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The Way of Men

4.14 of 5 stars 4.14  ·  rating details  ·  368 ratings  ·  38 reviews
The Way of Men answers the question: “What is Masculinity?”

The so-called experts give the answers that suit their masters. They tell just-so stories to protect their ideology, their religion, their way of life. They look to women for a nod of approval before speaking. They give socially acceptable answers and half-truths.

If what they have to say resonates with men, it is o
Kindle Edition, 192 pages
Published March 26th 2012 by Dissonant Hum (first published March 22nd 2012)
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Michael Kalb
This book should take its place between the gun rack and self-defense books. While I will not give a full review, as I feel it should be read to full grasp this important piece, I will say that Mr. Donovan has once again hit many nails on the head with all the precision of a Bostitch pneumatic nail-gun. In this world of "politically correct" language and redundant male guilt, Jack not only slashes through the pervasive pantywastism, he gives a clear view in the difference between being a good m ...more
Men and women don't want the same things subconsciously or emotionally (just look at what they find as the most attractive sexual partner and how that's different from who they want to marry or spend there lives with) They might want the same thing rationally but allot of the human behavior is NOT a rational choice for example if someone upsets you or someone attracts you , most of that is not a rational choice.This book explores part of the "male" nature that is behind the rational mind but tha ...more
This is a short book, but about an important topic. I've encountered it couple of times recently that my female friends and colleagues never considered (and afterwards couldn't believe) that men can have different values, experiences, and activities that give them satisfactions. They were also really surprised by the kind of communication we use when no females are around (for example that we do not apologize to each other, that admission of a mistake/wrongdoing is enough etc.). I think this boo ...more
This is an essential read for anyone cognizant of the unsustainability of the cheap oil, infinite credit, and infinite "progress" paradigm.

If you see the end of that paradigm coming sooner rather than later then you need to get your hands on a copy of this book. On the other hand, If you believe the cultural and spiritual vacuum of modernity still has plenty of "life" left in it's undead corpse; and long for the day of it's demise (and would like to give it a push over the edge) than this book,
Greg Linster
While reading this book, I learned something very important, i.e., that there is a crucial distinction that needs to be made between "being a good man" and "being good at being a man". The following quote perfectly captures the subtle nuance between the two: "A man who is more concerned with being a good man than being good at being a man makes a very well behaved slave."

Whether you're male or female, this is a book to read if you want to understand the way men operate sans any politically corre
David Donhoff
What an outstanding book! The entire time you'll simultaneously say to yourself;
Geez... this is incredibly obvious & self-evident, and,
Geez... why is nobody else writing/expressing this against the cacaphony of anti-male dicrimination!?!?

It goes on the "must read" list for my son...
Jack Donovan is bluntly honest, very precise, but not accurate. I agree with a lot of concepts in this book, like the way men view men - manliness is made of strength, courage, mastery, and honor - etc. However, his conclusions are misguided and frankly disappointing. This book was written by a trucker, and his disconnect with politics and economics show (not trying to bash - but the last two chapters elucidate this and really ruin the book for me).

Some abstractions are exaggerated - like women
Simplified, Jack Donovan's book can be distilled down to two major points. The first half of the book explores the difference between being a good man and being good at being a man. When the circle of civilization is small, it is more important to be good at being a man and it is from these origins that manhood--in its most essential form--is derived. The author identifies four virtues that have defined masculinity and helped human civilization survive from its beginnings. Yes, he essentializes ...more
This book taught me a lot about myself. I realised why exactly I watch football, why I watch war films, why I get the urge to fight simply for the sake of fighting... It's fair to say that despite our obsession with masculinity modern society does not understand it, and Donovan's work was highly educational. I found myself nodding along throughout the whole book as more and more of my subconscious became clear to me - and if nothing else it is for this reason that I recommend this The Way of Men ...more
The Way of Men is chock full of ideas about masculinity and the modern man. I have to say that I would rather be celibate and live as a Buddhist monk than live the life of a physically average, average personality guy in a sexless marriage with an unpleasant woman that allows herself to physically dwindle -- and augment, per se -- all to hell.

Nothing frightens me like the idea of living the standard beta American materialist life. Treeless suburb; overweight wife; unfulfilling career; kids that
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Alan Hughes
This is an interesting book looking at the idea of "what is masculinity?" Not how does one become a good man but rather how does one become good at being a man. It is often witty abd Tyler Durden could have used it as his manifesto at times.
Arjun Ravichandran
Primitive. Simple-minded. Inarticulate riffing on 'Fight Club'-esque themes without the philosophical gravitas. Reactionary and dangerous right-wing political rhetoric. This is not a good book. Not even close.
Alf Mikael
For a confused, unguided young male as myself, Jack Donovan offers a compelling narrative of life.I don't know the mindset he elevates is really the way to go, but it is very tempting.
Aug 22, 2013 Corey rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: the men in my life whom I trust
Recommended to Corey by: Art of Manliness Podcast
Jack Donovan has captured, articulated, and connected the dots of many frustrated rants, raves, debates, and philosophical tirades between my friends and I at the edge of the perimeter.
Definetly, this is a book that changed my point of view about men in general as well as the world today to some point (the bonobo theory was something that described perfectly today's situation) ,as well as the importance of inequality: we're different and it's ok to acknowledge and even embrace it, not expecting men to see themselves as "imperfect women". And also, the importance of self-worth in a world that resembles more like a sort of giant hospital.
I would have loved it to be a longer boo
Michael (Mike)
There are only a few books out there that can articulate my great philosophical thoughts on society. This is one of them.
Must-read for all men trying to navigate the modern life we find ourselves in.
So here we have 'The Way of Men', a strange read on the topic of masculinity and man finding his way in the 21st century.

I want to make this clear: Jack Donovan isn't much of a writer and perhaps a bit of an extremist. Much of the book isn't so much about the males place in today's society as it is a silencing of the feminist movement and at times, the female gender generally. A book that needs to mention, "The point of this book is not to portray women as evil shrews", basically means that the
A detailed description through the lens of evolutionary biology of what traits define a man who is good at being a man (those which are most useful in a survival scenario) versus the traits that define a good man (altruism, etc.).

Jack Donovan says that the more evolved and advanced a civilization becomes, the fewer opportunities there are for men to act in the way they have since time immemorial. When a culture exists in times of such peace and plenty as today, it has little use for men who are
Christopher Brennan
Swing and a miss. Donovan's like a big league hitter swinging for the fences but a half inch below the ball. To be fair some of his points are brilliantly articulated, and incredibly relevant. His exception to the negative consequences of statism are worthy of consideration. However, where he misses in my opinion is by setting a massive "them" (women) in conflict with "us" (men). His half hearted attempts to claim it's not misogyny are laughable.

Humans certainly evolved the sex roles we have due
Jeremy Palmer
This book sets out to do a very simple thing, define in the most simple and universal terms what it is to be a man. Jack accomplishes this task. The book is an extremely easy and quick read. This would be a great gift to any young man trying to understand what it is to be a man.
Chas Ely
A very insightful and objective analysis of masculinity. Masculinity is a very demonized and controversial topic in today's world, and this book does an excellent job at explaining what it really is at a truly rudimentary level, as well as its implications in the context of our modern world. Masculinity is not moral nor immoral, but amoral, not good nor evil, but pragmatic. The masculinity crisis is becoming increasingly more severe as the moral decline of Western society continues, and it is im ...more
Every man has to read this. Jack Donovan presents a lot of valid points and all it takes is an open mind and a good grasp of modern social interactions to see what's not working. Definitely re-reading this because it's the type of book that reveals more as you experience life.
Good book that had me questioning my own ideas of feminism and masculinity. Especially the qualities that make a "man" in the modern age.
William Everett
Appropriately, Donovan wrote this in a lean, muscular style and said what he meant without apologies. Excellent book.
Thomas Threlfo
This four star rating is for the first 80% of the book, more or less, which had some fascinating theories about what men respect in other men, based off thousands of years of what we actually needed in other men to survive. He (almost always) does a great job of avoiding trying to draw any moral or value implications from this, and the few times he forgot to do that are what caused me to take away one star.

I didn't like the last few chapters on the economy and so on, as they started to sound a l
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Jack Donovan is an American author known for his writing on masculinity and for his criticisms of feminism and gay culture.

Donovan is currently a contributor to, Counter Currents, Radix Journal, and an anti-feminist men's rights blog The Spearhead.
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“Men cannot be men—much less good or heroic men—unless their actions have meaningful consequences to people they truly care about. Strength requires an opposing force, courage requires risk, mastery requires hard work, honor requires accountability to other men. Without these things, we are little more than boys playing at being men, and there is no weekend retreat or mantra or half-assed rite of passage that can change that. A rite of passage must reflect a real change in status and responsibility for it to be anything more than theater. No reimagined manhood of convenience can hold its head high so long as the earth remains the tomb of our ancestors” 9 likes
“Sometimes men pick fights just for something to do-just to feel something like the threat of harm and the possibility of triumph.” 6 likes
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