Choice: True Stories of Birth, Contraception, Infertility, Adoption, Single Parenthood, and Abortion

Choice: True Stories of Birth, Contraception, Infertility, Adoption, Single Parenthood, and Abortion

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A moving collection of personal essays about the real, human experiences behind the highly politicized issue of reproductive choice.

At a time when a woman’s most complex decisions have been reduced to political rhetoric and impersonal theory, and political debate has been hijacked by pundits and name-callers, Choice joins the discourse with an assortment of candid voices i...more
Hardcover, 349 pages
Published November 20th 2007 by MacAdam Cage (first published October 19th 2007)
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Inder
Been thinking - this is SUCH a good collection of personal essays, just super.

BUT, the last essay, an analysis of the reasoning of Roe v. Wade, bugged me a little, and is bugging me more and more as I consider it. I feel that I have a duty, as a pro-choice lawyer-type, to say that Roe v. Wade may have been quite beautifully written, but there are some major logical problems with the case. Thus, it should not be held up as an example of amazing legal logic, and this essay describes it in far too...more
Rachel
In A Normal Woman, Kate Malloy shares her excruciating decision to terminate her 18-week pregnancy after tests reveal a fetus with a rare chromosomal abnormality. "It was not an arrogant but an agonizing choice," she writes, "not the right thing to do, but the less wrong." This truism is applied to many of the decisions unveiled in the book Choice, as several of the contributor's solutions are about picking the lesser two evils—giving a child up for adoption/parents refusing to acknowledge it's...more
Erika RS
Finished Choice: True Stories of Birth, Contraception, Infertility, Adoption, Single Parenthood, and Abortion. This is a collection of essays edited by Bender and de Gramont. Like most collections of essays, some are spectacular and some are just okay, hence, the 3 out of 5 rating.

I believe that this book should be read by anyone who cares about reproductive rights and politics, whether they are "pro-choice" or "pro-life". The most important lessons I learned from these essays are these: "choice...more
Ciara
why the hell am i giving this book four stars when i remember almost nothing about it? i don't know. i know that it's a collection of essays about reproductive choice, & unlike a lot of collections on this topic, it's not just abortion abortion abortion all the time. not that there's anything wrong with a nice abortion anthology. i like reading about abortion. but i picked this book up when i was looking for personal essays about infertility, & luckily, there were some. (not a lot though...more
Sarah
For most of my life, I have been scared of pregnancy. Let me be clear. This was not a remote, passing worry, but a fear that I can only describe as borderline phobic. I was raised by an incredibly strong and loving single mother who engrained in me the idea that education, stability, and personal wellbeing were paramount to everything else. Having children was something to be considered only later in life when all other accomplishments had been achieved and my loving, committed (preferably male)...more
Lindsay
This book was amazing. The part that resonated with me the most was actually the introduction though, particularly this: “when a pregnancy is unplanned, any subsequent choice is bound to be complicated”. While the term 'Choice' generally invokes the idea of one's views on abortion, what Bender and the other authors point out is that whatever a woman decides to do, the choice she makes isn't going to be one that she takes lightly. What is important is that she HAS a choice.

This book comes from a...more
Elizabeth
Nov 27, 2007 Elizabeth rated it 4 of 5 stars Recommends it for: anyone in the gray spaces between black and white
I enjoyed this book. Lots of different women in lots of different places in their lives. Women who wanted a baby since they were small. Women who didn't want a baby at all. Women who wanted a baby but not *now*....women who want one but don't have one. Real women, not theoretical ones, with real stories.
Clare
This is an incredible collection of essays, all written by wildly different women with a vast array of experiences and yet there is a single voice that comes out of all the stories. A voice that not just asks but demands choice and help and hope when it comes to women's bodies and their lives. The raw honesty and emotional depth with which each woman tackled her story, her experience, her choices (or lack of) is astounding as is the humor and wit that is constant alongside of the horror and grie...more
Eva Leger
I'm pro-life. I'm not anti-abortion or anti-choice as some people like to say. What I'm against is using aborition as a form of birth control. What I'm against is murder because one doesn't want to take responsibility. Do I have the answer for what to do if aborition was made illegal? Surely not. Do you? I wish I did. But I do know, for myself, that the needless murdering of countless babies is insane. My own little survey that I did was a poll. I personally - not through rumors mind you, person...more
Heather
Suddenly I am reminded of how much I love to read memoir and personal narrative writing! While very emotional, I enjoy it.

Like the title suggests, there is a huge range of stories in this compilation. The first story starts with surrogacy, which even after considering the range of experience this book might cover, I hadn't expected to find- which was naive of me.

The stories that pulled most at me were the ones without choice: the stories of 16 year olds who got pregnant in the 60s and were never...more
Haley
Many women explain their various decisions (word choice important) about their reproductive lives in this collection of essays. They are, despite the title, not all about abortion (although I'd wager a guess that the word at least appears in each one), but instead cover a wide range of situations a woman can find herself in (egg donation, miscarriage, international adoption, unwanted pregnancies brought to term, forced adoption, prenatal diagnosis of disease etc). I liked some more than others,...more
Mary
Jun 15, 2008 Mary rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: new moms, people set in their opinions regarding reproductive issues, and basically everyone else
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To be perfectly honest (and still sound overly-enthusiastic), I don't know that I've ever read a better collection of essays on *any* topic than Choice. These stories take a topic intently assigned to the intellect and bring it back to the heart, reminding the reader that the personal, while political, is also simply personal. "Reproductive rights" is no euphemism in this book; it covers the gambit (as the subtitle explains) of reproductive issues, and does so with amazingly consistent, compelli...more
Cheri
Oct 07, 2008 Cheri rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: everyone - a must read for men and women across the aisles
A thoughtful collection of personal essays written by women on the topic of personal choice and reproduction. Moving, their stories span decades and explore everything from giving up a child for adoption to infertility to abortion, both legal and illegal.

These are not simple, one-sided didactic essays; the different voices tell of loss, confusion and struggle in honest and heart-felt ways. Each essay is unique as each woman explores her personal relationship to reproduction and fertility - it i...more
Sarah
Exceptional anthology, looking at reproductive freedom with fresh comprehensiveness. A joy to read. Recommended for everyone, no matter what your knowledge or opinion on abortion, adoption, miscarriage, contraception, and the necessity of making your own choice.
Mandy Faust
This book contains a series of essays on women and reproductive choice. Very interesting although there are some heart-wrenching stories in here. The book really highlights the realization that it's easy to say what you would do until you are in a particular situation!
Emelda
While I would have rated this lowly because I personally wasn't impressed with many of the essays- plus, aesthetically, the book could have looked nicer- I think this is a great book for someone beginning their journey on reproductive rights issues. It hits on abortion, parenting, adoption, miscarriage (some of those voluntary, some forced) and a few essays touch upon class, race, etc.

I skipped the last essay because I can't stand when privileged feminists wax poetic about how beautiful the lan...more
Laura Cococcia
Definitely thought provoking and learned more than I thought I did, basically because the personal element of the stories was so revealing. You can read my full review at: http://www.laurareviews.net/2009/06/c...
Ann
Read for book club, for a meeting that was monitored and recorded by a researcher at UCSF that is tracking book clubs' responses to these essays.

The stories delivered exactly what the title promised. They were at turns heartbreaking, touching and tear-inducing, aside from one story that fell into bragadocio about the author's awesome kid and another that was obviously written by someone who is such a hot mess that I couldn't take the writing too seriously.

They left me thankful that women still...more
Alicia
Very diverse collection of extremely personal stories. Some were funny, some were sad, and some were difficult to read... I really enjoyed this book.
halliepay
A re-read. Another collection of essays that may seem heavy. But the personal nature of the essays helps to make connection with the topic.
Lea
Some of the stories were very difficult to read due to the graphic & honest nature of the book. Some were completely heart-wrenching and some had my stomach in knots. Having gone through a very difficult year of infertility, I related to most of the infertility stories. And now heading down the adoption road and seeing life from a different perspective, I related to the adoption stories as well. The abortion stories were hard to stomach but I'm the type of person who wants to know what it's...more
Kimberly
A must read for those who want to be mothers, are mothers, will be mothers or want to know what choices may lay ahead.
vonhorst
Such an important anthology. A must read for everyone wanting to talk about reproductive rights.
Caro Buchheim
great collection of first person essays on stuff we all too rarely talk about.
Laura
This is a great essay collection -- very well edited.
Alex
A comprehensive collection of personal essays about, in the words of Roe V Wade, "the raw edges of human existence." The variety of opinions is impressive, but the conundrum of collections like this is that they are always entirely from the perspective of middle class educated women.
Kirsten Reburn
Gives you a different perspectives on the issue of choice. Some of the essays can be pretty graphic in nature, so if you have strong oppositions to abortion, don't read this is could be fairly upsetting and disturbing. Got it because I thought it would deal with all of the aspects equally, not really, more to do with abortion. Some of the essays about adoption and infertility were could be helpful if you've been through it.
Kirsten
I read this for the newly created Planned Parenthood book club and, honestly, I was expecting a rather generic overview of issues in reproduction, sort of an introductory look. But although a few of the essays read like they could appear in Good Housekeeping magazine, overall I was moved and, in many cases, educated by women's stories of abortion, adoption, infertility, and making choices about if and when to have children.
Charles
Jan 09, 2008 Charles rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: just about anyone
This is an honest and thoughtful book. It's raw. All the authors are pro-choice, but they didn't write as fanatics who are free of doubt and full of self-righteousness. It got me thinking in ways I hadn't before, particularly about adoption. I might have scored it higher if the editors had chosen to include even one male author, but in spite of that, I would recommend it to just about anyone.
Laurie
This is one of the most affecting and powerful books I have read in a while. It is a collection of essays on women's reproductive choices. The honesty in these stories is amazing, and I really couldn't put this book down. I don't often come across a collection of essays that can be called a page-turner, but this book was.

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