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Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?: Confessions of a Gay Dad

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In 2005, Dan Bucatinsky and his partner, Don Roos, found themselves in an L.A. delivery room, decked out in disposable scrubs from shower cap to booties, to welcome their adopted baby girl—launching their frantic yet memorable adventures into fatherhood. Two and a half years later, the same birth mother—a heroically generous, pack-a-day teen with a pass ...more
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Published June 5th 2012 by Touchstone
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My friend, the Emmy-winning actor and writer Dan Bucatinsky, has written a hilarious, bawdy, touching, and informative book which about the unique trials and pleasures of raising children in a same-sex marriage. I laughed a lot reading this book, but I cried a couple of times, too, because there is extraordinary love revealed in these pages. Ultimately, love is all that really matters, and its importance as a foundation for marriage or parenting is vividly portrayed here. It's really, really fun ...more
i really enjoyed this book. yes, it's another collection of humorous essays about parenting, but unlike so many of its contemporaries, this book was actually funny! & perhaps even more important, it was thoughtful. bucatinsky wrote how the gendered expectations of parenting roles are upended when both parents are men, his feelings of responsibility in trying to make parenting seem appealing to other gay men, & he even touched on a topic that many queer couples would be loath to address: ...more
This is really 3.5 stars because I did like it, it just wasn't super amazing. Exactly 12 years ago I stumbled upon The kid by Dan Savage on the "new book" shelf at the Port Townsend Public Library. New to the Pacific Northwest I did not know who Dan Savage was, but after reading his wonderful memoir about him and his partner Terry adopting their son I was hooked and have followed Dan Savage ever since.

Dan Bucatinsky shares, in very intimate details, the wonders and horrors of parenting and he w
Jennifer Lavoie
I'm a member of a book club that sometimes ships the new books automatically...because I've forgotten to decline the books. In this instance, Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? came to me because I had - once again - forgotten to turn down the selections chosen for me. Since I already paid for them and the package had come, I didn't really feel like sending them back. It was too much of a pain.

I'm glad I didn't.

Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? Confessions of a Gay Dad is a hysterical mem
I really enjoyed this. Definitely pick it up on audio. Bucatinsky's narrating was fantastic.
Admittedly, I only really know Bucatinsky from Scandal (love him on that show!), but now I plan to check out other things he's been in.
Great essays about parenting and family - no matter what kind of family you have, you will be able to relate. I swear, some of the conversations he's had with his kids were word for word the same ones I've had. You can tell how much he cares about his family, even as he's
Carey Costa burtnett
The first couple of pages in this book about what to do when your daughter realizes certain things about her anatomy had me instantly rolling and committed to Bucatinsky's book. He's hilarious at times and so genuinely emotional at times.
It was a nice balance of memoir and humor, parenting stories and simple life lessons. Regardless of his experiences revolving around being part of a same-sex couple, I was able to relate to almost all of it. I couldn't put it down once I started.
Merri Su
I enjoyed the vignettes and appreciated that some parenting challenges are universal. *mild spoiler ahead* I also appreciated his perspective as a gay parent, but there was one situation that I wished for more guidance as an LGBT ally and a straight parent: if my daughters have friends with gay parents, how should I talk about that with them? He described a situation in which the straight parent thought she was being open-minded and supportive but she was actually borderline insulting. I got why ...more
I really wanted to like both this book and its author, but about halfway through I gave up (and I rarely give up on books). Bucatinsky sets a negative tone early on by describing an extraordinarily self-centered young Dan, of whom he's either unapologetic or unaware (it's hard to tell). The writing is ok, and the "character" gets better after he meets his partner and starts talking about the adoption process, but the stories he told were...kind of boring. And there remained just a whiff of the s ...more
I completely enjoyed this book from start to finish! I totally agree that this book has something to offer everyone - gay, straight, parent or not. I found myself laughing hysterically at almost every story- there is a little sadness mixed in there too, but mostly just a humorous look at a loving family. I loved the adoption story- and I could really feel the love that Dan and Don share for those two lucky kids. I can see myself pulling this out on a day where I find myself frazzled with my own ...more
This was the selection for the first ever Family Week parents' book club. (Family Week is a celebration of gay families in Provincetown, MA, sponsored by the Family Equality Council.) There is something for everyone in this book, as Bucatinsky's wit makes for an entertaining read whether you're gay or straight and whether you have children or not.

The book club event I attended was a gathering of about a dozen mostly gay parents. (There were also a few childless interns there, as well as a straig
John Amory
I'm a graduate student, so I have a lot of reading to get through on any given day. It took me a while to get Dan Bucatinsky's memoir because of this, and I had only intended to read a chapter or so at a time when I could squeeze it in. But that went out the window once I started reading. I couldn't not continue on. Bucatinsky is truly funny (for further evidence of this, rent or buy his film All Over the Guy, it's extremely funny and extremely underrated), telling stories that are both absurd a ...more
I had heard really good things about this book and decided to pick it up when I got a chance. I had actually forgotten about it until I happened by it in the bookstore and picked it up to get a feel for it. By page two I was laughing aloud and reading parts of it to my friend who was with me.

It was both hilarious and sweet, insightful and brutally honest. Despite being both the opposite sex and the opposite sexual orientation from the author I found myself nodding along with the narrative and em
I'm embarrassed to have to write this, but... this book was heartwarming. Oh god, you say, "Heartwarming? You mean like a Hallmark Special heartwarming? Run away, run away very fast!"
No, really, it was funny and it was Erma Bombeck crossed with Torch Song Trilogy with an extra dash of glitter-- it was a gay entertainment dad in the blogosphere but searching for his highest truth. Some of those truths were painful because hey, who wants to admit that one is worried about your kids growing up to b
Jenni Crook
Hilarious collection of parenting essays. I am neither a man, nor gay but I found myself completely relating to the brutally honest look at parenting perfectionism inside a "neurotic" parent's psyche. What parent isn't at least a little neurotic? It was full of humor, love, petty worries and jealousies. Besides getting a good laugh each day I listened (I highly recommend listening as it is read by the author), I went away feeling determined to be the best parent possible for my children.
Adam Dunn
I liked this book, a lot.

This book takes the Dan Savage book concept and really takes it to the next level. There was a lot of analysis about having a child, how that changes your life, and all from a really gay perspective.

The best thing about this book is that it gets to the deeper issues. One example is having a straight boy for a child when you were picked on in high school by straight boys. The book really looks at all the aspects of being a gay male parent and there were several laugh out
Darlene Vendegna
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It has everything I look for in a memoir. Laughter, tears and inspiration. Yes he's a gay dad, but any dad or mom or anyone who has ever had a dad or mom would enjoy this book.
His children sound delightful (and very fortunate to have parents that love them so much). His relationship with his husband is like any other marriage, bickering, loving, laughing, private jokes and pet peeves. I'd recommend ths book to anyone.
Sharon Rosenberg-Scholl
Oh wow! I got all the way through this whole - delightful - book without realizing the author plays Cyrus' husband on Scandal! And I thought I loved him before...

But I digress. This book was not at all what I expected but is really a lovely read. It's a lot about the authors internal experiences of becoming and then being a dad, his own baggage and challenges and joys. The chapters could almost function as individual stories, since they are mostly individual episodes in his life leading up to an
You may not recognize this author by name, but he is a multi-talented actor/producer/writer. He also lives in Los Angeles with his husband and two adopted children. This book is a witty and funny account of his journey from early relationships through the process of adoption and raising of two young children by two dads. Often laugh out loud hilarious, there are heartfelt moments, particularly when talking of his parents. I enjoyed and recommend it.
Presented with the same style and feel as Dan Savage's The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Get Pregnant, this collection presents a series of both humorous and touching essays that looks at the wonderful rewards and interesting challenges that come with being a gay dad. Bucatinsky, a producers and actor with ties to a number of films and television shows, shares the unique story of his relationship with Dan Roos and their two adopted children Eliza and Jonah. Each essay in ...more
I really enjoyed Dan's take on parenthood. Its always a good sign when a book makes me laugh out loud in public places to the point those around me are asking what's so funny (and that happened here too). I think nh favorite part was hus description of getting the kids ready for the beach.

I've enjoyed Dan's acting for years, as well as the shows he and his partner have produced. His voice is a very funny and unique one when it comes to parenting. We are all working toward the same goal and it wa
I liked this book. There were times I even laughed out loud! However, there was some serious, book-ruining fat-phobia and weird gender stuff. However, this book is not the normal, sugar-coated book about the joys of parenting. I liked it for that. And it touched on some very relatable things.
Kelsea Dawn Hume
I won this book though First Reads.

You have to understand -- I don't like kids. They poop a lot, they're hard to reason with, and they love asking awkward questions. Despite this natural dislike of mine, I found Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? to be hilarious and heartwarming. The book is comprised of a series of essays and anecdotes, each chapter focusing on a theme. Themes range from the hilarious (shopping with children in tow) to the disturbing (encounters with homophobes) to the phil
2.5-3 stars. Okay but the author's voice wasn't as funny as I previously thought it would be. His kids are cute though and I liked how he explained that he and his husband didn't want to be the token gay parents of their kid's friend's parents. Because I can see that happening.
Tricia Andrews
I enjoyed this book. Interesting perspective on adoption and the differences (and similarities) that gay couples face when going through the process. Lots of pop culture references and gay attitude throughout the book.
Unlike the other comedian/actor/memoir type audio books that I listened to on recent road trips, this one had me laughing out loud. I enjoyed the parenting stories too, which I wasn't expecting.
I liked this book just enough to finish it. Ok, let me rephrase: I know I gave it 4 stars. It's worth that on some levels, and worth 2 on others. It's intended to be a light, fluffy read with bits of poignant emotional situations tossed in. To that end, it completed its mission. But there was not an acknowledgment of race, class, or gender (at least a deeper acknowledgment of gender beyond the "I can be the mom too!"). I didn't need an academic-sounding novel about theory, but a few sentences th ...more
Ashley FL
Ultimately, it was a bit of a disappointment. It was pretty repetitive, so the beginning had a lot of promise and then. . . it was the same thing several times. Ultimately, this is someone who is very happy and proud of his life. Which he should be! But it makes a book where he represents himself as "confessing" and questioning seem a bit disingenuous.

The whole time i have been reading this book, I have seen the author EVERYWHERE: appearing on Podcasts I listen to, as guest star on tv shows I w
Becky Sandham Mathwin
I gave "Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight" 3 stars primarily because the writer (Mr. Bucatinsky) comes across as very likable, honest and amusing. He seems like a good guy-I really get the impression that he and his husband are good parents and love their children dearly. His honesty was refreshing (particularly regarding his concern/insecurity about his kids not having a mother). I found the section of the book where he discussed the adoption process interesting. On the down side, there were ...more
I don't usually read bio-type books but this was in Entertainment Weekly. I love "The New Normal" and this book was in the "book swap" from the Oct. 26, 2012 issue. I loved this book. I laughed and cried. The author, Dan Bucatinsky, talked about how he lost his father and I have just lost my mom a few short months now and I felt connected to another person with some of the same feelings. His experiences with his husband and kids are some of the same things I went through with my husband and kids ...more

It was adorable, cute, funny and (relatively) honest. I really loved it. It was more about parenting than his relationship with his husband but overall I really enjoyed it.
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Dan Bucatinsky was born in New York City, to Argentinian parents. He later went to Vassar College, graduated Phi Beta Kappa and moved back to New York to become an actor and a writer. After moving to Los Angeles, in 1992, he met his current husband of 20 years, filmmaker Don Roos. Professionally, Dan is known for writing and starring in the indie romatic comedy "All Over the Guy" (Lionsgate). In 2 ...more
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