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This Is How You Lose Her

3.71 of 5 stars 3.71  ·  rating details  ·  51,799 ratings  ·  5,277 reviews
On a beach in the Dominican Republic, a doomed relationship flounders. In the heat of a hospital laundry room in New Jersey, a woman does her lover’s washing and thinks about his wife. In Boston, a man buys his love child, his only son, a first baseball bat and glove. At the heart of these stories is the irrepressible, irresistible Yunior, a young hardhead whose longing fo ...more
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published September 11th 2012 by Riverhead Books (first published 2012)
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Rachel Johnson I love this book honestly. I've read it twice. To me, it's timeless no matter where you are in your life. I'm an 18 year old girl, and I've loved this…moreI love this book honestly. I've read it twice. To me, it's timeless no matter where you are in your life. I'm an 18 year old girl, and I've loved this book since the first time I read it. To each their own :)(less)

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This is a collection of short stories about Yunior. Yunior is a louse. All the men in his life are serial cheaters from his father to his brother to his best friend. Yes, there is a pitch that this is part of the Dominican Culture -- but frankly I can speak with women friends of mine from France, Spain, Italy, Russia, Germany and England and every single one of them knows this guy or has dated this clown. He screws around on women, and when he is caught and discarded there is great chest thumpin ...more
This is how you lost me. You gave me flat characters powered by preoccupations with sex and body parts, especially bushy hair, peppered the prose with Spanish words that were often slangy or derogatory, and allowed superficial, albeit energetic, descriptions of shallow thoughtlessness to masquerade as gritty literary style.

I am puzzled as to why I feel so far off the general opinion of the literary pundits who widely praise this book. I do wonder if it is because of my utter lack of exposure to
This Is...
This is about Yunior, about Yunior and his brother Rafa, about their Papi and Mami.
This is about love, life, and loss.
This is about the love we see in our youth and how that love shapes who we are and how it shapes how we love.
This is about how we find love and about how we make love last.
This is real love, not Hollywood love, not Pretty Woman love.
This is where the business man fucks the hooker for the week then goes back to his wife after the deal is done.
This is the way real lo
Roger DeBlanck
This Is How You Lose Her is Diaz’s best work to date. In 1997 he walloped the literary landscape like a meteor and established his name as a promising talent with Drown, a collection of gritty, unabashed stories centering on Dominican American immigrants and culture. Not until a decade later did he finish his next work, the acclaimed novel The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, which recounts in ecstatic prose the tragedies that befall a first generation Dominican American family. Now with his ne ...more
David Dacosta
Rating: 3.5 stars out of 5

How does an author follow up a Pulitzer Prize winning novel? For one thing, you’d hope that under no circumstances they would attempt to replicate the work. Junot Diaz has come full circle and returned to his writing roots. Like his debut collection of short stories Drown, Diaz’s third literary outing, This Is How You Lose Her, is also comprised of short stories, but these revolve around the love life of Yunior, the character who surfaced in Drown and the author’s break
Junot Diaz brings back Yunior from The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao as the narrator for most of the stories but leaves out the Dominican history and the geek references. Instead we get to read about heartbreak, infidelity, remorse, alienation and cancer.

You know, the stuff that makes life worth living.

Taken as a whole, these powerful stories give us a history for Yunior as he grows up in Jersey as a Dominican immigrant dealing with his family and his tendency to cheat on the women in his li
Junot Diaz has always been a favorite author of mine, ever since college when he came to the Latin-American lit class I was taking in '98. By that time, I had already read Drown and was on my way to reading Negocios, the Spanish translation of Drown, expertly done by my lit. professor, Mr. Eduardo Lago (even the colloquialisms and the SHUCO-ness, the grit, the sarcasm, the naughtiness, came through, which I know, as an amateur translator myself, is supremely tough to accomplish).

Diaz's language,
Kellie Lambert
Released September 11, I heard a a lot of hype for this book by Junot Diaz. I wanted to see--what is all the fuss about? Why did this jump to the top of the NY Bestseller List?

I think I can tell you. In my best bookish librarian voice: the writing is raw. Eye-opening. It shifts between several different love stories, some unrequited, some failed...some still standing. I felt as if the narrator was sitting with me on the stoop of some NY slum, telling me about this girlfriend. Or this story that
Paul Bryant

The straight reviewers (meaning non-GR) have curled up and just about died of pure pleasure from reading this book, but I was not quite so jaw on the floor, for me it was a little bit Junot Diaz’s difficult third album. 1996, 2007, 2012 – three books, not big ones either, in 15 years. If Junot Diaz was a singer songwriter he’d be Kate Bush. He takes forever on his stuff. It reads extremely fast, goes down like alcopop, but you know it’s meticulous. He keens over every word, and the words are goo
Holy cannoli on a flying Popsicle stick.

I never got around to reading Oscar Wao mostly because I never got around to it and a little because I was concerned that I simply wouldn't be able to relate to a story about a nerdy teenage boy living in what Diaz himself describes as the ghetto. But, I heard that it was good (you know, in that Pulitzer-winning way) and then there was increased buzz around this latest collection of short stories. Somehow, I was the first person on the library reserve lis
I'm a big fan of Junot. I own all 3 of his books and love when he has a story featured in The New Yorker (which is how I discovered him, many moons ago, in high school).
"This Is How You Lose Her" is another winner. Diaz has a way with words, that much is certain. Each story has it's own little gem and specialness to it.
This book is comprised of 9 short stories, most of them intertwined, linking the main character, Yunior, with his dealings with women, his dickhead brother, Rafa, who is arrogan
a.k.a The Various Sexcapades of Yunior and Other Dominican Men.

I can praise this. I can even say that it shows you a more accurate representation of what love is than a hell lot of books out there.

But I won't.

Yunior, so funny and eloquent in Oscar Wao, is only amusing at best here. From start to end, it's just an unemotional, cold, and distant narration of who he fucked and who he cheated on and what he did to win them back - only to lapse back into the habit like gamblers and alcoholics.

Dec 16, 2012 Jennifer rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Jennifer by: Inprint

I have to preface this review with the following: I saw Junot Díaz at a sold-out Inprint event in Houston earlier this fall where he was promoting This is How You Lose Her. Anyone who has met Díaz in person will understand the significance of this statement. Díaz is a bona-fide firecracker and has a great sense of humor to boot. He showed up on stage in tennis shoes and blue jeans and held the audience completely captive. He was exceedingly liberal with his language, which, by the way, works its
I had the honour of attending Junot Diaz's author talk late last month here in Vancouver. He was reading excerpts from the first three of the short stories in this book (The Sun, The Moon, The Stars; Nilda and Alma). I was honestly struck by how emphatically he read his own stories, even more impressed that I remembered his cadences. He is a gifted orator, as well as a storyteller.

As mentioned, this is a collection of short stories. They all feature a young Dominican-American man named Yunior, t
Jennifer Fosket
Twelve pages in and this amazing line, "She's sensitive, too. Takes to hurt the way water takes to paper." I'm so excited about how much I'm going to love this book.
I was blown away by The Brief and Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, so when I saw that Junot Diaz had a new novel starring Wao protagonist Yunior, I immediately got on the library wait list. In This is How You Lose Her, Diaz employs the same vulgar, Spanglish, lyrical voice as he did in Wao, but I didn't find the novel equally earth-shattering. More than anything else, I was impressed by Diaz's creative and expansive use of similes, most of which were laugh-out-loud funny (see favorites below).

All right, we get it, Junot Diaz. You’ve got a fun, energetic style, and we don’t know any other Dominican writers, so you can keep writing about sucios and morenos and we’ll keep applauding because it’ll seem culturally insensitive to say that, after three books largely focused on your thinly-veiled alter ego, Yunior, it’s time you tried something new.

In his previous two works, “Drown” and the Pulitzer-winning “The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao,” Yunior was a dorky outcast more likely to rea
Aug 14, 2012 Laima rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone who understands spanish
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This Is How You Lose Her by Junot Diaz

This book is composed of several short stories with Yunior, a Dominican, as the main character. The stories are related but not told in chronological order… they go forward and backward in time. There is a lot of Spanish in this book as well. I understood some of it but not a lot. I think most of the time I was lost somewhere in translation.

The first story is about Yunior on vacation in Sant
"There will be signs in the sun, moon and stars. On the earth, nations will be in anguish and perplexity at the roaring and tossing of the sea."

You think about signs. How it is so easy to miss them, misinterpret them, ignore them, spit in their face. Is it about rebellion? Is it trying to defy the inevitable? If you ignore the whole nations, anguish, tossing part of the bible quote and focus on the selfish, defeatist, lovelorn Yunior and his tales of woe that is This is How You Lose Her, you kno
Nathan Rostron
I hate to filter my response to book based upon others' responses to a book, but after a National Book Award nomination, a Guggenheim, and the almost unseemly vocal adoration of seemingly every major reviewer, one comes to a book with certain expectations. And in the case of this collection of nine short stories (seven of which were published previously in periodicals) that it took the author ten-plus years to complete, the subjects of which are men who keep cheating on their girlfriends and fee ...more
This is my uber-truncated version. The full review is here.

Anyone familiar with either of Junot Díaz’s previous books will remember Yunior, the Dominican kid coming of age in Drown who goes on to become the narrator of The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao. Back for his third starring role Díaz’s work, Yunior is the link connecting most of the stories in this book.

Since most of the stories feature Yunior, the narrative as a whole is very male-centric. Only one of the stories, “Otravida, Ortravez,
Richard Vialet
Earlier this year I read Junot Díaz's first and only novel to date, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, and was smitten by it. A large part of why that book was so enjoyable was the point-of-view of it's omniscient narrator Yunior. While Oscar was never able to find a girl, Yunior never seemed able to keep one. Díaz's newest book, a story collection, is a sort of follow-up to Oscar Wao, focusing more on Yunior the Dumb-ass, and Yunior's predicament of not being able to hold a relationship; all ...more
Junot Diaz came to read at the college where I work a few months back, and though I hadn't yet read anything of his, I went. I wanted to see what he was all about, and it seemed like a good opportunity. I bought this book, got in line early, and started reading. I started reading and I cried and cried and cried. I didn't get far before his reading, but with even just part of one story, he kind of destroyed me. I heard him read, and he was honest, hysterical, well-spoken, and full of swear words, ...more
I feel like a literary fraud because I did not like this book. Every reader, reviewer, Tweeter, and MacArthur genius granter was wowed and moved by this book - but me? I liked one story, enjoyed a couple others. Most washed over me like a muggy drizzle when you expected cleansing rain, and a few I outright disliked. Is it because I've never been an immigrant? Never been in love? (Not really, at least). I think it's because one of the books I was reading at the same time (The Long Walk: A Story o ...more
Donald Quist
Overly familiar territory, it was like Drown pt. II, but the authority of Diaz's narrative voice and the "flow" of his prose is so strong I couldn't stop reading. I forgive the lack of ambition--the writing is kind of lazy--as he returns to the comfort of his ghetto-nerd persona, because Yunior's world has become comfortable to me too. "Otravida, Otravez," was the most standout and memorable story, as it was also the most ambitious--one of the few narratives told in first person as opposed to Di ...more
Junot Diaz reads his work, shortlisted for either the Pulitzer or the National Book Award. While I enjoyed the second half of the book much more than the first half, and Diaz totally understands his work and his characters, I found the characters incredibly distasteful. The amount of graphic sex talk, profanity, and ill-treatment (though not in abuse) of women is nauseating. If this is an example of Dominican men, it's a cultural issue that will not be solved anytime soon. The reading was painfu ...more
This Is How I Would Lose My Husband:

1. Grow dreadlocks.
2. Listen to Offspring in his presence.
3. Wear pants with a dress.

These are his 3 "dealbreakers" that we've been joking about since the beginning. They are jokes, of course. It's true he hates these things, but the real things I'd have to do to lose him are more disgusting than even dreadlocks. I don't like even thinking about doing the type of things that could make him leave. I could never do them. Right? I'd have to hate myself pretty
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I get the fact that Junot Diaz is a pioneering author when it comes to writing the experience of Dominican immigrants approximating the American dream. I also get that the gritty writing, the occasional offensive Spanish references, and the objectively sexual portrayal is his trademark. What I don't get however is what this book is all about. One doesn't need to be a literary pundit to know that Diaz is telling us that CHEATING is how you lose her and Diaz pr
Yup, I've said it before. I'll say it again. I don't know how he gets away with the shit he does, but Junot's writing just does it for me. He's my (contemporary) literary crush, I guess you could say...

Like his first collection of stories, Drown, he doesn't paint a very pretty picture of the Dominican-American experience but it's always real. Always witty. And all that "play-uh" talk is laced with a vulnerability that no one else can match.

I admit, it felt a bit like "been there, done that" with
This is how you write it – you take a scintillatingly talented writer, you focus in on a Lothario who is unmoored from any healthy attachments, and then you write an achingly beautiful book that knocks the socks off the reader with its astuteness and authenticity.

In this interwoven collection of short stories, the immensely gifted Junot Diaz revisits Yunior, the narrator of his previous short story book, Drown. Right from the start, he grabs the reader’s attention: “I’m not a bad guy. I know how
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Junot Díaz is a contemporary Dominican-American writer. He moved to the USA with his parents at age six, settling in New Jersey. Central to Díaz's work is the duality of the immigrant experience. He is the first Dominican-born man to become a major author in the United States.

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