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Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know
In today’s increasingly complicated world, it’s often difficult for parents to connect with their daughters–and especially so for fathers. In this unique and invaluable guide, Dr. Meg Meeker, a pediatrician with more than twenty years’ experience counseling girls, reveals that a young woman’s relationship with her father is far more important than we’ve ever realized. To b...more
Hardcover, 267 pages
Published
August 30th 2006
by Regnery Publishing
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I wanted to like this book. The title drew me in, and the basic premise (that daughters need dads to stand up for them in a world that tends to consume young women and to provide them a role model of how a decent male behaves) was something I could get behind. However as I started reading I was increasingly disappointed. Several things put me off or marred the book for me:
1. The condescending attitude towards both men and young women. Dads are stereotyped to be basically a witless bunc...more
1. The condescending attitude towards both men and young women. Dads are stereotyped to be basically a witless bunc...more
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Great book for fathers to get into the minds of their daughters and understand what they need, why they need it and at what ages it is most important to be extra active and diligent in our daughters lives.
This book showed me the research and studies on why certain areas of parenting are more important then others in the lives of our daughters. It further shows why the passive and democratic parenting styles of the 70's and 80's were wrong and how daughters of today need to be paren...more
This book showed me the research and studies on why certain areas of parenting are more important then others in the lives of our daughters. It further shows why the passive and democratic parenting styles of the 70's and 80's were wrong and how daughters of today need to be paren...more
So unfortunately I found this book in my dad's office and decided to read it. By the 10th page I was absolutely disgusted. Maybe it's the fact that my father is as right wing and Christian as he can possibly be and I personally feel that common sense dictates I should not blindly believe in an invisible patriarchy in the sky. Perhaps that is why he and I never get along. All I know is that this book basically focuses on how fathers should be "heroes" and how a mother cannot affect a da...more
Meeker is an MD practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling. As a father of five girls I figured if anyone needs to understand how to raise strong daughters, I do. Her basic premise is to error on the side of being overly protective as cognitive development in adolescents is not complete until their mid 20s and as such they need significant guidance and strong boundaries. Much of what she says we have all heard before but she backs it up with her experience and some statistics...more
Portions of this book deserve 5 stars, others 1 star—at least in accordance with my sensibilities, politics, and personal philosophy. Others will have different ratings in accordance with their own. In the course of my fathering a freshman adolescent, I have found myself subject to objections, criticisms, and detachment quite unfamiliar to me a couple of years ago. Children grow up and seek independence. This is to be expected, even desired. But I began to ask myself, “is my work finished h...more
Dr. Meeker (a female and daughter herself) sets the Daddy standard very high! As a father of an infant daughter, I embrace and appreciate the author's in-your-face approach to challenging all fathers out there.
The overriding theme of the book: "You are the most important man in her life". Everything flows from that. "A girl’s connection with her father directly affects her self-esteem, academic success, sexual promiscuity, etc." A lot of statistics are used...more
The overriding theme of the book: "You are the most important man in her life". Everything flows from that. "A girl’s connection with her father directly affects her self-esteem, academic success, sexual promiscuity, etc." A lot of statistics are used...more
Wow. After slogging through two chapters, I have learned that my daughter will become a cracked-out junkie who will sell her body for drugs and a sense of self-worth, all because she lacks a father in her life. While I did agree with a few of the author's points, overall, I felt she was making a point that was somewhat close-minded and offensive. Yes, our media and culture have oversexualized our children; everything from clothing to television portrays the idea that every girl aged seven to ...more
My husband read this book over the summer and it transformed his parenting! He has always been a wonderful father, but this has really helped open his eyes to how vital he is to our daughter's emotional - and physical - well-being and health. He has applied what he's learned with our preteen daughter and all I can think is that I wish my father was able to parent me like this, it would have prevented a lot of pain, heartbreak and tangles of sin. I would have felt treasured and loved. My fath...more
Michael
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Recommends it for:
Anyone with Daughters, Especially Fathers
Recommended to Michael by:
Matt Shill
Shelves:
non-fiction,
family
Without a doubt, one of the best books I have read that has already begun to help me as a father of daughters. Meeker did a fantastic job of clarifying the differences of mothers vs. fathers and why fathers are so important in the lives of their daughters. Obviously while our daughters are young, they are impressionable, but it is at all years of their lives that we as fathers can and will have an affect on them.
I thoroughly enjoyed the statistics that were included, even if they w...more
I thoroughly enjoyed the statistics that were included, even if they w...more
Dr Meeker is definitely coming from a very conservative angle. However, she has some great advice about creating boundaries, etc. Much of her advice applies to mothers as well as fathers, raising boys as well as girls. Just take her advice for what it's worth to you- I personally had to ignore a fair chunk of it and was quite angry at a few of her points.
There's probably a lot of information here that is intuitive to wives. And some information we sorta knew as husbands. But to see the clinical data that supports the need for dads to be involved in their daugthers lives is really shocking. Being highly involved in our girls life eliminates the need for them to go outside the home to find approval, self confidence and love. A strong relationship with their father helps their sense of self-worth and delays or prevents all sorts of antisocial behav...more
this book has a great premise and starts out well, but it quickly made me angry and I couldn't finish it. It's extremely preachy about how toxic our culture is. Certainly the culture makes life for girls difficult, no one would argue with that, but the author hammers away at the point so much that it's like you're reading a book written by a Fox News anchor or Rush Limbaugh. In fact I'd go so far as to say that it's unconsciously an anti-American book. I'm sure the author would find that shoc...more
This book has become one of THE most important, life-changing, books that I've ever read, and it's not even written for me as a mother...it's written for my husband. Lane is already an amazing dad, and I couldn't imagine anything that could make him a better father, but just from reading the first few chapters we've learned some important new parenting stratagies. We've been reminded of some that we'd forgotten about and we've recommitted to some that we already had in place and have also spen...more
A very interesting book. Written by a long-term pediatrician and drawn heavily from research and professional experience. Interesting approach from a world-view standpoint, mainly secular, but hinting at times to a biblical worldview.
Many helpful, useful challenges. The underlying theme (worthy of consideration) is that dads must be involved in their daughter's lives. This shouldn't be surprising to anyone, but in our current culture it certainly is. A father needs to invest his l...more
Many helpful, useful challenges. The underlying theme (worthy of consideration) is that dads must be involved in their daughter's lives. This shouldn't be surprising to anyone, but in our current culture it certainly is. A father needs to invest his l...more
As a father of four daughters I found this book and enjoyable read on the dangers facing daughters and the impact that an active father can have.
Meeker's book contain sobering even scary statistics, great antidotes, helfpul advice, encouraging stories and a whole lot of straight talk.
She finds a way to inspire fathers calling them to the charge to be fathers who are their daughters heroes and protectors. She encourages fathers to set boundaries and rules but always in a context of love and relat...more
Meeker's book contain sobering even scary statistics, great antidotes, helfpul advice, encouraging stories and a whole lot of straight talk.
She finds a way to inspire fathers calling them to the charge to be fathers who are their daughters heroes and protectors. She encourages fathers to set boundaries and rules but always in a context of love and relat...more
As a father of a young daughter, I found this book to be quite eye-opening. Meeker is a pediatrician and has seen it all, and she does a good job of interweaving many of her stories into the narrative. I'm glad that I read it, but it does tend to be a bit overbearing at times. She definitely takes the tactic of trying to scare you into good parenting by presenting some sordid statistics and a number of cautionary tales, but if you can get past all of that there is some good advice here. If nothi...more
OK, if you have a little girl, or a big girl, YOU MUST READ THIS. If you are the father of a little girl, run, don't walk to the bookstore. If you are a mother, don't let the title deceive you - you will want to read it as well. We recommended this to a friend and he just told us it completely changed his views on raising his new baby girl. If this book were issued to all new parents of little gals, our girls would not face the challenges they face today. I am a staunch believer in preservin...more
This book scared me... life was hard enough for me when i was growing up and hearing all the stuff girls go through now freaked me out a little bit. i think having a pediatrician write a book about girls like this was good, although i think a lot of "strong father" part was lost because of the fact that the author was a woman. i didn't think that many of the chapters were really specific about fathers and more general to parents, which made it good for me to read, but not necessarily...more
Nadie nos enseña a ser padres, pero existen las guías, y este es un buen libro lleno de experiencias respaldadas por su autora la Pediatra Meg Meeker y con muchas otras investigaciones en las que apoya la teoría de su libro. Basado en una sociedad norte-americana que poco a poco nos identificamos mas con ella a nivel mundial (uno de los regalos colaterales de la globalización), nos presenta casos, pero sobretodo estudios para prevenir y aconsejar para adelantarse a los inminentes riesgos que se ...more
Synopsis: Drawings upon decades of experience counseling girls, Dr. Meeker makes that case that the most important individual in a girls life is her father, for better or worse. The book is well-structured and discusses why fathers need to be heroes, strong communicators and examples that their daughters can follow.
My Review: There were a lot of things that I really liked about this book and a few things that I didn't. This is the type of book where the real benefit is in taking the ...more
My Review: There were a lot of things that I really liked about this book and a few things that I didn't. This is the type of book where the real benefit is in taking the ...more
After my husband read this book, he suggested I do the same. I am so glad I did. It opened my eyes to the issues that children, teens and young adults face these days. Most people will see the title and assume it is for dads only, but it most certainly is NOT.
This book explains how to raise your daughter to be honest, confident and also happy with the tough choices she will have to make as a teen. The over arching theme my husband and I both took from the book is to "be all in he...more
This book explains how to raise your daughter to be honest, confident and also happy with the tough choices she will have to make as a teen. The over arching theme my husband and I both took from the book is to "be all in he...more
A good book read too early.
I read this book at the recommendation of Dave Ramsey from the Dave Ramsey Show. My daughter is ten months old, and I'm still learning on what kind of father I want to be. It was a great roadmap of what I should expect from my daughter in the coming years. It also changed my mind on how I might like my daughter to interact with the world as she matures.
Meeker's main point is that there is almost no such thing as too much parental authority. Meek...more
I read this book at the recommendation of Dave Ramsey from the Dave Ramsey Show. My daughter is ten months old, and I'm still learning on what kind of father I want to be. It was a great roadmap of what I should expect from my daughter in the coming years. It also changed my mind on how I might like my daughter to interact with the world as she matures.
Meeker's main point is that there is almost no such thing as too much parental authority. Meek...more
I recommend this book for every father who has, will have or may have a daughter. It emphasizes the important role that fathers play in their daughter's lives, their values and their morality. I even might venture so far as to say that a failed daughter is the result of a failed father. It is also important to remember that some women do well in spite of their fathers. All this, however, does not discount the importance and usefulness of a father to a boy, but just to emphasize the importan...more
This book provided very few real insights, and those were backed up with mostly anecdotal evidence. There were some hard facts (study results, etc.), but the reference material was more revealing than this book. I felt like some of the material was presented in a disingenuous way. For example, the information regarding sex education standards seemed like it was cherry-picked in an attempt to shock the reader's sense of decency. Furthermore, studies about STDs and depression seemed to be used...more
In this book, Meg Meeker draws on research and her own clinical experiences to provide advice to fathers on creating, maintaining, and protecting relationships with their daughters. The chapter titles--such as "Be Her First Love" and "Teach Her to Fight"--give you an idea of Meeker's approach. Throughout the book, she is direct and thorough.
Although she doesn't advance any specific religious or political ideology, Meeker certainly leans (heavily) toward conserva...more
Although she doesn't advance any specific religious or political ideology, Meeker certainly leans (heavily) toward conserva...more
I feel this is a must read for all fathers of daughters. Not because Dr. Meeker reveals any earth-shattering secrets about raising a daughter. Quite the contrary, most of what she presents seems like common sense. However, what she does do is reinforce with research and statistics what most fathers already know; that is that our daughters need us to be strong men of moral conviction and they need to know that we love them. It's how we show them that we love them that Dr. Meeker's book proves to ...more
definitely provides some food for thought.
some of my favorites:
-for your daughter to know what a good man looks like, she has to know one. and what does that mean? it means you need to be a man of integrity-- a man who inspires trust and respect, a leader. it means that you need to live with honesty, you need to live your life committed to your family, and you need to be willing to sacrifice for them. honesty sits at the heart of integrity.
-men, of cours...more
some of my favorites:
-for your daughter to know what a good man looks like, she has to know one. and what does that mean? it means you need to be a man of integrity-- a man who inspires trust and respect, a leader. it means that you need to live with honesty, you need to live your life committed to your family, and you need to be willing to sacrifice for them. honesty sits at the heart of integrity.
-men, of cours...more
Katie
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Recommends it for:
Every father
Recommended to Katie by:
Vineyard Bookstore
Shelves:
parenting
This book made very interesting points about how a father impacts his daughter's choices in life, her self-esteem and her feeling of self-worth. I had heard the statistics about this, but Dr. Meeker illustrates the points very well.
As a daughter of a father who wasn't around when I was growing up, I didn't really believe I "needed" him or that my self-esteem was impacted. Looking back and now looking at my daughter who has a fabulous father, I see the difference. My daug...more
As a daughter of a father who wasn't around when I was growing up, I didn't really believe I "needed" him or that my self-esteem was impacted. Looking back and now looking at my daughter who has a fabulous father, I see the difference. My daug...more
Given Dr. Meeker's medical background she appears to have quite a bit of credibility and I found her writing style very frank and compelling. Nothing about this book was boring and I continuously found myself looking forward to the succeeding chapters. She intertwined her suggestions with explanation of behavior and real-world stories and examples from her practice. Because I trust what Dr. Meeker has written it's enabled me to change my point of view to the extend that I consider my actions as ...more
Dr. Meeker is frank and to the point. This might be hard for some readers, especially the areas where she talks about divorce and remarrying. She is an advocate of children, what is best for them and how we as adults need to let children be children and put them before ourselves. This book addresses the many obstacles young women face growing up in today's society. She provides many statistics regarding sex, drugs, eating disorders, and depression in addition to examples from her own clinical e...more
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