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How Can I Be Your Lover When I'm Too Busy Being Your Mother?
Do you feel like your partner has become your child?
Do you find yourself being his maid, his cook, his manager?
Have romance, respect fun—and sex—been drained out of your relationship?
In How Can I Be Your Lover When I’m Too Busy Being Your Mother? Sara Dimerman and J.M. Kearns lay bare an essential problem: the woman who finds she’s turned into a mother to her man instead o...more
Do you find yourself being his maid, his cook, his manager?
Have romance, respect fun—and sex—been drained out of your relationship?
In How Can I Be Your Lover When I’m Too Busy Being Your Mother? Sara Dimerman and J.M. Kearns lay bare an essential problem: the woman who finds she’s turned into a mother to her man instead o...more
Paperback, 320 pages
Published
August 14th 2012
by Touchstone
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I've known for a long time that women working full time also have to come home at the end of a tiring work day to cook, clean, and look after the children. Although men do more work around the house than their fathers did, they certainly don't take over half the load! When I read about this book in the Globe and Mail, I decided to buy it, read it, and pass it on to my daughter!
The book is in three parts. The first deals with the work load women face, the ensuing resentment that follows when they...more
The book is in three parts. The first deals with the work load women face, the ensuing resentment that follows when they...more
They say marriage is work. I used to hear this and think smugly, "well maybe for you it is, but not us." Married 3 years, together 5, and we were still nauseatingly new-romanceish (my apologies to everyone we made throw up in their mouth during that time).
Then we had a baby. Guess what? Marriage IS work (smugness, by the way, is an early warning system for wrongness. Something else I've learned from babies). Pre-parenting me would have laughed, yes smugly, at this title, but now when I saw it I...more
Then we had a baby. Guess what? Marriage IS work (smugness, by the way, is an early warning system for wrongness. Something else I've learned from babies). Pre-parenting me would have laughed, yes smugly, at this title, but now when I saw it I...more
Honestly, I think I'd give this a 3.5, but I can't make the system do that. Not that there was any new information in the book, but it was organized and presented well. The case studies seemed balanced and there really didn't seem to be any preference for the man or the woman in analyzing the stories and applying the principles used throughout the book. The principles themselves seemed solid and easily applicable, at least when you are not immediately in the situation.
That all being said, I sort...more
That all being said, I sort...more
I really appreciate books with a lot of positive and practical ideas for solving problems. Theory is nice, but I need practical application. This book delivers on that in spades. :)
I've been using ideas from this book for about a week now, and it is making a big difference in how I feel both about myself and the guy whose behavior prompted me to get this book. There is less resentment on my part and way less friction between us. I'm remembering why I like spending time with him and seeing him wi...more
I've been using ideas from this book for about a week now, and it is making a big difference in how I feel both about myself and the guy whose behavior prompted me to get this book. There is less resentment on my part and way less friction between us. I'm remembering why I like spending time with him and seeing him wi...more
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A wonderful book to be read by any and all in a relationship! I would recommend this book to be given to newly married couples as a preventive measure for what may be in their future! I believe many of us are in the positions described in the book, without even being aware! For those that are aware they have become "Mothers" to their spouses, a must read! I enjoyed the fact that both sides were revealed/discussed and that the book was written by both a man and a woman.
Thank you Goodreads/First R...more
Thank you Goodreads/First R...more
well obviously I'm wayy to young for any of this to apply to me but for some of the things I read just for the hell of it :). The real person that read this was my mom. It took her a while since she's not much of a reader but she did finish it . She said that there were some tips that were kinda new but a majority are things thats she's heard of before. So for that it gets a 3. :)
If it was not so terribly true and devastating I would have even had fun reading this book. As the wife of an Italian man, I have to admit things for us (Italian women) are even a little bit worse. As the mother of an only son I'd soo love to grow up a different type of man.
THANKS TO NETGALLEY AND SIMON AND SCHUSTER FOR THE PREVIEW
THANKS TO NETGALLEY AND SIMON AND SCHUSTER FOR THE PREVIEW
I won a copy of this book from the YummyMummyClub's Bookalicious Twitter chat contest, courtesy of Simon & Schuster Canada.
I think it is always a good idea to work on your relationships and I found this book to have some interesting ideas.
I won a copy of this book on GoodReads.
I won a copy of this book on GoodReads.
Very practical advice to help a couple be a team when it comes to household work.
Reading it was not easy as it brought back memories of not very successful negotiations in the past.
It does give me hope that there are ways to manage the work without managing each other.
I will definitely recommend this book to others.
I won this through First Reads.
Reading it was not easy as it brought back memories of not very successful negotiations in the past.
It does give me hope that there are ways to manage the work without managing each other.
I will definitely recommend this book to others.
I won this through First Reads.
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Sara Dimerman - Therapist, Parent Educator/Relationship Expert, Author and founder of HelpMeSara.com
Sara Dimerman, C.Psych.Assoc., is registered with the College of Psychologists of Ontario and has been in private practice as an individual, couple and family therapist for over twenty years. In 1988, she graduated with a Master’s level degree in Assessment and Counselling from the University of Tor...more
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Sara Dimerman, C.Psych.Assoc., is registered with the College of Psychologists of Ontario and has been in private practice as an individual, couple and family therapist for over twenty years. In 1988, she graduated with a Master’s level degree in Assessment and Counselling from the University of Tor...more
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