Saturday Night Widows: The Adventures of Six Friends Remaking Their Lives
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Saturday Night Widows: The Adventures of Six Friends Remaking Their Lives

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Six marriages, six heartbreaks, one shared beginning.

In her forties – a widow, too young, too modern to accept the role – Becky Aikman struggled to make sense of her place in an altered world. In this transcendent and infectiously wise memoir, she explores surprising new discoveries about how people experience grief and transcend loss and, following her own remarriage, for...more
Hardcover, 352 pages
Published January 22nd 2013 by Crown (first published January 1st 2013)
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Sue
I wanted to like this book, and at times I did like this book. But there were other times when I thought the author was a little too self serving. She kept reminding readers that she was part of the group as an observer, but most of what she observed was her own life.

As a writer I admire writers who are smart enough to come up with an idea from a situation in their own life (in this case being a widow) and grab a book deal from it and then have the actual experience. As a reader, I hate it beca...more
Beth
I was able to read Saturday Night Widows as an uncorrected Advanced Reader Proof. It's normally not the kind of book that I read, but I was immediately caught by the back cover blurb. I haven't lost my husband, we are still happily married, and I am at least (if not more than) half the age of the women featured in this book.
The idea of this memoir is that it revolves around six women, who are "recently" widowed (within the last 5 years) and are considered "young" widows (thirty to fifty-six). Th...more
Maria M. Elmvang
...one of them is a beautiful series of Chinese watercolours of lotus blossoms. She chose them because they bloom even in the mud.


The above is a quote from, and an excellent representation of Saturday Night Widows. When I first heard of it, I knew I had to read it, and I'm so glad I did, because it is without a doubt the sweetest and most poignant book I've read in a long time.

Becky Aikman lost her husband to cancer and afterwards had to reinvent herself as "the dreaded W-word"... a widow. Only...more
Valentina
This book sounded more interesting than it really was. It’s a bit awful to say that about a memoir, but it’s one of those books that has been done over and over until it loses meaning.
It started out with potential. The writing was fresh and at least the first chapter is interesting, bringing something new to the table. The idea of a woman wanting to revolutionize the way we look at loss and death and widowhood definitely caught my attention. The problems started a bit later, when the writer int...more
Robin
I read this book much too soon in my widowhood, probably about 6 weeks out. This is not for the woman who is still dealing with insurance companies, hospitals and various aspects of being newly widowed. This is for the woman who is further down the road and is trying to figure out what comes next in her life.
The title says "...Adventures of Six Friends..." and that's a bit of a falsehood. None of these women knew each other prior to M'S Aikman's decision to research "young widows" and form a sup...more
Rob Slaven
First and as always, I received this book because it arrived at my doorstep for the purposes of review. Would I spend my own money on this book? No. Unless it was a gift for a rich widow who can probably buy her own copy.

As a narrative construct, this is a nice story. The author lost her husband but bands together with five strangers to make her life into something wonderful again. That is to be applauded as the author writes a very intimate portrait of the situation she found herself in and the...more
Jenny Streeter
Becky Aikman has done an impressive job of capturing the experience of being widowed at a younger age - I just finished the book, close to the 4th anniversary of my husband's death at 49. I can't speak for how this book would be for an average reader, but for me it was one of the better books I've read on what it's like to be a widow right now. She quotes from some great research out there about grieving (George Bonanno at Columbia among them - his book The Other Side of Sadness is excellent), b...more
Kelly Hager
Becky Aikman was in her 40s when her husband Bernie died of cancer. She tried going to a widow's support group, but she was the youngest in the room (by a lot) and the experience was a lot more depressing than she wanted it to be, so she decided to start her own group. She finally found five other women (friends of friends or acquaintances). The experiences are all different (some of the deaths were sudden, some weren't, and the women had been widows for different lengths of time) but they quick...more
Brenda
A few years after her husband died, journalist Becky Aikman gathered five other widows together to form an optimistic, forward-thinking support group - no Five Stages of Grief allowed. This is the story of their first year together, along with interesting research about grief, recovery, and relationships. The best way to describe my feelings about this book is that I want to give it a big hug. While I was divorced and not widowed, certain aspects of my situation have caused me to relate more to...more
Mike Power
Saturday Night Widows covers many of the struggles of being relatively young and widowed as experienced by someone who has lived the reality, from the viewpoint of one who needed to forge her own path to reclaiming life. Becky illustrates the emotional disjointedness of this lot in life as she is shunned by 'grief experts', then decides to take her own unique, but ultimately effective, approach to healing. She is joined by five other women who seem to share nothing in common but being widows, ye...more
David
After getting kicked out of her traditional widows' support group for being too negative/critical, author does some digging into research on grieving and decides that 5 rigid stages are out, trying to continue living and have a sense of humor are in. She asks around, finds 5 other young (40's/50's) widows and organizes them to spend one Sat. evening together each month for a year trying new adventures.

Deals with a number of interesting issues (visitation dreams in which one's late husband seems...more
Miriam Downey
You can find my full review here: http://mimi-cyberlibrarian.blogspot.c...

Six women embark on a journey of discovery that ends with a trip to the exotic land of Morocco. They toast their journey, "To our dead husbands. We wouldn't be here if they hadn't died."

Becky Aikman, a New York newspaper reporter, was widowed in her forties when her husband Bernie died of cancer. Casting around for a way to deal with the overwhelming grief, she joined a traditional support group for widows only to find th...more
Gayle
I didn't care for the book. I guess it hit home too much, going through all the stages of falling in love, the hard work involved in a relationship and then the loss. How do you go on after that? People tell you they understand, but do they? It's like, time heals everything, does it?

The book tells the story of six marriages, their trials and tribulations, their losses and how they began again.

One widow, Becky, was too young to be a widow. You're never too young to be a widow or widower. The youn...more
Elena (Gone Bookserk)
A Gone Bookserk Perspective

This book was supposed to be powerful involving themes like the experience of grief and loss, remarriage and unconventional ideas, emotional peaks and valleys, and the transforming influence of having good friends around you. I didn't really feel it. Maybe it's not my time for this book. Otherwise I thought there were some good parts...

If I can say that there was one useful message from this book, from my perspective anyway, it would have to be that there is HOPE eve...more
Gayle
Just finished Saturday Night Widows by Becky Aikman, which is the chronicle of a year in the lives of six unlikely women who came together to help each other through a challenge they each faced: widowhood. Aikman, a widow in her mid-40s, struggled to find other women in her shoes who could help her deal with her grief and find a way to move forward. She tried a support group but found herself out of place among older, grieving women who were not interested in moving on and reestablishing their l...more
Cheryl in CC NV
I had missed the word 'memoir' in the description, and so was totally taken aback & had to rethink about what I was getting into, after I read the first few pages and realized that it was non-fiction.

So, I appreciated, mostly, the science. I was actually surprised to learn that some people think the Kubler-Ross 5 stages had to do with grieving - I learned them as what they were meant to be refections of, the most likely stages that one who is dying tends to go through.

I hope to see another...more
Sydnee
I enjoyed the sincerity of the "widows" as they moved through the grief process, they were fun to get to know and their situations were unique but the same too. I found it interesting that the author gave little attention to faith, especially since that's something many people turn to when faced with death. The author mentioned Dawn's Catholicism but that was about it. That seemed like a bit of a miss, still I found the new grief research to be fascinating--who knew that Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's...more
Karen
The author puts together a support group of young widows. She decides to do this after being kicked out of a clinical grief therapy group that in her opinion turned into a “Who’s Most Pitiful” contest and full of older widows who she couldn’t connect with. The goal of her newly formed group is to share feelings, have lots of laughs, go on adventures, and reinvent themselves. We learn their stories and how differently they handle their emotions in dealing with their respective tragedies. Early on...more
Karen
I wanted to like this book. Really. But what I thought was going to be a life-affirming story about six women reinventing their lives after their husbands passed away was actually a kind of preachy self-help on how to get through grief. The author kept going over the point that Elizabeth Kubler-Ross' five stages of grief were not meant for the survivors but for the one dying. After about the third time I thought "if you're going to write a a tale of adventure (author's words), write that....not...more
Kathy
A Recommended Read. Becky Aikman has written a captivating tale that will resonate with anyone who has ever lost a loved one or knows someone who has. Saturday Night Widows is not a book about loss but a moving story of friendship. It is a beautiful novel about surviving devastating losses, moving past that heartache and embracing the future. To read my review in its entirety, please click HERE.
Kathleen
This book isn't amazing, but it is enjoyable and well done. Fortysomething widow Becky Aikman gathered five other young (and apparently affluent) widowed women and started a little club for them. What comes out is a less annoying version of Eat, Pray, Love mixed with The Happiness Project. All the widows except one are clearly "spiritual but not religious." It was pleasurable to see them become closer friends, despite their (relatively shallow) differences. It's very much a story of the power of...more
Vanessa
"You can’t go backward. You’re never going to have what you had."

Interesting how your circumstances open your eyes to all sorts of things. There's a whole crop of songs in my iTunes collection that suddenly jumped up 2 star ratings in the past few weeks. And there are books like this, which I spotted while scanning the "new and popular" table at Chapters.

A month earlier and I would have looked right past, writing it off as sappy, inspirational Oprah's book club material. But that was before Apr...more
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Meghan Harvey
Though I imagine this book will obviously strike a particular nerve (in a positive way) with women who have lost a spouse (which I've not) I found that the lessons and realizations and growth that occurs in the book between the six women, can ring true to anyone who's had life pull the rug out from under them and faced the daunting task of somehow starting over. Divorce, losing a home, etc... I highly recommend it for anyone who needs a Phoenix rising from the ashes tale to help them in moving f...more
KyneWynn
Being a widow of nearly ten years myself, this sounded like something I might enjoy. I have spent the last five or six years learning a "new normal" and I thought it would be interesting to see how others have done it. The writing was good, and I was delighted with the wit and the prose, and there were bits and pieces that reflected my own experience, and I wanted to like the book.

But, it left me feeling flat, I didn't connect emotionally with these women or feel like they shared my experience...more
Lisa
Six widowed women take a year-long journey in self-discovery as they deal with the loss of their beloved husbands and former lives. The back-story of each women is woven into the year-long journey. We learn about loss and common themes of struggle during their emotional journey. These women quickly find common ground in their situations and build very strong bonds with each other that give them a footing to enable them to heal, laugh and love again.
Ellen
Though I was widowed at a young age, I did not connect with any of the characters in this memoir.
I did not feel I got to know any of them except on a very surface level. i actually found the book to be written in a simplistic way devoid of raw emotions. There was no edginess to it. I did not laugh at all and was greatly disappointed.

Happy the women moved forward and found happiness again and that is the one positive I found in the book.
Georgia Herod
The subtitle is what caught my attention: adventures, six friends, remaking lives. I like adventure; I am a member of a group of six women who have been friends for fifty years; we are all in the ongoing process of redefining, repurposing, and remaking our lives, though we are each married. Oh,yes, that word "widow." I was a widow--a very young widow as the result of the Vietnam War.

Becky Aikman, writer, editor, and reporter, became a widow when she was forty-four. She didn't know how to naviga...more
Cassandra
At first I didn't realize this book was a memoir, but once I did, it tripled the significance. I think it's an excellent book for anyone that's ever lost anyone. It drives the point home that, yes, it is ok to laugh and live again. Although I'm not a widow, it was definitely something I could have benefited from when I lost my grandfather. Even if you haven't lost someone, it's just a very moving story that deserves to be heard.
Amy
I received an advanced copy of Becky Aikman's memoir through Goodreads. I would highly recommend this book for any reader going through the grieving process or who is close to someone going through the grieving process. It's not just for widows! (I am not one.) After death, people typically state the wrong words with the right intentions, and Aikman humorously reiterates this idea at the beginning of her work. I enjoyed how this strong group of women bucked the conventional "widow's group" that...more
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Author of Saturday Night Widows: The Adventures of Six Friends Remaking Their Lives. Becky is a graduate of the School of Journalism at Columbia University. She was a writer and editor for Business Week and a reporter for Newsday.
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