Losing My Sister, A Memoir
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Losing My Sister, A Memoir

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"Family stories grow to be bigger than the experiences themselves," writes Judy Goldman in her memoir, Losing My Sister. "They become home to us, tell us who we are, who we want to be. Over the years, they take on more and more embellishments and adornments until they eclipse the actual memory. They become our past just as a snapshot will, at first, enhance a memory, then...more
Hardcover, 192 pages
Published October 2nd 2012 by John F. Blair, Publisher
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You have a pretty good hint in the very beginning of how Judy is going to lose her sister, but the bulk of this book is about losing your sister another way: through misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and resentments.

Judy and Brenda (and big brother Donald) grow up in Rock Hill, SC, just over the state line from Charlotte, NC (where they all end up) and seemed to have a pretty idyllic childhood, with loving parents, a beautiful house (they had a working fireplace in their childhood bedroom!) and...more
This is a strange review for me to write, because I am related by marriage to Brenda, the older sister that author Judy Goldman loved and struggled with. While I know some of the people that are described in the book, I was amazed by how much I didn't know -- and perhaps that's a good thing. I hate that they caused each other so much pain even though they loved one another so much. Perhaps this line from near the end of the memoir sums up the story of their family dynamic: "Everything is always...more
Debbie Rubenstein
What can I say. The intimate, honest and compassionate voice of the author welcomes you into a story that is both universal and unique. Goldman and her sister were allies and nemeses at the same time. The reader feels invited to join in the great love affair of this sibling relationship. It would have been easier to either stick to the ways in which the author adored and worshiped her sister or write a scathing condemnation of wrongs committed. Instead, Goldman trusts herself and her reader enou...more
David Williams
I generally don't trust memoirs, but this one feels extraordinarily honest. I believe it. It's THE great subject, too -- family; if you've got one, you'll relate. Wonderfully written, too. Highly recommended.

Memoir lovers, read "Losing My Sister." Memoir writers, go to school on it.
I won this book through a goodreads giveaway.

The memoir chronicles family tragedy: the death of parents and the long battle with cancer that the author's older sister suffers. Through all this, Goldman incorporates vignettes of memory from childhood that help define the two sisters as adults--one is the strong one and one is the meek and sweet one. As they become adults, these roles chafe against each other, and their relationship suffers because of it. It's only shortly before the death of her...more
Here's a must-read for anyone trying to cope with life in general and difficult families and serious illness in particular.

Judy Goldman's work as a poet shines through with crisp, animated prose from chapter one. I was most impressed with her artful restraint. Her topic (losing her sister to breast cancer), sibling rivalry and slippery family dynamics could have lapsed into melodrama. Instead, Judy cuts to the heart of the matter, offers a compelling and, in the end, joyful tale of one family's...more
I think the author used the writing of this book as a way to come to terms with the death of her sister. Along the way, I think she learned more about herself as a person also. And I guess the part I don't understand is the fact that these two women loved each other as only sisters can & still had major differences. I am so glad that before her sister died they were able to resolve their differences.
I myself can't imagine not getting along with my sister; but I can with my brothers. There we...more
I was lucky to receive an advanced copy of this book from the publisher through a Goodreads giveaway!

You know when you read a book titled "Losing My Sister" it's going to be sad, and it was, though not the way I imagined. Judy Goldman documents her lifelong relationship with her older sister Brenda in a way that is contemplative and poetic. I highlighted many insights that were particularly profound. Parts of their relationship remind me of me and my sister, and some of it I wish for my own daug...more
Cassandra King
i read this book before i lost my own sister a year later, so i identified with what the author was going through. unfortunately, goldman'd had a difficult relationship with her sister before the illness and subsequent death, which made the whole story much more poignant. while it's a moving account of second chances and redemptive love, the main thing i love about this book is the beautiful prose style of the author. absolutely stunning!
Joanne Schwartz
A moving memoir. The reader feels so many emotions reading this book- the joy the sisters share growing up in a small town, the love of a family unit and the despair of sibling fallout. Author photographs add to the memoir and enhance the efforts to show the true bond between sisters. Beautifully written, it leaves the reader with a sense of family spirit.
LOVED this book. It takes place near my hometown of Gastonia, NC. From beginning to end, I loved hearing what these sisters went through, how they reacted and what happended in the end. It was a wonderful book to read. You will enjoy it, too, especially if you do have a sister!
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Jul 12, 2013 Linda C marked it as don-t-want-to-read
Skimmed through this book at the library. Tedious and dull. I dont understand why two women in the latter days of childrearing, facing middle age, ageing parents and their own health issues would spend so much time bickering. Sad and pointless. Also a pointless book.
Any memoir by a poet is worth reading, and Judy Goldman's does not disappoint. A moving read for anyone with a sister.
Belinda Gergel
Deeply moving and beautifully crafted work on family, love, and loss. Could not put it down!
Nancy Peacock
Well written and emotional.
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Judy Goldman is the author of a new memoir, Losing My Sister (published October 2012). Excerpts appeared in Real Simple Magazine and Drafthorse, an online journal.

She is also the author of two novels, Early Leaving and The Slow Way Back, as well as two books of poetry, Holding Back Winter and Wanting To Know the End.

She has received the Sir Walter Raleigh Award for Fiction, the Mary Ruffin Poole...more
More about Judy Goldman...
Early Leaving: A Novel The Slow Way Back: A Novel

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