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Battle Hymn of the Tiger Daughter

3.76 of 5 stars 3.76  ·  rating details  ·  54 ratings  ·  16 reviews
Okay, enough already.

First, there was Tiger Mother. Her battle hymn joyfully sang the death knell of America and its lazy, over-indulgent parents. The “Chinese” way was the only way to parent if you wanted “success.”

And mental illness.

Now, there’s Bringing Up Bebe, which claims that French parents are the ones who know how this parenting thing is done.

Oh, please.

Come on, A
Paperback, 156 pages
Published December 12th 2011 by CreateSpace (first published December 5th 2011)
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Deborah Markus
I need a reality check on one thing. What does the title of this book say to you?

I assumed it was a book by the daughter of an Amy Chua-type mom.

It isn't. It's by a mom and her teenaged daughter. Well, technically it's all by the mom, but she interviews her daughter and then weaves her answers together into coherent chapters.

I wasn't sure I'd like it at first. The whole first chapter is a smug, pompous brag about how Diana Holquist totally rejects the tiger-mom ethos and lets her children watch
I really liked this book. Thanks Janet! This is a Western mom's version of how to raise successful, smart children w/o yelling, screaming or forcing them to practice an instrument for 5-6 hours. Her children were allowed to be kids. The chapters alternated between the mom and the daughter. I didn't hate this mom like I did the original Tiger mom. I found myself agreeing with a lot of what she said. As a parent, your heart just aches for your child when you see them struggle with friends (especia ...more
I enjoyed it more than the Tiger Mother version! the daughter's POV is interesting. She's a smart girl without parental influence. Mom was smart to let her little ones shine on their own!
3.5 stars

I am not a mom. I may never be a mom. That did not stop me from enjoying this book.

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Daughter focuses on debunking the ideal that you must dictate every single aspect of your child's life in order to raise a well-rounded, successful human being. The chapters alternate between mother and daughter's point of view.

I enjoyed Diana's honesty throughout her chapters. Never once did she claim to know the secret to raising that perfect child. She simply believes that you
Okay, I am really hoping this mother wrote the book just because she was really mad at the tiger mother and she made up a great part of the book to prove her point because if she was telling the truth, nothing but the truth ,I would be so sorry for (and proud of) the tiger daughter who had to survive her own struggling with social and academic issues, and on top of that, help her mother survive her messy motherhood . At the very least, the tiger mother cares about her daughters and puts in every ...more
Feb 04, 2012 Megan rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: my book group girls
Recommended to Megan by: Ashley Boyer
This book takes advantage of the passionate discussions around "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother." And though it would appear from the title that this will be a book about a very permissive mother in contrast with Chua's very controlling parenting, this is not the case.

The contrast between this book and the Tiger Mother book is that in the T. Mother book, the mother rarely doubts herself and knows exactly what she wants.
In this book, the mother constantly doubts herself and worries about her pare
Jody Curtis
Enjoyed reading this right after the book that inspired it, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. I "got" Amy Chua's sense of humor and I take Chua at her word that she wrote a memoir about her own family and not a handbook of universally recommended child-rearing techniques.

But, still. The pushy, Ivy-league-or-die-trying parents are in plentiful supply in my zip code, and they make me nervous.

I appreciate and relate to Diana Holquist's parenting experience. My kids are creative and independent thin
Easy to read, funny in parts, and a useful book for anyone trying to figure out their parenting philosophy. It is written from both the mother's and daughter's perspectives. Rather than tell people how to parent, the writer shares her own struggles in learning how to be the parent her daughter needs. This was more helpful to me than a list of what to do or not to do to raise a happy child. The gist of this book is that every child is different. It is harder to parent children as individuals, rat ...more
Haven't received my copy yet, just received notice I had won. 2/10/12
Received yesterday 2/25/12 and hope to start soon. Have 4 others plus current read in front.
Started and finished this last weekend. 3/18/12

Remember hearing all about the Tiger Mother? Well, this is a story of a former Tiger Mother, whose daughter believes it is the other way around, she is the Tiger Daughter. When I signed up for this giveaway, I thought this would be a novel about how a daughter isn't fitting the stereotype o
(Has a few swear words.) Good follow-up to Tiger Mother. I don't agree with everything she writes, but I think my parenting style is definitely more is line with hers than with Tiger Mother. I liked the fact that her daughter contributed some chapters. Her philosophy that children will succeed if you just leave them alone to find their own path is true for some children. However, I do believe that some kids need to be forced to engage in life and made to do things they aren't always happy about. ...more
C.P. Lesley
Love this joint mother/daughter exploration of one family's approach to modern parenting. The distinctive voices of Diana and Hana as they tell their stories and Diana's openness in portraying her own journey away from "tiger mother" expectations and toward acceptance of her daughter's unique brilliance turn this reminder that American families may not be completely hopeless into a compelling read. Look for this book on and in the various e-bookstores. You won't regret it.
Wonderful book. I enjoyed the different points of views, and it really had some hidden gems of wisdom that I wasn't expecting :) Some people have criticized the author in her style, saying that she seemed too wishy-washy, however, I thought her freedom in child rearing brought strength...sometimes the hardest thing in the world to do is just let your child do their thing, instead of yours.
Jun 26, 2012 Michelle rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: People who had a violent reaction to the Tiger Mother book
This was a hastily written and poorly edited reaction to "The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother." The book was good because it was comfortable, but I think that also weakens it a bit. Chua's book provoked anger and excitement. This was just an easy read.

I really like Hana. Her personality, eagerness for life, and humor bumped this up to a three star book.
Neka Knapp
Because I am a non-conformist, I didn't read the Tiger Mother and went straight to the Tiger Daughter version. I liked it. I always appreciate different perspectives.
I would definitely recommend reading "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" by Amy Chua first.
Dorothy Hensel
Interesting book, well written; not something I actually related to though
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I love to write. That’s pretty much all I do. Ask my family about the undone laundry, the un-bought groceries, and the fact that I rarely find time to get dressed in the morning. Actually, if you train your family right, they won’t notice any of these things. "Popcorn for dinner again, mom! Cool," say my filthy children. God bless them, they don’t know what panty hose are.

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