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Rurally Screwed: My Life Off the Grid with the Cowboy I Love

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Jessie Knadler was a New York City girl, through and through. An editor for a splashy women's magazine, she splurged on Miu Miu, partied hard, lived for Kundalini yoga, and dated a man-boy whose complexion was creamier than her own. Circling the drain both personally and professionally, Jessie definitely wouldn't have described herself as "happy"; more like caustically con ...more
Hardcover, 336 pages
Published April 3rd 2012 by Berkley
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I didn't like this book, but maybe I mean that I don't like the woman portrayed in the book. She just seemed very spoiled, a bit lazy, and until the very end, dishonest to herself. I hated how her cliches of the moody, disinterested, aloof man seemed to apply to her pretty much angelic, doing all the work, endlessly patient husband, yet she really wasn't that hard on her own psychotic behavior.

And I don't get how women can say "I don't want kids" but magically end up pregnant. Was she not using
David Ward
Rurally Screwed: My Life Off the Grid With the Cowboy I Love by Jessie Knadler (Berkley Books 2012)(Biography) was a book that I wanted to be charmed by. Would it happen? The answer was contained in the first few pages although I didn't recognize it. The telltale clue came early when the author described pitching a plagarized story idea in her job as an editor. It was a warning that I should have taken as a sign of things to come. But I failed to heed it, and I have only myself to blame. The pro ...more
This book made me cranky. I read it because I thought I might connect with Knadler's story given my own recent Phoenix-to-rural Wisconsin transplantation this spring. I found the book very readable, but I was surprised at how the author presented herself. She wrote herself in a way that made her seem very...I don't know...stupid. I hate saying that, but she did not present herself in a flattering light. I was constantly frustrated with her choices and complaints about rural living. And she wrote ...more
I'm almost finished reading this and I'm glad I stuck with it, because it does get better -- which is why I amended my two star rating to a three star rating.

I seriously disliked the author when I began this memoir. I found her cynical and lazy, and yet hyper-critical of others. But it gets better as she gets out of her fast-paced and superficial NY environment and marries her "cowboy." She shows a willingness to try new things and really dives in to a much different and more authentic lifestyl
My roommate gave me this book when she was finished, telling me that I'd probably like it and that it was a lot more serious and intelligent than she had initially expected. I definitely agree with my roommate that the book is serious and intelligent and I would recommend it although I have 3 main issues:

1. How in the world could any sane and functioning person date a pedophile? I almost stopped reading after the first chapter or two because I was so disgusted.

2. I had problems with the structur
I purchased the Kindle version of this book on a whim. I knew that the author was a blogger, so I checked out her site. She seemed funny, quick, sarcastic and smart. I thought the book would provide for some light plane reading as I readied for a long trip. While the book is indeed witty, it is so much more. It really speaks to any woman who has made big changes in her life for a man and keeps looking back over her shoulder questioning herself, her decisions, her partner, her "new" life. The dep ...more
The author of this memoir is whiny and unlikable. She lives in NYC, and the first half of the book details her job struggles, a trip during which she decides she needs to hook up with a cowboy on a trip, doing so, and then long-distance dating him. One sentence describes their decision to marry, immediately after the cowboy says he wants to take a break, so it comes completely out of nowhere. Way to gloss over the only interesting part of the story. And the second half of the book talks about th ...more
So much better than that stupid Pioneer Woman book I suffered through. Knadler's writing is head and shoulders above Drummond's.

Admittedly, I have a hard time being objective about this one as the author lives in my general part of the world, and I have gladly followed her blog for some time now. I feel emotionally invested.

I was very glad to see that it wasn't just a rehashing of her blog - it has real narrative structure, though it occasionally veers off into telling and not showing. And why d
Shelby *wants some flying monkeys*
The beginning of this book almost made me move on from it. I just did not connect with the author. After she moved from New York something changed. She spoke to my heart, hell I think she was speaking a lot of my thoughts for me. I live a similar life as she was and don't get me wrong-i love it but there are those times. Anyways I loved this book! Go run and get it and enjoy! This woman is real and she honestly could be someone I like
Courtney Milford
I sort of lied about it being "read" since I didn't finish this book. I decided that if I dread picking up a book to read it, it's time to dump it. I was surprised I didn't like it more because I had to wait a long time to get it from the library due to all of the holds. Also, it says the author sometimes writes for the Wall Street Journal, which I enjoy reading every day.
Shay Peters
Loved this book mainly because I live in Rockbridge County and it was great hearing what a New York City gal thinks of us. The book is more about a woman finding her place and she is funny, honest and entertaining.
megan weisenberger
i couldn't finish this. it was THAT bad. even my love for bullriders and cowboys couldn't withstand the utter crappiness of this book.
How/why would you wanna be with a guy who watches porn all the time. And not just any porn. Child porn. Ugh! Im so disgusted.
Then she mentions this guy with strawberry blond curls. And says if she smiled, he’d probably like her. You’re dating someone!
This is what happens when you get adult books. The women party and engage in other morally corrupt, sleezy crap. &date
Karen Germain
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Kater Cheek
This is a cute romance/memoir that starts out going about as you'd expect it to go and adds a little more depth to the end. City slicker meets cowboy, falls in love, and struggles to adapt to life in the country.

Based on the cover and the back flap, you'd expect it to start quite quickly with Jesse meeting and marrying Jake, and the rest of the book leading towards the climax. In these types of "fish out of water" stories, the heroine will usually either eventually prove to her friends that she
Jessie Knadler was dissatisfied with her life in New York City. She had just started freelancing as a journalist and went to Montana to cover a rodeo where she met Jake, a twenty-five year old bullrider and cowboy. What was initially supposed to be a one night stand with a hot cowboy eventually turned into a long-distance relationship between New York and Montana, even surviving Jake's one year deployment to Iraq for the Army Reserve. When he came back from his deployment they decided to get mar ...more
Alex Templeton
This was one of the more enjoyable memoirs I've read in awhile. I think the best way I could describe it is that it was like a really good true-life story in Glamour magazine, told in book form. (As Knadler used to write for womens' magazines, this is not a surprise.) I read a memoir with a similar premise (city girl meets farm boy, marries him, lives the farm life) in 2011, Kristen Kimball's "The Dirty Life", which was well-written and had amazing descriptions of farm-life food, but all in all ...more
Carly Thompson
A chick lit memoir (and that description is not meant to be a slam). Jessie Knadler is a New York City writer who is in a bit of a rut when travels to Montana to write a magazine article on a unique rodeo in the badlands of Eastern Montana. There she means a bull rider named Jake and embarks on a brief affair which soon develops into love and marriage. Jessie and Jake move to Lexington, Virginia and begin their married life together. All does not go smoothly and Jessie has some difficulty adjust ...more
A light memoir about being a writer, being a wife, and dealing with moving from the city to the rural countryside. I connected with her feelings of changed roles...spending lots of time doing the chores and rituals of keeping a home, instead of working and thinking and being out in the world. Her writing is clear, and for me, the topic was relevant after a move from SF to Nashville.
Ashley FL
This is a blog-to-book, and I generally like those. So if you are one of the many people who doesn't like that sort of book, move on to something else. That said, there is definitely more to it, depth-wise, than I was expecting or than one usually finds in this sort of book. I really enjoyed it while I was reading it.

In the day or two since I've finished it, though, it has begun to bother me more and more that the book has some convenient fictions (she leaves out, for example, that she is writin
A summer read, a light romantic comedy in book format. It's always nice to see someone fall in love with The Right One. This seemed like a long-odds relationship, and her early doubts built up her credibility with me. She's a smart, grown-up woman, not a ditzy ingenue. Yay, I cheered.

One of her doubts is that he, Jake, would seem cartoonish, and about halfway through, the whole story felt cartoonish to me. It was the same angle over and over: vain misguided New Yorkers looking quite small next t
Olga Hebert
I liked it. The writing style was self deprecating in a humorous way. The edition I had was subtitled: A Memoir of Losing Myself for Love. That was more accurate than My Life Off the Grid with the Cowboy I Love. Knadler was young and had not even found her self when she gave up everything she thought she was and thought she wanted. She idealized her cowboy. That was frustrating to watch from the vantage of what little wisdom comes with age. Of course she came to resent him. That gave me hope. Th ...more
Jessie Knadler has an entertaining writing style and a fun story to tell. Her real-life experience of leaving a fast-paced life in New York to marry a cowboy and move to rural Virginia. While some of her experiences of the early days of marriage and adjusting to a new place to live were interesting and relatable, I felt Knadler was holding the reader at arm's length for much of the book. While her anecdotes were amusing, I never understood what truly drew her to her husband or why she committed ...more
What a fun story about all the phases that Jessie went through. I truly applaud her good attitude and sportsmanship. I was totally intrigued with her describing many of the chores she pitched in and did. Helping with the heavy chores like fences and the chickens....What a good sport she is. I personally thought Jake was a bit of an idiot when it came to expecting Jessie to do what he did with his physical stamina and body strength.
My bottom line thought is that she must really love him to live
Rurally screwed : my life off the grid with a cowboy I love by Jessie Knadler started read like the perfect chick lit romance novel. New York City girl Jessie, tired of her life in publishing meets Jake, a cowboy who is happiest when he is on his horse. They fall in love. They marry and struggle to blend their lives in rural Virginia. Jake is very religious, Jessie not so much. Jake loves horses and Jessie is afraid of them. When things get really bad, Jessie does what all romance heroines do, s ...more
Really enjoyed this memoir. Gritty but good. And came across as fairly genuine and honest in the telling. Now I'm an addict to her blog!
Good book. Well written. Not really what I expected when I picked it up. I really thought it would be another book in praise of natural foods locally grown and simple living by returning to nature. But the story is more complex (and real) than that. I was impressed with the honesty of the author; revealing much more about her feelings and shortcomings than most of us are willing to do. In the end, I really enjoyed the book. It's a love story after all!

In addition, I learned something from the au
I'm not crazy about the title but it's well-written and I enjoyed her honesty.
Mark Gaulding
This was a remarkable book. Glib, yes. Very funny in a sophisticated way. I love the heroine. But perhaps the saving character, the balance of the book, is contributed by ms. Knadler's husband. His earnestness and goodness just can't be real. This one of my favorite books in years. It surprised, I identified with, I was educated. I just wish could find a cowboy like hers and ride off into the sunset. Alas, cowboys only like girls unless you're rue watching broke back mountain.

This truly a great
This book is written in the same vein as Ree Drummond's "The Pioneer Woman" or Kristin Kimball's "The Dirty Life"--if you enjoyed those, you'll probably enjoy this city-girl-falls-in-love-with-country-boy book as well. I did not find Ms. Knadler to be as engaging a narrator as Drummond, but I did enjoy the book. Also, the subtitle takes a bit of poetic license--they don't live off-grid, so if you're planning to read it in the hopes of garnering tips for living in a yurt, this is not the book for ...more
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