonsense style. Here's one of my favorite quotes from it:

“Whenever you are insecure about what may happen in the future, just remember this: In the past six months or one year you were so insecure about events which when they finally came you were able to handle somehow. Thanks to the energy and the resources that
Coen Vazquez
Dec 06, 2011 Coen Vazquez rated it it was amazing
What a book. This scared and terrified the shit out of me on several occasions. What an astounding thing to do. I've read my share of books on spirituality, but for some reason, this one really got to me. Or maybe it's just the current stage I'm experiencing in my life. I was ready to hear and absorb the ideas/principles/etc it was trying to tell me. It has shaken me up. It has challenged every single thing I believe and hold true. I love challening my beliefs. I love deprogramming. I loved this ...more
Nov 14, 2012 Widyarini rated it it was amazing
This pure, sincere observation about life can only be done by someone holy.
Read this with open heart and it will lead you to taste sweetness of enlightenment.
Most priests will interpret bible though what they learn in theology, through the ideas that lived in their mind for years planted by society and religion. De Mello is one of a kind priest.
I'm so grateful for him and his love.
Christopher Maricle
Dec 25, 2008 Christopher Maricle rated it really liked it
If you read Anthony de Mello, you will find yourself nodding. And then you will have to read it again. The concepts can challenging, because it's not your typical Christian spirituality. de Mello will make you face the hardest questions about your one needs, fears, motives and beliefs. And it will change you.
Nov 02, 2009 Mary rated it it was amazing
Shelves: religion
This is a little book espousing a life with no suffering. It teaches that we suffer because we attach our identity to things that we cannot control and are only concepts. Buddhist-like teaching mixed with Christianity.
May 16, 2010 Paul marked it as to-read
Meditative, contemplative readings that I ponder as I drift off to sleep each night. This book was recently given to be by a wise and gentle soul I know and admire.
This is one of those books that just helps you get perspective. It is done in short chapters that reflect on the meaning of a scripture verse, but does not preach a sermon. It's more about how to see everything for what it really is - not what it has become for us through the influences of our culture or other relationships. Anthony De Mello was a thinker who cut through so much of what we assume we understand, but have not critically looked at.
May 06, 2007 Patrick rated it it was amazing
Shelves: on-shelf
This was a big eye-opener at the time. It's too bad De Mello isn't still around, as I'd like to see his commentary on current affairs.
Davis Aujourd'hui
Sep 29, 2009 Davis Aujourd'hui rated it it was amazing
I am always on the outlook for other spiritual authors. Anthony DeMello is one of my favorites. I have loved every single one of his books and I own most of them. He speaks in a language that anyone can understand. He empowers his readers to discover the truth that they can shape their own reality through the power of detachment from the things of this world that are not real.

He offers a key to the kingdom of heaven. It is a key that anyone can possess and can experience within their own lives.
Nov 10, 2008 Jenny rated it really liked it
Recommended to Jenny by: just came across it
Shelves: nonfiction-read
What a neat book, really taking a hard look at myself and how to lead a more zen existence. The whole premise is to rid ourselves of attachments which we hold on to in order to achieve happiness. So, instead of saying "I need this in my life to be happy and I won't be happy until then," focus on existing in the present and finding fulfillment that way. Otherwise our needs and desires lead us in a cycle of disappointment. It was fun to read a chapter and a time and live with it for a while before ...more
Don Geronimo
Aug 11, 2009 Don Geronimo rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
Recommended to Don by: Lorna Rockey
The way to love symbolises an ideal: the ideal of loving everyone and everything in life the way that the LORD loves everything and everyone. Without attachment, without binding, without expectation, while humanity is imperfect (and I can attest through experience) this helps remind me that there is a better love out there. Not the kind of love that separates -- that separates love between a lover and a friend. Rather, the kind of love this book tries to cultivate is the love of all equally, wit ...more
roland zoe
Jul 18, 2011 roland zoe rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 06-inspirational
Melalui buku ini Anthony de Mello membawa kita untuk siap mencintai, dengan cinta yang bebas dan menghidupkan. Dengan kalimat-kalimat logisnya, ia membeberkan berbagai kelemahan kita dalam berhadapan dengan dunia, dengan orang-orang yang kita sayangi maupun dengan orang-orang yang tidak kita sukai.

Buku ini memberikan penjabaran logis mengapa kita harus menjadi manusia seutuhnya, menjadi manusia yang bebas dan merdeka dari segala sesuatu yang dapat mempengaruhi perasaan dan pilihan kita. Menjadi
May 26, 2010 Cathy rated it really liked it
What a wonderful, incredibly challenging book. While very idealistic in many respects, it also forced me to look very closely at my life, my attachments, my "programming", and to take responsibility for my thoughts, feelings and actions. To truly love one has to first truly let go - of one's biases, one's prejudices, the need to be right, the need to be needed, one's fears, even one's ambitions and one's walls.

I will definitely read this book over and over again, in small doses, to try and let d
Marissa Bird
Oct 05, 2015 Marissa Bird is currently reading it
Shelves: self-improvement
during my struggle time,
one of my doppelganger asked me randomly "have you read the way to love by anthony de mello?" i said "nope never heard of it before, is it any good?"
trying to convince me, he said "maybe you should try reading it, maybe you'll find the answers you're looking" i paused and he continue "some of ur questions that aren't answered yet, who knows you could find the answers from a book? the sentence you're going to read might be exactly right. and you know what? it happens not
Oct 19, 2009 Sylvia rated it liked it
I probably need to read this again - because of the size, this book came along with me for waits in airport terminals, a place and time when I might take offense because I'd spent hundreds of dollars to visit people I love and value. But in taking a step back and taking a look at my "attachments", I can see the author's point. He's accomplished his goal - I am re-evaluating myself.
Yulya Roesdy
Jun 28, 2011 Yulya Roesdy rated it it was amazing
The Way to Love by Anthony de Mello is truly inspiring. It is a book that can open your eyes to a different way of thinking and living. This book holds powerful thoughts and insights into love and life in general.
-Yulya Roesdy-
Aug 16, 2012 Lesley rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ok its recommended by me. Good way to end the day reading bits of this book. I got this book as a goodreads giveaway back in June and I put it on my shelf then went on vacation and forgot about it. This week i rediscoved it.
Amy Boyett
Mar 11, 2010 Amy Boyett rated it it was amazing
This book is by far one of my favorites of all time. It's a great spiritual guide, or just helpful to anyone looking for a different perspective on life.
Apr 14, 2011 Rachel rated it it was amazing
I love these little meditations; so nice to read and re-read whenever you have a spare moment and think about throughout the day.
Jan 07, 2011 Patrick rated it it was amazing
I hate to admit it, being a card-carrying atheist; but this little book by a Jesuit, no less, is a life-changer.
Apr 14, 2009 Beryl rated it it was amazing
The book I carry with me in my purse. All you need to know about spirituality by a master.
Diane Goeke
Jul 10, 2008 Diane Goeke rated it really liked it
A good read if you want to read for about 15 minutes before you go to sleep.
Dec 11, 2008 Donna rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone looking to overcome cultural norms
Recommended to Donna by: Gary and Katherine Ganger
My second favorite little book to study. (First is the Bible.)
Nov 20, 2007 Maggie rated it it was amazing
YAY! we have Anthony de Mello's faith and words to guide us. *whew*
Mark LaPorta
Feb 27, 2015 Mark LaPorta rated it it was amazing
can be read in very short times. Inspiration and insight.
Mar 21, 2010 Mikedelponte rated it it was amazing
"You're already happy, you just don't know it yet."
May 16, 2011 David rated it it was amazing
great! Worth taking slowly and pondering each page.
Oct 10, 2008 Jody rated it really liked it
This book is very inspiring, filled with wisdom.
Tammy Williams
Apr 07, 2009 Tammy Williams rated it it was amazing
How to see life and let others be.
Jan 16, 2010 Nick rated it it was amazing
The way to happiness is letting go.
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Anthony de Mello was a Jesuit priest and psychotherapist who became widely known for his books on spirituality. An internationally acclaimed spiritual guide, writer and public speaker, de Mello hosted many spiritual conferences.

The few talks which he allowed to be filmed, such as "A Rediscovery of Life" and "A Way to God for Today," have inspired many viewers and audiences throughout the United St
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“I leave you free to be yourself: to think your thoughts, indulge your tastes, follow your inclinations, behave in ways that you decide are to your liking.” 5 likes
“Because left to its own devices life would never produce love, it would only lead you to attraction, from attraction to pleasure, then to attachment, to satisfaction, which finally leads to wearisomeness and boredom. Then comes a plateau. Then once again the weary cycle: attraction, pleasure, attachment, fulfillment, satisfaction, boredom. All of this mixed with the anxieties, the jealousies, the possessiveness, the sorrow, the pain, that make the cycle a roller coaster. When you have gone repeatedly around and around the cycle, a time finally comes when you have had enough and want to call a halt to the whole process. And if you are lucky enough not to run into something or someone else that catches your eye, you will have at least attained a fragile peace. That is the most that life can give you; and you can mistakenly equate this state with freedom and you die without ever having known what it means to be really free and to love.” 4 likes
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